[Willamshakspear]

There will be many perspective to the issue by TS, but one thing that he had kept private, & rightly so as we who freely offered opinions & shared experiences here to help but are only strangers, he did not revealed the real reasons WHY his wife & in-laws anger or disappointment in him. There is no smoke without fire...

The insignificant nobody me once had a young colleague. He was incredibly intelligent, a potential leader well liked by everyone, an expert in his field & thought by all he would lead us all one day.

His drawback was his incredibly huge ego, as he thought he could never make mistakes in life. As he worked hard, so too he played hard. We always had a great time with him when he invited us out to ktvs & pubs. It was no surprise to us that in time, a KTV girl would fall deeply & madly in love with him. With such ego & among friends, he naturally let loose, & went into deep intimacy with the Viet lady.

As usual with such flings, he got bored with the viet lady, & tried to ignore her, but she would not. As she had found someone who could provide a future for her, she went to extremes - she went to his home, & confronted his wife & baby son.

We as colleagues knew his wife was a good & virtuous lady & faithful wife. She was broken hearted with the viet lady's revelations, & being young & not fully matured, she fled back to her parents home for shelter.

The rest is only usual history...file for divorce amidst tears, & despite the efforts of her husband, which is minimal at best to win her back, being egoistical, he agreed to the simple request for divorce.

Divorce is never simple. As a result of the time, efforts & emotional family turmoils, he had to quit his bright career job, as being distracted by family issues to resolve, he lost his way & focus in life. He married the viet lady, but it came with consequences, both foreign & local to deal with...

This may not be what TS is experiencing, as he did not share that expect of hurt to his family with us.

All I can say to TS is this - how much he loves his wife & son, & avoid a painful divorce is HOW MANY times he will stand outside his parents-in-law house, to win them over with an action plan, patiently waiting for the door to open, with no harm or hurt to anyone, vulgarities, anger, or force entry, bearing any insults. It is his life & future that NONE else can live, despite any advise or humilation.