Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[lasupkia]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Recently alot of thesw grabbing apps popping up... Grabtaxi, grabcar, grabxeom?
When will there be a grabchicken apps?

You can develop a Grab45kgconga app.

[Kim91]

Originally Posted by milfmilf

maybe my england bad or I impatient
the author should give more examples on what he had encountered that made him write this article ...
then sounds more like beating around the bush

HAHA..no prob its just for sharing... the stories in this thread is more exciting..

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

There are many factors needed to make a marriage work out well. The traditional way being the husband works hard to bring the dough home and ensure that the family is well fed. The wife, on the other hand, takes good care of the children and ensure that the household is well taken care of. Such traditional setup will normally produce children who do well in school and have good characters.

In sillypore, there is no longer a tradition of "women in, men out". Mostly is both working parents with kids being look after by grandparents or maid. I don't think this setup means the children character will be bad or don't do well in school.

Myself marrying a viet wife, i don't feel that i am being look down by fellow singaporens leh. People i met and knowing i have a viet wife will only comment that 'whao, very shiong on your finance leh", "whao, you so good to your wife, let her stay home don't need work" etc...

It is true that viet wife knows how to raise kids. Example, my wife did a good job feeding, bathing and taking good care of my son. But playing and educating him, she did badly. So it is my responsibilty to play and teach him.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

It is true that viet wife knows how to raise kids. Example, my wife did a good job feeding, bathing and taking good care of my son. But playing and educating him, she did badly. So it is my responsibilty to play and teach him.

I always say Viet woman are best mothers...in terms of caring for babies...as for educating...still need you lah KT...dun expect the simple minded lady can educate kids thru school...

[Kim91]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

In sillypore, there is no longer a tradition of "women in, men out". Mostly is both working parents with kids being look after by grandparents or maid. I don't think this setup means the children character will be bad or don't do well in school.

Myself marrying a viet wife, i don't feel that i am being look down by fellow singaporens leh. People i met and knowing i have a viet wife will only comment that 'whao, very shiong on your finance leh", "whao, you so good to your wife, let her stay home don't need work" etc...

It is true that viet wife knows how to raise kids. Example, my wife did a good job feeding, bathing and taking good care of my son. But playing and educating him, she did badly. So it is my responsibilty to play and teach him.

Well said KT! Those who worried being looked down, better dun touch.
My wife in-charge of my son well being in day; at night its my responsibility to play and teach him at night. My wife will also hang around to learn what i taught him so she try to pick up something. Definitely its going to be this way thru out for him n the next one.
Finances is always siong thats for sure, since most of our wifes dun work. Its how we jagger with needs n ones.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

In sillypore, there is no longer a tradition of "women in, men out". Mostly is both working parents with kids being look after by grandparents or maid. I don't think this setup means the children character will be bad or don't do well in school.

Myself marrying a viet wife, i don't feel that i am being look down by fellow singaporens leh. People i met and knowing i have a viet wife will only comment that 'whao, very shiong on your finance leh", "whao, you so good to your wife, let her stay home don't need work" etc...

It is true that viet wife knows how to raise kids. Example, my wife did a good job feeding, bathing and taking good care of my son. But playing and educating him, she did badly. So it is my responsibilty to play and teach him.

I think you didn't get the interpretation correctly.

My main message is
- `get a roof over the head for family' instead of spending the money on holidays and building houses for wife's relatives in the province.

- educate the children by ourselves, don't depend on MIL, who has no idea of educating kids.



As for others who are fast to stamp me out, please read carefully what i wrote. Educating children is not as easy as most of us think it is. When our children get to P4 onwards, most of us cannot understand the syllabus at all. Maths is so different from what we has last time. So before you start to `stamp me out quickly', wait till your children reach upper primary, then you come tell me about it.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

As for others who are fast to stamp me out, please read carefully what i wrote. Educating children is not as easy as most of us think it is. When our children get to P4 onwards, most of us cannot understand the syllabus at all. Maths is so different from what we has last time. So before you start to `stamp me out quickly', wait till your children reach upper primary, then you come tell me about it.

