Do you get bored with your wife/gf?

[driedlemon3]

After years together do u still hold hands with your wife/gf? kiss her when you are home? Make effort to keep romance alive... or u stop after some time together?If you have stopped, is it because u felt tht u already "won" cos she is with u? u got bored with her? cos she aged and no longer as pretty? or u no longer love her?
I am asking to understand why cos many women including myself felt that romance seems to have an expiration with men... I know it takes both parties to keep it alive just trying to understand what are the common reasons. Thanks for sharing

[need_it]

After years together do u still hold hands with your wife/gf? kiss her when you are home? Make effort to keep romance alive... or u stop after some time together?If you have stopped, is it because u felt tht u already "won" cos she is with u? u got bored with her? cos she aged and no longer as pretty? or u no longer love her?
I am asking to understand why cos many women including myself felt that romance seems to have an expiration with men... I know it takes both parties to keep it alive just trying to understand what are the common reasons. Thanks for sharing

I think in many cases, it is because either one or both parties have taken each other and the relationship for granted. Romantic gestures come easy at the start of the relationship and I think it is normal that the intoxicating feeling eases off after the initial stage. This is the stage where the parties need to inject more efforts not to take the other for granted and to freshen things up. Humble two cents’ worth.

[Kovovo]

Everytime hold her hand she knows I need at least a bj liao. How to be bored?

[Xgenre]

As time passes, there is a comfort zone, a sense of familiarity. Familiarity breeds contempt and complacency. Most Singaporean guys are not emotionally expressive. Kissing the wife daily when he reaches home is not common. What are the minimum standards you think are reasonable? I used to think just being there by her side whenever I am needed is enough but that is seen as passive and unromantic. There are many guys who are good at sweet-talking but when a problem arises, they will not be there to take care and solve the issue. Apparently, girls like such sweet talking guys more than Mr Dependable.

We can give you many ideas and steps to take but the first step is always the hardest. Is he still willing to work to keep the romance? If he isn't, then whatever ideas you get here will not work. There is also a chance he will be turned off by what suggestions you give about keeping the romance alive. To you, those ideas are just suggestions. To him, those ideas may seem like requests/demands. If he doesn't love you the way you wished to be loved, will you still be willing to love him as expressively as you do now?

If he is not willing to try and you are not about to give up, then hopefully he will change his thinking over time. I suggest reading up on The 5 Love Languages (go google) and applying it in your life towards him. Hopefully, things get better and the sparks are re-ignited.

This is an anonymous forum. Perhaps you will like to give us some background about yourself and the problems you face. While a solution may not always be found, being able to let your frustration out is also a form of therapy. Some issues are so personal you cannot share with friends and family. Just make sure whatever you share cannot be easily traced back to you. Just a general idea.

[Jjcoolidge]

After years together do u still hold hands with your wife/gf? kiss her when you are home? Make effort to keep romance alive... or u stop after some time together?If you have stopped, is it because u felt tht u already "won" cos she is with u? u got bored with her? cos she aged and no longer as pretty? or u no longer love her?
I am asking to understand why cos many women including myself felt that romance seems to have an expiration with men... I know it takes both parties to keep it alive just trying to understand what are the common reasons. Thanks for sharing

Hi Driedlemon3, thanks for sharing what must be a very difficult issue for you and many ladies out there. Romance does seem to have an expiration date when the couple get comfortable with each other and other life issues take a higher precedence. It is a reality, but you do not have to be resigned to a relationship devoid of romance, tenderness or even sex.

Men are just as if not more susceptible than ladies to being lulled into a sense of benign contentment in a relationship. It is easy to blame work stress, financial burdens etc. Men just want to be at peace within their household. This sometimes results in a type of emotional detachment by men as they try to de-stress. Men usually are not predisposed to use communication as a de-stress mechanism.

