Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

i apologise for offending the members here.. i am very new to this scene.. i wont post anymore then.

I think that you should consolidate your qns in a list and post them instead of 1 qn at a time, that will be helpful to gather the infos u want .. some answers may inter-link to the other.

There is no offending as long as no vulgarities and etc ...

As long as you are genuine .. for sure we will answer your questions ...

The qn u posted will get answer and that also helps us in here to learn n share what we don't know and also enhance what we have know.

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

can anyone share the age difference between your wife and you?

I am 14 years older than my Wife ....

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

like what job would the Viet wives normally work as in Singapore?

By an large, it range from working as a beer gal in coffee shop to restaurant ... waitress in restaurant ... sales gal ... manicure/pedicure ...

Those highly educated can be working in office , quantity surveyor ...

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by SingViet

My wife is 4 years younger than me. I know singaporeans tend to have the idea that old singaporean man `buy' their young viet wife from the agency. This is totally outdated.

They also have the thinking that the age gap is huge. Like wat GQ mentioned.

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by vietboy

i just like to disturb ppl to add some mischief to the all day serious topics.

Yes .. that's why u deserved to be f**ked

[jf66312]

Originally Posted by SingViet

My wife is 4 years younger than me. I know singaporeans tend to have the idea that old singaporean man `buy' their young viet wife from the agency. This is totally outdated.

mine is 1 year older than me...

[jf66312]

Originally Posted by Golden question

why do u need such knowledge?my wife is older than me and i bet i am those minority here

you are not alone bro..mine older than me by a year...

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by shysaint

Yes .. that's why u deserved to be f**ked

我没有怨言。
But pls be gentle as i 吃软不吃硬.

I just try to joke lah. All serious no joke very sian one leh.

Ok ok no more disturbing ppl from me anymore till tat 诸葛亮 post here again.

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by shysaint

I am 14 years older than my Wife ....



By an large, it range from working as a beer gal in coffee shop to restaurant ... waitress in restaurant ... sales gal ... manicure/pedicure ...

Those highly educated can be working in office , quantity surveyor ...

U forgot those bia om places...

[Blast88]

Originally Posted by Golden question

haiz,why woman so emotional one?because today whole day i did not message her,now she very angry,she say she love me a lot but i like dont care

she dont want to talk to me,ask her why no happy,she say i know

My wife is also a very emotional type & it become worst after giving birth, sometimes out of no where she can just cry for nothing. she always think that she alone here with no frd & relative & this mentality is totally wrong since she married to me, my mother, sisters, auntie, etc are all her immediate family here, especially my 2 younger sisters always treat her like their own sidling, always remember her birthday & buy her present.
My job require me frequent travelling & she does not like me to travel, we have a lot of argument over this topic & sometimes I just got tired over it, thinking to quit my job & look for a perm. local base job. Just wondering any bro. out there mind to share does your wife object you from business travelling?

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by shysaint

There is no offending as long as no vulgarities and etc ...

As long as you are genuine .. for sure we will answer your questions ...

The qn u posted will get answer and that also helps us in here to learn n share what we don't know and also enhance what we have know.

This samster posted in almost all threads...asking various questions...just check the history you will know...

[Flamer89]

moi gf is one year younger than me

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by vietboy

U forgot those bia om places...

I want to talk about the the illegal part of it NOT the illegal part ...

If illegal part ... there is alot ... Cafe OM ... Bia Om ... Message ... Disco ... SEs ... FLs ...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

This samster posted in almost all threads...asking various questions...just check the history you will know...

Yes I know

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Blast88

My wife is also a very emotional type & it become worst after giving birth, sometimes out of no where she can just cry for nothing. she always think that she alone here with no frd & relative & this mentality is totally wrong since she married to me, my mother, sisters, auntie, etc are all her immediate family here, especially my 2 younger sisters always treat her like their own sidling, always remember her birthday & buy her present.
My job require me frequent travelling & she does not like me to travel, we have a lot of argument over this topic & sometimes I just got tired over it, thinking to quit my job & look for a perm. local base job. Just wondering any bro. out there mind to share does your wife object you from business travelling?

U want her to understand you .. BUT you have to understand her too ... remember you are now in a cross cultural state ...

Yes ... you may have alot of family members ... but u have to understand the feeling deep inside them .... sometimes its not the company that they have BUT is WHO is with them ... To her .. you are the MOST Dear besides her family in Vietnam not really your familly members ... It takes time to get customised into your family ... making her feel good by you and your family is just a small part of the process ...

It's not a matter of explanation but its a matter of time ... u have to give her alot of attention and time to make adjustment and let her understand that she has 2 family ...

My wife do cry secretly when she is alone previously because of loniness .. but now with baby, she is fine coz got baby to attend to.. BUT she still misses VN because of her mum and she is the only child. My wife do not mind me travelling out for weeks to mths BUT she has to return to VN and stay with their family ...

As for crying after birth ... you have to take note .. worse it could be post birth symtons .. due to loneliness .. less company of you ... stress of taking care of the baby .. less sleep .. food and etc ..

there are many to do ... there are changes to be made .. there are sacrifices to be made .... Communication is very important ..

Sometimes I am guilty of alot of things because of work and tired .. u tend to forget alot things ... alot of things u have to keep track and be aware ...

Especially for those whose wife tend to keep things inside herself .. she can tells u alot of things BUT not everything ...

[Blast88]

Originally Posted by shysaint

U want her to understand you .. BUT you have to understand her too ... remember you are now in a cross cultural state ...

Yes ... you may have alot of family members ... but u have to understand the feeling deep inside them .... sometimes its not the company that they have BUT is WHO is with them ... To her .. you are the MOST Dear besides her family in Vietnam not really your familly members ... It takes time to get customised into your family ... making her feel good by you and your family is just a small part of the process ...

It's not a matter of explanation but its a matter of time ... u have to give her alot of attention and time to make adjustment and let her understand that she has 2 family ...

My wife do cry secretly when she is alone previously because of loniness .. but now with baby, she is fine coz got baby to attend to.. BUT she still misses VN because of her mum and she is the only child. My wife do not mind me travelling out for weeks to mths BUT she has to return to VN and stay with their family ...

As for crying after birth ... you have to take note .. worse it could be post birth symtons .. due to loneliness .. less company of you ... stress of taking care of the baby .. less sleep .. food and etc ..

there are many to do ... there are changes to be made .. there are sacrifices to be made .... Communication is very important ..

Sometimes I am guilty of alot of things because of work and tired .. u tend to forget alot things ... alot of things u have to keep track and be aware ...

Especially for those whose wife tend to keep things inside herself .. she can tells u alot of things BUT not everything ...

Hi Bro SS,

I have know my wife since 2009 & I believe we have already know & understand each other inside out. The main issues now is my business travelling, her mind tend to run wild whenever i'm oversea, always thinking that I might find women & betray her behind her back so I'm just wondering why Viet wife ia always lacking confidence on their husband?Is it their rooted nature to suspect husband whenever you are not with her