Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner - Page 260

Darkstorm · #**3886** 11-08-2008, 03:27 AM

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Originally Posted by X_plorer

I would say 1 out of a million, because 1st barrier is communication barrier, 2nd is cultural barrier.. How to have this kind of romance if you can't even communicate well..

I just came back from HCM today, Out of 100, 97 cannot speak, 2 can speak Chinese or English (mostly in Service Industry) only 1 can speak better but still not so fluent.. How to find 1 really suits you? This goes to Me and m Wife, Communication Barrier in the beginning, but now also quite poor in her English, dun know how to speak out or explain clearly but get angry and become hot tempered liao.. How to live together long? I expect not more than 5 years unless she can communicate better and become less hot tempered..

I hope your marriage can last. Best wishes.

technofreak · #**3887** 11-08-2008, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by jackbl

Bro, if ur wife is in vn i sugg u better ask her to go for english course.... not expensive one.

That's right...I'm intending to sign my baxa up for tieng anh soon...

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Originally Posted by X_plorer

I would say 1 out of a million, because 1st barrier is communication barrier, 2nd is cultural barrier.. How to have this kind of romance if you can't even communicate well..

I just came back from HCM today, Out of 100, 97 cannot speak, 2 can speak Chinese or English (mostly in Service Industry) only 1 can speak better but still not so fluent.. How to find 1 really suits you? This goes to Me and m Wife, Communication Barrier in the beginning, but now also quite poor in her English, dun know how to speak out or explain clearly but get angry and become hot tempered liao.. How to live together long? I expect not more than 5 years unless she can communicate better and become less hot tempered..

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Originally Posted by ekemono

I have made some arrangement and in 2 months time will bring her over to SG. So this 2 months is also her test for me. Will I still be longing for her? Will I still want to be with her? now that I am alone and it helps to have less distraction and ponder over it with a clearer mind.

No one can tell what tomorrow will bring, but we ourselves can surely determined if we want to face it positively or negatively in respect to a relationship and life itself

Thanks again for patiently reading my story.

Best wishes to you two...

jackbl · #**3888** 11-08-2008, 11:00 AM

Hi bro, these 2 months u can try to learn more about her language and culture, so that u can understand her more. Wish u good luck

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Originally Posted by ekemono

No one can tell what tomorrow will bring, but we ourselves can surely determined if we want to face it positively or negatively in respect to a relationship and life itself
I had my fair share of local gal holding decent job walk out of a relationship for a BBD (Bigger Better Deal), so i dun buy the story of finding your own kind, but i acknowledge the risk of cultural shock it carries being with an other nationality partner.
Perhaps to have gone this far I would have classified myself as to be a risk-taker, more so being with a viet gal. But if I want to love and be constantly in fear of being used, then I should go back to being lonely and confused.

Thanks again for patiently reading my story.

jackbl · #**3889** 11-08-2008, 11:03 AM

But u dun learn too much. If not she will have hard time "controlling" u "flirting" outside

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Originally Posted by technofreak

That's right...I'm intending to sign my baxa up for tieng anh soon...

Darkstorm · #**3890** 11-08-2008, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by ekemono

10-08-2008

No one can tell what tomorrow will bring, but we ourselves can surely determined if we want to face it positively or negatively in respect to a relationship and life itself
I had my fair share of local gal holding decent job walk out of a relationship for a BBD (Bigger Better Deal), so i dun buy the story of finding your own kind, but i acknowledge the risk of cultural shock it carries being with an other nationality partner.
Perhaps to have gone this far I would have classified myself as to be a risk-taker, more so being with a viet gal. But if I want to love and be constantly in fear of being used, then I should go back to being lonely and confused.

Thanks again for patiently reading my story.

Your love story is beautiful and touching.

I wish both of you well.

Chuc ban hanh phuc

ekemono · #**3891** 11-08-2008, 04:55 PM

Thanks all bros for your well wishes.
It is a pretty good idea to start learning Vietnamese language. Do they have those affordable ones to start with? Or can buy those langauge CD off popular bookstore

glooper83 · #**3892** 11-08-2008, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by ekemono

No one can tell what tomorrow will bring, but we ourselves can surely determined if we want to face it positively or negatively in respect to a relationship and life itself.

