Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Honey Boon]

sure .... anytime

Originally Posted by jackbl

Off topic!!! Fine u guys 1 jug of beer Joking la

[Honey Boon]

like Jack Neo said: Money always not enough. Ya, I also don't mind to be called stingy and bad son-in-law, in fact the more they call me by this name, the more "shiok" I feel. That means I have done enough to protect my "wealth".

To be fair, I don't mind paying a bit to take care the parents-in-law, but must be shared accordingly among the siblings, and never act hero. If they have other sons, they must pay a bigger share, then come daughters to chip in. My limit is up to the parents-in-law. To take care the rest of the bro or sis in law, over my dead body.

Originally Posted by SingViet

When i first married my wife, i have shown her that i am poor and damm stingy. That's also the reason why we argued a lot in the intial few years of marriage. Thru the years, our income increased but i still show her that we need to save for the children. So that's always GOOD REASONS why we cannot afford to give her family a lot of money. They can call me stingy or whatsoever, the thought of my hard earned money going to those useless chaps in the province makes me mad.......... want money? go work, i don't owe you anything ...hahaha

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by SingViet

When i first married my wife, i have shown her that i am poor and damm stingy. That's also the reason why we argued a lot in the intial few years of marriage. Thru the years, our income increased but i still show her that we need to save for the children. So that's always GOOD REASONS why we cannot afford to give her family a lot of money. They can call me stingy or whatsoever, the thought of my hard earned money going to those useless chaps in the province makes me mad.......... want money? go work, i don't owe you anything ...hahaha

bro, can share how u psycho and brainwash your wife from first met until married? as in change her mindset that u and your children shd be the top priority for her, not her family in the province?

and also i realize VBs like to throw tantrum at us? as in when got into some arguement? or when i suddenly tell my vb on the phone that i gtg can't talk and will call her later and hang up. then after she sound like dun wan to talk and sound a bit pissed.

[Duios]

This topic too bloody long to finish reading in my lifetime.

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

and also i realize VBs like to throw tantrum at us? as in when got into some arguement? or when i suddenly tell my vb on the phone that i gtg can't talk and will call her later and hang up. then after she sound like dun wan to talk and sound a bit pissed.

bro i notice that too. at first i was just assuming that they just demand a lot of attention and get jealous easily. until i saw her chat with her girl friend. watch for next post.

[Duios]

This is a chat between my gf and her friend. Both from VN. I know a bit lack of integrity to do this but just wanna warn all the bros out there.

I'm not saying that all VN girls are bad. Just giving an insight on some of their thoughts.

All dialogue remains original. Only changed the names to maintain privacy.

Aug 17 12:48 AM
Gf's Friend:but sometime i make war
Aug 17 12:48 AM
Gf's Friend:when i need something
Aug 17 12:48 AM
My Gf:That y he love u!hehe
Aug 17 12:48 AM
Gf's Friend:look like now i need hand bag VL
Aug 17 12:48 AM
My Gf:Ym
Aug 17 12:49 AM
Gf's Friend:daimond
Aug 17 12:49 AM
Gf's Friend:now I try make war
Aug 17 12:49 AM
Gf's Friend:we be war
Aug 17 12:49 AM
Gf's Friend:hahaha
Aug 17 12:50 AM
Gf's Friend: i give him headache
Aug 17 12:50 AM
My Gfun alway war he feel boring how?
Aug 17 12:50 AM
Gf's Friend:if give him free time then him will think all the girl
Aug 17 12:50 AM
Gf's Friend:hahha
Aug 17 12:50 AM
Gf's Friend:no we hav to be alway change
Aug 17 12:51 AM
Gf's Friend:with what I make war just because I need hand bag VL not about jealous
Aug 17 12:51 AM
Gf's Friend:then not boring
Aug 17 12:51 AM
Gf's Friend:how my war
Aug 17 12:51 AM
Gf's Friend:yep I be not happy
Aug 17 12:51 AM
My Gf:Um then he still not ok with lv?
Aug 17 12:51 AM
Gf's Friend:not talk much
Aug 17 12:51 AM
Gf's Friend:not simle
Aug 17 12:52 AM
Gf's Friend:not be long in phone
Aug 17 12:52 AM
Gf's Friend:everything for me be slowly
Aug 17 12:52 AM
Gf's Friend:ahahha
Aug 17 12:52 AM
Gf's Friend:if him not buy for me then i say good bye
Aug 17 12:52 AM
Gf's Friend:change new man
Aug 17 12:53 AM
My Gf:Uh huh
Aug 17 12:53 AM
Gf's Friend:why I have to be slave?
Aug 17 12:53 AM
Gf's Friend:I hope U too
Aug 17 12:53 AM
Gf's Friend:alway be Quuen
Aug 17 12:53 AM
My Gf:I think he love u then u will have lv soon
Aug 17 12:54 AM
Gf's Friend:not just about VL but I need be Quuen
Aug 17 12:54 AM
Gf's Friend:verry important
Aug 17 12:54 AM
Gf's Friend:want make him alway flow me
Aug 17 12:54 AM
Gf's Friend:think of me
Aug 17 12:54 AM
Gf's Friend:want me

