Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Sha_Gua75]

[QUOTE=chanyboy;1921138]
a) family mbrs (father, mother, grandfather, grandmother, bro, sis)
b) offspring of family mbrs
c) in-law (even bro inlaw gets better treatment) mbrs
d) good friends of the person
e) close frens of family mbrs acquainted with
f) then the so called "ongxa"
[QUOTE]

I think it is only true to certain extend...depending on which girl u loving in...

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by chanyboy

I'm beginning to experience the priority sense oredi... u may be 'ongxa' here or 'ongxa' there.. but ultimately what comes first in priority is:

a) family mbrs (father, mother, grandfather, grandmother, bro, sis)
b) offspring of family mbrs
c) in-law (even bro inlaw gets better treatment) mbrs
d) good friends of the person
e) close frens of family mbrs acquainted with
f) then the so called "ongxa"

Not very true... agree to some only.

I feel that i am rank high in my viet g/f list of important people.
1) mother
2) father
3) silblings
4) ME
5)....who cares

Put in mind that i my not yet officially her ong xa. I believe that if i my her life partner, i will overtake her siblings. Putting father and mother as number 1 is not wrong... afterall its them who bring her to this world.

Originally Posted by chanyboy

The family tenets in the Sg Planning Agency is, in terms of priority:
a) your partner
b) your kids
c) your family mbrs

My own planning agency...
1) Myself
2) Myself
3) Myself
4) g/f or wife
5) father and mother

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75

I think it is only true to certain extend...depending on which girl u loving in...

Bro Sha Gua's case is very much different from the rest. A rich vietnamese gal is very much similiar to a singaporean gal. They are educated and need not worry much about money. They love shopping etc. I had my own fair share of being with rich vietnamese gal. I remembered my former rich vietnamese gf, no motorbikes for her, she goes around in new car with a driver cum armed bodyguard. No eating in local joints, if want to eat, all in high class joints etc. These gals will place their bf high on priority. Don't forget hor, rich gals very often end up with normal guys

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Not very true... agree to some only.
I feel that i am rank high in my viet g/f list of important people.

bro, i feel its still too early for you to come to this conclusion yet.

[Torres_Mok]

if ur viet gf/spouse neglect u, just go out and look for other viet gals in jc area, to make them wori about ur fling outside.

[bonkers69]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro Sha Gua's case is very much different from the rest. A rich vietnamese gal is very much similiar to a singaporean gal. They are educated and need not worry much about money. They love shopping etc. I had my own fair share of being with rich vietnamese gal. I remembered my former rich vietnamese gf, no motorbikes for her, she goes around in new car with a driver cum armed bodyguard. No eating in local joints, if want to eat, all in high class joints etc. These gals will place their bf high on priority. Don't forget hor, rich gals very often end up with normal guys

i think i'm just a normal guy

[Sha_Gua75]

Just come back from Vn today...Been staying with my gf at her house with her family..which consist of her mum, dad, younger brother, her aunt(who flew from Danang to meet me), her cousin, cousin's bf and another older cousin. Supposed to go from 19th to 21st but was persuaded by her aunt and my gf to stay longer till today...so have to change the tickets for both of us..

I never meet such a good family who treat me really very well...whenever they invite me to go with them, they always refuse to let me pay..normally her aunt will stay behind to take care of the house and even instruct my gf's mum that dont allow me to pay, if my gf's mum dont pay then she will pay..and my gf's mum replied her that she know this..I tried to pay at the 1st meal outside but my gf tell me dont need...subsquence meal outside its always the same...till I tell my gf to tell her mum that I need to at least treat them once...and her mum said dont need...have the thought is enough...

So I left with no choice but to bring her aunt's daughter and her bf to go out eat and followed by cafe at MTV star...little then I know....her aunt pass my gf money and instructed her to pay for all the bill...I came to know of it...and refuse to use the money and in the end it end up in my gf's pocket...

