Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Honey Boon]

sounds like the rest of the family must "listen" to her or scare of her... except you and now your wife, even your MIL also must submit to her. there must be a reason why? just curious

Originally Posted by SingViet

I think i am not smart, i am just being practical. My idea is how long can anyone feed her and her family? You tell her to work, she start a small business for 3 months or less, then give up. She will rather be jobless, drink coffee all day, smoke all day. I have better use for my hard earned money than to give to her to splurge.

[Honey Boon]

i fully agreed..... I always tell them: if can't afford to buy or to build, just rent lor, majority of the people also stay in the rented house. Everywhere in the world also the same, be it USA, Europe or in Singapore.

When I can't afford to buy a car, I rent a car or to take taxi lo.

If for family, means husband, wife and children, I might help. the help stops here. Even for my own extended family like my own brothers or sisters, I also no help and ask them to go to bank for housing or renovation loan and pay interest for that.

the reason they are poor and can't afford is because they are lazy.

the other way round, if I am lazy and become poor, will they give me money to buy house in Singapore?

Originally Posted by SingViet

I think the idea here is not about the wife returning bit by bit, its about why the wife should carry the burden of renovating the house when there are so many siblings out there? Everyone should share a part. They always give reasons like they are poor, cannot afford etc. Just like my MIL, she always tell my wife and I that she is damm poor, cannot afford this and that. But she has money to lend her lazy daughter.

[Honey Boon]

I don't think I will ever face this problem as I can't even have 5k in the bank account every month

Originally Posted by KangTuo

if i have 50k, my wife just wanted 10k, i will just GIVE if the reason is valid.
of course reasoning out with her that if this is a frequent request, it will not be answered.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

sounds like the rest of the family must "listen" to her or scare of her... except you and now your wife, even your MIL also must submit to her. there must be a reason why? just curious

haha, you are right. At first i was telling my wife that if her sister can do nothing all day and still have money to use, her mother sure got something to do with it. My wife denied all the way, saying her mother is poor, no money to give to her sister. Then now, all truths are out, my MIL has been helping her useless daughter all the way, i don't know why too. Now the useless sister is telling my MIL that if she has no money to use, she will go to Saigon to work as worker. The mother seems to feel that this daughter has a good BA ZHI and is destined to have a good life, so afraid to let her go to work.

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by SingViet

haha, you are right. At first i was telling my wife that if her sister can do nothing all day and still have money to use, her mother sure got something to do with it. My wife denied all the way, saying her mother is poor, no money to give to her sister. Then now, all truths are out, my MIL has been helping her useless daughter all the way, i don't know why too. Now the useless sister is telling my MIL that if she has no money to use, she will go to Saigon to work as worker. The mother seems to feel that this daughter has a good BA ZHI and is destined to have a good life, so afraid to let her go to work.

go to saigon work as worker?work as what worker?related to sex?if yes,bro singviet,i will help u punish her.i will get ready my rope and whip and bring along

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

I don't think I will ever face this problem as I can't even have 5k in the bank account every month

maybe win 4d or toto got chance for u leh

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

it will depend on how well your bx can shield you from such frequent request of money from her family.

she shield me already cos i already make known to her about my fiancial status and what i can or cannot do (even sometime i can,but i still tell some white lies to her)no choice is for our own good.

since the early stage i know her,i already make known to her that i am not able to support her family if she want to marry me.she have to go find a decent job and support her side.

i can only support her here as a duty of a husband.i lead by example by being stingy,take bus,go hawker center eat,no buy expensive things,buy things only when needed and etc.she even told her mom how i save.

once in a while,i will give her few hundred for her mom,thats all.but when i go back,her mom always treat me as per normal.

i always told her,she is your mom,is your responsbility to take care of yours and i take care of mine so she must make her own judgement on how she want to give.but her mom only ask for expenses for herself every month not buy house or land.so i just continue to be a poor sg husband for her daughter

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Golden question

go to saigon work as worker?work as what worker?related to sex?if yes,bro singviet,i will help u punish her.i will get ready my rope and whip and bring along

At first she says she wants to work as painter, i.e. work for painting company, now she says she needs capital to start a painting company. KNN

[Honey Boon]

may be you and your wife can cook up a story to test your MIL.... borrow those vnamese girl's story line, tell how poor you guys now, what stock market crashed...... and owe lots of money. And see whether your MIL will help or not?

If she doesn't help, that shows that she only dote the lazy sister but don't care about your wife. Mother like that, ask your wife to open eye big big to see what kind of mother is this?

good BA ZHI? haha.... mean you and your wife's BA ZHI is destined to feed her forever?

