Confusing Actions of Potential FB

[cherrytrix]

Hey guys, been a while since I visited this forum but I got into trouble again recently... Started flirting with a colleague (Asian but based in US - also married like me with young kids) for the past few months and it turned into fast and furious texting/sexting... All that lead up to a biz trip when we finally had sex in his hotel room... We did it a few times in a row and he made me give him bbbj a few times, once until he came also.

Before we met, he kept texting me and saying to get ready for him, etc etc but I think he lied and that it felt like it was his first time cheating cos after that one long session, he got super paranoid when we were in a work setting and when we were finally with our other colleagues. He didn't dare to do it with me again, said our colleague is on the same hotel floor as him. Then he said he needed time to think about whether we can be FBs. But still didn't hesitate to kiss or sext me.

Not sure when's the next time we will see each other on another biz trip but lately he's gotten possessive, always texting me the minute I'm awake or when he's awake (cos of US/SG time difference), asking me what I did, who I'm with, etc. He also got huffy when I said I was out with a male friend one night (ex-FB but nothing happened), he told me I was doing the wrong thing, etc. Why too scared to be my FB but still acting like I'm accountable to him?

I'm confused guys... What do you think? Should I just give up on this guy? Appreciate your thoughts... On one hand, I'm very attracted to him and sometimes enjoy mundane texting (it was almost like emotional affair I guess) but realistically not sure how we can be FBs when we don't even know when we can meet in person next. But his actions really confuse me.

[Johnbass]

Ask your hubby to learn fast and furious sexting?
#IAlsoWantToLearn

[cherrytrix]

Originally Posted by Johnbass

Ask your hubby to learn fast and furious sexting?
#IAlsoWantToLearn

Haha I wish...

[Johnbass]

Originally Posted by cherrytrix

Haha I wish...

Your hubby is those unromantic type ah? Haiz...

I think your colleague...
1. Scared to lose his job
2. Scared his wife will find out
3. Scared you will piak other men... Not your hubby

#IWantToSextingWithYou

[porscheclub]

Sounds like a loser if you ask me. I say dump him for a better fuck or at least someone who knows how to keep the game clean.

A FB whether male/female must not intrude into private life that'll harm your marriage. If not, why are they called FB?

[siri]

if he's always not around, then dont be bothered by him. Unless he show some actions he wants you around as a FB, then it's just talk only.

Even if you are attracted to him, it might be just because it's fresh and exciting. You will feel sian when you know you want and miss him but he's just always not available for you.

afterall, you are married TS. Dont be too into it. Why so serious?

[mms6969]

TS, imho give up on this colleague. With the physical separation and time diff, and since you both work in the same firm, nothing good can come out of such a relationship. Nothing for u to gain, and everything to lose.

And I do echo what the other bro said. If you treasure your kids and family, why not spend your fb time improving your husband-wife relationship ? If you don't, then its time to think about a separation and let each party start life anew.

[ShittyAss]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

Sounds like a loser if you ask me. I say dump him for a better fuck or at least someone who knows how to keep the game clean.

A FB whether male/female must not intrude into private life that'll harm your marriage. If not, why are they called FB?

I agreed.. N that's rule number 1 for a FB. It's Fxxk n Back Off.

[cherrytrix]

Originally Posted by ShittyAss

I agreed.. N that's rule number 1 for a FB. It's Fxxk n Back Off.

Thanks guys, I talked to my best friend about this and she also agreed that the guy seems too emotionally involved but not willing to provide the sex (I guess not that he can since he's in the US), which makes him a bad candidate for a FB. I went out for a midnight movie and he was texting me asking me what I was doing. I wish he would just f*** me already, but he had to hold back after our first time. Now this is leading nowhere...

If anything, don't want to lose a good colleague and friend (but should have thought of that before I started flirting with him!).

[cherrytrix]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

Sounds like a loser if you ask me. I say dump him for a better fuck or at least someone who knows how to keep the game clean.

A FB whether male/female must not intrude into private life that'll harm your marriage. If not, why are they called FB?

Haha so true... So far I've had about 3-4 FBs but all can't seem to keep the game clean. Get jealous when I go overseas with hubby, etc. Really don't know why it's so hard.

[spawnic]

Well part of the game is to keep it interesting. If he is emotional...cool off and try again another time. I'm sure you have no shortage of supply if you turn on your charms Happy Humping Babe!

[loneyheart]

He is kind of no interest in u for SEX but getting jealous when u r w someone even just friend .... he is not a good player for FB .... Sis move on b4 u get more headache

[sammyboyfor]

By definition, "FB" means no strings attached.

If he's behaving as if you're accountable to him then you're no longer a FB.

[demonhunter]

Originally Posted by cherrytrix

Haha so true... So far I've had about 3-4 FBs but all can't seem to keep the game clean. Get jealous when I go overseas with hubby, etc. Really don't know why it's so hard.

I can keep the game really clean .... I don't give a fuck where and who you are overseas with .

when your need arises , I will be there !!!

call ....I mean PM

[cherrytrix]

Thanks for the input guys. Until now he's still texting me all these kisses. I think the definition of FB is definitely mixed for different people...