Ladies, being blessed with greater emotional intuition, you are usually the first to detect this 'void.' Talk to your man with honesty and objectivity. Notice i do not use the word 'emotionally.' The surest way to get into an argument with a man is by bringing emotions into the situation. This might sound counterintuitive to ladies, but that's the way a man's brain is wired. Get your man into problem-solving mode and he would be more open to work with you.

Now, to address the elephant in the room. Some men unfortunately do get tired of their partners for a myriad of shallow reasons. Being argumentative, getting out of shape, getting too busy with their professions (yes, lady professionals), or with the kids etc. If honest objective communication can't get you anywhere with him, seek professional help. It's great that you acknowledge you too have a part to play in the solution.

[VoicesWithin]

Married 20 years. Kids teenagers ady. Still kiss my wife everyday. Hug in morning. Hold hands when out. She is still my gf, lover, wife, parenting partner and companion. So no, i am not bored with her.

I have seen many who have failed in the relationships/marriages. These are the things I have learned from them.

1. Zero down the quarrels. Sure, you want things your way. So does your partner. You win your quarrels, you lose your r/s, period.

2. Absent quarrels, then you can keep the humor and teasing alive.

3. Keep your expectations reasonable. You want an Angelina Jolie face with a Maria Ozawa sex appetite, make sure you can provide like Elon Musk and look like Brad Pitt.

Meaning don't expect anything from each other, including sex for guys romance for gals. You want romance 24/7 for 20 yrs. Your partner wants sex 6 times a day. Where does it end?

[ibanezjem555]

Agree with Bro.
Men needs that 20 mins of love then all done.. carry on with the day's routine ...
Women need that 20 mins spread out over 16 hours in the day.
Do hug and kiss yr wife n hold her hand.. after all the chionging, mental masturbation and wishful looking.. in the end, there will only be wife left.. the lady who stick with you thick and thin and endured all your rubbish..

[FreebiezWanker]

TS, u still in shape or have bloated up?

[Jjcoolidge]

TS, u still in shape or have bloated up?

Bro FreebiezWanker, with all due respect, even if TS was Miranda Kerr or Katie Perry, it doesn't make them any less immune to being in this situation.

[bigggbird69]

After so many years things do starts to get routine:(

[FreebiezWanker]

Bro FreebiezWanker, with all due respect, even if TS was Miranda Kerr or Katie Perry, it doesn't make them any less immune to being in this situation.

With all due respect, I beg to differ.

How to you give her a morning kiss if she looks like a pig? Think there's a bro here who even divorced his wife cos she starting bloating up.

But that's my own opinion...

[Jjcoolidge]

With all due respect, I beg to differ.

How to you give her a morning kiss if she looks like a pig? Think there's a bro here who even divorced his wife cos she starting bloating up.

But that's my own opinion...

Haha! If our ladies think that way, we'd be in trouble too.

[myluckyguy]

even when i get bored, i still have to make the effort to keep the relationship going, the cost to replace this when lost is just too high :o

[bigggbird69]

even when i get bored, i still have to make the effort to keep the relationship going, the cost to replace this when lost is just too high :o

It needs effort from both sides. sometimes can be challenging

[PandaFluff]

After years together do u still hold hands with your wife/gf? kiss her when you are home? Make effort to keep romance alive... or u stop after some time together?If you have stopped, is it because u felt tht u already "won" cos she is with u? u got bored with her? cos she aged and no longer as pretty? or u no longer love her?
I am asking to understand why cos many women including myself felt that romance seems to have an expiration with men... I know it takes both parties to keep it alive just trying to understand what are the common reasons. Thanks for sharing

One should never get complacent, that will mean inevitable failure no matter what aspect of what you do in life that is the main reason in today society why relationships fail.

[Stfighter]

Married 20 years. Kids teenagers ady. Still kiss my wife everyday. Hug in morning. Hold hands when out. She is still my gf, lover, wife, parenting partner and companion. So no, i am not bored with her.

I have seen many who have failed in the relationships/marriages. These are the things I have learned from them.

1. Zero down the quarrels. Sure, you want things your way. So does your partner. You win your quarrels, you lose your r/s, period.

