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Originally Posted by Hotfuzz
Thanks it confirms my own feeling that she is a decent and family oriented person as well through our short conversations. If I was still single I will definitely try to woo her despite all the advice that are given in this forum about dating FLs.
However I just stand to destroy many lives if I take this step, given that I already have a family. Hence my statement that I am lucky to be back in the States and far away so that makes any attempt almost impossible. Even if I were to try to woo her, any long distance relationship like this is doomed to fail, it will also complicate our lives.
I think as men, most if not all of us think of ourselves as knight in shining armor, trying to rescue damsels in distress. Thinking that the girl will be forever grateful to pick them out from the crowd to rescue. I do feel that sometimes when I think of her. But to be realistic, reality is not a fairy tale that everybody lives happily ever after
It is better for me to suffer alone with my own yearnings for her than to make any attempt to try to woo her and destroy lives. Maybe our paths might cross again in Singapore if she still continues this line of work but I pray for her sake that she does not.
One positive thing that kind of came out of this is that I came home being more horny and having more sex with my wife to the extent that she asked if I took some Viagra in Asia lol.
On the skinny part, I think she is really good to embrace and hug. Physically this is what I like about her, my knight in shining armor ego feels like I am giving her warmth and protection by wrapping around her slim body. Both times I visited her I brought her lunch since I understand that she does not go out much while working in such conditions.
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I feel you bro, we are in quite a similar situation.
I'm married but started dating an ML. I feel that she's genuinely a good person but even then, i know this has got to stop one day.
I got too carried away and allowed things to escalate to this point and now the guilt is getting to me.