Originally Posted by warbird
Bro,
I'm sure many bros here are very successful in many fields, including education, career, business, social status, income, self mastery n getting n keeping all the pretty gals of your type.
Unfortunately, there will be many "friends/colleagues/former classmates/relatives" aka losers who will be very jealous of you. They are usually the loud mouth, know it all type. Actually they feel empty, insecure n needy inside.
They will try to put you down, even mock you, in front of ur relatives/colleagues/friends or gals.
Here is how to deal w/ these jealous losers. The best is to avoid them as if they r lepers. Hard to do if they happen to be your close male relatives.
From a famed RS n sex guru Carlos Xuma.
How to Handle Guys Who Play Alpha Games With You...
The TRUTH About How To Handle Guys Who Try To Mess With Your Confidence...
Has anyone challenged you today?
Put you on the spot?
Made you feel like you were being tooled or ridiculed?
Played a game with your self-confidence?
I've got an UNBELIEVABLE newsletter for you today, because this topic goes WAY beyond just pickup and attracting women.
It speaks to the heart of who you are as a MAN.
And I'm going to show you - right now - how to blow out the most common "Alpha" game there is between guys.
Read on...
QUESTION ABOUT HANDLING SOCIAL GAMES:
Carlos ...In the past few months I've noticed that there are special dynamics that go on when interacting with guys, especially in front of women. It seems that there is always one (sometimes two if it is a large group) alpha male in the group. And of course, the female is attracted to him. I find that I have a strong desire to be the alpha male, but am not always able to be.
For example, I'll be bringing value to the group... when all of a sudden, one of the males tries to screw with my game by calling me names or making fun of me, and the thing is that honestly I am
sensitive, and sometimes I can't hide the fact that it annoys me or hurts me, and therefore I can't come back with a stronger frame and out-alpha this guy back.
For example, the yesterday, I walked up to a group of my college friends, and asked a random question about where our class was being held...
As soon as I asked the question to the group, one of the guys says, "You're gay!" And then everyone laughed.
Now, it didn't bother me too much at first, because I'm a confident guy, and I don't usually let things like this throw me off, or at least I try not to... but when I just let the laughter pass and kind of rolled my eyes, and asked the question again, he did the same thing again even louder, therefore making the group laugh even louder again at me.
This time, I just got pissed off, though probably not visibly (at least to the guys, because they're not as good at reading body language, and there were two girls in the group, and about 4 or 5 guys, just so you get a better picture).
I knew that since I was pissed off, I was already in a weak position, one of reaction, and I tried to make some sort of comeback, but my frame was already thrown off, and basically he had succeeded in doing exactly what he wanted to.
So I just walked away, angry as hell and wondering why I didn't just clobber him right on the spot... which yeah, on second thought was probably not a good idea anyway.
So my question, now that you have a better picture of my full situation, is how do I avoid being out-alphaed, if you know what I mean? How can I be a leader instead of the guy that gets made fun of?
You're the Man, man.
-Aaron
CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:
Yowza... I totally know where you're coming from on this one...
I remember being tooled like this by guys in the past and getting REALLY frustrated by it.
There was this guy I remember way back when in high school that used to spray kids at random with the fire extinguisher in the halls. The one thing he counted on was that no one would call him on it because he was a big guy. He used to laugh and wink at the girls when he did it.
Same kind of juvenile behavior.
But there IS a cure for this kind of social shaming, and it's something you can use right away to reclaim your inner and outer Alpha Man Confidence.
Because this situation happens to guys at every age. I used to have constant issues with a guy who would make sly comments whenever he felt threatened or intimidated in meetings.
He was in his fifties, believe it or not.
There's a realization you must have about the dynamic in groups like this, and especially when guys start to interact in front of women.
First of all, despite what you're saying to the contrary, you ARE getting shaken up by this guy. Hey, most guys would get a little pissed, especially when group dynamics create an uncomfortable
situation.
And he's trying to embarrass you in front of the women in the group. I used to get very unsettled when I would be talking to guys in front of a group of women, because inevitably, they would try to make me look like a dork so that they could look better.
(Remember: This is the universal game of the Weak and Feeble - attack someone with underhanded insults to lower your social value and to raise his own.)
This is the "pecking order."
The typical response most guys have to being picked on is to react and let it get worse and worse, and their anger gets stronger and stronger.
And, yes, these guys will probably fall to the dark side. The dark side is when you start responding by finding someone else you can push around or tool to establish your place on the social ladder.
I wish I could say that we - as 'intelligent' human beings - have overcome this kind of behavior, but we haven't. It's part of the way people are. (Even women have their own pecking order.)4-CD set Approach Women - NOW!
So the reality is that you are letting them get to you because you believe that they are somehow being effective in lowering your social status.
When you get shaken up like this, you will find it very tough to come up with an intelligent comeback or witty response to put him in his place.
That was always the worst part for me. I'd get five steps away from a situation where someone had made me look like a fool, and THEN I'd come up with the perfect thing to say... "I should have said....!"
TOO LATE.
And it's because your mind can't be resourceful when you're in an anxious state like this. The worst time to try to be at your best is when you believe you're at your worst.
So what's the cure?
(To Be Continued)
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