Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[devilcheong]

I started to have likings for VB ever since my 1st visit to HCM then Hanoi and Ngah Trang.. I also dunno why but its so natural n sudden.. getting near to them always making me wanted and eager to know more about them.. its really so easy to develop feelings with these VB..
Before dat I thought is so silly why so many foolish and stupid men falls to all these VB 's tricks and now I'm starting to understand why...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by devilcheong

I started to have likings for VB ever since my 1st visit to HCM then Hanoi and Ngah Trang.. I also dunno why but its so natural n sudden.. getting near to them always making me wanted and eager to know more about them.. its really so easy to develop feelings with these VB..
Before dat I thought is so silly why so many foolish and stupid men falls to all these VB 's tricks and now I'm starting to understand why...

Yes, VBs are nice but if you think with your small head, every other gal around the globe looks nice. As a married man, you got to know what you can and cannot do. I know one Singaporean married man, went to cheong and know a VB. Made the VB pregnant . Give VB money to build house etc. Now the VB has given birth and wants him to divorce his Singaporean wife to be with her. He knows he will be nothing if he divorce his wife as his wife earns more than him. The car and condo he has now , are all joint with his wife. He also has 2 kids.

3 things:

1. The VB looks below average, although got fake boobs
2. How can he be sure the child is his? Lam tinh is like eating rice for the viets, high chance the child is not his
3. Divorce his wife to be with the VB? He will have nothing left. Super big sacrifice.

Marriage is not just sex sex and more sex. You are tired of your wife now because you have married her for a long time and she seems boring now. The same thing will happen if you marry this VB. After sometime, you will get bored of her too. From what you say, i can only say you use your small head to think.

[pting]

Hi sory for posting this personal view, maybe not entire true for most ppl but true story. I have friend who was deprived of sex becoz his wife put many time at work and do not like to make love so much.

when my friend meet a viet girl (non-WL), she being very nice like peel prawn shell for him to feed him eat. Best of all the night they slept together, she gave him the best sex he wanted so much. He take it as Viet girl love him and willing to please man so much which singapore girls not willing.

I guess sometimes it could be reason why singapore man like viet girls so much. They do what sg girls not willing.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by pting

Hi sory for posting this personal view, maybe not entire true for most ppl but true story. I have friend who was deprived of sex becoz his wife put many time at work and do not like to make love so much.

when my friend meet a viet girl (non-WL), she being very nice like peel prawn shell for him to feed him eat. Best of all the night they slept together, she gave him the best sex he wanted so much. He take it as Viet girl love him and willing to please man so much which singapore girls not willing.

I guess sometimes it could be reason why singapore man like viet girls so much. They do what sg girls not willing.

There's always some trade off for everything. Viet gals do things that Singapore gals don't do and is willing to give lots of sex, but they are also wanting lots of money for their family and is not able to contribute to family income. Singapore gals, on the other hand, is always tied up with work, but they can earn money and contribute to the well being of the family. Their family also do not have much demands.

That's the reason why Sg man who married Viet gals are generally much poorer than the average Singaporean couple. A normal Singaporean couple with degree stays in condo and drives while a Singaporean man (with degree) with a viet wife is either renting house , staying in 3 or 4 room flat or just staying with parents. Not to mention those without degrees. Double income without much commitments is always very much better than single income with lots of commitments.

I have personally gone thru this and i can relate well. I am with postgraduate degree but my viet spouse is lowly educated. But the circumstances i was in was very much different from the rest. i started off in HCMC and was there during the time when property and stock markets were booming. Although my wife's family wants money from me, but they do not want so much and i am really stingy towards them. After i came back to Singapore, Singapore's property market was booming too. So i am lucky to have gone thru these bull runs. If not, i will be just as bad as the rest. My wife has also realised that she must place her kids interest before her family and she acknowledges her family is pure lazy.

So its up to the Singaporean man. If you choose sex with lots of commitments, then good luck to you. You never try you never know how life is with just single income and lots of commitments.

[devilcheong]

Originally Posted by SingViet

There's always some trade off for everything. Viet gals do things that Singapore gals don't do and is willing to give lots of sex, but they are also wanting lots of money for their family and is not able to contribute to family income. Singapore gals, on the other hand, is always tied up with work, but they can earn money and contribute to the well being of the family. Their family also do not have much demands.

That's the reason why Sg man who married Viet gals are generally much poorer than the average Singaporean couple. A normal Singaporean couple with degree stays in condo and drives while a Singaporean man (with degree) with a viet wife is either renting house , staying in 3 or 4 room flat or just staying with parents. Not to mention those without degrees. Double income without much commitments is always very much better than single income with lots of commitments.

