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If you are sure that your gal is serious about you and that you want to marry her asap, then carry on. It kind of defeats the purpose of asking around when you know what you want to do. Btw, the term 'ba xa' is a term you use to address your `wife' after you get your `marriage cert'.
You mention you are jobless and average looking and you see no reason why the gal should choose you, don't forget you got a RED NRIC that can sponsor her a LTSVP that will allow her to work for the longer term in Singapore. What you need to do now is to get a job and offer stability to your gal. Forget about going to VN to do business, most Singaporeans cannot make it there.
Bro is PINK NRIC lah,u need check your eye degree bo
Oh ya i also came across this documentary, watching it now. Its about Viet girls marry to singapore, interview type documentary.... dunno nice anot, check it out....
PS: IMO highly recommended to watch for bros like me who want to knoe more about viet culture, then u have viet guys who are lazy bums, useless ones haizz......
NOT FOR THE WEAK heart, i watch liao i abit emo after watching the living conditions, worst than thailand.....
All this documentary paint a nice picture about Vietnamese girl in search of a better life in a foreign country by marrying a foreign spouse.
Vietnamese girl even those from their kampong is not as naïve or innocent as what those document portray.Even if there is a few like this,this few are always influence by their family member to make use of their foreign husband to get money for them.
Those so call with horn one will try to get residential status in that country so that one day if they don't need their foreign husband,they still can remain in that country to earn money.
So understand more about their culture,their thinking,their way of doing thing is more important then keep telling yourself she is special to u.
bro u misinteprete lah i joking lah neber cry, i get what u mean, i must not be too soft dun call her for one week c how hee hee..... anyway i using prepaid card, cheap and can call long time, cant buy air tix :P
wechat & whatsapp cheapest-est ... can send photo and recorded voice
but one side has to know a common language
Damn, had a short chat with my gf, she dun like to tok alot, ask her about her family, her bro and sis at there keep toking to her in tieng viet(shite i dun understand), her brain really kenna controlled by her family members.
Scully she ask me can send her vitamin M help her? must be the bro there hassling for money. i told her i no money now, cant help. she say now she urgently need, when she go back jb work, no need liao.
I told her really now cannot, give mi time, she say she dun want to tok about her issues at home, she veri fan(vexed). She say dun call her until she go back johor. I kinda dissapointed lah, she say she not this kind of person, see bf got alot of money then like him, she say see his heart one.
Based on my past experiences with her, i trust her but i dun trust her family. Fucking hell, for sure got one useless bro buming right there asking my gf for money nnb. NVM i told her calm down first , think first, dun say angry words, i am not going to give up just like that and no way i am going to give money easily to his bro to let him la kopi at his hometown.
Haizz, same problems coming up, cannot say i give up coz i still see glimmer of hope, must brainwash her into my side, if not i can sayonara to my first r/s, hopefully not a short one wif a viet girl...
PS: due to cultural and communications prob, transparency is an issue and can be the issue to be all end all. Hopefully, the picture gets clearer and i get through the 'paintings'....
why go through the hassle?I know I am going to disappoint u but I just want to let u know 1 thing.
Vietnamese are very good in telling lies and act.Maybe is not her but this is one important thing u must know when dealing with them.
The way she say it: ''you can help, the amount i cannot say how much becuz not nice for me to say also.'' Scully bro and sis talk tieng viet, she said: ''i need 200 sgd lah''..... I ask her, she dont want tell me her family probs, i probe her , she wont say... she say veri complicated, dont want say...
OK i understand she needs money and i know got no free lunch and i want to help her abit also which i can afford to. However, the circumstance to how it leads to the final sum asked is something which makes me feel abit sad, a bit uneasy on my heart.... She did say take the r/s slowly, but then stupid siblings spoiler nia make her attitude change knn....
Its very contradicating, i want to knoe her better, but not her family probs, but its all come in the bloody package which i have to sign up for which most of the stuff inside suck balls....
since u already say is a bloody package,so let go,it will never end.Her family problems will always be her so do u want to carry too?Ask yourself all this question.
MONEY AND MONEY will always come into the picture so why not u just let go her?
bro, i like ur breakdown, u are not typical chinese, mi LIKE! LOL.... same as me
I think you get it wrong, i introvert even till today, i not like the uncles shout or grab girls by the hand and ask to sit with them, i give eye contact to girl and smile abit, if she want come, she come lor, if i think she not bad, i will ask her sit down when i at lorong 13. My girl insisted to sit with me she suddenly pop out from nowhere when i drinking teh o at lorong 13 during late aug 2013.
