Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[deptrai4u]

Originally Posted by miua55555

有一种爱叫做放手，为爱放弃天长地久。

Any bro can help translate this to tieng viet?

Hi Bro,

I just read ur last few post... i hv a few points for ur consideration. Please dun take this as a joke, i am not poking at you, just giving u my frank and honest opinions.

#1 Be Realistic, dun judge her
U said that u are unable to support her financially, so she will surely find her better future and bie bie to you, and i think there is perfectly nothing wrong with that! If u put urself in her shoes, would u not do the same??? if u tell me u are that kind of hand-hold-hand and 天长地久 mushy mushy kind and will remain loyal, then i would say u are a stupid fool still living in dream land!

#2 Dating for 3 years
She already wasted 3 years of her time and u still at dating stage... lets take stock, what do u have to offer her and will promise to offer her in the future? Take stock of what a girl wants in her man and look at urself, what u have??? Money obviously is NOT the only thing that matters here, there are still a few other things that are important such as PERSONALITY/CHARM, POTENTIAL to do greater things in future, and SKILLS in bed as well. Assuming u have none of the above, and another guy who is just as poor as you comes along, but is able to tell her jokes and makes her laugh everyday, she will also bie bie u!

#3 She said Japanese Customer, pick her up send her to work.. etc etc...
I tell you.. its all Bullshit.. she is just being nice by not making it to harsh for you, just saying things in a way without hurting u too much, but just for u to get the idea. The fact is that it cannot be a Jap guy... a Jap guy will not do things this way one... its very likely another Singapore guy.. and she is already living with him.

#4 Not yet officially say break-off to her family.
You can forget about that as well! Her family has already met the new Mr Roberto and since he is richer and able to shower everyone with gifts, they are more than happy that u have been replaced.

#5 some bros here suggest u let go and move on
Please look at my point #2 again... if u do not address ur own fundamental short-coming (pun not intended), moving on to another girl would only mean a repeat of what has happened, just a different girl. And its not easy to find another syt who is willing to waste 3 years with u for nothing... at most 3 months and its bie bie!

#6 Forget about translating whatever bullshit Chinese Poems into Vietnamese
I have seen this before, many silly Singaporean brudders trying to woo VB with all these silly translations. i tell u the effect is really like stroking the fur of the car in the reverse direction. These VB simply do not understand what u trying to say and usually take it the wrong way even or just ignore it totally. We really call this Romancing the cow (if u know what i mean). Imagine some girl send u a message translated from Indian saying "you are my chappati dipped into bah-dam kee and sandwiched between 2 papadums". If u want to say anything to her, say it the Vietnamese way, not any silly translation from some silly chinese phrase that means something to you but nothing to her. One good way is to point to her a popular Vietnamese song that is as popular as the Vietnamese National Anthem and it has all the words that express ur feelings for her, and u tell her that everytime u listen to that song... u think of her and only her. If u unable to do that, then just shut-up. All these stupid translation will achieve nothing and waste money on SMS too!

Just my humble opinions.

[deptrai4u]

[QUOTE=Seletar;7798569]

Originally Posted by miua55555

Yup.... so now taking my time to find a decent girl.



You must be patience with a decent girl, must be persistent, don't easily give up no matter rain or shine...now is a good chance because it is raining everyday in Vietnam. I found my ger during thunderstorm...I'm not joking

Looks like heaven is in favour of you!!!! and soon u will have a Marriage made in Heaven!!! sounds great, doesn't it? just take note that Lightnings and Thunders are also made in the same heaven.

In Vietnam, its easy to meet girls anywhere and anytime... rather they are more longing to meet u as u are a foreigner. I have met many different girls in many different circumstances... just only have not met a syt while I was peeing.

[Greatking]

[QUOTE=Seletar;7798569]

Originally Posted by miua55555

Yup.... so now taking my time to find a decent girl.



You must be patience with a decent girl, must be persistent, don't easily give up no matter rain or shine...now is a good chance because it is raining everyday in Vietnam. I found my ger during thunderstorm...I'm not joking

Time to sell umbrella

[Peacock29]

Originally Posted by vietboy

Bro, lose money yes, but the money u lose is in VND! U think hold in singapore no lose money? somemore the money u lose is SGD! so u do calculations, which is lower.

Troublesome? only they troublesome, u only pay money. But wedding is a once in a lifetime thing who will find it troublesome?

Bro, i understand your concerns for me.
Rest assured i had done my maths, i shouldnt lose any money holding the wedding in Singapore only. Simple Hotel Lunch Buffet + ROM + Wedding Shoot in VN and inviting only relatives and close friends, ex-boss and ex-colleagues (around 50-60pax).

