Re: Long Distance Tirak Relationship - Myth or Reality
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Originally Posted by free
What I write here does not refer to you or me alone, som plse dun take it as an attack, please. It concerns everybody whether we like it or not.
In all relationships, there are going to be blue blacks every where. In many countries (USA, SG and LOS included), divorce rates are on the rise. My question is what ponds do we swim in? Like Deli said, if we swim in turtle ponds what do we expect? We drink turtle soup of course. I do not claim much experience in the many circles or groups of TGs that are in existence today. And neither can you claim experience in all the circles that are there. Not even a thai can claim that. If anything I have very little experience as far as the "puying tiang keun" are concerned. Not because of any reason but that I have no interest to play in that circle. I don't know about you, but I have met so many ppl who were born, grew up, build a family and then die with a small radius from where they came into existence. Well all they had known all their life is that turtle pond. Anything outside? Gotta be bad! Or they think all of us are turtles anyway, so how different can we be? But they never knew other creatures with different characteristics exist outsdie their ponds.
What is reality to one is fictitious to another, because one faces and live in a different enviornment from another, even if they are physically very close.. In our case (as an example) what you experienced in thailand, is not what I have experienced and vice versa. Is mine all good? of course not. But I can say I have learnt to avoid most of the potential bad, by starting at the right place. But I have not denied I have spend money on my ex-tiraks nor claimed that I don't. What I will say is that I have spent them on what I can see and verify are right reasons, even if things don;t work the way we expected. I have not faced a case where the money that was spent goes to a poochai that she keeps by the side. You do not know what I have seen or have in my hands be confident enough to say what I just said, so please do not make conclusions base on whatever experience you may have.
But then again, what is right (or satisfactory) for me may not apply to you, for I am sure our needs are differentand we have different thresholds too. However, I have seen and experienced a lot more than you think. I have personal friends who lost everything, and I also have some who live happy like a king. Why, I even have a relative (a tour guide who has been lving there since I was a kid) who could have died in the Tsunami, as he was caught right in it, and he lives to come back to tell his tale simply cos of his quick thinking. The world is a terribly small place at times and yet at times it is incredibly vast.
I have never ever mentioned even once that I have a lot of experience in everything, especially in relationships with TGs, Being a Starter of this thread does not an expert make. I started thjis thread for all LDTR pilgrims to share and learn. Nor am I an expert in anything. It is others who slap those uncalled-for titles on me and then blame me for having them. How can that be? But there is one thing I know. I have known what it is like to kena black and blue and it happen right here on this little red dot. And I have met others who have faced the same. So you tell me what is the difference? Why is LOS any worse? Let no one go away thinking that u got an SG gal, u are safe. Sometimes the emotional stress is even worse. Depends on what you do and where you chose to swim in, isn't it? Surely you can't expect clean fresh water when u swim in Kallang River? Of course one shouldn't. And even the water in the swimming pools in Singapore - all fresh and chlorinated, but they are all different, somehow.
Somehow, from your posts, I cannot help but think that there is a significant, if not majority segment of the Thai world u dun seem to have known or at least not intimately, even though you live right there, and I urge you to explore that if you ever have the chance. This world I have known about its existence all along but never got my foot in. But I am now beginning to explore. A world where there are wonderful educated and gainfully employed Thai women, beautiful (means more than just face), faithful, upright, loving and yes, even ROMANTIC!, women who often laden with the burden of having to raise a couple of young kids on their own, simply cos their bastard ex-hubbies abandon them when they wanted a new wife. Or if theie habbies had been good to them, some unfortunate accident or illness robbed her of his love and care. This is a world of pain and courage, a world so touching sometimes one feels their pain, pity them and even cry with them. And there are those who have not been married before but have emotional scars in their hearts so deep that it will take a long tiem to heal, if ever. Wonderful women who would gladly give 100% (not a iota less) of their hearts, minds and bodies to the one who come come and love them, share their lives with them and most of all, be true to them, one and only? Money is not at the top of their agenda. In fact for many, it is not even a major requirement. Do you know this world? Perhaps you do, though I doubt you would know it deeply.