Originally Posted by SingViet

haha, you are right. At first i was telling my wife that if her sister can do nothing all day and still have money to use, her mother sure got something to do with it. My wife denied all the way, saying her mother is poor, no money to give to her sister. Then now, all truths are out, my MIL has been helping her useless daughter all the way, i don't know why too. Now the useless sister is telling my MIL that if she has no money to use, she will go to Saigon to work as worker. The mother seems to feel that this daughter has a good BA ZHI and is destined to have a good life, so afraid to let her go to work.

[Honey Boon]

even strike, also must keep it between you and me. But of course I buy you vnam kopi la

Originally Posted by Golden question

maybe win 4d or toto got chance for u leh

[Honey Boon]

cannot la, for your own good future, you must continue to work hard to be a successful and rich husband to your wife. But, but, but, you can continue to act or pretend you are a poor and useless son-in-law to your MIL lor

Originally Posted by Golden question

so i just continue to be a poor sg husband for her daughter

[mao86]

i also cant remember how much i spend for my gurl in viet already.. all i noe is when i know her.. she say her family is in debt abt few thousand.. i decided to make a trip back to vietnam and to her house... wah.. then in the end i find out that the total amt owe is alot loh.. even her mum borrow loan shark for her uncle.. until nw i haben even settle for them..

Its quite lucky thing that i can tarhan till nw lah with it becos i love her.. she told her mum enuff of all the borrowing and so on le.. one ting is my so called wife to be spends about 8 million dongs per month and sometimes not enuff. A bit crazy like ppl bdae then go makan and go out wif friend.. Any wae she also works.

Still remember gt 1 time she say Bx xin loi vi nha co nhieu chuyen cho ox nhau dau..Neu ma ox co nguoi tat dc cho hanh phuc thjet bx chuc mung.. wah i nearly stunt...

Any wae i find that Vietnamese gurl also poor ting becos their family like always drag them go die 1 loh... gt problem ask them to solve it.. dun care wt they do as long as they earn money.. hai..

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by mao86

i also cant remember how much i spend for my gurl in viet already.. all i noe is when i know her.. she say her family is in debt abt few thousand.. i decided to make a trip back to vietnam and to her house... wah.. then in the end i find out that the total amt owe is alot loh.. even her mum borrow loan shark for her uncle.. until nw i haben even settle for them..:D

Its quite lucky thing that i can tarhan till nw lah with it becos i love her.. she told her mum enuff of all the borrowing and so on le.. one ting is my so called wife to be spends about 8 million dongs per month and sometimes not enuff. A bit crazy like ppl bdae then go makan and go out wif friend.. Any wae she also works.

Still remember gt 1 time she say Bx xin loi vi nha co nhieu chuyen cho ox nhau dau..Neu ma ox co nguoi tat dc cho hanh phuc thjet bx chuc mung.. wah i nearly stunt...

Any wae i find that Vietnamese gurl also poor ting becos their family like always drag them go die 1 loh... gt problem ask them to solve it.. dun care wt they do as long as they earn money.. hai..

u must be rich until u cant remember or blinded by love + her sad story

in debt for a few thousand is same story line viet girl will tell u and u will be in debt to them by paying for them

own money a lot is very very common,nothing unsual for them

why must u settle for them u want to settle for them forever,ask yourself

she told her mom enough of borrowing?well always is not enough for them

spend 8 million dong per month and not enough bro,a warning sign for u

u pity them?is very common,some even more worst

are u very young and 24 years old?seem like u are not season enough bro

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by mao86

i also cant remember how much i spend for my gurl in viet already.. all i noe is when i know her.. she say her family is in debt abt few thousand.. i decided to make a trip back to vietnam and to her house... wah.. then in the end i find out that the total amt owe is alot loh.. even her mum borrow loan shark for her uncle.. until nw i haben even settle for them..

Its quite lucky thing that i can tarhan till nw lah with it becos i love her.. she told her mum enuff of all the borrowing and so on le.. one ting is my so called wife to be spends about 8 million dongs per month and sometimes not enuff. A bit crazy like ppl bdae then go makan and go out wif friend.. Any wae she also works.

Still remember gt 1 time she say Bx xin loi vi nha co nhieu chuyen cho ox nhau dau..Neu ma ox co nguoi tat dc cho hanh phuc thjet bx chuc mung.. wah i nearly stunt...

i praise you and also pity you...

praise you - for your love to her...

pity you - you slog so hard in sinkie land and she enjoy herself spending your money...also her mother will continue to loan more money from loan shark because you are her atm...this is obviously a bottom less pit...hahaha...

really hope you and her has a very happy life ever after...hope you are not being naive about the whole incident...

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by SingViet

At first she says she wants to work as painter, i.e. work for painting company, now she says she needs capital to start a painting company. KNN

haha bro,next time maybe she will tell u she want to work in a bank as a bank teller to count money for ppl and later she will tell u she needs capital to open a BANK to count money for herself hahaha