2. Absent quarrels, then you can keep the humor and teasing alive.

3. Keep your expectations reasonable. You want an Angelina Jolie face with a Maria Ozawa sex appetite, make sure you can provide like Elon Musk and look like Brad Pitt.

Meaning don't expect anything from each other, including sex for guys romance for gals. You want romance 24/7 for 20 yrs. Your partner wants sex 6 times a day. Where does it end?

Thanks for sharing

[dazze]

Just hope the wife won’t be bored of you first );

[Bigbluebird]

One should never get complacent, that will mean inevitable failure no matter what aspect of what you do in life that is the main reason in today society why relationships fail.

You hit the right spot. Complacency is very much alive and present in our society. Singaporeans are very complacent by upbringing and comfort zoning, we cannot stand competition across all levels, that includes work and relationships. Reading up the stories in SBF, how do most affairs come about, it's mainly due to complacency in the other party's partner in failing to keep him/her satisfied and wanted. Why your gf/wife goes around getting screwed by other men, ask yourself, what you have done, is it enough and sufficient. If we strive to get A distinctions in exams, why not do the same in your everyday relationship with gf/wife? In this aspect, we Asians really lose out to ang mor men.

[driedlemon3]

I think in many cases, it is because either one or both parties have taken each other and the relationship for granted. Romantic gestures come easy at the start of the relationship and I think it is normal that the intoxicating feeling eases off after the initial stage. This is the stage where the parties need to inject more efforts not to take the other for granted and to freshen things up. Humble two cents’ worth.
Thanks for sharing, yes once we let it slide it will just go down till a day you wonder why u both end up in tht state where did all the nice gestures went to.

[driedlemon3]

As time passes, there is a comfort zone, a sense of familiarity. Familiarity breeds contempt and complacency. Most Singaporean guys are not emotionally expressive. Kissing the wife daily when he reaches home is not common. What are the minimum standards you think are reasonable? I used to think just being there by her side whenever I am needed is enough but that is seen as passive and unromantic. There are many guys who are good at sweet-talking but when a problem arises, they will not be there to take care and solve the issue. Apparently, girls like such sweet talking guys more than Mr Dependable.

We can give you many ideas and steps to take but the first step is always the hardest. Is he still willing to work to keep the romance? If he isn't, then whatever ideas you get here will not work. There is also a chance he will be turned off by what suggestions you give about keeping the romance alive. To you, those ideas are just suggestions. To him, those ideas may seem like requests/demands. If he doesn't love you the way you wished to be loved, will you still be willing to love him as expressively as you do now?

If he is not willing to try and you are not about to give up, then hopefully he will change his thinking over time. I suggest reading up on The 5 Love Languages (go google) and applying it in your life towards him. Hopefully, things get better and the sparks are re-ignited.

This is an anonymous forum. Perhaps you will like to give us some background about yourself and the problems you face. While a solution may not always be found, being able to let your frustration out is also a form of therapy. Some issues are so personal you cannot share with friends and family. Just make sure whatever you share cannot be easily traced back to you. Just a general idea.
Thanks for sharing. My questions aren't really specifically a personal one more like I had my fair share so did many of my female friends and I thot to ask here for some reasons, might help us understand better. And on the topic of Singaporean man not romantic, it isn't really the case. They seems to be fully capable of that no diff to western man I have dated both. Somehow, Singaporean man seems to have this thinking that once the woman is "won", they can let everything slide. Not every Singaporean man of cos but somehow there is this general observation.

[driedlemon3]

Hi Driedlemon3, thanks for sharing what must be a very difficult issue for you and many ladies out there. Romance does seem to have an expiration date when the couple get comfortable with each other and other life issues take a higher precedence. It is a reality, but you do not have to be resigned to a relationship devoid of romance, tenderness or even sex.

Men are just as if not more susceptible than ladies to being lulled into a sense of benign contentment in a relationship. It is easy to blame work stress, financial burdens etc. Men just want to be at peace within their household. This sometimes results in a type of emotional detachment by men as they try to de-stress. Men usually are not predisposed to use communication as a de-stress mechanism.