Do notice that I do not say much about the "working laides" world -because I chose to stay away and thus I disqualify myself. Simple common sense tells me to stay away. It is not worth the potential pain, Of course there are eagles in there who got in for whatever reasons and they are all ready to soar high in the sky with the prince when he comes for them. While I want to believe there are more such women in this circle, I also know that many of them already had their wings cllipped or worse have already accepted that they are turtles all along.
If one has to make statements that cover a spectrum of people (TGs included) let us at least state which spectrum or catergory of ppl we are refering to.
You're good in word ONLY but still not mature in thought.
Words are 'free' to write. You can continue to write what you like here but
that doesn't prove the other parties agree(those ex tiraks) with what you
wrote here.(Chinese saying :Zhi tao zhi yen)
I sincerely hope to see you ACTUALLY marry, have a bunch thai kids yourself.
Then you can come here and boast about your love affair in thailand.
Try proving me wrong. I do challenge you.
But please lah !! No more rain ,dancer or film blah blah stories.
Stick with 1 thai gal and try to make it work.Don't ALWAYS at the end of the
game, then say both not compatible or she not romantic enough for you(all
those bullshits stuffs) Be a man, do admits the truth if she actually
ditched/cheated on you. Don’t put up a smoke screen over your problem.
Until that 'path of life'(married a thai wife) becomes a reality, you're just
as 'blur' as others.(blinded by your own beliefs, ignorance of facts)
Re: Long Distance Tirak Relationship - Myth or Reality
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Originally Posted by bkkguy
Stick with 1 thai gal and try to make it work.Don't ALWAYS at the end of the
game, then say both not compatible or she not romantic enough for you(all
those bullshits stuffs) Be a man, do admits the truth if she actually
ditched/cheated on you. Don’t put up a smoke screen over your problem.
Until that 'path of life'(married a thai wife) becomes a reality, you're just
as 'blur' as others.(blinded by your own beliefs, ignorance of facts)
You know, I come from a mindset of abundance, not scarcity. Why must one lose and the other gain in the world of scarcity? Did I dump the gal or the other gal dump me? Can't you see that there is a better option where 2 can talk it out and come to the conclusion that carrying on together is no longer the wisest thing to do, cos of many valid reasons due to circumstances that either cannot be changed or will take too much effort? And stay as friends instead and still be there for the other if the need arises? Can you not even fathom a world like this? It is pretty normal to me. Almost all my r/s that ended, they ended this way. Cos we were friends 1st, and tiraks 2nd. Perhaps it sounds a like a wild fairy tale to u, but this is the world I am familiar with and live in day-to-day. Guess we are very different and therefor do different things and will get different results. Not better or worse, just different. Hope u can accept that.
Girls are gals and will be gals. They are the same everywhere in the world., albeit more of some qualities and less of some idiosyncracies. Its a matter of what flavor u can live with or like, and what or flavors will make u puke. I think the kind of gals I pick (and I am in no way saying they are better of worse - lest u jump into yet another conclusion) are very different from those that attract you. My sort will be totally boring for you, just I think I will bore your kind of gals to death., maybe?
Well, u have ONE presumably good thai wife and a bunch of nice kids, like TV has. Good for you, cos you have arrived and have every reason to be proud. I am but still a pilgrim on a journey that I know and accept will never end.
BTW, if you have the time, do explore into the other world of TGs that I wonder if you ever really know. Not that I already know that well, for I really think what I know today is but a tip of the iceberg. As for that renowned group that is often refered to when one talks about TGs, I am not going to spend too much time there, cos I simply dun have it in me to take that kind of unnecessary frustrations and pains. In other words I dun think I am good enough, nor courageous enough. I am a simple old-fashioned man after all.
All ze best to those who find thrills in this group. I really salute you and I mean it. It is not easy.
