Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner - Page 777

rawdy · #**11641** 26-10-2011, 01:20 AM

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Originally Posted by plmnc

ya.. i worried abt my kid the most... i love her so much... i wonder what kind of effect this is going to have on her in the long term... sigh..

after seeing some good and bad stories here with viet spouse , i wish you all the best bro, hopefully things turn out fine ..

miua55555 · #**11642** 26-10-2011, 03:09 AM

You guys are impressive. I'm not sure how to marry my viet gf officially ... scared of facing financial issues in Singapore.

miua55555 · #**11643** 26-10-2011, 03:17 AM

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Originally Posted by volcano

YES!!!!!!....i really wants to come back Sillypore for CNY....have not celebrate CNY in Sillypore for 3 years liaoz...

Bro, you're awesome. Are you currently working and living in Vietnam ??

volcano · #**11644** 26-10-2011, 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by miua55555

Bro, you're awesome. Are you currently working and living in Vietnam ??

isn't it very obvious....

yup...have been in HCMC for quite some time liao....

SingViet · #**11645** 26-10-2011, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Fully agreed...

but knowing sinkie men...at least 1 HDB flat sure has...

Nowadays, a lot of sinkie man don't even have an HDB flat. Personally , I already know of 4 sinkie man with viet spouse without HDB flats.

Hurricane88 · #**11646** 26-10-2011, 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Nowadays, a lot of sinkie man don't even have an HDB flat. Personally , I already know of 4 sinkie man with viet spouse without HDB flats.

sure la...at least 5% men has no hdb flat...living on rental flat...

also at least 10-15% men living on negative hdb asset...

also at least 10% men living with parents...also no flat...

miua55555 · #**11647** 26-10-2011, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by volcano

isn't it very obvious....

yup...have been in HCMC for quite some time liao....

I see. Sorry I did not notice bro.

How much money should I save up if I want to relocate to vietnam for good?

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Nowadays, a lot of sinkie man don't even have an HDB flat. Personally , I already know of 4 sinkie man with viet spouse without HDB flats.

That is very true, and is also my greatest worry.

lugi · #**11648** 26-10-2011, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by miua55555

I see. Sorry I did not notice bro.

How much money should I save up if I want to relocate to vietnam for good?

As in give up Singapore citizenship

Don't think any bros here will give up Singapore citizenship... while small head is active while in Wetnam, big head is still functioning....

miua55555 · #**11649** 26-10-2011, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by lugi

As in give up Singapore citizenship

Don't think any bros here will give up Singapore citizenship... while small head is active while in Wetnam, big head is still functioning....

No lah, red passport so worthy to keep.

What I mean is, to earn a comfortable living in vietnam.

volcano · #**11650** 26-10-2011, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by miua55555

No lah, red passport so worthy to keep.

What I mean is, to earn a comfortable living in vietnam.

the definition of 'comfortable' is different in the eyes of different people....how much a month do u define as comfortable?i have Vietnamese friends who lives comfortably with a monthly salary of 1k usd and S'porean friend who still cant make ends meet with 3k usd.

u want to start ur own business here or working for someone else?

if u dunno much abt Vietnam,then i suggest u better do some homework first before deciding to come here and stay for good.

plmnc · #**11651** 26-10-2011, 04:12 PM

this morning wife said sorry i tot ok liao....today bring kid out with wife...now come home she started talking nonsense and we end up shouting at each other again....

my poor kid down there crying....so damn angry now....

and she just said lets divorce again....KNNBCCB...i really damn fed up liao....

SingViet · #**11652** 26-10-2011, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by volcano

the definition of 'comfortable' is different in the eyes of different people....how much a month do u define as comfortable?i have Vietnamese friends who lives comfortably with a monthly salary of 1k usd and S'porean friend who still cant make ends meet with 3k usd.

u want to start ur own business here or working for someone else?

if u dunno much abt Vietnam,then i suggest u better do some homework first before deciding to come here and stay for good.

i agree with you totally. It really depends on what's his definition of comfortable. How much per month will give you a comfy life? For example, to have simple roof on top and a simple car like Nissan Sunny is comfy to some, but not to others. Same applies in VN, some consider having a bike to move around and a simple house in Q8 or even Q12 as comfy, while some prefer to have a new car and a grand house in Q1.

But i do not know why many singaporeans have the idea that one can make BIG MONEY in Vietnam. It takes many years of hard work, lots of learning, lot of luck to be `successful' in business. But how do you define successful? USD10K a month may seem successful to some but to others, its small amount. I will say doing business in VN is not easy. Money doesn't fall from the sky in VN.

SingViet · #**11653** 26-10-2011, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by plmnc

this morning wife said sorry i tot ok liao....today bring kid out with wife...now come home she started talking nonsense and we end up shouting at each other again....

my poor kid down there crying....so damn angry now....

and she just said lets divorce again....KNNBCCB...i really damn fed up liao....

bro, i am not too sure of your case, but let me try to offer you some possible causes for your present situation.

(1) Are you holding on to a job that's stable and with a pay that's able to provide her and your child an average lifestyle?

(2) Do you own the current apartment that you stay in? or are you staying with your parents?

(3) have she told you long ago that she doesn't want to stay with your parents and want you to move out to stay on yr own? (if you are presently staying with your parents)

Viet gals, like any other lady, will expect their husband to provide them with a certain level of comfy and security. They will expect that their husband be able to own a house (even if its mortgaged) and provide them with an average lifestyle. They also do not like to stay with in-laws, if possible. We , as husbands, need to work hard to provide all these basic necessities to our wife. i feel that if she's able to say `sorry', its a good sign as she knows she is in the wrong. But rising tensions between you and her is not bringing enuff goodwill to both parties. Money is not everything, but in this world, you cannot do without money. Its a sensitive issue, but we cannot hide from it. It can bring a couple together but can also break them up. Sad to say, but its true.

ilovedoggie · #**11654** 27-10-2011, 12:45 AM

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Originally Posted by miua55555

I see. Sorry I did not notice bro.

How much money should I save up if I want to relocate to vietnam for good?

why need to save up and relocate to vietnam for good? just look out for a job that will post u to viet nam. they give quite good offer because many people don't want to be an expat in viet nam.

jf66312 · #**11655** 27-10-2011, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Nowadays, a lot of sinkie man don't even have an HDB flat. Personally , I already know of 4 sinkie man with viet spouse without HDB flats.

i am one of them...recently just bid for sale of balanced flats first...

got email say that am no14 in q...will send details for selection of flats soon!