Ladies, being blessed with greater emotional intuition, you are usually the first to detect this 'void.' Talk to your man with honesty and objectivity. Notice i do not use the word 'emotionally.' The surest way to get into an argument with a man is by bringing emotions into the situation. This might sound counterintuitive to ladies, but that's the way a man's brain is wired. Get your man into problem-solving mode and he would be more open to work with you.

Now, to address the elephant in the room. Some men unfortunately do get tired of their partners for a myriad of shallow reasons. Being argumentative, getting out of shape, getting too busy with their professions (yes, lady professionals), or with the kids etc. If honest objective communication can't get you anywhere with him, seek professional help. It's great that you acknowledge you too have a part to play in the solution.

Thanks for sharing, it's really sad that they got tired of their woman. End of day its this same "argumentative", "out of shape", "busy" woman who has gave you your beautiful kids with damage to her body, stand by you thru thick and thin, bring home half the bacon, be there for you to grow old together. Its really hard to find someone you love and love you back. Many bros and sis here have not found that special person yet.

[driedlemon3]

Everytime hold her hand she knows I need at least a bj liao. How to be bored?
haha I guess this is you and your wife language of love

[driedlemon3]

Married 20 years. Kids teenagers ady. Still kiss my wife everyday. Hug in morning. Hold hands when out. She is still my gf, lover, wife, parenting partner and companion. So no, i am not bored with her.

I have seen many who have failed in the relationships/marriages. These are the things I have learned from them.

1. Zero down the quarrels. Sure, you want things your way. So does your partner. You win your quarrels, you lose your r/s, period.

2. Absent quarrels, then you can keep the humor and teasing alive.

3. Keep your expectations reasonable. You want an Angelina Jolie face with a Maria Ozawa sex appetite, make sure you can provide like Elon Musk and look like Brad Pitt.

Meaning don't expect anything from each other, including sex for guys romance for gals. You want romance 24/7 for 20 yrs. Your partner wants sex 6 times a day. Where does it end?
Great wisdom there, not many could rationalize this way especially point 3

[EtherC]

Love is just Nature’s chemical cocktail in your brain that lasts abbout 3 yrs or so. After that the passion fades if there is no work done by 2 parties. Your brain can only afford to be so illogical for so long. If you keep up the romance , kindness & mystery it will help lubricate the attrittion. When you have a kid,both male & female brain changes again to safekeep & raise the child. As ladies approach menopause during forties the female horniness will increase as Nature wants you to output as many babies as possible for successful procreation. However it screws older men as we lose testosterone production. So what happens is a mismatch in sexuality in the forties. If unaware shit happens especially in the modern setting with Tinder & overseas business trips etc. This is just Nature’s way of ensuring the younger stronger males fertilize so that procreation is achieved. Just remember our biological evolution is geared towards reproduction. So marriage being a social construct for social stability is a challenge towards our biology. In many cultures marriage is considered sacred because it tries to control our animalistic lust for a greater good. Mind over matter. It is a Work in progress until the end really.

[driedlemon3]

Agree with Bro.
Men needs that 20 mins of love then all done.. carry on with the day's routine ...
Women need that 20 mins spread out over 16 hours in the day.
Do hug and kiss yr wife n hold her hand.. after all the chionging, mental masturbation and wishful looking.. in the end, there will only be wife left.. the lady who stick with you thick and thin and endured all your rubbish..
You said it exactly as it is, woman need that love all day. That's why we are different and end of day not every woman standby you thru thick and thin and if she does a wise man will treasure her and never let her go cos it would be really hard to find another

[driedlemon3]

even when i get bored, i still have to make the effort to keep the relationship going, the cost to replace this when lost is just too high :o
Wise guy speaking. There might not even be a replacement out there.

[driedlemon3]

It needs effort from both sides. sometimes can be challenging

If the man initiate, most woman would respond well and reciprocate cos they have that warm feeling that their man still notice and treasure them.