Pardon me for my quick reply, did not have time just now as i am preparing for work. I should elaborate more on troublesome part.

If you read my earlier post, you should see i am a divorcee. With 2 kids somemore, custody is not mine but i need to pay alimony. So for me it is not once is a livetime anymore hahaha. 2nd and last of my lifetime!

I was quite persistent initially on holding the marriage ceremony both in SG and VN, as it is once in a lifetime for my wife-to-be. I want her to enjoy something like all other girls do once in a lifetime!

I was dissuaded my my wife-to-be to hold the wedding in VN.
Reasons being:-
1) Wife-to-be know my financial situation, slightly in debt and have to pay alimony every month for kids of my previous marriage. I was further dissuade by her, she even count to the extent i need to fly my parents over, fly my "brothers" over as i am quite a poor drinker, putting them into hotel blah blah blah etc etc etc.

2) Wife-to-be had also explain her family tree to me. Mother died since 9. Stayed with Mother's Brother since 10 in HCM, only went back to Rach Gia at 19 as she quarrel with Uncle's Wife. Uncle supported her money to open a coffeeshop and motorshop few years later. Father side very poor. Mother side above average but all stay as far as hanoi. So most cannot come. So sure lose money. And she herself find marrying in VN a hassle as she cannot be bothered to entertain most of her father side relatives. I can tell when we went to Long Xuyen together. She had shown/displayed significantly lesser respect to father side relatives compared to mother's sister at Rach Gia.

3) She further elaborate that the hongbao money collected will be kept by his father, which she dont want that to happen. I ask why and she tell me how his father remarry fast after mother die and how is father sold 2 of the 3 house previously owned by her mother. I try to explain the point that no father where got she, and she said thats why now she is renovating her last remaining house for his father. That is the last thing she going to do for her father. She even tell his father to change the title deed to her name after renovating... this one i nothing to say.

4) I tried a last ditch effort saying many Vn girl (my uncle and 1 gaming friend married vb also) marry to Singapore still hold wedding in VN. She shrug it off generalizing saying because they want ang bao money for their family, thats why they want to hold wedding in VN.

Ok lah, if your wife-to-be shoot you until like that, you think troublesome or not. She dont want, kinda good for me also, save money for perhaps our baby next time? Or a good honeymoon?


Questions

1) She had prepared her birth cert, highest education cert, single status paper. Still need what? I understand need to translate to english. Translate in Vietnam or Singapore? Estimated Damage in Vietnam or Singapore?

2) I read from somewhere that we need a translator during ROM. Any bros can PM me with someone reliable and not very expensive? What is the estimated damage?

Thanks in advance.

[Peacock29]

Originally Posted by Peacock29

I checked my iphone

Croc farm along Tran Hung Dao (from map quite near from Long Xuyen Airport)
Dong Que is at the deadend of Tran Quang Khai

@Vietboy, just to share

According to my wife-to-be, she claims the damage at Dong Que is quite high. I not very sure but i share the damage here.

Her Father, 2 Uncle, 1 Auntie, 2 Cousins, 1 Young sister, me and bx was the crowd that eat the dinner

I caught 3 fishes (charged by the weight) off the pond. Ordered 1 additional kampong chicken, 3 plates of shellfishes, some random veges, rice and porridge, 1 dozen beer, some sting ("xi-thing" they pronounced it) drink and some soft drinks around 900,000 dongs.

[SingViet]

For bros who do business in VN, you should have realised that VN is one of the few countries in the world without postal codes. Some years ago, China was without postal code too, but they gradually changed and postal codes were introduced throughout the country.

Come to my `situ bi' Dalat University staff again. She suggested to my wifey that its too expensive to use DHL to send documents from SGN to SIN, so she recommended us to use VN Postal. I gave her my SIN address with the postal code and everything. After 20 days, the documents didn't arrived and i was wondering what went wrong.. efforts to trace the documents were fruitless. finally by the 25th day, the document arrived. On the document, she wrote the Singapore postal code as my Telephone number. Troi oi, how situ bi can she get. I asked her why the staff at the postal services also don't know? She said the staff just followed whatever she wrote. (btw, if use DHL, it only takes 24 hours)

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Peacock29

@Vietboy, just to share

According to my wife-to-be, she claims the damage at Dong Que is quite high. I not very sure but i share the damage here.

Her Father, 2 Uncle, 1 Auntie, 2 Cousins, 1 Young sister, me and bx was the crowd that eat the dinner

I caught 3 fishes (charged by the weight) off the pond. Ordered 1 additional kampong chicken, 3 plates of shellfishes, some random veges, rice and porridge, 1 dozen beer, some sting ("xi-thing" they pronounced it) drink and some soft drinks around 900,000 dongs.

