Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[decent02]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Why bother to let her learn english when she can speak chinese...you sure will regret when she learn all these languages...her options will be wider...haha....

Bruddur ur thinking still in the 60's leh

Ppl need to upgrade...staying in sg dunno english very lugi one

know english can find work easier too

Personally I feel is okay to let your viet wife learn english / chinese in sg

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by decent02

Bruddur ur thinking still in the 60's leh
Ppl need to upgrade...staying in sg dunno english very lugi one
know english can find work easier too
Personally I feel is okay to let your viet wife learn english / chinese in sg

to each his own...wait till you experience then tell me...hehe...

[Blast88]

[QUOTE=shysaint;9396137]U ask me ... I tell u the truth .. Nothing to hide ... Now u commented I am worse than ur school teacher ...

No wonder ur reputation getting worse .... Now -10 ... Sighzzzzzz ... I think u better go 反醒 年反醒 ...

Getting zapped if not because u offended anyone , it's just about ur comment ...

Seriously since u commented that, why should I waste time replying u I must be so Bo Liao

Finally u realised U bo liao, however I'm admire your courage to admit unlike others doing it secretly behind people back, by the way is there any cap for the zapped, I saw some bros with negative of thousand still can post leh

[volcano]

Originally Posted by mobiken

not to forget I would be sending money to her mum in viet (nt a big sum thou)

how much is ur "not a big sum thou"....

and seriously i wonder why many are sending monthly allowance to their MIL?

and sad to say,are these guys giving their own parents monthly allowance?

i have been with my wife for almost 6 years.i do not give my MIL monthly allowance,only give her 1 million Vnd on New Year and ocassionally 500k when i get to see her.she does not grumble anything and still cook plently of good food for me to eat whenever i am back at country side.just something to share from my personal experience and observation while staying in Vietnam for a decade.when the Viets really treat u as a friend or own people,they never care about the money issue,doesn't means that u gotta pick up the bill bcos u r rich and richer then them,while back at countryside,my Viet friend always invite me to their house for beer and food whereas they only earn about 5 mills per month.if ur spouse or gf has the mindset that u gotta pay everytime bcos Sporean are "richer",then its time for u guys to "brain wash" and cultivate them.its either they simply just love ur money or they wanna get a foreign husband to show off.neither of these is good for the long run of relationship.

come on guys,i do know that many of u think that by marrying a Viet wife,u r actually marrying the whole family.but do give it careful thought,no one force u to do it.u do have a choice to choose,or did u guys do it bcos out of pride?


above is my from my own experience and observation.other people might have different thoughts..just a little something sharing from me nia...

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by volcano

and seriously i wonder why many are sending monthly allowance to their MIL?

and sad to say,are these guys giving their own parents monthly allowance?

It depends on how u are brought up and individual thinking. Most Asian are brought up to take care of their parents.

If wife is working, wife should provide a monthly allowance of about $100-200 to her parents depending how much she earns and if wife is not working then husband should help wife to provide to her parents. Yes, living in SG is difficult, everything is money but 50, 100 or 200 is not huge sum.

Unless parents in law are demanding a lot and always then we have reconsider but end of the day a small sum of allowance is filial and also thanks them the hardship for bringing the daughter up.

Anyway, there is always different views, the more selfish is "my parents is mine n her parents is not mine."

End of the day, it is individual life... to give or not to give..

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Blast88

Finally u realised U bo liao, however I'm admire your courage to admit unlike others doing it secretly behind people back, by the way is there any cap for the zapped, I saw some bros with negative of thousand still can post leh

Can't even Quote Properly

No Need to Realise ... Me only Bo Liao To Reply a Bo Liao People like u ...

U drop another 4 pts to -16 ... Seriously What about happen to u

I not sure of the pts coz not interested anyway .. since u mentioned pts is not important .. why bother about the Cap ... scared u cannot over take their points (Negative I mean) ????