[driedlemon3]

Just hope the wife won’t be bored of you first );
Less likely if the woman had married for love.

[driedlemon3]

You hit the right spot. Complacency is very much alive and present in our society. Singaporeans are very complacent by upbringing and comfort zoning, we cannot stand competition across all levels, that includes work and relationships. Reading up the stories in SBF, how do most affairs come about, it's mainly due to complacency in the other party's partner in failing to keep him/her satisfied and wanted. Why your gf/wife goes around getting screwed by other men, ask yourself, what you have done, is it enough and sufficient. If we strive to get A distinctions in exams, why not do the same in your everyday relationship with gf/wife? In this aspect, we Asians really lose out to ang mor men.
Thanks for sharing not many people have the courage to point out what's lacking in our own commmunity. Not every angmo man are romantic and not every asians are complacent like some bros here do share that they put in their best effort. It pretty much boils down to if the man can see the value of his woman. Is he thankful she sacrifice her body to have his kids? That she share the financial burden? Look after the kids, care and respect his parents? Be there with him thru thick and thin? Some man don't and treated their woman shabbily. They forgot that they have all the opportunities to meet cute gals, their woman also have equal opportunities to meet man who would not hesitate to win her over if the husband is not good to her.

[jaccy]

will get bored if you face the same person for a long time

[Gingerbreadg]

will get bored if you face the same person for a long time

True statement, but as we get older with the same person , the bond is also stronger , breaking up likely due to seeing true nature of GF / Wife.

[plok]

To the women who expect romance from their man. Be it a morning kiss, hugs etc, do they do the same for their man? I’m sure if they do their man will reciprocate. At least for me I will love it when my wife takes the initiative to give me a kiss.

[bigggbird69]

If the man initiate, most woman would respond well and reciprocate cos they have that warm feeling that their man still notice and treasure them.

sadly my case is the opposite.:o

[John0721]

If a wife can't perform BJ, hate the smell of cum and making love session. Then dun blame your husband find another woman to do it for him.

[CIMCOF]

With all due respect, I beg to differ.

How to you give her a morning kiss if she looks like a pig? Think there's a bro here who even divorced his wife cos she starting bloating up.

But that's my own opinion...

what if your gf or wife never mind your face look like wild boars..? Its a two way traffic i guess...

[willroyce]

I feel that there must always be effort no matter how many years together.. Must always try to rekindle the spark and it must not die.. IF not later divorce like me la hahaha

[willroyce]

sadly my case is the opposite.:o

hahahha i think we same team bro

[willroyce]

To the women who expect romance from their man. Be it a morning kiss, hugs etc, do they do the same for their man? I’m sure if they do their man will reciprocate. At least for me I will love it when my wife takes the initiative to give me a kiss.

yea bro small things matter alot too.. i agree with you

[willroyce]

Haha! If our ladies think that way, we'd be in trouble too.

hahahah i agree with you bro

[willroyce]

Bro FreebiezWanker, with all due respect, even if TS was Miranda Kerr or Katie Perry, it doesn't make them any less immune to being in this situation.

Looks does matter but it doesnt determine a relationship. Personality and commitment does.

[iluvbreast]

My 2 cents worth lah, no leh i still hold my wife's hand when we go out, and she still demand to be kissed everyday when we met after work. We don't think so much about why we are still doing this but that's what we did while dating so why stop?

My wife always tells her friends I am not the romantic and I am practical and pretty thrifty to the point I am a bit kiam (stingy) :D because I wear cheap brands like Uniqolo, Decathlon etc. We eat at hawker centres and food mostly and inexpensive restaurants.

She was very surprised that I splurged on the ring, I explained min 40 years so actually ok, she was like.....

So no, I don't give flowers or chocolates on birthdays, anniversaries, X'mas, Valentine's day etc in fact I always bought practical presents (only on birthday) that my gf (now wife) would give me that look.

