Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[mutantchicken]

Originally Posted by profx

Many thanks to the reply and valuable insight from senior here.

Just an update to my original post. After i am back to sg, still continue chat in skype for 1 week and she told me if i can help her with her english course school fees about SGD400/mth, she willing to be my gf and make love to me. Seem like she fishing for guys to sponsor her, have decide not to contact her .


I think tahts is more than the cost of english clasess cost prob only half that...if she will go at all....you should say back u know how many girls i can fuck for 400?



Hi MIFAcafe,

One ridiculous thing i encounter is when i meet the girl, she bring me to eat at expensive restaurant that cost me SGD60 for one meal. VN wages so low, why would they eat like that. Cannot believe.

well its cuz when SOMEONE else is paying they want to experience fine dining so they can take pics and upload on fb to show off

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by jackbl

May I know what is your advice to SGP man?

You need me to teach you meh?

[stillgottheblue]

Originally Posted by profx

Just an update to my original post. After i am back to sg, still continue chat in skype for 1 week and she told me if i can help her with her english course school fees about SGD400/mth, she willing to be my gf and make love to me. Seem like she fishing for guys to sponsor her, have decide not to contact her.

$400sgd per month for learning English is madness.










Hi MIFAcafe,

One ridiculous thing i encounter is when i meet the girl, she bring me to eat at expensive restaurant that cost me SGD60 for one meal. VN wages so low, why would they eat like that. Cannot believe.[/QUOTE]

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by stillgottheblue

One ridiculous thing i encounter is when i meet the girl, she bring me to eat at expensive restaurant that cost me SGD60 for one meal. VN wages so low, why would they eat like that. Cannot believe.

Simple fact is u pay and not her...so nothing wrong with her...teach u a method and sure works like magic...pass her 500k and ask her to pay then balance she keep...haha guess what eat the cheapest food she can bring u...see morale of story...

[MIFAcafe]

First baby step.... You start somewhere and it is best you meet a super demanding gals first, so in the future you meet a undemanding decent girl you know you strike gold.

Otherwise how you going to know your girl is a good girl without meeting the lousy one first.

$60 is cheap, my first meal with VB is VND3m. That is SGD$180. (6pax incl H88 who is there to witness the slaughtering of a stupid sinkee. (That is the trip I decide no more "mr stupid good sinkee in me"

So look like you have not meet the super demanding one.

I always take every turn of events as an opportunity to learn and also treat it as a blessing in disguise.

Originally Posted by profx

Hi MIFAcafe,

One ridiculous thing i encounter is when i meet the girl, she bring me to eat at expensive restaurant that cost me SGD60 for one meal. VN wages so low, why would they eat like that. Cannot believe.

[MIFAcafe]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Simple fact is u pay and not her...so nothing wrong with her...teach u a method and sure works like magic...pass her 500k and ask her to pay then balance she keep...haha guess what eat the cheapest food she can bring u...see morale of story...

That is why all my girls treat you like enemy of the state.

Play them inside out and upside down.

The VND3m meal girl told me "please do not tell you what she tell me."
How obvious that is for the fear of you just sipping coffee by my side.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by MIFAcafe

That is why all my girls treat you like enemy of the state.
Play them inside out and upside down.
The VND3m meal girl told me "please do not tell you what she tell me."
How obvious that is for the fear of you just sipping coffee by my side.

haha...not all ppl I advised...also not all whom I advised willing to listen and execute accordingly...so those I taught and benefited will remember and come back for more advice...

so let those who dun listen to hit their head hard and suffer financial lost...then they will realised how foolish they can be...haha...

over the past 7 years, I had encountered many ppl here...many come and go...only the die hards still here...these ppl are Viet survivors...

last trip which was about 10 days ago, a first time visitor to hcm met me in the TSN airport...his WL gf waited for him on arrival and was with him through out the 5D4N...so I asked him his opinion on his first trip...if he thinks he still wants the WL as gf...he briefly summarised...think he better concentrate on his career first and dun bother to think about relationship...he saw enough to convince him that he was spoilt for choice and confirmed my theory "never worry there is no gal in Wet nam..."...told his WL gf dun come sinkie go back to KL...hahaha....

