Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by jf66312

your situation better....

mine also only spk english cant spk mandarin....am not staying with my parents as they never approved of my marriage...

so most of the time she is alone at home also while am out working...now have little one already but sometimes she still complains...

mine sometimes also will cry all of sudden...tats why when she want to go out with frens i dun really say no...just stay home take care of little one....

maybe next time we can get together .. a family outing ... go eat or something like that ...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by jf66312

..tats why when she want to go out with frens i dun really say no...just stay home take care of little one....

my wife never goes out alone to meet her friends ... I will bring her to her friends house for gathering and eat while i take care the BB when she is chatting with her friends ...

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by shysaint

Mine is opposite of you ... I ask what your wife ask ... and my wife answered what you answered to your wife

Think we marry wrong girl,yours should be mine and mine should be yours bro,u want to exchange haha

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by shysaint

Sames as me ... You are Cleared for Take-Off ...



YEs it true ... but dosen't means you have to follows ... It's about YOU and HER ...



Everything is a Burden ... Learn to Oversome it ... LEarn to solve it ...

I know $$$ is Bread ... Butter .. and Honey ... BUT it is NOT everything ...

If eveythings Talk about $$$ ... Relationship sure down the drain ....

JUst be truthful ... Learn how to Make your Little $$$ works wonder ...

IF you got $$$ .. you want her and you also go around bonking other gals... $$$ also Not enought ..

HAve you ever heard ... HIGH Earning equate to HIGH Expenditure



1. Visiting is a MUST ...

2. Talk over the Phone .. Everyday I talk to my wife and baby for at least 20mins before they sleep .... You can use skype credit to call her mobile - much much much more cheap than using the cheapest calling card

3. Try teach here to used basic computer skills like msn , skype ..



You confuse yourself ... you listen to people and yet you did nothing to check it out ... no wonder you are confuse ...

It's your destiny ... you have to work hard and find out hard yourself ... dun depends on others to spoon fed you ...

People can help you .. but how much can they help and advice you if you dun self help yourself ..



There is nothing to BOMB about ... Every Relationship is different from one another ...

she is your gal ,,, you know whats best for her ... Young doesn't mean you cannot think .... unless you alwasy used your small head to think then nothign to talk about ...

LIke I said .. Good COmmunications is Very important ... share with her your thoughts ... not when u see her , u bonk her ... its about talking and sharing, learn their cultures from her ... built relatioship when you and her are together, know their families and etc and etc ... ... So NOW you know WHY I seldom meet BROs in HCMC for Partying ??



That's 1 Way on how Vietnamese gals are showing concern on their loves 1. I am now too on their VN medicine ... everyday must eat 8 tablets and must eat for 3 mths ... so is u shiong or I shiong ???

[/QUOTE]

Good pierce of advise or sharing.Bro doggie,why u scare to eat those pills she give u to eat?Her intention is good from what she say to u but u suspect that she will poison or harm u,am i right?

I think that u still need more time to understand her cos i think u still have some thinking that she might have some bad motive towards u.Drop the idea of marriage if u are not ready.Marriage and going steady is totally different things and dont always think u have to earn a lot,a lot,then marry her is happy always.If u are average income earner and she willing to work hard together with u,then that is real LOVE.

[SureScore]

Enjoyed reading 3 pages full of families discussions. Please keep on coming.

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by SureScore

Enjoyed reading 3 pages full of families discussions. Please keep on coming.

U seem busy lately, but might see u on 1/12.

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by naemlo

U seem busy lately, but might see u on 1/12.

Will be good if can meet you.

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Golden question

Think we marry wrong girl,yours should be mine and mine should be yours bro,u want to exchange haha

If change it will be good for me coz both of us the same frequency ... My wife n u although move along the same direction but then will never meet ...

So u still want to change?

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by shysaint

If change it will be good for me coz both of us the same frequency ... My wife n u although move along the same direction but then will never meet ...

So u still want to change?

actually i dont get what u mean heehee,i just joking with u only

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by shysaint

Yip .. I do agree ... HOwever .. everything takes 2 hands to clap ...

My feelings now to my current wife is different from my ex-marriage .. furthermore I don't see my wife everyday, so feeling might be fresh .. so I guess that will to sustain the relationship fro along time to come ..

Yes , we always TALK about no $$ no Honey ... BUT if the gal is truely good ... she wil not bother much about that issue ...

The most important factors is :

1. understand their cultures ..
2. give and take ...
3. giving in more than they giving in to you ...
4. be truthful ...
5. be adaptable ...

ONLY you yourself know about your wife/gf ... NO ONE else knows about your wife ...

Every one are different .... Apply what is applicable to you and her .. and NOT everything you learnt here ...

Rgds

Agree cos it makes 2 person treasure each other more.See every day sometime also more friction and disagreement.sometime is good to be apart for a short time

[ilovedoggie]

Good pierce of advise or sharing.Bro doggie,why u scare to eat those pills she give u to eat?Her intention is good from what she say to u but u suspect that she will poison or harm u,am i right?