After marrying now, I give cash instead, and my wife get 1 more time (more money) on wedding anniversary.

I saw this the other day, it's not that we stop loving our wife, it's just that our love now includes life's essentials 材米油盐, responsibilities that as men we have to undertake.

Yes we love peace in the household, it is shelter from all the nonsense we put up outside (Yes I hate working from home, all the temper flare from work), sometimes we seek relief (or release) outside, it's difficult when you see she is so tired and she doze off while waiting for the bathroom.

And no, giving birth to the children do not damage the body. Your body is damaged because you don't take care of it.

[vendomy8282]

If i say no bored, is cheating anyway. For me, when i get bored, i will scroll into sugarbook lady and have a chat with her but not letting my gf know.

[iluvbreast]

If a wife can't perform BJ, hate the smell of cum and making love session. Then dun blame your husband find another woman to do it for him.

Do you go down on your wife then?

[mikestc]

After years together do u still hold hands with your wife/gf? kiss her when you are home? Make effort to keep romance alive... or u stop after some time together?If you have stopped, is it because u felt tht u already "won" cos she is with u? u got bored with her? cos she aged and no longer as pretty? or u no longer love her?
I am asking to understand why cos many women including myself felt that romance seems to have an expiration with men... I know it takes both parties to keep it alive just trying to understand what are the common reasons. Thanks for sharing

YES need to keep the romance alive with your spouse then you can have all the sex you want.. the feeling is diff from having it with outside partner.....

[driedlemon3]

sadly my case is the opposite.:o

Maybe her language of love (ref to 5 language of love) is not touch and words. Many women have act of service as their language of love, they like their husband to help them with chores, pick them after work, mind the kids etc. Maybe you can discover her language of love?

[driedlemon3]

To the women who expect romance from their man. Be it a morning kiss, hugs etc, do they do the same for their man? I’m sure if they do their man will reciprocate. At least for me I will love it when my wife takes the initiative to give me a kiss.

yes the woman must initiate also so that her man will feel loved. I believe display of affection and sex should also be initiated by woman so it's a 2 way traffic

[Xgenre]

Maybe her language of love (ref to 5 language of love) is not touch and words. Many women have act of service as their language of love, they like their husband to help them with chores, pick them after work, mind the kids etc. Maybe you can discover her language of love?

Wah, not bad. 5 languages of love. Glad you read through and may things be better at home

[driedlemon3]

Love is just Nature’s chemical cocktail in your brain that lasts abbout 3 yrs or so. After that the passion fades if there is no work done by 2 parties. Your brain can only afford to be so illogical for so long. If you keep up the romance , kindness & mystery it will help lubricate the attrittion. When you have a kid,both male & female brain changes again to safekeep & raise the child. As ladies approach menopause during forties the female horniness will increase as Nature wants you to output as many babies as possible for successful procreation. However it screws older men as we lose testosterone production. So what happens is a mismatch in sexuality in the forties. If unaware shit happens especially in the modern setting with Tinder & overseas business trips etc. This is just Nature’s way of ensuring the younger stronger males fertilize so that procreation is achieved. Just remember our biological evolution is geared towards reproduction. So marriage being a social construct for social stability is a challenge towards our biology. In many cultures marriage is considered sacred because it tries to control our animalistic lust for a greater good. Mind over matter. It is a Work in progress until the end really.
well said!

[driedlemon3]

Wah, not bad. 5 languages of love. Glad you read through and may things be better at home

I actually read that book a long time ago, thanks for bringing it up and reminded me again :)

[TheMentalist]

Maybe her language of love (ref to 5 language of love) is not touch and words. Many women have act of service as their language of love, they like their husband to help them with chores, pick them after work, mind the kids etc. Maybe you can discover her language of love?
My primary love language is words of affirmation, follows by quality time and acts of service. Surprisingly physical touch is 4th which I thought would rank higher for me lol.

