Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[jackbl]

Hi, I am negoitating with some students/adult who can teach vietnamese to us here in sgp. I will post the info in the "Tieng Viet Lovers Club" thread. Do check out there for updates

Originally Posted by slaughter

so, erm, sorry if i keep repeating but there's no one who knows of anywhere that offers viet lessons in sg?

once again, i really thank all bros for the 'advice' (lol) and i hope someday i can contribute my experience too. this is really a great thread and forum that teaches many of us valuable lessons.

[technofreak]

Originally Posted by slaughter

so, erm, sorry if i keep repeating but there's no one who knows of anywhere that offers viet lessons in sg?

I recently completed Basic Vietnamese in Spring Language School@Bishan.

Anyone interested in going for INTERMEDIATE classes?? ^_^

Originally Posted by SingViet

after 326 pages of discussion about vietnamese life partner, let's take a short 5 mins break. For my fellow bros, something from china.

Nice break...Me love PRC meimeis too...

Originally Posted by jackbl

Hi, I am negoitating with some students/adult who can teach vietnamese to us here in sgp. I will post the info in the "Tieng Viet Lovers Club" thread. Do check out there for updates.

If u engage students/adults to teach, then SEXTIFICATES won't be issued ley...No point for me...

[jackbl]

Why do u need the SEXTIFICATES, can explain to me? How useful is it?

Originally Posted by technofreak

If u engage students/adults to teach, then SEXTIFICATES won't be issued ley...No point for me...

[slaughter]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Hi, I am negoitating with some students/adult who can teach vietnamese to us here in sgp. I will post the info in the "Tieng Viet Lovers Club" thread. Do check out there for updates

ok thanks bro jackbl. i need some classes that is flexible due to my working schedule. hopefully can find.

[QUOTE=technofreak;3390806]I recently completed Basic Vietnamese in Spring Language School@Bishan.

Anyone interested in going for INTERMEDIATE classes?? ^_^


hi bro technofreak, just checked out the website of the school. looks good. thanks for the info.

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by slaughter

bro how to get those contacts who are willing to do this? and how much will it cost? any lobang?

Honestly bro, if you have so much doubt to the extend of getting someone to spy on her, why dun you let go and move on?
Even if you have found nothing this time, what about next time when she marries you, be in SG and while you are at work? Will you be suspicious of other new things as well?

Hope I didn't offend you.

[slaughter]

Originally Posted by casannova03

Hmm, bro you really wanna do this? My own personal opinion is that its not very good....

From my understanding of your postings so far I hve a limited opinion but i feel you should use this as a last resort or if you sense or have found out something fishy about her..

First, has she done anything or said anything that cause you suspicion? If yes, then its definitely worth a check on her.

My opinion is that since you've mentioned that she is not a Wl, it puts her on a better platform with which to start a relationship. Nevertheless, like what other bros have mentioned earlier, you need to get to know her better. My advice is to get to know her better via your own efforts and not thru a third party.

I dunno really how to put it but i feel that once you have get to know someone for a period of time, you tend to be able to tell if she is lying or being evasive about things, when you talk. You dun really have to get a PI.

If she really did hide something from you and its found out, then that really justifies your decision and you dun really care if she knows about it (you getting someone to spy on her).

However, if it turns out that she is innocent and she has not done anything behind your back, AND SHE FINDS OUT ABOUT IT!!! Then i would think that she will end the relationship with you without so much as giving you a chance to explain...Vietnamese gals' pride are quite high! so if you have managed to damage it, i dun see how you will be able to repair it, without a mammoth effort.

So it will be prudent to ask yourself if the situation between you and her now, at this point in time, really justifies the engaging of a PI. If smell something fishy and you'll getting married soon, then by all means, go ahead.

But if its just your own insecurity at work, due to the fact that both of you are apart for a long time, and you dun feel comfortable and she haven done or said anything to cause suspicion, and you'll in no rush to get married, then i think its better to know her better PERSONALLY.

Hope my thoughts helps and sorry if it doesn't!

Originally Posted by ekemono

Honestly bro, if you have so much doubt to the extend of getting someone to spy on her, why dun you let go and move on?
Even if you have found nothing this time, what about next time when she marries you, be in SG and while you are at work? Will you be suspicious of other new things as well?

Hope I didn't offend you.

hi bros, thanks for the comments. definitely no offense felt. no worries. well, i wouldn't have thought of it until the sms i saw in her phone earlier on which i got help by bros here to help me translate. so that's the thing that made me think of hiring pi. well, honestly the explanation she gave me was (if you read the message bros translated for me) that guy who sms her is her good friend's boyfriend. her girlfriend's phone was lost and so she lent her the phone to communicate with the boyfriend.

from what i saw, the number that smsed her wasn't even saved in the phone book. but seeing such a msg really worries me. wouldn't you all feel the same? well.. probably hiring pi is a little to extreme. i just wanted to find out how is it possible and roughly how to get it done if there's a need to. for now, like i mentioned earlier, i'm going along with trusting her.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by slaughter

well, honestly the explanation she gave me was (if you read the message bros translated for me) that guy who sms her is her good friend's boyfriend. her girlfriend's phone was lost and so she lent her the phone to communicate with the boyfriend.

from what i saw, the number that smsed her wasn't even saved in the phone book. but seeing such a msg really worries me. wouldn't you all feel the same? well.. probably hiring pi is a little to extreme. i just wanted to find out how is it possible and roughly how to get it done if there's a need to. for now, like i mentioned earlier, i'm going along with trusting her.