I think that u still need more time to understand her cos i think u still have some thinking that she might have some bad motive towards u.
[/QUOTE]

bro gq, thanks for the opinion. it's not i scared she will poison me or harm me. what's the logic anyway, right? It's because they always take self-prescribed medicine. it might not be a proper dosage.

at this point of time, i don't think she have bad motives on me anymore. now it's more on how to work towards a happy and stable life with her... She already gave up her career path as a WL even she has some opportunity to work as one. she told me she realize being a WL money is fast to come but fast to go also. in the end she has nothing. She wants a stable life without much worry. she cited she wants to be like me; work during day time and at night can drive out for some leisure activities. She wants to follow me.

i never tell anyone before that i work through my way with her from:
toi/ban -> toi/ban + anh/em -> anh/em + ox/bx -> ox/bx (full time). it's been lots of effort and sincerity that i gave before i manage to touch her emotionally, so to speak. and it is definitely not easy to win her heart even she was a WL back then because she is fair and beautiful. a lot of people ogle at her while we are walking on the street and a lot of guys call/sms her... recently she even shared with me how she record her previous customers contacts on the phone quite funny hehe...

nevertheless, the idea of getting married with her is still far away and i presume it requires lots of planning for marriage life thereafter. therefore i would start to inquire a little bit here and there to get some ideas before i move forward step by step. it's always good to visualize and think far ahead, am i right?

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

Good pierce of advise or sharing.Bro doggie,why u scare to eat those pills she give u to eat?Her intention is good from what she say to u but u suspect that she will poison or harm u,am i right?

I think that u still need more time to understand her cos i think u still have some thinking that she might have some bad motive towards u.

bro gq, thanks for the opinion. it's not i scared she will poison me or harm me. what's the logic anyway, right? It's because they always take self-prescribed medicine. it might not be a proper dosage.

at this point of time, i don't think she have bad motives on me anymore. now it's more on how to work towards a happy and stable life with her... She already gave up her career path as a WL even she has some opportunity to work as one. she told me she realize being a WL money is fast to come but fast to go also. in the end she has nothing. She wants a stable life without much worry. she cited she wants to be like me; work during day time and at night can drive out for some leisure activities. She wants to follow me.

i never tell anyone before that i work through my way with her from:
toi/ban -> toi/ban + anh/em -> anh/em + ox/bx -> ox/bx (full time). it's been lots of effort and sincerity that i gave before i manage to touch her emotionally, so to speak. and it is definitely not easy to win her heart even she was a WL back then because she is fair and beautiful. a lot of people ogle at her while we are walking on the street and a lot of guys call/sms her... recently she even shared with me how she record her previous customers contacts on the phone quite funny hehe...

nevertheless, the idea of getting married with her is still far away and i presume it requires lots of planning for marriage life thereafter. therefore i would start to inquire a little bit here and there to get some ideas before i move forward step by step. it's always good to visualize and think far ahead, am i right? [/QUOTE]

Yah u are right,this path might not be that smooth but if u never walk u never know.Might be quite stress up sometime,just come over here and u might be able to get some 'red bull' over here to energise yourself again

[Golden question]

Yah u are right,this path might not be that smooth but if u never walk u never know.Might be quite stress up sometime,just come over here and u might be able to get some 'red bull' over here to energise yourself again

[V|ernar]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

thanks for your advice



thanks for sharing bro singviet! i actually can stick with one and i think she's the one i want to stick with. every time we have go apart at the airport i always feel my heart sinks into my stomach and then she phone me and say "ong xaaa...." in her unique purring tone... i feel want to cry Such thing never happens in my life when i was with any other girls.

please bomb me with lots of thoughts/info/warning etc that you bros who are married to a bx can... yea nowadays my girl like to call me early in the morning and out of nothing but keep on calling me "ong xa... ong xa... ong xa..." and giggle... lovey dovey honeymoon period but when i think of the stuff that i will have to go through in the future with her... it brings me headache even now... i am still very young but my girl is even younger... she has her own family financial problem and i have my own conquest in my career path and wealth planning and my own financial commitment every month... lots and lots of things to think about. really lots of things to think about and planning to do to get together with a future bx...

many thanks to the caring bros here.

love,
doggie

Ok , congrats .. You and me same ... I also die under the tone of Ong xa ...

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by V|ernar

Ok , congrats .. You and me same ... I also die under the tone of Ong xa ...

my life and my preference changed after i was brought into the viet scene... nowadays i would prefer a vb who call me "ong xaa..." to a sillypore woman who call me "dearr..." yuck...

the feeling with a vb is totally indescribable by words. only those who have tasted will know it... i am totally amazed... but when think about the hassle that comes thereafter... haizzz....