Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Golden question

if u apply in june and got reject on october,u can forget about applying within this 1 or 2 years,they are damm strict on giving out pr status nowadays ....

.... friend wait for 1 year to get a rejection letter,

.... sorry to say that but i think u no need to go experdiate her PR application cos they wont just give because u have a sg baby coming out soon.

Seriously there is no need to rush ... the problem with rejection is that there too many rushing to get it ... and because it's to over-whelming ... those who are not too qualified will sure to get rejected ...

Settle down with your wife 1st ... as long as can get LTVP .. I believe its very good already ... do what's its piority in your relationship ...

if the plan is to ensure a safe delivery for your baby . i guess that's is teh top piority instead of thinking how to get PR fast ...

Unless ur gal always quarrel with you becasue she cannot get her PR ,, than something is real wrong ...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Golden question

she believe GUAN YIN and buddha a lot and pray every day.She always tell me she no scare who bully or punish her if she do anything wrong but only scare GUAN YIN punish her

Yeah .. same same .. my wife too ...

she scared ghost too .. hahhaha ...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Golden question

me too leh,since marry till now,still faithful but once in a while when horny mood come,i go for my happy hour at ktv to touch neh neh or go MP for hj the most

I long long time no go liao ....

[69ASIMO69]

Originally Posted by chong_kng

Hi to all seasoned bro

I need some advice so as how to proceed.

My wife has her LTSVP approved in Feburary 2011. Later in June i applied PR for her (first time). Recently, I received ICA letter , saying her application is rejected.

Now my wife is three months pregreant , so all the doctors consultations, medicines, and giving birth next year here in singapore is costing me a bomb.

She cannot receive subsided rate ( pay foreigner rates), quite siong $$ for me..

how shall i expendidte her PR status from here now? Is there any alternative ways to plead with ICA?

Hope can hear constructive suggestions from you all soon

Regards

Hi, FYI. Nowadays even Singaporean dont go subsided rate (government) for giving birth as the cost is almost the same as private gynae.

Appointment to gynae is around $30+ to $180 ba depending on what the doctor gonna do cos certain months appointment, your partner will need blood test, scan, blah blah blah.... certain months just go take weight and see growth progress then the bill will be low like $30+.

U can use your medisave to pay for the delivering part for your partner since you guys already married.

I pay a deposit of $2000 or $3000, when my wife is warded for delivery on the day itself but end up they refunded me back. Cash used to pay is only $890. The rest of money is deducted from my medisave amounting to $2100.

The hospital I go is East Shore and its a private hospital. Its not going to be a very scarry amount coming to delivering at private hospital unless your wife is not able to have a natural birth.

The cost of caesaren is scarry! My fren's wife who is a viet, paid close to $10,000 cash for the operation as the husband has no medisave balance.

[V|ernar]

Originally Posted by shysaint

Unless ur gal always quarrel with you becasue she cannot get her PR ,, than something is real wrong ...

oh yes , this i agree with you ~! this is the sign that you pick the wrong wife .

101% i confirm

[jf66312]

Originally Posted by shysaint

Yeah .. same same .. my wife too ...

she scared ghost too .. hahhaha ...

my wife love to watch horror and ghost movie...

but she does pray also to guan yin...

and she always go to this thai temple in bedok with her frens...

either that or the one in bugis...

[Honey Boon]

SINGAPORE: Last year, 68,143 Permanent Residence (PR) applications were rejected, up from 58,923 in 2009.

In 2008, 22,472 PR applications were rejected.

The figures were contained in a written reply by Deputy Prime Minister and Home Affairs Minister Teo Chee Hean to MP for Aljunied GRC Pritam Singh who had asked how many applications for PR have been rejected and the specific criteria for approval of such applications.

Mr Teo said each PR application is evaluated holistically on a set of criteria - which includes factors such as an individual's economic contributions, qualifications, age and family profile - to assess applicants' ability to contribute and integrate well into society.

He added that it was not appropriate to reveal specific criteria as this could encourage individuals to attempt to circumvent or abuse the system.

In another question, Mr Singh asked how many criminals have been hanged in Singapore and the breakdown in terms of foreigners, PRs and Singaporeans from 2004 to 2010.

Mr Teo said there were 26 Singaporeans and 12 foreigners who were executed. No PRs were executed during that period.

- CNA /ls





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Originally Posted by SingViet

there is no way to expediate her PR application. ICA approval for your wife PR depends largely on you i.e. your job stability, pay, educational level etc. ICA will also not approve her PR just because she's going to give Singapore another baby. Many are with the idea that PR will surely get approved if give birth, this is wrong and surely untrue.

[haosac]

Originally Posted by plmnc

earlier...i just said her bro shld move to ntu hostel becos we stay in the east and she flare up...and said he is alone here and we shld take care of him all those sort of stuff...

I think it's reasonable when a person wants to take a good care bout his/her close relative. If she thinks that you don't treat the boy nicely, she might be pissed off. Could this be one of the reasons why she quarrel with you? If the boy is well behave, it shouldn't be a big deal letting him stay there, right?

