Bad temper or Cheating, which is worse?

Reminisce88 · #1 10-09-2010, 06:05 PM

I went totally out of control and hitted my girl once... but I am really devoted to her and love her. So I belongs to the 2nd category of guys which girls want to avoid.

A lot of people think that people like us can never change our nature, and I felt she don't want me to give me a second chance. Rather starve or run far far away also don't want to be with me, but say that she love me a lot?

For her I am controlling my strong urges a lot, staying devoted each day ... yes I had urge to have sex but resisted forcefully because she is far....but she is like yaya and take it easy type ... then I'm reaching my limits so I probably leaving her if she still going on like this, let her dream of love me each day but refusing to do anything for the sake of our relationship.

But this bugs me a lot ... would girls rather their husband cheat, or would girls rather take a faithful husband, have anger problems but willing to do his best to change that.

see see only · #2 10-09-2010, 08:40 PM

Ts,

So subjective ....

Everyone is brought up differently ... some hate violent but most are brain washed from young to hate unfaithfulness

Nevertheless, using violent to solve problem reflected that the person is inmature and cant solve problem with his brain

newyorker88 · #3 10-09-2010, 10:46 PM

There is a saying " A man not at home is not your husband" , and "the day you rest your husband in the coffin, then he is really your husband".

Man tend to cheat while away from home. But to be a wife beater, that is a no no...

Bad temper? THe wife chooses the husband herself... what is there to complain? End of the day, each made his/her own choice.

Boliaoz · #4 10-09-2010, 11:45 PM

Bad temper is worse.

RealEstateGuy · #5 10-09-2010, 11:59 PM

Brother, if you are assaulting women then you need some mental help. Seriously, SG society frowns upon violent people like you.

Cheonging101 · #6 16-09-2010, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by RealEstateGuy

Brother, if you are assaulting women then you need some mental help. Seriously, SG society frowns upon violent people like you.

Er... I think EVERY society frowns on spousal-abuse.

BscBMD997 · #7 16-09-2010, 02:50 PM

I will go for Cheating is worse.

Bad temper still can let the person cool down and slowly reason out.

In extreme cases, seek consultants or councellors to handle one's emotions.

But cheating.....

is both damaging to the heart (mentally) and physically (may bring diseases as condom isnt 100%).

Even if one says can councel for cheating as well..but if you cheat and go home with diseases (herpes, STD, or even hiv). It will cost your life and your spouse's.

Hence, your family suffers.

Life ends = no hope.

see see only · #8 16-09-2010, 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by BscBMD997

I will go for Cheating is worse.

Life ends = no hope.

Violent can kills as well which actually quite often also ....

Worst if it happens to the kids

alan0338 · #9 16-09-2010, 05:29 PM

when meet a violent partner, ppl will say a cheating partner is still ok,
when meet a cheating partner, ppl will say rather meet a violent partner.

so dun think there is an answer....

Entropy · #10 16-09-2010, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by alan0338

when meet a violent partner, ppl will say a cheating partner is still ok,
when meet a cheating partner, ppl will say rather meet a violent partner.

so dun think there is an answer....

While, I guess the answer is to avoid both lol

miua55555 · #11 18-09-2010, 08:57 PM

Violence/wrath and lust/cheat are equally bad sins.

JoyJoy · #12 24-09-2010, 02:57 AM

Cheating = Lost trust, wat the point to carry on

Bad temper = if the guy willing to change, there's still hope for it.

sun814 · #13 30-09-2010, 01:14 AM

for me, a man who hits a woman cannot be considered a "man" at all. but it is man's nature to find another girl who is fresh.

but seriously i think the former is more intolerable.

Ichigo_Kurosaki · #14 30-09-2010, 11:37 AM

Cheating is human nature. We are never satisfied - We always want more! It's not an Exclusive Men thing cos Women are catching up fast! Different Reasons Same Action nonetheless

Bad temper can be corrected but laying a hand on a woman is A No-No cos just because we are physically designed to be more powerful than women doesn't give us a free-pass to hit women.....Having said that, just because we have the utmost respect for women, doesn't mean that they can hit us when they feels like it too......Ha-Ha. My grandmother used to tell me when I was young and started to get interested in girls that if a girl hit me, it's because she think she can beat me. It's up to me to show her the truth in a non-violence way...If a boy hit me, that's another grandpa advice in a bloody way......Which is worse????? A 2-in-1 (cheating and hitter) partner, of cos!!

Cheonging101 · #15 30-09-2010, 04:36 PM

How about a violent cheater? I've seen quite a few guys who are like that but they still get married with very faithful (and usually or-cheh) wives and still fuck around. Alas, if the wives don't do something about it, no one can help them.