Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[maxrex]

SingViet,

I understand from your previous thread that you have a son with your 2nd wife in Vietnam. Since you only did customary marriage with her, how did you register your son for his birth certificate in Vietnamese hospital? I thought that the hospital will require Vietnamese marriage certificate first before proceeding with it.

[maxrex]

For guys here who are hoping to have a good Vietnamese girlfriend, I will advise you guys to take some spare time off and fly to Vietnam. Really, there is no point looking for love from Vietnamese working ladies in Joo Chiat and Geylang. Vietnam's population currently stands at about 86.5 millions. Most match-making agencies in Singapore are real b******. It is much cheaper to explore around Vietnam and befriend some Vietnamese women. I had been to Vietnam (Saigon and Hanoi) many times since 2004. About myself, I am an educated Singapore white-collared man who have a Vietnamese wife from North Vietnam.

I don't think that most North Vietnamese women ever want to marry Western men. My sisters-in law and some friends of mine confirmed with me. Only 10 to 15% North Vietnamese women want that. It is different as compared to South Vietnamese women.

So far, my wife has been very good to me. I know her for about 1 year before we got married. Her family is very big and is not rich at all. And my wife never ask me for money to remit back to her family in Vietnam. Not even once due to my wife's refusal for my financial assistance to her family. She even told me that her family can manage on their own. Some of her siblings are working in Saigon while her 2 siblings are waiting to enter university. It is very rare for us to talk about money. I always give her $20 each day for her to buy grocery and her daily meals. I always handle the financial aspects in the household. She is studying English everyday and we communicate to each other in Vietnamese. As for our daily lives, she always put out the shoes for me to wear when I leave home for work and always wait for me at the door to welcome me home from work. I feel so blessed. I don't think many Singapore wives will do that to their husbands. But my wife can be very jealous sometimes when I occasionally talk to my Vietnamese friends online. I can tell you that a lot of Vietnamese women are very jealous by nature. Know what? The number of divorce cases is fast increasing in big Vietnamese cities now.

[VietnamLover]

Any bro who have Vietnamese girlfriend who is not a working lady at all in Singapore?

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by ekemono

So do gals from Hanoi or Ho Chi Minh City needs to be desperate enough to come SG, Macau or HK to work? I dun know and did not want to ask. Perhaps some bros who are well travelled and verse in Vietnam enviroment can enlighten me.

Bro, if they have a choice, no gal will want to leave their home to work overseas....same for all nationalities....their wages in Vn is too low and their culture forces Vn gal to work to bring money back to family if they are poor....if you have read the previous posts, you will understand Vn men can sit around and do nothing....so if you want to marry Vn gal then be prepared for such culture....

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Bro, if they have a choice, no gal will want to leave their home to work overseas....same for all nationalities....their wages in Vn is too low and their culture forces Vn gal to work to bring money back to family if they are poor....if you have read the previous posts, you will understand Vn men can sit around and do nothing....so if you want to marry Vn gal then be prepared for such culture....

These gers, the minority r not force to work as FL. They have choices, but they just want to earn big money in the shortest time. There r millions of young attractive poor gers in Vietnam. Yet they still work decently to support the family.

These FL once they able to work 1 mth which the amt equal to decent viet gers working 6 or 12 mths, they started to grow greedy and lazy. They rather work 1 mth and rest few mths. No money continue with their old trade.

[birdie8819]

Originally Posted by naemlo

These FL once they able to work 1 mth which the amt equal to decent viet gers working 6 or 12 mths, they started to grow greedy and lazy. They rather work 1 mth and rest few mths. No money continue with their old trade.

You know them so well hor !!!

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by birdie8819

You know them so well hor !!!

Wah liew, I know 1 ger during my last week virgin trip to 51, I newbie, she told me what, I just post here loh. U laojiao must guide me mah, else my 2nd trip might get con by another ger.

[birdie8819]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Wah liew, I know 1 ger during my last week virgin trip to 51, I newbie, she told me what, I just post here loh. U laojiao must guide me mah, else my 2nd trip might get con by another ger.

Me lao jiao ?????? LOL ???? Duno who man .

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by birdie8819

Me lao jiao ?????? LOL ???? Duno who man .

Who? Not u meh? When u going HCMC??

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by naemlo

they started to grow greedy and lazy

wah, bro. you spoke like a pro. I suppose you have many encouters with them.
I read already also worried for myself now.
So how to tell if they are greedy and lazy?

