The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[waterbottle99]

我愛的人- 陳小春

[frivolous_ami]

Originally Posted by Risis

What now?
What will you do?
Do you look at the responsibilities and live the rest of your life like that?
Knowing that you once had the opportunity to search for happiness
yet, you passed it all away...

That is what i fear most. We do not really if that feeling of love is real or just a passing emotional sensation. Knowing a person today doesnt mean u will know her tomorrow. Scary rite?

Even if you know her today, you wont really know the other side of a person. People dont readily reveal that other side of them.

And what then is real? What is the person that you know you truly will love today, tomorrow and into the future? Mortals do not live forever. How many years do we have to waste on wrong gers?

Thankfully my folks are very open minded about these. At one time, they even tell me that marriage is not a must but only a possibility in life.

Perhaps, its easier to be ignorant... And love blindly. What you do not know wont really hurt... for now. What an irony

[frivolous_ami]

Originally Posted by MoralEpitome

I kinda agree, nowadays many girls are very practical and materialistic....so take your time to find a true love....maybe don't go for the chio ones la...i find all the chio ones really hard to satisfy and you end up stressing yourself and living beyond your means...sometimes i think of finding a prc mm....those more innocent type but don't know how to tell my relatives if i know her from ktv....

Ktv ger also ger leh. My mum had to be a hostess to support the family. There is no shame in working as a ktv. So long as dun rob or steal, whats wrong anyway.

Normal gers are not necessarily holier or "cleaner" than ktv gers.

Bottomline is, she love you and you willing to love her with your all and everything. That really is the most impt. Love never about what others think. You dont live for others. Others dont live for you.

Bro, cheer up. Nothing is impossible. Lu shi ren zhou chu lai de!

[Window7]

Originally Posted by Risis

Very interesting topic, one which can be extremely philosophical...

and i thought to myself if i should post my 2 cents worth in this thread for a while.

And I think to myself, that what if one day you woke up to that person sleeping next to you and realise just how much you have drifted apart.
Sleeping on the same bed, yet you might as well have been 2 worlds apart, living in separate lives...

What then, do you do having been like this for a while?
What if, you realise just how much time has passed us by,
so much of our youth gone by, both you and her...
only to realise that you were never meant to be together in the first place?

And all these thoughts run by your morning head,
looking at that wedding band on your finger,
of those vows you once took some time ago,
filled with hope, fear, uncertainties but the courage to sign that paper...

What now?
What will you do?
Do you look at the responsibilities and live the rest of your life like that?
Knowing that you once had the opportunity to search for happiness
yet, you passed it all away...

Whoever you are. I hate you.

I'm living my life this way for pass 1 year alr. Reading what u mentioned rub salt deep deep in my wounds.

Sian.

[Alf1977]

An interesting topic.. I guess for single we will not know if the one we marry is the one we love most, until we are officially married right?

but come to think about it, the day we insert our dicks into another woman's hole means we no longer love our gf/wife that much ... Or We should all be doing it (fuxk other women) , so that the guilt in use will make us love our gf/wife even more.

Don't we feel extremely guilty towards wife/gf after we fuxked other women?

I watched a movie called Marriage with a Liar - 婚前試愛 which showed about both partners betraying each other before marriage..
http://myasiancinema.com/hk-movie-ma...h-a-liar-2010/

Quite an interesting movie.. but do you agree that we have to betray our partners before you ROM/watch down the red carpet, so that the guilt in us will make us love them?

The trailer for this movie:



Can go funfushion to watch this movie. Quite interesting and both of the female lead actresses quite chio with good figures too.

[nuclearkid]

Originally Posted by Risis

Very interesting topic, one which can be extremely philosophical...

and i thought to myself if i should post my 2 cents worth in this thread for a while.

And I think to myself, that what if one day you woke up to that person sleeping next to you and realise just how much you have drifted apart.
Sleeping on the same bed, yet you might as well have been 2 worlds apart, living in separate lives...

What then, do you do having been like this for a while?
What if, you realise just how much time has passed us by,
so much of our youth gone by, both you and her...
only to realise that you were never meant to be together in the first place?

And all these thoughts run by your morning head,
looking at that wedding band on your finger,
of those vows you once took some time ago,
filled with hope, fear, uncertainties but the courage to sign that paper...

What now?
What will you do?
Do you look at the responsibilities and live the rest of your life like that?
Knowing that you once had the opportunity to search for happiness
yet, you passed it all away...