Actually, 900k VND for so many dishes is not expensive. Chicken alone cost over 100K a kg if you buy from the market. Plus the beer, soft drinks , fishes etc etc, cheap roi .

[skyfree]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

Hi Bro,

I just read ur last few post... i hv a few points for ur consideration. Please dun take this as a joke, i am not poking at you, just giving u my frank and honest opinions.

#1 Be Realistic, dun judge her
U said that u are unable to support her financially, so she will surely find her better future and bie bie to you, and i think there is perfectly nothing wrong with that! If u put urself in her shoes, would u not do the same??? if u tell me u are that kind of hand-hold-hand and 天长地久 mushy mushy kind and will remain loyal, then i would say u are a stupid fool still living in dream land!

#2 Dating for 3 years
She already wasted 3 years of her time and u still at dating stage... lets take stock, what do u have to offer her and will promise to offer her in the future? Take stock of what a girl wants in her man and look at urself, what u have??? Money obviously is NOT the only thing that matters here, there are still a few other things that are important such as PERSONALITY/CHARM, POTENTIAL to do greater things in future, and SKILLS in bed as well. Assuming u have none of the above, and another guy who is just as poor as you comes along, but is able to tell her jokes and makes her laugh everyday, she will also bie bie u!

#3 She said Japanese Customer, pick her up send her to work.. etc etc...
I tell you.. its all Bullshit.. she is just being nice by not making it to harsh for you, just saying things in a way without hurting u too much, but just for u to get the idea. The fact is that it cannot be a Jap guy... a Jap guy will not do things this way one... its very likely another Singapore guy.. and she is already living with him.

#4 Not yet officially say break-off to her family.
You can forget about that as well! Her family has already met the new Mr Roberto and since he is richer and able to shower everyone with gifts, they are more than happy that u have been replaced.

#5 some bros here suggest u let go and move on
Please look at my point #2 again... if u do not address ur own fundamental short-coming (pun not intended), moving on to another girl would only mean a repeat of what has happened, just a different girl. And its not easy to find another syt who is willing to waste 3 years with u for nothing... at most 3 months and its bie bie!

#6 Forget about translating whatever bullshit Chinese Poems into Vietnamese
I have seen this before, many silly Singaporean brudders trying to woo VB with all these silly translations. i tell u the effect is really like stroking the fur of the car in the reverse direction. These VB simply do not understand what u trying to say and usually take it the wrong way even or just ignore it totally. We really call this Romancing the cow (if u know what i mean). Imagine some girl send u a message translated from Indian saying "you are my chappati dipped into bah-dam kee and sandwiched between 2 papadums". If u want to say anything to her, say it the Vietnamese way, not any silly translation from some silly chinese phrase that means something to you but nothing to her. One good way is to point to her a popular Vietnamese song that is as popular as the Vietnamese National Anthem and it has all the words that express ur feelings for her, and u tell her that everytime u listen to that song... u think of her and only her. If u unable to do that, then just shut-up. All these stupid translation will achieve nothing and waste money on SMS too!

Just my humble opinions.

Gd morning bro deptrai4u,

Reading thru your post, really make know much more things especially the part where not only money is the main thing, is the personality charm, potential to do better things in future and skills in bed...my skills in bed sucks...rest Lagi worse...haha

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by Seletar

What tai kor said got logic.. aiya no need 3 months la, 3 days enough liao lor, hihi..

Are u sure bo? Your previous gf u know a while meh???

[Genomes]

Originally Posted by skyfree

Gd morning bro deptrai4u,

Reading thru your post, really make know much more things especially the part where not only money is the main thing, is the personality charm, potential to do better things in future and skills in bed...my skills in bed sucks...rest Lagi worse...haha

how you know ur my skills in bed sucks??

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Peacock29

Questions

1) She had prepared her birth cert, highest education cert, single status paper. Still need what? I understand need to translate to english. Translate in Vietnam or Singapore? Estimated Damage in Vietnam or Singapore?

2) I read from somewhere that we need a translator during ROM. Any bros can PM me with someone reliable and not very expensive? What is the estimated damage?

Every bx is special to oneself. Congrats.

1) All above document not required... unless apply PR? I had my bx translate everything in vn even the household paper and ID. Don't cost much. I still have no chance to use it

2) I get the translator contact from (arrow ----> shysiant) but I lost it. $100 for interview, $150 for ROM. which she say she discounted me $50

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

#2
Money obviously is NOT the only thing that matters here, there are still a few other things that are important such as PERSONALITY/CHARM, POTENTIAL to do greater things in future, and SKILLS in bed as well.