I hope the last sentence will bring you through the coming 2 months and the years to come. When the going gets tough, just remember of the words you wrote and brace forward !!

Hurricane88 · #**3893** 11-08-2008, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by ekemono

10-08-2008
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Perhaps to have gone this far I would have classified myself as to be a risk-taker, more so being with a viet gal. But if I want to love and be constantly in fear of being used, then I should go back to being lonely and confused.

Thanks again for patiently reading my story.

Brothers, nice and please keep writing...when is the next episode...

carmeo88 · #**3894** 11-08-2008, 10:19 PM

Welcome to the club bro Ekemono.

ekemono · #**3895** 11-08-2008, 10:37 PM

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Originally Posted by glooper83

I hope the last sentence will bring you through the coming 2 months and the years to come. When the going gets tough, just remember of the words you wrote and brace forward !!

Thanks bro glooper83.

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Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Brothers, nice and please keep writing...when is the next episode...

Next episode is probably in a month time. I just spoke to her today. Heck.., in fact we spoke a few time over the phone today, since from lunch time until just now. Later on 11pm SGT will call again.

To wait 2 months we cannot tahan. Thus the choice was if we follow the initial arrangement of getting her here in 2 months time, then next month i will fly to her place, but only obstacle is Sept we have a major project (F1) at work so cannot confirm enough. Btw, she is from Ha Tien - Kien Giang.
We googled for the map and Ha Tien is right at the bottom of Vietnam, and Hanoi is right at the top.

So do gals from Hanoi or Ho Chi Minh City needs to be desperate enough to come SG, Macau or HK to work? I dun know and did not want to ask. Perhaps some bros who are well travelled and verse in Vietnam enviroment can enlighten me.

glooper83 · #**3896** 11-08-2008, 11:55 PM

Off-topic: Oooh, nice F1.

On-topic: Cannot tahan what.. hahaa... You hamster, just left a few days ago only cannot tahan leow. But ok la, when my ex-gf left for USA, i also cannot tahan being without her, almost bought a tix to join her in USA.

v.killers · #**3897** 12-08-2008, 06:04 AM

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Originally Posted by technofreak

That's right...I'm intending to sign my baxa up for tieng anh soon...

So you are trying to tell us, you got more time to cheong liao izzit

maxrex · #**3898** 12-08-2008, 11:52 AM

Finally managed to finish reading all of the threads in this forum within a week. Very interesting and informative. Keep this forum going.

VietnamLover · #**3899** 12-08-2008, 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by ekemono

Thanks bro glooper83.

To wait 2 months we cannot tahan. Thus the choice was if we follow the initial arrangement of getting her here in 2 months time, then next month i will fly to her place, but only obstacle is Sept we have a major project (F1) at work so cannot confirm enough. Btw, she is from Ha Tien - Kien Giang.
We googled for the map and Ha Tien is right at the bottom of Vietnam, and Hanoi is right at the top.

So do gals from Hanoi or Ho Chi Minh City needs to be desperate enough to come SG, Macau or HK to work? I dun know and did not want to ask. Perhaps some bros who are well travelled and verse in Vietnam enviroment can enlighten me.

Ekemono,

Good luck to both of you in future. Hope things will turn out fine for you.

Most girls will be very desperate to work in foreign countries when they do not have enough money and have to support their poor families. But not all of them are working ladies. I have a Vietnamese friend who is currently working as a waitress in a casino in Macau and she is earning good salary.

technofreak · #**3900** 12-08-2008, 02:31 PM

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Originally Posted by v.killers

So you are trying to tell us, you got more time to cheong liao izzit?

Nothing of the sort...It's entirely for her own good!! Wei...Heard u were being spotted that day huh??

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Originally Posted by jackbl

But u dun learn too much. If not she will have hard time "controlling" u "flirting" outside.

I just wanna learn as much as possible...My quest for knowledge is inexorable...Just like my many fetishes...