[lotsfits80]

After years together do u still hold hands with your wife/gf? kiss her when you are home? Make effort to keep romance alive... or u stop after some time together?If you have stopped, is it because u felt tht u already "won" cos she is with u? u got bored with her? cos she aged and no longer as pretty? or u no longer love her?
I am asking to understand why cos many women including myself felt that romance seems to have an expiration with men... I know it takes both parties to keep it alive just trying to understand what are the common reasons. Thanks for sharing

Takes 2 to tango, both also need to:

1. take care of appearance, always try to look nice for each other, especially when going out together. some people just become unattractive when they got married because they never care about their appearance and think that someone already wants them so no need to look attractive anymore.

2. show affection. if there are kids, even side-hugging, shoulder grab, a pat on the head or back, tapping on wrist/elbow/hand is good.

3. if no kids or kids not around, hug and kiss often. hugs release dopamine hormone, which makes us feel good and reduce stress. have quickies or full on sex if possible. if wife rejects advances from husband too often, husband will eventually be unmotivated to be intimate anymore (nobody likes to feel keep being rejected, it's awful). otherwise, try to seduce each other. learn each other kinks and play to it. purposely/accidentally explosing yourself, compromising position, dressing sexily, brushes/humps on sensitive parts, all good.

4. when argue, always remember in the bottom of the heart that you love your spouse. you can argue, but always say "don't be like this la, i love you, but you should not do this", and if apologizing, always say "sorry dear, i'm wrong. i love you ok." some say make-up sex is one of the best sex :p

[piichai]

I actually read that book a long time ago, thanks for bringing it up and reminded me again :)

Guys, Gary chapman 5 language is passe and old school

We need to go deeper. Many other techniques

[nocsag]

Married 20 years. Kids teenagers ady. Still kiss my wife everyday. Hug in morning. Hold hands when out. She is still my gf, lover, wife, parenting partner and companion. So no, i am not bored with her.

I have seen many who have failed in the relationships/marriages. These are the things I have learned from them.

1. Zero down the quarrels. Sure, you want things your way. So does your partner. You win your quarrels, you lose your r/s, period.

2. Absent quarrels, then you can keep the humor and teasing alive.

3. Keep your expectations reasonable. You want an Angelina Jolie face with a Maria Ozawa sex appetite, make sure you can provide like Elon Musk and look like Brad Pitt.

Meaning don't expect anything from each other, including sex for guys romance for gals. You want romance 24/7 for 20 yrs. Your partner wants sex 6 times a day. Where does it end?

you got side biz apart from ur wife?

[bigggbird69]

hahahha i think we same team bro
omg....i pity u like i pity myself:D

[bigggbird69]

Maybe her language of love (ref to 5 language of love) is not touch and words. Many women have act of service as their language of love, they like their husband to help them with chores, pick them after work, mind the kids etc. Maybe you can discover her language of love?

Thanks for the advise ;)

[piichai]

Married 20 years. Kids teenagers ady. Still kiss my wife everyday. Hug in morning. Hold hands when out. She is still my gf, lover, wife, parenting partner and companion. So no, i am not bored with her.
?

Good to hear that you are still so lovey dovey but why are you here since you are so satisfied?

[bleach51001]

sure will get bored,
always the same pussy....
sometime will paid to get some different pussy

[otamay]

Good to hear that you are still so lovey dovey but why are you here since you are so satisfied?

Good poser question here. :):D

[piichai]

Good poser question here. :):D

Voice still stay within and no answer.:D

[VoicesWithin]

Good to hear that you are still so lovey dovey but why are you here since you are so satisfied?

I come to read? Not everyone that goes geylang is looking for a pros, no? Some go eat food. Some go walk walk. I come here means I must look for woman? Er....u ok not?

[piichai]

I come to read? Not everyone that goes geylang is looking for a pros, no? Some go eat food. Some go walk walk. I come here means I must look for woman? Er....u ok not?

Come here and look for food?
U r the one that is not OK.
Go makan sutra lah.

This is a sex forum dude

[Xgenre]

I come here means I must look for woman? Er....u ok not?