Originally Posted by plmnc

but nowadays everyday talk to me and my parents rudely.....i see how she treat my mother sometimes i just angry...

she openly said that "divorce la.... just give me the paper i will sign.. i don't love u anymore"...
worse is my kid..2yrs old nia ...whole day kena shouted at by my wife...

I think she senses that you don't want a divorce. That's why she becomes bolder. If I were you, I would talk to her gently, but firmly, stating clearly that - I am willing to work hard to save our marriage but if she doesn't co-operate I will let her go without any regret -. And I will divorce her right away, if nothing's change.

I have seen quite a few unhappy marriages in which the parents always quarrel. And their kids actually are the one who suffer the most. It really hurts the children feeling when they have to witness their parents wrangle everyday. It even worse when the parent throws his/her bad mood to the kid. In this kind of situation, when you tried hard, but still can't resolve the problem then divorce is actually a release for everyone including the kid. After that, you can spend more time to take care of the kid and show him/her how much you love him/her...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by haosac

I have seen quite a few unhappy marriages in which the parents always quarrel. And their kids actually are the one who suffer the most. It really hurts the children feeling when they have to witness their parents wrangle everyday. It even worse when the parent throws his/her bad mood to the kid. In this kind of situation, when you tried hard, but still can't resolve the problem then divorce is actually a release for everyone including the kid. After that, you can spend more time to take care of the kid and show him/her how much you love him/her...

Yes I fully agree ... I am in it before ..

I understand .... but then when comes to family matters, it is very difficult to give advice

" Jia Jia You Ben Nan Nian De Jing "

SIghzzzz

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by shysaint

My wife also same ..

AFter got BB, very tired, dun want to make love ... say she give me money go outside 'DO' ...

my girl said the same thing to me b4... she say if she tired to do i can go out do but make sure i come home and sleep maybe it's a test...

but your wife better. give u money go outside "DO" somemore...

but whether it's a test or not i think i will also go out do when little head takes over big head haha...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by haosac

I have seen quite a few unhappy marriages in which the parents always quarrel. And their kids actually are the one who suffer the most. It really hurts the children feeling when they have to witness their parents wrangle everyday. It even worse when the parent throws his/her bad mood to the kid. In this kind of situation, when you tried hard, but still can't resolve the problem then divorce is actually a release for everyone including the kid. After that, you can spend more time to take care of the kid and show him/her how much you love him/her...

in singapore women charter very strong...divorce can be complicated with wife getting 50-80% of assets...think carefully...dun get into trouble...unless women caught being unfaithful...then divorce will be better for hubby...but still wife gets at least 50% unless proven that wife earns alot of $$$...

very difference from Vn divorce...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by V|ernar

Mp still got use one , depend what kind of letter you demand them to write .

Nowadays, most MPs will not write for you any appeal letter once they know its foreign spouse PR application problem. There may be some that are willing to help, but from my knowledge, most will not help. Actually, if cannot get PR but got LTSVP, it should be sufficient. The thing is `as long as can stay in Singapore'. Many Viet spouse know that once they get PR, they can apply for their parents to come Singapore to stay for 5 years, don't you think its scary? For me, its a NO to them staying with me. I had hell of a time when i stayed in VN last time, my house became hotel and filled with lots of smoke. Total smoke out !!!

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

in singapore women charter very strong...divorce can be complicated with wife getting 50-80% of assets...think carefully...dun get into trouble...unless women caught being unfaithful...then divorce will be better for hubby...but still wife gets at least 50% unless proven that wife earns alot of $$$...

very difference from Vn divorce...

This is provided that the person has assets and income to share with the divorced wife. If cannot make ends meet, the wife want to share in the debts? Vietnamese spouse are very good in wanting a share in the assets of the husband. When i bought my private apartment in Singapore, my wife says she wants to place her name as joint owner, i agreed but i told her, her name will be in the loan from bank too. So if anything wrong, she also need to fork out cash

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

This is provided that the person has assets and income to share with the divorced wife. If cannot make ends meet, the wife want to share in the debts? Vietnamese spouse are very good in wanting a share in the assets of the husband. When i bought my private apartment in Singapore, my wife says she wants to place her name as joint owner, i agreed but i told her, her name will be in the loan from bank too. So if anything wrong, she also need to fork out cash

Fully agreed...

but knowing sinkie men...at least 1 HDB flat sure has...

[plmnc]

Originally Posted by haosac

And their kids actually are the one who suffer the most. It really hurts the children feeling when they have to witness their parents wrangle everyday. It even worse when the parent throws his/her bad mood to the kid. In this kind of situation, when you tried hard, but still can't resolve the problem then divorce is actually a release for everyone including the kid. After that, you can spend more time to take care of the kid and show him/her how much you love him/her...

ya.. i worried abt my kid the most... i love her so much... i wonder what kind of effect this is going to have on her in the long term... sigh..