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PeggyWet

12-05-2005, 09:18 PM

I wish to thank all mature adults members here for their patience. I cannot post so fast bcos I am under moderation & I am also working.

Ok, since I think members here are quite receptive to having a female member like me discussing her problem, I shall do so and wish to thank membere for their willingness to have me here. In fact, it would be good to have an honest views from the opposite sex. My problem is this:

As you know, I am getting married soon in 6 months time and I have been an item with my bf for almost 7 years already. During these 7 years, we have been having sex on a regular basis. But I during these times, I found that I am not satisfied. Don't get me wrong, I don't expect my bf or future hubby to be as strong like the porno actor but at least I expect him to be sensitive to my needs. You see, everytime we had sex, my hubby was able to excite me but before I could reach orgasm, he always ejaculated leaving me in the lurch. After he ejaculated, he seemed tired & fall asleep. I tried talking to him many times but he said that he has tried his best. At times, I felt like his sex toy !! I would like to know whether this is common in other bedrooms ?

Another problem I would like to know is how rampant actually is for hubby to go out and "steal eat" ? I was quite alarmed when I surfed this forum, I read so many Field Reports (referred to as FR) from married man relating their "steal eat" experience. Most, if not all of them derived so much sextisfaction from doing so. Now, I am having cold feet (though 2nd thought may not be the appropriate word) about getting married. What if my bf has been doing the same thing behind my back all these while ? Will he continue to do so after our marriage ?

I don't know whether it is pscyhological or not but I lately felt that he is not so eager and enthusiastic about sex as before though I believe I am still attractive and sexy as before with reasonably good figure of 36C 24 36. What is the reason for hubby to go out & "steal eat" ?

Also, if he continues with his habit of leaving me in the lurch after sex, does that mean I would have to suffer sexually for the rest of my life ? Yes, I did try to masturbate using my fingers & vibrators at times but I feel bad after that. So, I keep masturbation to a minimum.

I hope to get answers from both gentlemen and lady members here.

Thank you.

Peggy

PeggyWet

12-05-2005, 09:24 PM

I have read the bits about the reputation point.

I have checked my "user CP" and found that one member cut my rep points but he/she did not leave any remarks or reasons. Neither did he/she leaves any names behind.

Can I know whether male members here detest a female from joining this predominantly forum ? Or could it be some minority lady member hates to see another lady members joining ?

Thank you

Peggy

kingcopa

12-05-2005, 09:31 PM

Well all Bros just be careful................

Can be another conster

GarlicBread

12-05-2005, 09:33 PM

sis peggy have posted her problem liao think will take some time it will appear cos she is on moderation ;)

PeggyWet

12-05-2005, 09:46 PM

Well all Bros just be careful................

Can be another conster

Mr KingCopa,

It is okay to be careful but an experienced member like you should know why my post takes a while to come out.

Anyway, I am not interested to convince you that I am not a conster bcos that is not the objective and my purpose here, which is to discuss with adult members here and I hope you fall into that category.

Peggy

PeggyWet

12-05-2005, 09:51 PM

There are girls around and i think the most active one around is Blue_gal :)

Can someone teach me how to pm Blue_gal bcos when I click the member's list, it says something like the list is no longer made available. Is it only apply to moderated members like me ?

Thanks

Peggy

PeggyWet

12-05-2005, 09:52 PM

opps btw welcome to sammyboy :) PeggyWet
Thank you, Mr delayer

PeggyWet

12-05-2005, 10:01 PM

i think u gonna get lotsa pm soon from the guys in this forum... :p
Tks to all those who pm me & show concern about me.

Sorry, I cannot reply to all.

However, most questions asking what my problem was, I already posted here.

Tks again

Peggy

PeggyWet

12-05-2005, 10:03 PM

Walau.. you all like that this peggy very fast MIA very soon. :p
Mr CNNcmg

Don't worry, as long as the discussion remains mature, I won't go MIA

Peggy

PeggyWet

12-05-2005, 10:07 PM

......BTW, most of the guys here have avatars with women pictures. So we can be very sensitve and understanding. :D
Mr HuiGe3387,

Thanks for your kind words towards a lady like me.