Next, i din give her tips also , she never ask LOL. Scully everytime we makan she feed me fries at macdonalds, feed keropok, wipe my mouth. I never ask her do leh, she veri happy to do that. in car or tax, hug me like glue sia i also never ask her do that cuz i tt time i knoe she lao jiao so i dun believe.
But her kc trap(hope not) super no returns one, till today i also hardly give her money, buy her medicated oil lah give her tip in malaysia ringgit when we drink lah, fair lah. So bottom line is she came into my life for some reason, she say i good heart she like, she lao jiao see all kind of men, when i say why dont u find a rich ong xa in sg and marry, she become dulan with me lol. I not bastard, i know she want a better life and if i cant give her , i tell her. I din like her first, but i am willing to let her go if she is happy tt way....
she feed u is nothing,is very normal for them to do.so please don't think that u are special or she love u cos she feed u.Lots of senior bro will agreed with what I say
she say u good heart she like,many vb will say all this,so nothing new and don't think u are very special to u
she dulan because u ask her find a rich ox in sg to marry,haha,i want to laugh
u know u cannot give her a better life,so why u want to make your life so difficult,let go her.
I spolit your mood right,haha but I just want to say what I think I need to let u know,is up to u to decide
Bro i get what u saying but she doing all this for no money after 8 meetings, probably i bring her go makan and go temple only? how to explain? go ask bros who chiong wif me before , see how budget i am on women lol. Unless she is the one i love, i spend, or else try asking any hot woman to kc me and ask me to spend on her(of cos the lam tinh pay lah, first try no bbbj no more 2nd time, tip pay minimum dun care sia, cannot dun pay sure bastard one), once again i not haolian LOL, i dun think like chinese, i dun need to, and sure as hell i dun give an arse shite about ego or wadever crap....
Hurricane bro, i know u want to ask me find new VB and protect my fucking wallet first, but i really dun want to go back to my cycle of fuck and forget(F & F), what meaning after my 8 years doing tt? tired sia, got no direction, now i really want see how my r/s work, fail then fail lah, i scare i no face? i dun care sia, when i let go, let it go, but must be honest god to myself to give my best shot and not suck it up to all this critics, stereotype crap becuz ppl cant move out of their comfort zone sometimes....
PS: hurricane bro, i just up you, sory for being direct wif my views but thanks for your pointers...
so go ahead and marry her since u say like that,if this is what u think,why bother to come here share your story?
There is still doubt in u that's why u are here,only u know yourself.There will be many negative or positive view from bro here.TS who have a viet wife have been giving sound advise and most is negative one,not to spolit mood for bro here who want to have contact with Vb but just want to let bro know more about Vb and what to expect
letting go is so simple?
that's why bro mackewell cumm here to share ma ...
our views, whether positive or negative, is kind of support cos we offer our listening ears ma ... he will figure it out himself de ... he big boy liao ma
but that video about 3 viet wana marry sinkees .... very clear liao marrying them is also marrying the family... but is a conflict of interest cos most sinkees who go for viet wife mostly can only feed the wife
Finally post finish,time to return to my porn or my beer
Wah thanks for your rants, i certainly hope your previous cai tow experience with a working WL does not hinder your faith in pursuing a real r/s that involves effort and time. Porn and booze are awesome but overconsumption is detrimental to a person's social life...
Wah thanks for your rants, i certainly hope your previous cai tow experience with a working WL does not hinder your faith in pursuing a real r/s that involves effort and time. Porn and booze are awesome but overconsumption is detrimental to a person's social life...
Aiyoh, don't say people cai tow experience la. Yours coming soon . Although you have cheong for 8 years, cheonging and getting married to a VB is totally different. There are more and more Sinkie man divorcing their VB spouse. Most of the Sinkie man got to know their VB spouse through cheonging too. You are still green to Viet culture, don't be too overly confident. I have seen many Sinkie man who married VB, no stable career and just in a year of 2, their marriage ends in divorce. So if you want all of us to accept your story, there is no need to come in here. You ask question, we share our views. If cannot accept, then stop your story. Come in again after you marry her, i will be very sure your experience will be very different than now.
20-09-2014, 09:11 PM