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by MIFAcafe

$60 is cheap, my first meal with VB is VND3m. That is SGD$180. (6pax incl H88 who is there to witness the slaughtering of a stupid sinkee. (That is the trip I decide no more "mr stupid good sinkee in me"

haha...I remembered this...your gf invited his 2 sisters and 1 "cousin sister" to the Jap Sushi Bar @ 2 Le Thanh Ton....haha...sure you kena big time bill...

about 2 years ago I kena one big time... 2 person dine and wine at Stix @ Le Quy Don...bill about 2 mil and that was our first date...gal was dressed elegant and classy...I was wearing bermuda with Polo T...haha....so funny but after that I say bb and nvr bothered to follow up with her...deleted all her contacts and chats...

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

.I was wearing bermuda with Polo T...haha....

Typical Singaporean... I am always in bermuda too. Ah hia, why u didn't advise me?

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Typical Singaporean... I am always in bermuda too. Ah hia, why u didn't advise me?

oi oi...you should advise me...you there earlier and longer in Wet Nam than me...hehe...shi xiong...

you gained your doctorate already...me still post grad leh...kkkk....

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

oi oi...you should advise me...you there earlier and longer in Wet Nam than me...hehe...shi xiong...

We always like avoiding each other in HCMC.

[littleleroy]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

let me tell you what i mean by strong hard tactics and why VB not meant for the soft hearted men...

when a VB asked to do RAW...give her the conditions to agree...
1 - take birth control pills
2 - if pregnant - she wants to abort then pay for all the charges and repect her wish
3 - if pregnant - she wants to keep baby then tell her she has to ensure she looked after baby and she cannot leave baby with her mother. Pay all the charges and baby maintenance.
4 - when baby old enough for education then baby goes to singapore to study and she cannot go
5 - tell her she cannot use baby to threaten you and no special treatment if she behaves unreasonable

all these above told to her to agree before you proceed to do RAW sex...never ever let Vb use baby as threat to you...

6 - test DNA to ensure baby is yours

I understand the above is not easy to carried out but you have to do it...if gal dump you then you can walk away without feeling guilty...

above dun apply to WL...never feel guilty when you had paid her...

Thanks for the advise! Well, my sister and relatives ask me to do DNA test but I didn't think it was necessary as I know it's my son -he looks like me.... (or you can say I live in denial). Haha

[littleleroy]

Originally Posted by mutantchicken

here you really have 3 simple choices
1 forever be her slave, for the sake of having access to your child and your child having a mother.
2 somehow getiing yiou baby back and then giving her the choice of either joinimg you on your own terms
3 letting her go with baby and when she is ready go back to you...2 and 3 i would suggest you to lie and say how you are poor financial diffucilty, only then if she comes back it for the right reeasons other wise 6mths later u will be back here asking for opinions as she hhas again runaway

Thanks bro, will take your advise! Previously loaned a huge sum of my savings to my bestfriend then but money being root of all evil he took my money and refused to pay up. Well it happened twice to two friends as they were telling me their house got ah long come splash paint, the other guy say bank come seal their house etc happened during same period. So borrow from bank for marriage as back then got pressure to by my bx family. I was indeed doing ops in bank but changed to FA. Haha I just wanted to help luh, I mean afterall my bestfriend right, who knows refused to return me money when I need it. you can say I'm just stupid / honest / naive, sigh no such thing as 兄弟.

[littleleroy]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Too many SGP man are too naive. They do not know what their viet spouses are thinking about. They assume that their viet spouse think and act in the same way, just like any other Singaporean. But the truth is, no matter how demure their viet spouse may be (cook them a meal when they are hungry, make love with them when they are horny) , thinking is mostly different from their actions. Actions are for show only and is part of the long term plot. But of course, not all Viet spouse are bad, some are really committed to be good wives and mothers. (minority) Those that have frequent contacts with Viets in Vietnam will have better idea of their thinking relative to those SGP man who assumes that all humans in the world think and act like Singaporeans.

Well said!

[littleleroy]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Most gals are reasons 1 and 2. Those in reason 3 will be better wives. Viet gals know that Singapore man are easily controlled and will do anything to their wish. Its not about treating your spouse bad, but to be firm and also educate your spouse. How much do they know with only a few years of education and being in the village / Vietnam all the time? When you are firm, don't be afraid of them being angry. It takes time to make them understand.

You are right bro, i need to be firm this time..