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

Toi khong hieu ban dang noi cai gi. xin loi..

who cares if you dun understand...go and look at the gahmen policy on uneducated foreigner want to be a sinkie requirement...

Originally Posted by Golden question

but what is important is how she treat me after marriage.she do her duty as a wife and treat my parents good.she understand what and why i cannot or can do for certain things.she work to give her mother money and does not ask from me.understand your viet spouse is more important than thinking what hidden agenda she have

take care of her and love her dearly...am sure you will see it through your golden ages...^_^

Originally Posted by Golden question

actually i dont think i can give her a better life lah,but a decent one still can lah.we both have to work hard for a better life and not me only

read your story...your wife or some bro gf no money to buy sanitary pads...sure you been to her house in the province and their living conditions...believe me very good life already even our rental 1 room flat here in sinkie...

I had seen living conditions whereby the house dun even have cement and muddy after rain...roof are atap roof and easily burn down...the beams are poles tied with strings...a family of 15 living in 2 rooms...the gers are all working in the cities...bringing $$$ home monthly...

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

who cares if you dun understand...go and look at the gahmen policy on uneducated foreigner want to be a sinkie requirement...

fair enough... not interested to know... for the moment...

p/s: anh xau! haha...

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

read your story...your wife or some bro gf no money to buy sanitary pads...sure you been to her house in the province and their living conditions...believe me very good life already even our rental 1 room flat here in sinkie...

I had seen living conditions whereby the house dun even have cement and muddy after rain...roof are atap roof and easily burn down...the beams are poles tied with strings...a family of 15 living in 2 rooms...the gers are all working in the cities...bringing $$$ home monthly...

u make me very curious to follow them back to their province and see how is it like. i hv seen photos of their house but nr experience it...

[GLHunter]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

bro, can share how u psycho and brainwash your wife from first met until married? as in change her mindset that u and your children shd be the top priority for her, not her family in the province?

and also i realize VBs like to throw tantrum at us? as in when got into some arguement? or when i suddenly tell my vb on the phone that i gtg can't talk and will call her later and hang up. then after she sound like dun wan to talk and sound a bit pissed.

For the part that you hang up and she sounded pissed after that, it could be due to the way you ended the conversation.

She may have alot to tell you, but feeling that you are not really listening and in a hurry to end the call. then you may have ended the call abruptly, which she may find rude or offended.

try ending the call with a lot of caring words & sweet loving whispers. Afterall she is your gf mah. Must pump in alot of patience and tender loving care. Just like a movie, it can have a good start, an interesting storyline, but still consider a failure if the ending is lousy.

Above is just an suggestion of what may be the causes. Choke Dee krup.

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by GLHunter

For the part that you hang up and she sounded pissed after that, it could be due to the way you ended the conversation.

She may have alot to tell you, but feeling that you are not really listening and in a hurry to end the call. then you may have ended the call abruptly, which she may find rude or offended.

try ending the call with a lot of caring words & sweet loving whispers. Afterall she is your gf mah. Must pump in alot of patience and tender loving care. Just like a movie, it can have a good start, an interesting storyline, but still consider a failure if the ending is lousy.

