Anyone else like me who never have outside-marriage sexual encounters?

[seventyfour]

Hi all,
This is my first post and I am new here. I have been reading posts from SBF recently with great interest. Those stories are good and I wish I have similar experience as you guys.
A little intro to myself:
I am 38 yrs old married for 12 years. Till date I have only have sex with one woman in my whole life and that is my wife. And my wife is not a virgin when I first meet her. So unfair. But she told me she was raped at very young age.

I do have a close sex encounter with a Singaporean syt during my uni day. There was this girl who is the hottest girl in the department I am studying. Many guys tried to get close to her. She is always surrounded by guys in the lecture hall and everywhere she goes. I never tried to approach her, being shy, I only look at her and admire from a distance. This is the very thing that caught her attention. She was curious why I am the only guy in the department who have seem so disinterested in her. And another thing that caught her attention about me: I drove a Honda civic to school and I came from a rich family living in 3 storey landed property.
To cut story short, somehow we got the chance to chat and slowly we got into a boy-girl relationship. We have many times locked in either her bedroom or my bedroom. We hug, we kissed but we have never took off our clothes. Because I have a religion that cannot allow pre-marital sex and I obeyed all too well. The most advance thing I did is to have rub her nipples (which I had never seen at all).
Then later we broke off due to many disagreements and cannot really get along. And later I graduated, went to work, met my wife at workplace and so on and so forth...

And my wife turns out to be an asexual super career woman who is currently at director level, while I am a super-charged up high sex drive man in desperate for a good sex. And I never experienced a BJ before. How pathetic! I so wish I can learn yoga or gym to be able to bend my body to suck my own dick.

It feel strange that I am now looking for an affair. It is so unright but I am so wanting it. And reading the stories here just make me feel envious. But I do admit I am not good looking and that probably explain why I have no sexual encounters.

I have never tried prostitute before in my whole life and in fact I have never even seen a prostitute real life (only see porn) as I never went to those Geylang districts before. I kind of feel proud to be so 'clean and pure' till now but my sex drive is way too high to maintain this state. I am thinking to just go to geylang next week to try just one time...

Is there anyone here who is just as "unfortunate" as me? :)

[chrismichael]

is this some kind of scam to lure ladies to this goody-two-shoes here?

[seventyfour]

No! This has never occurred in my mind. I'm just venting out my frustration and envy on why everyone is having interesting encounters while I never had once, and wonder do I belong to a minority or a majority of people having same fate as me.

[freezetheDB]

once you set foot into the dark side
there is no turning back

[xxxaddict]

And I never experienced a BJ before. How pathetic! I so wish I can learn yoga or gym to be able to bend my body to suck my own dick.



you want to suck your own dick? :eek:

ah well... to each his own.

good luck on whoremongering journey:rolleyes:

[Loner08]

Bro why dun u try to hv a gd talk with your wife abt your needs and see how u both can compromised. Let her understand your needs n it can act as a gentle warning/reminder to her as well. My guess is that it might hv something to do with her past (being rape) n thats why she is not so much into sex. A honest exchange will help u both to understand each other more. Anyway i personally don't feel that this is a gd reason to venture outwards if ur partner remains faithful.

[xinsuile]

As to what bro Loner08 said, maybe talking it out could help...

once you enter the dark side.. no turning back..

[francesco]

once you set foot into the dark side
there is no turning back

Agree, I always tell myself to retire but always unsuccessful :p

[AmericanExpress]

And I never experienced a BJ before. How pathetic! I so wish I can learn yoga or gym to be able to bend my body to suck my own dick. reading that is just gold bro :D

[SSOU]

Is there anyone here who is just as "unfortunate" as me? :)
You are already very fortunate.

You are rich !!

I am like you, didn't have sex before but that's bcos I am poor, I have no money !

At least you have a wife to fxxk. I don't even have a gf. And I cannot pcc bcos I hand was cut-off by the owner who caught me stealing his bread. Yes, i stole his bread bcos I was too hungry !!

[Teddman]

Bro seventyfour, I think you are confusing 2 issues - Having an affair versus having a sexual encounter. You don't need an affair to have your first try at BJ. If you want to clock your sexual mileage you need money (which you clearly have) and a good cover story.

To me, nothing wrong with trying out sexual encounters. My Encik in army used to say - My heart is for my wife and my wife only. But my cock, that one must share. If you have high sex drive, either you find your release or your marriage will suffer. If you cannot stand it and die die must release, then go and find your release. Keep it separate from your emotions. To me, that is still being faithful to your wife - People say I am warped in my thinking but honestly, I know myself. I didn't choose the way my body and my hormones were made.

If you have an affair, you are wrong. Simple as that. Go and pay S$750 for a good and safe bang. And remember that it is only a bang, a release, and nothing more.

[loneyheart]

Because I have a religion that cannot allow pre-marital sex and I obeyed all too well.

I have never tried prostitute before in my whole life and in fact I have never even seen a prostitute real life (only see porn) as I never went to those Geylang districts before. I kind of feel proud to be so 'clean and pure' till now but my sex drive is way too high to maintain this state.

Bro b strong I respect u n yr will power ... n continue to obey yr religion ... n keep it up to b proud to be so 'clean and pure' ... dum ever log in again here ... u will definitely lead t way to heaven 1 day

only now we bros here r not so clean n pure BUT we r in n out between heaven n hell :D

[illimitable]

Your breed is very rare.

[Icecreamsoda]

Hey bro !! I understand how u feel !! My ex is also a super charged up career woman. Like what some of the bros had mentioned, think its good to have a talk wit your wife about it. But if she really don't wanna work things out, your hand can only take care of things for so long. Plus we have fantasies cos we are healthy, energetic men !! :D Feel free to do what it takes to meet your needs at times, but always remember its best to pay and have a clean deal rather than have an affair and worried about potential wreck to your family.

Just my 2 cents :D

[Brainstorm]

http://www.sammyboysexforum.com/showthread.php?t=376665&highlight=

Please calm down, think of the direction you wish to take with your life, then make your move.

[will88]

I will think that communication is the best tool for TS to use. But the issue is whether can TS communicate with his wife on the issue of his high sex drive? How will his wife react after that? If its positive, then everything is good, but if his wife think otherwise, what will happen to their marriage?

Saying is always easier than doing it. TS know his wife best, having this topic as his maiden post just shows how desperate he is in to venter his frustration.

My take is for TS to go with what he is thinking of what he wants to do. True that there's no turning back once you step into the dark side. There's too many things that TS will need to ponder before he decides. And either way, I feel that it's not going to be an easy decision.

Good luck to you, Bro.