__________________ Heaven on Earth - to be connected in heart, mind & body
Re: Long Distance Tirak Relationship - Myth or Reality
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Originally Posted by sex_maniac2
Didnt know down here also got show....... but the loh soh reply from free a bit boring.
Sorry we live in 2 different worlds and find our enjoyment in different things. Nobody is better or worse, just different; Incidentally I too find "your show" rather boring. Just a different perspective of life that;s all. Have fun in your world, and enjoy it to the fullest, ya?
__________________ Heaven on Earth - to be connected in heart, mind & body
Re: Long Distance Tirak Relationship - Myth or Reality
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Originally Posted by bkkguy
I sincerely hope to see you ACTUALLY marry, have a bunch thai kids yourself.
Then you can come here and boast about your love affair in thailand.
Try proving me wrong. I do challenge you.
But please lah !! No more rain ,dancer or film blah blah stories.
Stick with 1 thai gal and try to make it work.Don't ALWAYS at the end of the
game, then say both not compatible or she not romantic enough for you(all
those bullshits stuffs)
It appears that you, like me, and many others have actually read his stories, kekekekekeke
Much as we may say he's loso or whatever, we have to admit that we still do read (and enjoy, although most bros here won't admit to that) what he's written or else how can we be in the picture? kekekekekekeke
Re: Long Distance Tirak Relationship - Myth or Reality
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Originally Posted by free
Well, u have ONE presumably good thai wife and a bunch of nice kids, like TV has.
Waaa bro, I don't have a super fantastic wife and family leh.... Only a realistic one.
Heck, my wife is also suspicious whenever I come back late and for that matter, I would prefer her to be, as it shows that she does love me and have concerns, mah....
So when you're coming to Hatyai?
Anyway, when I'm back next week, we better meet up to plan out "next business move" in Thailand.
Re: Long Distance Tirak Relationship - Myth or Reality
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Originally Posted by sex_maniac2
which show is boring you look at the number of views for the thread should give you an indication.
Some people doesn't know what's going on in a thread so click there, find it boring and go out too. So number of clicks doesn't necessarily means its not boring.
Re: Long Distance Tirak Relationship - Myth or Reality
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Originally Posted by thaivisitor
It appears that you, like me, and many others have actually read his stories, kekekekekeke
Much as we may say he's loso or whatever, we have to admit that we still do read (and enjoy, although most bros here won't admit to that) what he's written or else how can we be in the picture? kekekekekekeke
So did he tell you about his own family back in sg.
There always 2 sides story in every coin.
No one would want to admit/write himself as a ' loser ' in front of ppls.
Married men occasionally comes out and have fun, is ok.
Single guys looking for new love in LOS is understandable.
But a married man abandon his sg family care and
come all the way to LOS to look for 'new love' or trying to be CASANOVA.
This isn't 'ji hong' (horny) or not then i duuno what liao. haha !!
If he that 'caring', he should has saved this 10 yrs married with wife.
Did he think of his 2 kids future without a 'father' ?
Did his sg wife run away with another man ? I guess not !
Don't tell me , 10yrs of married later, he suddenly found out that she
(sg wife) is no longer comparable or look ROMANTIC to him.
1 failed married and 2 failed relationships with thai gals and now aiming to marry the 3rd one here in thailand. OMG !!
Maybe he really got some 'attitudes' problem
and not the faults of those tiraks of his.
The fact is .... 'True fact' do hurt.
That's why, everyone trying to paint a beautiful picture
of themselves to disguise the 'ugly of it.
Hmm.. how come i sense a 'thunder storm' coming my way soon.
Re: Long Distance Tirak Relationship - Myth or Reality
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Originally Posted by thaivisitor
Some people doesn't know what's going on in a thread so click there, find it boring and go out too. So number of clicks doesn't necessarily means its not boring.
At least some people bother to click on the thread to see what's going on.
16-05-2005, 12:39 PM
but the loh soh reply from free a bit boring. 
