Making the same mistake

[Ccsor]

Hubby visit pros n got found out by wife unfortunately. Hubby promised not to do it again. What are the chances of hub doing it again? Then the wife suggested he can go visit if he still wants continue, but he will not touch his wife at all. Is the wife plain stupid or things too good to be true?
Any bros can give ur comments here.

[jondoe]

The chances he will visit again is huge. This is not a just simply a habit it is much bigger than that. It is called bondage. It is not simply the sex that pulls him back again and again....it is the excitement of doing IT.

if you are sick you will need to seek doctor, if the sickness is so serious then you need a specialist. Before the doctor able to tell you anything, you need to open up by telling him what is the problem (he needs to admit and be open about his problem). Then doctor will advise him to stop eating "unhealthy" meal and start the medication. He needs to starve out from those unhealthy habit and replace with the healthy options. This will take a while and best if he has someone to "nurse" him during the sickness. After he slowly recovered, will he get "sick" again? Yes...easily. he needs to maintain that "healthy" lifestyle and guard his mind not to feed his "needs". Even that he will still easily fall again. He needs to fight this battle for the rest of his life and he must have something big enough to keep fighting the battle and it is even bigger than himself..bigger than the marriage itself.

Just a 2 cents from a person who is still battling.

jon

[devilchan78]

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[Triple70]

Wife is trying to control the hubby.
Wife is trying to kill the relationship.
Wife is trying to be lonely.

[Ccsor]

Wife is trying to control the hubby.
Wife is trying to kill the relationship.
Wife is trying to be lonely.

So is it better The wife turn a blind eye to everything? What should the wife do in this case? She gotta safeguard her health. Do enlighten bro Triple70.

[Greendevil]

the wife is clever. she know it no point to control things that you cant control. So jolly well lay the cards and protect herself than to unknowly kana 4D.

[Rickey]

So is it better The wife turn a blind eye to everything? What should the wife do in this case? She gotta safeguard her health. Do enlighten bro Triple70.
Yes sis Ccsor is quite rite. The fear & danger of contracting STI and passing it on to wifey is very real if he doesn't take enough precautions. Cos he is having sex wif many other women who in turn are having sex daily with many other men who may already hv been infected. One small hole can sink a great ship. Many wifeys are known to hv been infected in this way by their erring hubbies.

[BiRd13]

Agreed that the mistake/choice made is definitely very high.
A Leopard Can Never Change it's spot...
Dog can never change eat shit =D

Well, the wife is not stupid... Probably just love the husband too much, or have lots of responsibility (Family commitment etc) that don't wish to give up... Hence chose to Open 1 Eyes, Close 1 Eyes...

[heartkorr]

This i dont agree.... its up to the determination of the individual... but of cos it will make it easier if the wife helps to sooth the urge in a few days...

[wittyman]

hubby sure eat again, and wife better close one eye if want to maintain the family, or divorce ...

[porscheclub]

Hubby visit pros n got found out by wife unfortunately. Hubby promised not to do it again. What are the chances of hub doing it again? Then the wife suggested he can go visit if he still wants continue, but he will not touch his wife at all. Is the wife plain stupid or things too good to be true?
Any bros can give ur comments here.

Firstly the wife needs to find out what's wrong with their sex life.

If she stops letting hubby touch her & give him green light then all Hell breaks loose. He'll live in a brothel as long he can afford it.

Health. Visit specialist together & both do a screening then show him all the brochures on syphilis etc

Start practising safe sex all over again.

#1 root problem is there's something wrong in the love between them & men needs sex not to live but it's an addictive drug. Get involve with all the love making & you'll both be healthier+happier. Remember, women have better stamina in sex than men. Drain him & he'll be your dog :p

[Ccsor]

Firstly the wife needs to find out what's wrong with their sex life.

If she stops letting hubby touch her & give him green light then all Hell breaks loose. He'll live in a brothel as long he can afford it.

Health. Visit specialist together & both do a screening then show him all the brochures on syphilis etc

Start practising safe sex all over again.

