Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Honey Boon]

sometimes is not the amount of money or things that we can't afford to give.... just that we can't tahan their behaviour, knn.... like Somali Pirate. at least got thick skin a bit to ask, can I have this or can you buy me this? cannot suka suka pack and go...

bro, you should build your TV console is such a way that when you are not around at home, all your electrical stuff can be lock within the cabinet

Originally Posted by SingViet

I still remember my MIL came to my house once, told my wife she likes my DVD player and my TV, so the next day when she went home, she pack the DVD player and TV home to the province. I had a heated argument with my wife, but no use lor. They always try to threaten you with divorce. So i need to spend again to buy a new set of DVD player and TV, just that this time, i buy the Made In China cheap cheap brand.

[Honey Boon]

haha... they just "kong" only.... mouth talk CB song only, next month you don't send money, see who dump who?

Originally Posted by shysaint

Yeah ,... VERY True ... always say .. I Very Tired liao .... You like that .. I really Don't Want You .... YOu go back SG , No Come Back .... I Don't want see you

Now ... We married and got 1 Baby liao

[fcukger]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Yr 2 million VND a month is really belt tighthening. But with your company providing you with a roof, then you really save a lot. If you stay on your own, renting a house is enuff to bust your budget...

yes... i dont deny that... so if got chance than i ask her to come my company work lo... lidat will save even more... but at the moment jus let it be... i dont cheong nowadays liao... the most go q1 massgae with hurricane88 only la... very boring to cheong... no mood to fish girl anymore la... got 1 ok for me liao... will see what will happened next than...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Golden question

wow bro,i was shock,u must have a tough time with your in law when u just marry.but i was also not suprise cos they always come out with funny funny things to do but bro,if your wife threaten you with divorce,u not angry meh or u always give in to your wife at the inital stage?

Of course when my wife threatens me, I am angry. But I do not want my children to be without mother. Vietnamese can be irresponsible parents, but I am Chinese, I cannot be irresponsible. That's why when I move back to Singapore, I feel happier as I need not put up with my in laws that often

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Golden question

wow bro,i was shock,u must have a tough time with your in law when u just marry.but i was also not suprise cos they always come out with funny funny things to do but bro,if your wife threaten you with divorce,u not angry meh or u always give in to your wife at the inital stage?

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

sometimes is not the amount of money or things that we can't afford to give.... just that we can't tahan their behaviour, knn.... like Somali Pirate. at least got thick skin a bit to ask, can I have this or can you buy me this? cannot suka suka pack and go...

bro, you should build your TV console is such a way that when you are not around at home, all your electrical stuff can be lock within the cabinet

You mean build a TV console that has a lock ? Only I have the key ? Haha good idea. Should have told me earlier.

[volcano]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

2mil dong is living on belt tightening budget...

dun forget open 1 bottle with mixers at any entertainment will cost easily 2 mil dongs...

a bottle of Gold Label at MZ already cost 2.7 mills....

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by fcukger

yes... i dont deny that... so if got chance than i ask her to come my company work lo... lidat will save even more... but at the moment jus let it be... i dont cheong nowadays liao... the most go q1 massgae with hurricane88 only la... very boring to cheong... no mood to fish girl anymore la... got 1 ok for me liao... will see what will happened next than...

oi oi...this weekend long long one you knew...phew...miss saigon too much...

[leecs]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

oi oi...this weekend long long one you knew...phew...miss saigon too much...

Same here & my girl too..........

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by leecs

Same here & my girl too..........

but tml I flew in...hihi...wat about you...

[leecs]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

but tml I flew in...hihi...wat about you...

!@#$$%^&

Just came back last week......

How many days you're going? Find your girl?

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Of course when my wife threatens me, I am angry. But I do not want my children to be without mother. Vietnamese can be irresponsible parents, but I am Chinese, I cannot be irresponsible. That's why when I move back to Singapore, I feel happier as I need not put up with my in laws that often

nowadays couple try to continue to live together due to children even though not happy with each other.wonder if no children sure divorce one.a lot of sg couple turn to divorce cos i think ENDURE or give and take mindset is no longer important in present society especially sg, but bro singviet,i think u still happy with your marriage till now.

i like the sentence in red.whether after marriage happy or not,u have to be a responsible parents or husband or wife.is true that there is a lot of irresponsible viet parents who dont think of their daughter and would prefer money more than their daughter happiness.

[bswuming87]

wooohoooooo.. holidays now......... going off to hcm tmr on jetstar evening flight..

[leecs]

Happy liao lo........

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Golden question

nowadays couple try to continue to live together due to children even though not happy with each other.wonder if no children sure divorce one.a lot of sg couple turn to divorce cos i think ENDURE or give and take mindset is no longer important in present society especially sg, but bro singviet,i think u still happy with your marriage till now.

i like the sentence in red.whether after marriage happy or not,u have to be a responsible parents or husband or wife.is true that there is a lot of irresponsible viet parents who dont think of their daughter and would prefer money more than their daughter happiness.

I think that when 2 person of different culture and background come together, there will be a time when we have to adapt to each other, endure and pull thru the difficult times. After that period of time, the couple will get used to each other, trust each other more and enjoy family life. My first few years with my wife was a period of getting used to. Their culture, their way of doing things are all so different from us. The worst being i was staying in Vietnam and often i felt i was being `bullied' by my wife and her family. That's why i flew back to Singapore every 10 to 12 days there. I'm so often at the airport till i knew the airport and airline staff quite well. Back in Singapore for a few days, i will feel relax and energised. After that, i will fly back to Vietnam to `face the challenge'. But i never gave up, i always explained to my wife about the different things in Singapore, our thinking etc. I also explained to her about the chinese culture and our beliefs and how we are different from the vietnamese. I log on the internet daily to show my wife Singapore news, explained to her how these things happened. In simple words, lots of communication.

Year 2005, i brought my wife back to Singapore for 6 months. We stayed with my parents. But my wife was not quite used to staying with my parents. After 6 months, we shifted back to Vietnam. Life in Vietnam is nice, not much stress and good. But seeing my kids only learning tieng viet, i felt worried. I do not want my kids to grow up like the normal vietnamese. I am Singaporean, my children should be receiving good quality bilingual education. I went to the Singapore International School in Saigon and was quite shocked by their fees. Mid year 2007, i brought my whole family back to Singapore. I told my wife that we need to be concerned about my children's education. Business there can be handed by staff and frequent flying over. My children came back and i sent them to play grp and after some time, i see them making progress, speaking more english and mandarin, i felt relieved . I am happy with my wife and family, we spend time together daily and i have also learnt to `CLOSE ONE EYE' . I know my wife is still worried that her parents may not have enough money to spend, but i know she cares more for our own family. She knows well that she cannot keep helping her lazy siblings who refused to work and stay home to `shake leg'.

My own experiences tell me that the initial few years of marriage is about adapting to each other and enduring. If a couple can overcome that period of time and understand each other more, then the marriage will go on. Communication is very important.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by bswuming87

wooohoooooo.. holidays now......... going off to hcm tmr on jetstar evening flight..

Have a good time bro.