This is like the topic du jour amongst a few of my friends these days. We are into our mid/late 30s and we sense that marriage has more or less taken a backseat with kids coming into the picture. For reasons I cannot fathom, mothers focus almost all their attention, when they are away from work, on the children. Fussing over the smallest thing but they can't seem to get the freaking job done properly! Kids are brattish these days...more often than not, a child running into you or stepping on your foot is not followed with an apology. You don't hear 'sorry' from children of today very much. Anyway, this is not a parenting forum, so am not going into too much drivel lamenting the state of motherhood locally. Ok, my point to this situation is that if the mother is going to sideline the father/marriage and focus on the children, she jolly be doing a damn fine job. If she can't, don't really see what good she really is considering she has fucked up both sides of the family nucleus!

Looking around, its so rampant to see couples married only in name. They are together only because of the children but other than that, live separate lives. Friends, relatives, colleagues... I suspect my day of reckoning isn't too far off. Preparing in advance, I have been asking myself for the past year or so, do I let it all go and give the wheel of romance another spin? Is there a chance love and passion will stay awhile longer on my second try? Where does it go from here...

Socrates said, "By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher."

Originally Posted by Window7

Whoever you are. I hate you.

I'm living my life this way for pass 1 year alr. Reading what u mentioned rub salt deep deep in my wounds.

Sian.

Bro Window7, how long have you been married? Haven't you gone numb from all the introspection? Haha...not to rub more salt but hey, misery loves company and here's me turning up!

[MoralEpitome]

Originally Posted by frivolous_ami

Ktv ger also ger leh. My mum had to be a hostess to support the family. There is no shame in working as a ktv. So long as dun rob or steal, whats wrong anyway.

Normal gers are not necessarily holier or "cleaner" than ktv gers.

Bottomline is, she love you and you willing to love her with your all and everything. That really is the most impt. Love never about what others think. You dont live for others. Others dont live for you.

Bro, cheer up. Nothing is impossible. Lu shi ren zhou chu lai de!

actually i agree with you, but this society suckz, they view ktv gers as dirty and if you get a wife from ktv what will they tink...that's why i hate marriage..it's really a marriage of two families all your frens and relatives....why can't it just be between 2 person? esp sg wife if you dun throw a banquet at shang you will lose face...fugup

[frivolous_ami]

That is what i detest. No normal gal like to treated like toys at the ktv. If there was a choice, gals prob dont even want to work in ktv. Everyone has some history behind them. Whats more impt is to accept people for what they are. Life is really wraught with too many hurdles

[otamay]

Originally Posted by Risis

Very interesting topic, one which can be extremely philosophical...

And I think to myself, that what if one day you woke up to that person sleeping next to you and realise just how much you have drifted apart.
Sleeping on the same bed, yet you might as well have been 2 worlds apart, living in separate lives...

Well said I think that is life

[AmericanExpress]

Originally Posted by nuclearkid

This is like the topic du jour amongst a few of my friends these days.

Looking around, its so rampant to see couples married only in name. They are together only because of the children but other than that, live separate lives. Friends, relatives, colleagues... I suspect my day of reckoning isn't too far off.

I feel many of us know the apparent problems, maybe the threadstarter is asking...WHY we succumb to it still?

[ricrain29]

Totally agree with what you said here. A wife I think is someone you can count on does not matter how bad the situation is. There are be a lot of temptations outside but those are just eye candy, when you are on the top of your game they come to you, and of course you will have a nice time, nice face, killer body, superb sex, u name it, but when you fall down, then the only woman who will stand by you should be the one you marry......the rest of the fair weathered friends will leave you..... so marry someone who love you more.......selfish it is but thats life....

Originally Posted by superman

You can't married the one you love, but you can married the one that loves you.

[iPhone]

I think we all have these thoughts, and wonder if things could be different.
Am I with the right person? Did I make a mistake?

However, we humans are seldom happy with what we have, and will always question where we are, and what could have been.

Even with "The Love of My Life" - whatever THAT means - there will always be doubts.

[MoralEthics]

The one I loved most feigned illness on the day of our ROM. She left me for the most odd reason which I will not share. 2 years later I married her best friend & she was the bridesmaid. On the banquet night, I confessed to her that she was still the 1 that I loved most & the feeling was mutual but she believed that had we gotten married, it would not last beyond 12 months. There is no way to verify her claims.

Anyway 2 years into the marriage with quite a few vacations, plenty of sex, no quarrels, no disagreements, fortunately no kids (I think I am infertile), 1 day my ex-wife just asked if I wanted a divorce. I gave it some serious thoughts. Answered her 1 week later that we should divorce. Everything ended there.

I think I should stay single & enjoy the scenery from outside of marriage. Life never looked more promising than now.

[howck001]

Bro iPhone .. You r 100% correct

[howck001]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

Do I know how hard it is to love someone who love you at the same time? Normally is I love her then she love me type..

It's heart touching topic ..!