Dont really spend much in vn except on taxi which I pay for every taxi we took no matter who is inside...normally it is only the younger generation took the taxi...her dad and her mum will take their own motorbike....

Never have a chance to meet up with any friends...even meeting up with SingViet in vn is only for less than 10 mins...

Today I left her house and her family..feeling quite heavy at heart...and I guess my gf feel the same too athough she dont really like to stayin VN forever but no matter what her family and her hometown is there...

I never been to a family which treat me till so good...when leaving that time..the heart feel no good...but no choice must leave...cant extend the stay anymore..and when I reach Singapore....my gf pass me some money again...saying it is from her aunt...say lucky money....and told me that it is enough to cover for changing the ticket's extension....told me that she cant pass me when I am in VN becos she know that I will not take it...as initially when she asked us to stay longer and offer to pay, I refused...

On knowing that...my heart seem to be in VN...at her house...but body in Singapore

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75

On knowing that...my heart seem to be in VN...at her house...but body in Singapore

Welcome back. Glad to know that her family treated you very well and paid for you from starting to end. (i don't want to repeat this again, but i simply feel it just wasn't right. But i respect Sha Gua's way of doing things) treat her better in return . Not easy to find such a supporting in-laws from vietnam. But no matter what, as a good friend, i hope that you can pay for your future house on your own. Like i told you before, if i don't treat you like a good friend, i won't want to keep reminding you.

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by SingViet

I hope that you can pay for your future house on your own.

I am not business man I have CPF

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75

I am not business man I have CPF

What makes u think businessman have no CPF?

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75

I am not business man I have CPF

Originally Posted by SingViet

What makes u think businessman have no CPF?

Businessman also have CPF lah... At least i know businessman need to top up medisave account....

than the govt can use the money heehee

[KangTuo]

Today is rather sad to know that my g/f elder sister is angry with her...

She told me this.... Her elder sister friend stay with her in HCM rented house. This elder sis friend never work yesterday and went gamble. My g/f know already, tell her to stop gambling habit as she got a baby to feed. But this started an arguement. Today the sis friend went back Mekong and tell her sis that my g/f chase her out of the house. So my g/f sis call her to scold her.

Now my g/f say nobody in the family understand her.. she is very sad. Only can speak to me and pour out her sorrow.

And also about incident where her younger sis sell away the motor to buy drugs and go disco.... nobody knows as she dun want to tell. Everyone in the family still think is my g/f sell motor..

I think she is very sensible and too good to her family... everyone seems bully her.. aiya...hhhhmm

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Today is rather sad to know that my g/f elder sister is angry with her...
She told me this.... Her elder sister friend stay with her in HCM rented house. This elder sis friend never work yesterday and went gamble. My g/f know already, tell her to stop gambling habit as she got a baby to feed. But this started an arguement. Today the sis friend went back Mekong and tell her sis that my g/f chase her out of the house. So my g/f sis call her to scold her.
Now my g/f say nobody in the family understand her.. she is very sad. Only can speak to me and pour out her sorrow.And also about incident where her younger sis sell away the motor to buy drugs and go disco.... nobody knows as she dun want to tell. Everyone in the family still think is my g/f sell motor..
I think she is very sensible and too good to her family... everyone seems bully her.. aiya...hhhhmm

This is not uncommon among the vietnamese family. Their family do have lots of problems. My in laws also damm problematic, but i am glad my wife has learnt to handle them, even to the extend of ignoring their so-called problem. My wife told me before that she used to feed her family for around 8 years. For 8 years, no one in the family worked except her. They depended solely on her income, which is miserable. Now, her siblings are all quite lazy. Even when they work, they show extreme signs of laziness. Oh boy.... how will the normal vietnamese in the provinces ever be self sufficient?

[Torres_Mok]

any bro know where is Long xuyen in vietnam?

[jackbl]

Go to the below url to find out more
http://www.google.com.sg/search?hl=e...ng+xuyen&meta=

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

any bro know where is Long xuyen in vietnam?