#1 root problem is there's something wrong in the love between them & men needs sex not to live but it's an addictive drug. Get involve with all the love making & you'll both be healthier+happier. Remember, women have better stamina in sex than men. Drain him & he'll be your dog :p

Dear bro,
In this case it is difficult to know what went wrong becos the hubby chose to keep quiet but only says its his own problem. So no way to know!

Secondly, health wise, the wife after dng a recent women health chk discover that she has acute inflammation and needs to go for a minor laser op then can recover. Hubby knows but even though so, the hubby chose bot to go for screening and vaccination even though there r prevention measures for such health issues for the wife and hubby.

#1 root dilemma:
The wife is caught in such situation and becos she worry if she dun let the hub touch and he will break loose, on the other hand if she does, she will be prone to more health dangers. Guess in this case the hub dont seem to care the welfare of the wife. The wife sort of gave up on this relationship, but becos her gal is still young at 6 yrs old. So for her gal sake, she chose to tolerate. But do u guys think even with safety protection, the wife dun get it? I suppose risk is still there bah.
The wife is clever but no use. Sometimes its still a bliss for the women if u dun know anything. But in this case, it's unfortunate that the wife knows.
Piece of advice for women: sometimes its better not to know so much. In this circumstances, its best if the hubby dont touch their wife at all. Which is often the case for many men. Likewise for some of the wife male friends. Dont u think so?

[Ccsor]

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Good quote. Just a few simple words describes all.

[Ccsor]

Yes sis Ccsor is quite rite. The fear & danger of contracting STI and passing it on to wifey is very real if he doesn't take enough precautions. Cos he is having sex wif many other women who in turn are having sex daily with many other men who may already hv been infected. One small hole can sink a great ship. Many wifeys are known to hv been infected in this way by their erring hubbies.

Yes bro Rickey. Putting aside the love and relationship between both. Getting STI is an issue. I dun think condom is 100% protection. I have heard recently from my friend's male friend who got HIV positive. Somemore, the guy is known not to visit such places frequently. Jesus!! So it's really worrying especially for the wife in this case.

[Ccsor]

the wife is clever. she know it no point to control things that you cant control. So jolly well lay the cards and protect herself than to unknowly kana 4D.

Bro, yes u r right. The wife wanted to stay healthy for her gal as still young. No doubt these words come out from her mouth, its rather sad and hurtful for her. All are human beings, hv feelings etc. For her i guess its a torture becos since they are only into eighth yr of their marriage, it had already turn out like this. She finds it difficult to move on and also dun know till when the marriage can last.
Sometimes from the financial aspects, it is difficult to make a decision also. The hubby makes a good salary and is a director of a firm. Being rich also creates social problem. I guess too many money makes ppl turn devil.
This is a hard truth fact in the current society.

[Ccsor]

Agreed that the mistake/choice made is definitely very high.
A Leopard Can Never Change it's spot...
Dog can never change eat shit =D

Well, the wife is not stupid... Probably just love the husband too much, or have lots of responsibility (Family commitment etc) that don't wish to give up... Hence chose to Open 1 Eyes, Close 1 Eyes...

Thanks bro Bird13 for ur comments. In this case, i would comment the wife's love for her hubby has since more or less comes to a stagnant stage. But becos of the sake of kids, she chose to tolerate bah. But doesnt mean the hubby can do whatever he wishes, cos we dun know to what limits the wife can reach. Its a matter of time it will explode. Usually i would say the men doesnt initiate divorce, it's usually the women. Correct me if i m wrong.

[porscheclub]

Well then it's very very easy for her. All she needs to do now is raise flag for divorce, pick up the phone & call a lawyer.

Under Sg Law (if there're reg. here) men cannot initiate for divorce but she can. She'll be better off & still live a comfortable life with alimony then hubby can screw anyone he wishes without conscience anymore so everyone happy.

[Ccsor]

Well then it's very very easy for her. All she needs to do now is raise flag for divorce, pick up the phone & call a lawyer.

Under Sg Law (if there're reg. here) men cannot initiate for divorce but she can. She'll be better off & still live a comfortable life with alimony then hubby can screw anyone he wishes without conscience anymore so everyone happy.

Erm however there's no evidence bah. Just got snapshots of fixed location on the handphone (referring to location services). So its not concrete evidence yet. Sign some things to ponder bah.

