Absolutely agree with tankerkit.
You need to stop comparing yourself with others
that’s the first step to being successful. Never try, never know mindset. Next.. you need to develop more self confidence in yourself and also don’t be afraid to seek help.
I myself used to be a social hermit. But I’m trying to meet more people and trying to be more sociable. Try by joining badminton outings, or hiking outings and mixing with more likeminded people. Hope you find your way in life and get past the difficult transition phase, it will get easier once you get pass it!
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Originally Posted by tankerkit
Very hard to type a long essay to reply. Here is my advice, from my own life experience.
1. Stop comparing with peers. I also behind peers. My peers now all succcessful happy family. I here divorced and clearing debts hitting 40 with nothing but debts to my name. I strongly believe there are many "successful" but troubled souls that are not genuinely happy with their lives they just on surface do it to survive, pay for hdb la look good infront of relatives and peers to show off la etc
2. Move around jobs , hobbies, meeting people. These life exposure moving around will let you have a good chance to find what you want to do. Still young, this is the age where you do not really bother about high pay but rather gain experience and mature yourself.
3. Mix around positive people. Courage up and meet new people if the ones around you are not positive. They will indirectly help you with their positive aura. This helps your negative atmosphere that is one of the factors of your depression.
4. Put 100% regardless of success or failure. A subconscious part of blaming yourself, you know you did not put 100% for example not going to class then fail. So you expected the result and you know it's because you did not work for it so you blame yourself. I do not fault about this as it is in a depression stage. If you did 100% and failed you know u did 100% and can accept the result. and u improve self esteem which will improve your current state of mind.
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