Not that people doubt your answer but he did ask a valid question.

[iluvbreast]

I come to read? Not everyone that goes geylang is looking for a pros, no? Some go eat food. Some go walk walk. I come here means I must look for woman? Er....u ok not?

Don't have to flare up, we are not doubting your explanation, take all posts here with a pinch of salt.

If your situation is as what you claimed, it is great, continue to enjoy it and don't mind what others say. If it is not, only yourself knows and don't mind what others say also.

I mean it's a members' forum, as long as you are a member, go ahead and post...the rest, the moderators will handle. :D

[VoicesWithin]

Don't have to flare up, we are not doubting your explanation, take all posts here with a pinch of salt.

If your situation is as what you claimed, it is great, continue to enjoy it and don't mind what others say. If it is not, only yourself knows and don't mind what others say also.

I mean it's a members' forum, as long as you are a member, go ahead and post...the rest, the moderators will handle. :D

Flare up? Lol

Nah. Can't be bothered. Just perplexed at the level of IQ here. No disrespect to him. Didn't bother to reply till he asked a 2nd time, rudely. There is no need to make fun of my nick. The seed of jealousy though. Yup, your advice should apply to those questioning. It is a forum and anyone can post anything. Believe me or not, up to readers. I would specially post to tell a lie? haha. If want to tell lies, I got better stories

[piichai]

Didn't bother to reply till he asked a 2nd time, rudely. There is no need to make fun of my nick. The seed of jealousy though. Yup, your advice should apply to those questioning. It is a forum and anyone can post anything. Believe me or not, up to readers. I would specially post to tell a lie? haha. If want to tell lies, I got better stories

Why bother then on the 2nd time?
Good that you can be consistent on your principle.

So you felt that the making fun of your nick even it was not directly communicated at you ?
Good.

Nothing to jealous abt really. You have your own life. We have our own.
Treasure your pathetic life before it is taken away from you.

Go and tell your stories, lies or truth, better or worst if that makes you feel good.

[willroyce]

i mean to keep the relationship lively u always gotta spice things up on bed and work on your relationship...

[willroyce]

I actually read that book a long time ago, thanks for bringing it up and reminded me again :)

that was the first book my ex gave me hahahah

[willroyce]

if wanna get bored too much means go sugarbook.com or tinder find FL or SB...

[willroyce]

what if your gf or wife never mind your face look like wild boars..? Its a two way traffic i guess...

hahahah yes very true.. even if look like zayn malik.. still got problem

[willroyce]

To the women who expect romance from their man. Be it a morning kiss, hugs etc, do they do the same for their man? I’m sure if they do their man will reciprocate. At least for me I will love it when my wife takes the initiative to give me a kiss.

yes the effort matters... any relationship requires time and effort

[Xiaoboi123]

Yea, women also likes those little things we guys do. I still tell my other half i love her everyday :)

[viper]

Wife get bored with me after child birth. Think we get bored with one another..
No sex or even talk for years...

[kt88_2]

Wife get bored with me after child birth. Think we get bored with one another..
No sex or even talk for years...

Same here ,sooner later is divorce....

[iluvbreast]

Wife get bored with me after child birth. Think we get bored with one another..
No sex or even talk for years...

That's sad, it is because your wife is too focus on your children?

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Having a relationship is bad and getting married is worse. That is precisely why I am single.

[piichai]

Having a relationship is bad and getting married is worse. That is precisely why I am single.

Depends on 3 things for me
What is your age
Which stage of life you are in.
Who is your partner.

Need me to elaborate on 1st 2?
For 3rd point, If you get the right one, you regret not knowing her earlier.

You may be less than 50

[-|0|-]

Depends on 3 things for me
What is your age
Which stage of life you are in.
Who is your partner.

Need me to elaborate on 1st 2?
For 3rd point, If you get the right one, you regret not knowing her earlier.

You may be less than 50

Thank you bro, for elaborating the combination of factors or rather the permutation of factors. I am currently 55 this year.