This I agree...educating kids nowadays is not easy...lots of time needed to motivate them and encouragement...parents cannot do much now except provide the suitable comfortable environment for the kids to excel in their field of studies...

on the other hand parents should not have too high expectation for their kids to top their exams each time...give the kids space and time...my advice to kids "so long you have work hard and tried your best whatever grades is fine..."...I rather have a happy jovial kid then a sad unhappy kid...parents should not adopt a kiasuism attitude...

simply teach the kids how to fish rather than giving them fishes to eat...

also parents dun be too proud and boast too much...I have seen kids did well in P6 and O-Level but did badly in A-Level...kids grew and matured at different age...

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

When our children get to P4 onwards, most of us cannot understand the syllabus at all. Maths is so different from what we has last time. So before you start to `stamp me out quickly', wait till your children reach upper primary, then you come tell me about it.

P3 maths already jaik lat liao...
Some maths problem has been circulating in FB.... i.e. guessing cheryl birth date. OMG
I had been scoring A1 for both E and A maths in secondary school but still had hard time solving such P3 problems

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

My main message is
- `get a roof over the head for family' instead of spending the money on holidays and building houses for wife's relatives in the province.

- educate the children by ourselves, don't depend on MIL, who has no idea of educating kids.

Spend money on holidays once awhile is ok but not every holiday is go vietnam. That is not holiday. I had been planning alot of holiday trips like going to Thailand, Aust, Legoland, Genting... But execute non. End up only staycation in sentosa once.

I think only goon doo then help wife RELATIVES build house. How many relatives to help?

Who in the right frame of mind would leave the education to MIL who may not had even go school?

[lasupkia]

If wife relatives ask me build house, I will send them a quotation first. Collect at least 50% down payment b4 I start work.
But if just change light bulbs then free service.

[Kim91]

Originally Posted by SingViet

As for others who are fast to stamp me out, please read carefully what i wrote. Educating children is not as easy as most of us think it is. When our children get to P4 onwards, most of us cannot understand the syllabus at all. Maths is so different from what we has last time. So before you start to `stamp me out quickly', wait till your children reach upper primary, then you come tell me about it.

Dun worry uncle SV, those who stamp u out are ignorant.

Definitely for us must get the priority rite. House education n saving before being Santa.
Nowaday education is more different, so much money being spent on enrichment class n tuition. Either we are able to teach if not also have to keep up that spending.. No choice.. Singapore is so competitive now.

[milfmilf]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Spend money on holidays once awhile is ok but not every holiday is go vietnam. That is not holiday. I had been planning alot of holiday trips like going to Thailand, Aust, Legoland, Genting... But execute non. End up only staycation in sentosa once.

I think only goon doo then help wife RELATIVES build house. How many relatives to help?

tomorrow will be 5th time to wetnam ... and will try to take a break from wetnam after this hanoi. Will go back again after going other country/region

VB always said no buy apartment, best build landed house in HCM, S$300k ... ha... boi lui ... ... unless tonight $4million+++ is mine ...

[damong777]

Originally Posted by milfmilf

tomorrow will be 5th time to wetnam ... and will try to take a break from wetnam after this hanoi. Will go back again after going other country/region

VB always said no buy apartment, best build landed house in HCM, S$300k ... ha... boi lui ... ... unless tonight $4million+++ is mine ...

Have fun...come to think about it. It would be 10th time to vn in 14months.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by milfmilf

VB always said no buy apartment, best build landed house in HCM, S$300k ... ha... boi lui ... ... unless tonight $4million+++ is mine ...

last nite TOTO chua chu kang strike...so you stay there and did you strike...???

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

last nite TOTO chua chu kang strike...so you stay there and did you strike...???

Cck again ha?... Must go there buy liao