Above is just an suggestion of what may be the causes. Choke Dee krup.

bro the thing is she also do the same thing to me sometimes. suddenly hang up without saying bye bye or wat... i thought it's their culture? maybe im confused with the context but my encounters with other viet gals also like this. they dun seem to say bye bye to hang up??? paiseh im really confused... still trying my best to understand them...

P/s: i think u r right with the point she got things to tell me. she sound very happy and enthu to talk bcuz it's her last day of work at her factory. and when she ask me who's calling me and who is coming to look for me. i keep saying fren la fren la... i think thats y she got pissed? but i really dunno...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

bro the thing is she also do the same thing to me sometimes. suddenly hang up without saying bye bye or wat... i thought it's their culture? maybe im confused with the context but my encounters with other viet gals also like this. they dun seem to say bye bye to hang up??? paiseh im really confused... still trying my best to understand them...(

you too inexperienced young to understand this...learn more viet WL la...

pay more school fees to WL because you sure to lose them...

for me my gf (non WL) always say bye bye to me and always reluctant to say bye bye too...but still say hon anh nhieu nhieu....

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

you too inexperienced young to understand this...learn more viet WL la...

pay more school fees to WL because you sure to lose them...

for me my gf (non WL) always say bye bye to me and always reluctant to say bye bye too...but still say hon anh nhieu nhieu....

i don't think i will lose to no2. im at advantage now... and in short future too i hope. it somewhat has to end some time soon.

yaya... i hv to find non WL to learn the real lesson. my ex school got a lot but too bad i didn't have the interest in viet. WL sparks my interest i must admit

[Greatking]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

bro the thing is she also do the same thing to me sometimes. suddenly hang up without saying bye bye or wat... i thought it's their culture? maybe im confused with the context but my encounters with other viet gals also like this. they dun seem to say bye bye to hang up??? paiseh im really confused... still trying my best to understand them...

P/s: i think u r right with the point she got things to tell me. she sound very happy and enthu to talk bcuz it's her last day of work at her factory. and when she ask me who's calling me and who is coming to look for me. i keep saying fren la fren la... i think thats y she got pissed? but i really dunno...

So its their culture... after 9mths with my VB gal, she still hangs up on me and i didn't realise this habit.. jus feel utimate tulan everytime and call back to tell her off. But things happens again.

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

at least convince her that you are working hard for a better life for both of u right? but just that she make sure she does her role well as a wife.

come to think of it, it seems like the VBs are very concerned of us working, is it just WL or VB or every gal also like that? when i told my no1 i'm going to change job, she say, " huh why? very hard to find a good job. don't la... " my no2 also ask me if im working at all bcuz the first time we went out and stay up very late. she sounded very very concerned about it.

it might be a typical quality that VB is looking for in a man?

not only she does her role as my wife but she also take care of my family.Some of her good thinking and action towards family and people also let me learn a lot from her.

There is always good things that u can learn from your viet spouse and not always money matters

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

bro, can share how u psycho and brainwash your wife from first met until married? as in change her mindset that u and your children shd be the top priority for her, not her family in the province?

and also i realize VBs like to throw tantrum at us? as in when got into some arguement? or when i suddenly tell my vb on the phone that i gtg can't talk and will call her later and hang up. then after she sound like dun wan to talk and sound a bit pissed.

bro this is normal leh,sg girl also like that one leh,not only viet girl

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

who cares if you dun understand...go and look at the gahmen policy on uneducated foreigner want to be a sinkie requirement...



take care of her and love her dearly...am sure you will see it through your golden ages...^_^



read your story...your wife or some bro gf no money to buy sanitary pads...sure you been to her house in the province and their living conditions...believe me very good life already even our rental 1 room flat here in sinkie...

I had seen living conditions whereby the house dun even have cement and muddy after rain...roof are atap roof and easily burn down...the beams are poles tied with strings...a family of 15 living in 2 rooms...the gers are all working in the cities...bringing $$$ home monthly...

i also saw before,at my first vb house.The most unforgetable one is while we are having lunch,there is no light in the living room,is dark inside but a broken hole on the atap roof let some sunlight shine in

halfway rain come and they quickly shift the table to a cover side.most unforgettable one is the toliet,i dont know how to describe but is very dark and just a hole.

before i left,she father was taking his shower outside her house beside those huge jug/bowl with rain water collected.