I won't want pour cold water on this issue. Such excuses are much too common. i have heard too many of such excuses and explanation. I am quite skeptical about yr gal's explanation. But nevertheless, she's yr gal and you choose what's yr take.

[slaughter]

Originally Posted by SingViet

I won't want pour cold water on this issue. Such excuses are much too common. i have heard too many of such excuses and explanation. I am quite skeptical about yr gal's explanation. But nevertheless, she's yr gal and you choose what's yr take.

yes i understand what you're talking about bro. in your opinion, i should get a pi to follow her?

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by slaughter

yes i understand what you're talking about bro. in your opinion, i should get a pi to follow her?

Firstly, u are not local. Its not easy for you to get a PI there. Secondaly, if you found out that she has been cheating, how will you feel?

[slaughter]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Firstly, u are not local. Its not easy for you to get a PI there. Secondaly, if you found out that she has been cheating, how will you feel?

erm. that's why need your help and advice ma. if she's really cheating on me, of course will be heartbroken.. but if let me choose early know or later know i rather choose early know. i don like to run away from reality.

[FL Lover]

Originally Posted by slaughter

erm. that's why need your help and advice ma. if she's really cheating on me, of course will be heartbroken.. but if let me choose early know or later know i rather choose early know. i don like to run away from reality.

Bro, been through wht you have gone through. Even if the phone number is not saved in the hp, it does not means nothing had happened at all. You see sometimes it is not advisable to save hp numbers in yor hp esp those that u do not want yor OC or steads to see. As long as you can remb the hp numbers, really no issues at all.

As for the smses, can be deleted easily once you have read it.

Now is the time to ask yourself. How well do you really know yor girl?

It is better to get things clear up at least before you commited to her. Once married, there are more problems to handle if you discovered her to be unfaithful to you.

[slaughter]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

Bro, been through wht you have gone through. Even if the phone number is not saved in the hp, it does not means nothing had happened at all. You see sometimes it is not advisable to save hp numbers in yor hp esp those that u do not want yor OC or steads to see. As long as you can remb the hp numbers, really no issues at all.

As for the smses, can be deleted easily once you have read it.

Now is the time to ask yourself. How well do you really know yor girl?

It is better to get things clear up at least before you commited to her. Once married, there are more problems to handle if you discovered her to be unfaithful to you.

Yea man bro. I had that thought which you brought up as well. But from what i know from my girl, i think it's unfair to judge her so fast though. I guess i have to observe more in order to come with a conclusion. Thanks for bringing up your thoughts though.

[Honey Boon]

bro, from my own observations, almost all viet girls will lie, from the start. Reasons: to "con" you, to "win" your heart first. So don't believe those love sms like I miss you, I love you. I always tell the girl, before 10 years, don't talk about love. Along the way, if you are lucky, they will cut down the lies if they start to trust you. So is a long process, daily changes. Sometimes, after "long" period, they will still lie, claiming that they do it because for your own good, don't want you to worry and sad.... any excuse la for the so called "white lies".

I am not so sure about other parts of the world, but I do travel to SEA countries from the past 20 years due to work committments. I would say the viet girls, champion in telling grandfather stories. The root of the problem: the viet men. The viet girls are always the victims in thier own country when comes to relationship or love. So the girls learn to protect themselves by telling lies. So is in born ....

I might be too bias, not all viet girls are like dat. But majority .. I hope i am not offending some brothers here who have viet partners. Just my own two dongs.

Originally Posted by slaughter

erm. that's why need your help and advice ma. if she's really cheating on me, of course will be heartbroken.. but if let me choose early know or later know i rather choose early know. i don like to run away from reality.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

bro, from my own observations, almost all viet girls will lie, from the start. Reasons: to "con" you, to "win" your heart first. So don't believe those love sms like I miss you, I love you. I always tell the girl, before 10 years, don't talk about love. Along the way, if you are lucky, they will cut down the lies if they start to trust you. So is a long process, daily changes. Sometimes, after "long" period, they will still lie, claiming that they do it because for your own good, don't want you to worry and sad.... any excuse la for the so called "white lies".

I am not so sure about other parts of the world, but I do travel to SEA countries from the past 20 years due to work committments. I would say the viet girls, champion in telling grandfather stories. The root of the problem: the viet men. The viet girls are always the victims in thier own country when comes to relationship or love. So the girls learn to protect themselves by telling lies. So is in born ....

I might be too bias, not all viet girls are like dat. But majority .. I hope i am not offending some brothers here who have viet partners. Just my own two dongs.

hahaha...telling lies is their way of life in Vn...

[Honey Boon]

as common as their pho bo or com tam

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

hahaha...telling lies is their way of life in Vn...