Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Genomes]

greener u rich?
if u are take the money u use to help as a gamble.50/50 chance

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by greener

Hi All,

Thank you for replying to my posting. Seems like there is stil a divide between people going strongly against any relationship with WL and also those who would say " give it a try "

No right answer no wrong answers. Perhaps just ultimately good or bad experiences.

I will go to VN to observe more first and see for myself. I generally trust her about the things that she shares with me about her and her family. It has been consistent. I would have to really see for myself how she is conducting her life there with her family.

I do think that there is a need for me to at least do a shout out here to keep myself in check. Because i may and will only see one view ( i.e the good side ) of things.

There are many social/family/cultural differences as the relationship progress. Not to say language and mindsets. So yes it is not a bed of roses at all.

Let alone the fact that she is a WL who will stop working for good. Even if I find a normal girl in WL, i would still be facing the same major issues stated by all of you here.

thanks for holding back my horses. I will have to think about this carefully. Sometimes seriously, i wonder what has happened to me. Singapore girls and Malaysia girls don't want. Go for far far places like VN to find the so called right one.

I will keep all updated again once i have some insight with myself.

Again thank you for those who have responded and provided your opinions.

Cam on rat nhieu.

Regards

Yes, there is no right or wrong answers as each and every one of us has a different life.

I have also think and asked myself the question that u asked yurself. Got singapore gals dun want, why chose someone so faraway. I do believe in fate, its fate that brought me n my wife together, imagine of the 88mil ppl in vn, i got to know my wife. So i do cherish this. Same for u, of the hundreds of WLs here in singapore, u got to know this particular gal and have feelings.

My advise again
1) dont let small head rule big head
2) think coherently, properly n thoroughly
3) do keep an open mind
4) do open eyes wide wide to see clearly
5) spend more time knowing and understanding her more
6) always take wat they say with a pinch of salt
7) do understand their culture, beliefs and way of life if u really decided to move ahead

My 2 dongs

Cheers.

[deptrai4u]

Originally Posted by shysaint

Welcome to the 'Family' ....


I am 39 and my wife is 25 .... Do I have to Talk more on this ?????

ALL BARRIERS are in YOURSELF ....

Keep an Open Mind .....

I am 45 and my wives are 29, 25, 22 and 21.

yes, u need to open ur mind (and wallets too) and they just need to open legs.

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

I am 45 and my wives are 29, 25, 22 and 21.

yes, u need to open ur mind (and wallets too) and they just need to open legs.

deptrai kor, u must be growing more and more deptrai... 29>25>22>21... hehe

[SingViet]

Not all WL are bad, but most as untrustworthy. You will be the luckiest man if you marry a good one. But for a 19 year old, the risk is very much higher as their maturity level is not there yet. A few months of `feeling good and romantic' may turn out to be a disaster. Personally, i will not marry a 19 year old. If a WL has reached the age of 25 and above, the maturity level may be there and they will be more stable. To us, we may not feel that there's anything wrong to marry someone that's much younger. The viet lady may just keep quiet about it. But the truth will be out when she mixes around with her same group and start complaining about the age difference of her and her husband and start to say `my husband is sooooo old' .

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

deptrai kor, u must be growing more and more deptrai... 29>25>22>21... hehe

Not only that, growing more n more young.

[jf66312]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

I am 45 and my wives are 29, 25, 22 and 21.

yes, u need to open ur mind (and wallets too) and they just need to open legs.

bro deptrai....getting young and popular ah...long time no see since the last trip to P***...

[jf66312]

Originally Posted by greener

Hi All,

Thank you for replying to my posting. Seems like there is stil a divide between people going strongly against any relationship with WL and also those who would say " give it a try "

No right answer no wrong answers. Perhaps just ultimately good or bad experiences.

I will go to VN to observe more first and see for myself. I generally trust her about the things that she shares with me about her and her family. It has been consistent. I would have to really see for myself how she is conducting her life there with her family.

I do think that there is a need for me to at least do a shout out here to keep myself in check. Because i may and will only see one view ( i.e the good side ) of things.

There are many social/family/cultural differences as the relationship progress. Not to say language and mindsets. So yes it is not a bed of roses at all.

Let alone the fact that she is a WL who will stop working for good. Even if I find a normal girl in WL, i would still be facing the same major issues stated by all of you here.

thanks for holding back my horses. I will have to think about this carefully. Sometimes seriously, i wonder what has happened to me. Singapore girls and Malaysia girls don't want. Go for far far places like VN to find the so called right one.

I will keep all updated again once i have some insight with myself.

Again thank you for those who have responded and provided your opinions.

Cam on rat nhieu.

Regards

well..so many senior bros here hav already voiced their opinions...
but u are the one rowing the boat now , so which direction u wana go , u gotta decide for yourself...

all i can say is from relationship to being married is a huge step and being in relationship & married as couple is different..committment wise..

eg: when in BGR , u can dun pick up call or just walk away without strings attached if both cant click, but once married , u cant just walk away as and when u would like to...

since she is young and though u are 30 (prob influenced by our PM's national day rally) , time is still on your side...
conduct due diligence and spend time to understand her first...1st step is to brush up your TV...hehe

good luck and all the best to you!

[jf66312]

Originally Posted by SingViet

First time apply?

Originally Posted by Goalie

Congratulations.

thanks alot...

Originally Posted by Kim91

Congrats bro!! Hit jackpot ha 1time get PR liao.. Ur criteria must be super good for ica to refuse.

thank you


na...2nd time apply..not first time...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

I am 45 and my wives are 29, 25, 22 and 21.

yes, u need to open ur mind (and wallets too) and they just need to open legs.

haha...I better dun mention my...after all what matters is your own happiness...old or young has it s pros and cons...no right or wrong...

it's your heart that matters...always believe time will tell...give yourself 6mths...1yr then 2yrs with her...see what happens...guaranteed you...many things will likely to happen...

of course I dun mean deptrai because I knew him personally and met most of his wives...I mean to "greener"...up to you to listen...

[Seletar]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

I am 45 and my wives are 29, 25, 22 and 21.

yes, u need to open ur mind (and wallets too) and they just need to open legs.

I think you are muslim.

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

I am 45 and my wives are 29, 25, 22 and 21.

yes, u need to open ur mind (and wallets too) and they just need to open legs.

Kor kor ... You Dep Trai mah .... Although no chance to meet yet But I know sure Dep Trai one ....

[skyfree]

Hi greener,

My advice to you, take your time, spend time with her, one year or more to know more about her and vn cultures.

Also need to brush up your tv language.

Don't rush into marriage just for the sake of getting married.

Observe carefully and you will know whether you want to continue the relationship or not.

As bro hurricane88 mentioned to me before, you need to sacrifice time and money for this long distance relationship.

She is only 19 years old, her thinking not yet matured. You are 30 years old, you know your stuff.

What most bros here can only advise you, the final decision still Lies with you.

[deptrai4u]

Originally Posted by shysaint

Kor kor ... You Dep Trai mah .... Although no chance to meet yet But I know sure Dep Trai one ....

Shyshaint, we have met many times before lah... u ask Carrot gor gor....

Anyway, i just want to say this... when i was young, some of my classmates, those guys with the name Chong Ming, turns out to be quite stupid... those girls name Mei Lee, turns out quite ugly... so that's why my name is deptrai!

[deptrai4u]

Originally Posted by Seletar

I think you are muslim.

Yah sure... i am the modern muslim... no need to potong and i eat Halah char siew pao for breakfast!