I have personally gone thru this and i can relate well. I am with postgraduate degree but my viet spouse is lowly educated. But the circumstances i was in was very much different from the rest. i started off in HCMC and was there during the time when property and stock markets were booming. Although my wife's family wants money from me, but they do not want so much and i am really stingy towards them. After i came back to Singapore, Singapore's property market was booming too. So i am lucky to have gone thru these bull runs. If not, i will be just as bad as the rest. My wife has also realised that she must place her kids interest before her family and she acknowledges her family is pure lazy.

So its up to the Singaporean man. If you choose sex with lots of commitments, then good luck to you. You never try you never know how life is with just single income and lots of commitments.

I agree with bro Singviet coz my cousin also same... marry a vb and now got a Happy family with 2 child but life is poorer for them but yet the vb help him to sell food at his stall and do online selling clothes in Facebook for extra income

[devilcheong]

I don't intend to divorce with my wife and it never cross my mind for this..
Juz happened to have feelings and liking of VB doesn't mean I have to marry her...
Although I did thought of getting a second wife but I know no girl would want to be second and later would end up alot of arguments and fighting with terrible results..
I'm here juz wanted to know n learn more from sifu here abt VB and get some guides on solving some of my problems I faced.. really thanks for so many assistance given by so many helpful bros here..
Dealing with all these VB is indeed very tiring and challenging thou..

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by devilcheong

I agree with bro Singviet coz my cousin also same... marry a vb and now got a Happy family with 2 child but life is poorer for them but yet the vb help him to sell food at his stall and do online selling clothes in Facebook for extra income

Whether they are happy or not, you won't know. Happiness in family is not seen by others. As for selling clothing in facebook, too many VBs are doing it. Selling perfume, selling clothes etc. Only put for show, how much can they earn from it? Not even enough for their family to buy alcohol in the province.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Whether they are happy or not, you won't know. Happiness in family is not seen by others. As for selling clothing in facebook, too many VBs are doing it. Selling perfume, selling clothes etc. Only put for show, how much can they earn from it? Not even enough for their family to buy alcohol in the province.

Go fb online... Sooooo many vb selling clothes. My bx niece also try selling. Now still got stock left. Losing money.

My bx saw many selling vn food, she did buy from them and also thought of selling. I stop the idea.

Last 2 mths, my bx sell perfume.. was making $$1k+ within 2 weeks because many sister support... Then slowly order become lesser... 2 mths make $2.5k overall. Now once awhile some sister will ask.

Now she really thinking what to do to earn money to prepare for TET and bro's wedding
Her income from selling airtix not much..

[curious76]

May I know what is the difference between hanoi girl and HCM girl??

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by curious76

May I know what is the difference between hanoi girl and HCM girl??

1 from North and another South. What others u want to know? Be specific, in term of sex, culture, characters, looks, thinking????

[milfmilf]

if single income but only need to handle vb needs alone maybe less poor..
but vb without family in vn "to help out" seems unlikely

[curious76]

Originally Posted by naemlo

1 from North and another South. What others u want to know? Be specific, in term of sex, culture, characters, looks, thinking????

Sex, Culture, characters and thinking..

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Go fb online... Sooooo many vb selling clothes. My bx niece also try selling. Now still got stock left. Losing money.

My bx saw many selling vn food, she did buy from them and also thought of selling. I stop the idea.

Last 2 mths, my bx sell perfume.. was making $$1k+ within 2 weeks because many sister support... Then slowly order become lesser... 2 mths make $2.5k overall. Now once awhile some sister will ask.

Now she really thinking what to do to earn money to prepare for TET and bro's wedding
Her income from selling airtix not much..

My bx has done a lot of other business with me for the past 10 years. From cafe to many others, but none turned out well. The amount of money i lost is 6 digits. After so much failure, i decided to stick back to my main business and my other investments. My bx has good intentions, but these other business just didn't turn out well. Your bx is one of the few good ones, treasure her.

[curious76]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Usually i give 3mil vnd for companionship thru the days and nights.
A regular old bird told me that in HN, the vb expect 4mil vnd for 1D1N companion

wow.. In hanoi so expensive??

Anyone in Hanoi at 23rd oct?? I will be there to meet my BX..

[elth]

Originally Posted by naemlo

1 from North and another South. What others u want to know? Be specific, in term of sex, culture, characters, looks, thinking????

I feel the north have better dress sense...even the guys..i saw none wearing slippers in pub (maybe the pub i went nobody wear ?) only me and my friends wear slipper or they are more educated ? Most speak english better than south (i maybe wrong) overall i feel the north see south no UP


Below is out of topic:
We had a small funny encounter when buying sugarcane drinks by the roadside:

1) my friend gf from south speak hcmc slang buy at 50k dong
2) my other friend speak english buy at 100k dong
3) my wife speak hanoi slang pay 10k only