#6
One good way is to point to her a popular Vietnamese song that is as popular as the Vietnamese National Anthem and it has all the words that express ur feelings for her, and u tell her that everytime u listen to that song... u think of her and only her.

no wonder you are able to charm so many vb

[Seletar]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Are u sure bo? Your previous gf u know a while meh???

Previous one is exceptional case.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Seletar

What tai kor said got logic.. aiya no need 3 months la, 3 days enough liao lor, hihi..

wow...you lagi fierce...well done...at least you see my point...

[miua55555]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

Hi Bro,

I just read ur last few post... i hv a few points for ur consideration. Please dun take this as a joke, i am not poking at you, just giving u my frank and honest opinions.

Just my humble opinions.

Good morning bro. I won't be offended... everyone is entitled to their own views. But anyway, here's my thoughts too.

#1 Be Realistic, dun judge her
U said that u are unable to support her financially, so she will surely find her better future and bie bie to you, and i think there is perfectly nothing wrong with that! If u put urself in her shoes, would u not do the same??? if u tell me u are that kind of hand-hold-hand and 天长地久 mushy mushy kind and will remain loyal, then i would say u are a stupid fool still living in dream land!
I didn't want to support her bcos I hope she can be independent. So in case I 'up lorry', she can keep herself fed. That's why I paid for her to take up courses to gain employment and self suffice. This is also 1 reason why I didn't go to those village to look for spouse instead.

#2 Dating for 3 years
She already wasted 3 years of her time and u still at dating stage... lets take stock, what do u have to offer her and will promise to offer her in the future? Take stock of what a girl wants in her man and look at urself, what u have??? Money obviously is NOT the only thing that matters here, there are still a few other things that are important such as PERSONALITY/CHARM, POTENTIAL to do greater things in future, and SKILLS in bed as well. Assuming u have none of the above, and another guy who is just as poor as you comes along, but is able to tell her jokes and makes her laugh everyday, she will also bie bie u!
I'm getting my full accounting certification, how not promising is that? Humor, charm, personality and skills are definitely present, if not, how can I even get to date her 3 yrs ago, when there's even more competitors... But perhaps now as compared to those rich heir, I am just a loser.

#3 She said Japanese Customer, pick her up send her to work.. etc etc...
I tell you.. its all Bullshit.. she is just being nice by not making it to harsh for you, just saying things in a way without hurting u too much, but just for u to get the idea. The fact is that it cannot be a Jap guy... a Jap guy will not do things this way one... its very likely another Singapore guy.. and she is already living with him.
This I'm not sure... cos I've met her friend who married a jap guy working for Mitsubishi car company in Hanoi, and perhaps this let her thinks that jap guy is more capable of taking care of her family. I'm a more liberal and less MCP guy. And everytime I called her, she's in her house with her own family. But she said she will have lunch with the jap guy before he send her to work in disco.

#4 Not yet officially say break-off to her family.
You can forget about that as well! Her family has already met the new Mr Roberto and since he is richer and able to shower everyone with gifts, they are more than happy that u have been replaced.
This is just from my side, as a Chinese formality, I think I should at least had a last meal and bid them farewell. Just thinking only...

#5 some bros here suggest u let go and move on
Please look at my point #2 again... if u do not address ur own fundamental short-coming (pun not intended), moving on to another girl would only mean a repeat of what has happened, just a different girl. And its not easy to find another syt who is willing to waste 3 years with u for nothing... at most 3 months and its bie bie!
Thanks, this is sound advice, and I will take good note of it... and it definitely struck me thinking hard over.

#6 Forget about translating whatever bullshit Chinese Poems into Vietnamese
I have seen this before, many silly Singaporean brudders trying to woo VB with all these silly translations. i tell u the effect is really like stroking the fur of the car in the reverse direction. These VB simply do not understand what u trying to say and usually take it the wrong way even or just ignore it totally. We really call this Romancing the cow (if u know what i mean). Imagine some girl send u a message translated from Indian saying "you are my chappati dipped into bah-dam kee and sandwiched between 2 papadums". If u want to say anything to her, say it the Vietnamese way, not any silly translation from some silly chinese phrase that means something to you but nothing to her. One good way is to point to her a popular Vietnamese song that is as popular as the Vietnamese National Anthem and it has all the words that express ur feelings for her, and u tell her that everytime u listen to that song... u think of her and only her. If u unable to do that, then just shut-up. All these stupid translation will achieve nothing and waste money on SMS too!
This is also from my side. I wanna upload on Facebook status cos I find it romantic, nothing more. And we communicate using whatsapp, so it's free of charge btw.