[sean69]

Under Sg Law (if there're reg. here) men cannot initiate for divorce but she can.

bro.. are you sure men cannot initiate divorce??!!???!!! :eek:

[porscheclub]

Erm however there's no evidence bah. Just got snapshots of fixed location on the handphone (referring to location services). So its not concrete evidence yet. Sign some things to ponder bah.

Well. It's her choice then. The heart is gone so why keep the body?

bro.. are you sure men cannot initiate divorce??!!???!!! :eek:

Yes, tried & tested. Stupid law. Men cannot even self declare adultery & seek divorce so we're at the mercy of women. If they allow you to flirt & have mistresses then that's it.

[4getful]

The wife can always go n play with other men's cock. Juz dun understand y ppl always have the thinking of a pros is dirty n a woman who fuck by her bf is not dirty. One is with condom n one most likely is raw. Where is the raw is war slogan gone to? Sometimes i think when one is tired of family life, juz say so. Dun need use the term adultery or cheating as an excuse one.

[4getful]

Yes, tried & tested. Stupid law. Men cannot even self declare adultery & seek divorce so we're at the mercy of women. If they allow you to flirt & have mistresses then that's it.

Don't worry, i believe the wc will get fairer n sober sooner or later. No women will be able to play the pity card. The real victim will be protected n the lair will be thrown into jail for false accusation. I believe no men shall live in fear :D

[Ccsor]

Well. It's her choice then. The heart is gone so why keep the body?



Yes, tried & tested. Stupid law. Men cannot even self declare adultery & seek divorce so we're at the mercy of women. If they allow you to flirt & have mistresses then that's it.

Men can seek divorce based on grounds that the wife has affair outside and fails to commit to the family, so the law is equal is fair in favour of both gender.
I think in this case, the kids are the one to suffer. Ppl can just divorce if the heart is gone, the love and commitment is gone. But end up is it will affect the growing up of the kids in the future. So I do not think men are at the mercy of the women but women are also at the mercy of men too.

[DemonicSS]

Actually, there's really not enough information to go on for this issue. It really can be of several reasons - Wife's ego on trying to have a "happy family" infront of others, wife already knows that their sexual relationship have already broken down etc...

Though on a personal opinion, I dun think the wife is being nice, I feel she is giving the hubby an ultimatum and its a threat easy enough to enforce on her side

[madman]

Yes, tried & tested. Stupid law. Men cannot even self declare adultery & seek divorce so we're at the mercy of women. If they allow you to flirt & have mistresses then that's it.

Err bro... Guess what. I have successfully filed for divorce in SG. So can file and get divorced.

[porscheclub]

Err bro... Guess what. I have successfully filed for divorce in SG. So can file and get divorced.

Oh well unless you can prove that she has unreasonable behaviour/s or committed adultery or file for separation.

If she didn't do anything unruly & refuses to agree on your divorce then the hubby will have to suck thumb, move out & wait for few years Including attending counselling. :(

[Rickey]

Well. It's her choice then. The heart is gone so why keep the body?

Yes, tried & tested. Stupid law. Men cannot even self declare adultery & seek divorce so we're at the mercy of women. If they allow you to flirt & have mistresses then that's it.

Men can seek divorce based on grounds that the wife has affair outside and fails to commit to the family, so the law is equal is fair in favour of both gender.
... So I do not think men are at the mercy of the women but women are also at the mercy of men too.

Err bro... Guess what. I have successfully filed for divorce in SG. So can file and get divorced.
Yes, it's definitely possible for husbands to file for divorce, many hv done so in the past...but there must be justifiable grounds to do so which would be considered by the court...Read from some stats some time ago tat 60% of divorces were initiated by the wifeys & the remaining 40% were requested by husbands...

Yes bro Rickey. Putting aside the love and relationship between both. Getting STI is an issue. I dun think condom is 100% protection. I have heard recently from my friend's male friend who got HIV positive. Somemore, the guy is known not to visit such places frequently. Jesus!! So it's really worrying especially for the wife in this case.
Yes, dear sis...STI is really worrying for pple involving in sexual relations ...condoms like everything else hv no 100% guarantee it works ...so you must take precautions yrself by getting yrself medically examined by a doctor against a myriad of such infections...