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by volcano

how much is ur "not a big sum thou"....

and seriously i wonder why many are sending monthly allowance to their MIL?

and sad to say,are these guys giving their own parents monthly allowance?

i have been with my wife for almost 6 years.i do not give my MIL monthly allowance,only give her 1 million Vnd on New Year and ocassionally 500k when i get to see her.she does not grumble anything and still cook plently of good food for me to eat whenever i am back at country side.just something to share from my personal experience and observation while staying in Vietnam for a decade.when the Viets really treat u as a friend or own people,they never care about the money issue,doesn't means that u gotta pick up the bill bcos u r rich and richer then them,while back at countryside,my Viet friend always invite me to their house for beer and food whereas they only earn about 5 mills per month.if ur spouse or gf has the mindset that u gotta pay everytime bcos Sporean are "richer",then its time for u guys to "brain wash" and cultivate them.its either they simply just love ur money or they wanna get a foreign husband to show off.neither of these is good for the long run of relationship.

come on guys,i do know that many of u think that by marrying a Viet wife,u r actually marrying the whole family.but do give it careful thought,no one force u to do it.u do have a choice to choose,or did u guys do it bcos out of pride?


above is my from my own experience and observation.other people might have different thoughts..just a little something sharing from me nia...

You dun give coz u give to ur wife and ur wife give her mah ...

I also never gave my MIL any money ...

I just tear down my Wife/MIL house and Re-build into a 2 storey house ... Does that consider one - time big allowance for them ??? hehehehehe ...

Like You , I am always invited for coffee and beer drinks, I offered to pay but was never allowed to do so ...

To Sum Up ... To Each His Own ... Nothing Wrong and Nothing Right ... Do what u think is right ...

People may think is stupid or ridiculous but then its you not them ... so why bother ...

[Hurricane88]

Recently many Viet gals caught and prosecuted in sham marriages...making those genuine couples wanted to marry here very difficult...no wonder ICA working very hard...

http://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/...d-/685958.html

http://www.straitstimes.com/newslett...ewsletter.html

[volcano]

Originally Posted by shysaint

You dun give coz u give to ur wife and ur wife give her mah ...

my wife is the one that tells me no need give my MIL money...

[Kim91]

Originally Posted by mobiken

Hi Bros here, a quick questions to enlighten me.
I finally have made a Viet as my wife and will stay along with my parents.
she will not be working here as she needs to learn english before doing anything although she can speak and understand chinese.
I shd give her an allowance during this time and need to know what is the range? althought she said she have her own savings..
not to forget I would be sending money to her mum in viet (nt a big sum thou) and also my household here.
What should be the right way to do on finance management perhaps those bro with Viet wifey can enlighten. Thks

like most bro had said, marrying a foreign wife involve alot of comms, esp if they dun earn. As for giving allowance to wife is ok if she helping in buying hsehold items and also letting her understand std of living in singapore. but for giving allw for her family, that will depend on urself. if u are rich then continue feeding them. But long term itd better to give them means rather than feeding them.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Kim91

like most bro had said, marrying a foreign wife involve alot of comms, esp if they dun earn. As for giving allowance to wife is ok if she helping in buying hsehold items and also letting her understand std of living in singapore. but for giving allw for her family, that will depend on urself. if u are rich then continue feeding them. But long term itd better to give them means rather than feeding them.

agreed...when you do things especially marriage...always remember long term...may last 10 yrs or longer...so be prepared to fork out the money...

[RockViet]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Recently many Viet gals caught and prosecuted in sham marriages...making those genuine couples wanted to marry here very difficult...no wonder ICA working very hard...

y only kena Vn

Bro Hurricane88. Saw your signature. Good for you . Niệm Phật Thành Phật

Niệm Nam Mô Quán Thế Âm Bồ Tát
Nam Mô A Di Đà Phật

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by RockViet

Niệm Nam Mô Quán Thế Âm Bồ Tát
Nam Mô A Di Đà Phật

Wow, now the prayers come out luon.....

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Recently many Viet gals caught and prosecuted in sham marriages...making those genuine couples wanted to marry here very difficult...no wonder ICA working very hard...

http://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/...d-/685958.html

http://www.straitstimes.com/newslett...ewsletter.html

I heard from a vb that her friend working in the same ktv as her was jailed for few months for sham marriage last year. But early this year, this vb who did the sham marriage got PR liao

How can that be done if it is true?

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by Kim91

like most bro had said, marrying a foreign wife involve alot of comms, esp if they dun earn. As for giving allowance to wife is ok if she helping in buying hsehold items and also letting her understand std of living in singapore. but for giving allw for her family, that will depend on urself. if u are rich then continue feeding them. But long term itd better to give them means rather than feeding them.

what kind of mean u can give them?

Their only mean is MONEY,give them rod and ask them to fish,forget about it if u are thinking about that