[maxrex]

For guys here who are hoping to have a good Vietnamese girlfriend, I will advise you guys to take some spare time off and fly to Vietnam. Really, there is no point looking for love from Vietnamese working ladies in Joo Chiat and Geylang. Vietnam's population currently stands at about 86.5 millions. Most match-making agencies in Singapore are real b******. It is much cheaper to explore around Vietnam and befriend some Vietnamese women. I had been to Vietnam (Saigon and Hanoi) many times since 2004. About myself, I am an educated Singapore white-collared man who have a Vietnamese wife from North Vietnam.

I don't think that most North Vietnamese women ever want to marry Western men. My sisters-in law and some friends of mine confirmed with me. Only 10 to 15% North Vietnamese women want that. It is different as compared to South Vietnamese women.

So far, my wife has been very good to me. I know her for about 1 year before we got married. Her family is very big and is not rich at all. And my wife never ask me for money to remit back to her family in Vietnam. Not even once due to my wife's refusal for my financial assistance to her family. She even told me that her family can manage on their own. Some of her siblings are working in Saigon while her 2 siblings are waiting to enter university. It is very rare for us to talk about money. I always give her $20 each day for her to buy grocery and her daily meals. I always handle the financial aspects in the household. She is studying English everyday and we communicate to each other in Vietnamese. As for our daily lives, she always put out the shoes for me to wear when I leave home for work and always wait for me at the door to welcome me home from work. I feel so blessed. I don't think many Singapore wives will do that to their husbands. But my wife can be very jealous sometimes when I occasionally talk to my Vietnamese friends online. I can tell you that a lot of Vietnamese women are very jealous by nature. Know what? The number of divorce cases is fast increasing in big Vietnamese cities now.

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by ekemono

wah, bro. you spoke like a pro. I suppose you have many encouters with them.
I read already also worried for myself now.
So how to tell if they are greedy and lazy?

I newbie... dunno how to tell who is greedy who is lazy...

[VietnamLover]

Any bro here who have a Vietnamese girlfriend who is decent and is definitely not a working lady in Singapore?

[technofreak]

Originally Posted by naemlo

These gers, the minority r not force to work as FL. They have choices, but they just want to earn big money in the shortest time. There r millions of young attractive poor gers in Vietnam. Yet they still work decently to support the family. These FL once they able to work 1 mth which the amt equal to decent viet gers working 6 or 12 mths, they started to grow greedy and lazy. They rather work 1 mth and rest few mths. No money continue with their old trade.

This I agree very much with u Bro Naemlo...No turning back for them to decent jobs once they have seen the bright lights of Stinkapore. Guess it's just human nature...taking the easy way out...

Originally Posted by ekemono

wah, bro. you spoke like a pro. I suppose you have many encouters with them. I read already also worried for myself now.
So how to tell if they are greedy and lazy?

I have known many gals who came here work for a month (Some lucky enough to extend for another)...Go back VN rest (sleep, eat, drink etc) for a month, before returning again. The cycle continues...

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by technofreak

[COLOR="Blue"]I have known many gals who came here work for a month (Some lucky enough to extend for another)...Go back VN rest (sleep, eat, drink etc) for a month, before returning again. The cycle continues...

Yes. Indeed. Being with her i get to know many many of her friends and thier passport had alot of "chop" "chop". Some also make thier way to Macua and HK, while others had a failed arranged marriage to Taiwanese. Thier stories are almost predictable, ending up with a child from a viet bf.

They are the 3rd world country, and theriocally with less foriegn investment, less jobs created, less money to spend, less exposure to western culture, I would have brand them as more conservative. But it seems they are more liberal than us Singaporeans, cos I haven't come across our local case of single parent w/o marriage in such vast numbers. Ours are the typical divorce with or without child.

As for myself, I have chosen my path. Unless she comes over and decide to roam back to JC, then it is obvious. I will ask her to fly kite.
While I understand and believes that there are viet gals who would never leave the "cycle", I cannot in fairness stereotyped her, unless proven gulity.
For in any types of relationship, it works both ways. As much as I can stereotyped her, so can she to me; " am I just an asshole who wants a relationship to milk as much sex as possible only??" It is a guessing game with lousy ending.

The "cycle"
So how does a person avoid falling into it. A decent job back at Vietnam?
Does a decent job require some form of educational level? And if some jobs do not require, will the pay-out be sufficient to make ends meets? And what are the "ends" to meet?
I understand the lower pays is SGD100 max, so some bros are correct to say one month in SG is equal to thier 5 to 7 months decent job pay. Because of our stronger currency, they have the luxury to exploit on this advantage.
But, is the SGD100 max salary a sufficient solution? What other solution is available to poor and uneducated families in a decent way?
Does family financial standing play a part?

These words are purely my tots.