Peggy

PeggyWet

12-05-2005, 10:12 PM

sis peggy have posted her problem liao think will take some time it will appear cos she is on moderation ;)

Mr Garlic Bread,

Thanks for announcing earlier on my behalf

Peggy

PeggyWet

12-05-2005, 10:17 PM

no crime to start a new thread, sis. unless you forgot the needle. :D Hahahaha, Mr Castrol, I like your joke. I am beginning to feel part of the family. I shall be around unless members start to get immature and vulgar.

Peggy

MMM88

12-05-2005, 10:55 PM

sis
welcome .....curious to know wat kinda problem(s) gals face when marriage cumming soon.... :)

sexytoy.com.sg

13-05-2005, 01:07 AM

Hi sis,

post your questions /concerns here.I'm sure you will get a lot of views from our male counter part! :p

LOTR3

13-05-2005, 08:52 AM

As you know, I am getting married soon in 6 months time and I have been an item with my bf for almost 7 years already. During these 7 years, we have been having sex on a regular basis. But I during these times, I found that I am not satisfied. Don't get me wrong, I don't expect my bf or future hubby to be as strong like the porno actor but at least I expect him to be sensitive to my needs. You see, everytime we had sex, my hubby was able to excite me but before I could reach orgasm, he always ejaculated leaving me in the lurch. After he ejaculated, he seemed tired & fall asleep. I tried talking to him many times but he said that he has tried his best. At times, I felt like his sex toy !! I would like to know whether this is common in other bedrooms ?

how about having more foreplay? maybe u'll reach ur 1st orgasm before penetration. or maybe u should lead in the sex act, trying to control his pumping rate, having small breaks by changing positions, etc. actually me no experiences. hope u can get better advices on this.

Another problem I would like to know is how rampant actually is for hubby to go out and "steal eat" ? I was quite alarmed when I surfed this forum, I read so many Field Reports (referred to as FR) from married man relating their "steal eat" experience. Most, if not all of them derived so much sextisfaction from doing so. Now, I am having cold feet (though 2nd thought may not be the appropriate word) about getting married. What if my bf has been doing the same thing behind my back all these while ? Will he continue to do so after our marriage ?

I don't know whether it is pscyhological or not but I lately felt that he is not so eager and enthusiastic about sex as before though I believe I am still attractive and sexy as before with reasonably good figure of 36C 24 36. What is the reason for hubby to go out & "steal eat" ?

have faith with the man u choose. whats more, u are living in a modern world and can exercise the right to divorce if he "eat" outside.

Also, if he continues with his habit of leaving me in the lurch after sex, does that mean I would have to suffer sexually for the rest of my life ? Yes, I did try to masturbate using my fingers & vibrators at times but I feel bad after that. So, I keep masturbation to a minimum.

dun feel bad. at least u are not "eating" outside, right? ;)

delayer

13-05-2005, 09:16 AM

i guess for the he cum before u do..

like LOTR3 mention foreplay. or. stimulate ur clit when u 2 intercourse.
This two will help. It is not that easy for 2 couples to cum together unless they coordinate. I feel that your bf is not sensitive enough :) but I got no say in regards to this.

Like I mention. Guys can stray but there are guys that will stay faithful in his whole life. If your bf already showing signs of not being sensitive. then you got to take note lor. you got to talk to him. sit down and find a relaxing day. take the topic on a lighter note. maybe surprise him or something before asking him questions. steal or no steal. guys strays easily. anyway. just chat with him. sometime it helps to clear some issues and problem between 2 person.

if he loves you. ur figure does not even matter. It is the Love towards you and his heart belong to you that counts.

even better go read the book man are from mars women are from venus. that book rather good for couples to read.

as for leaving u in a lurch, if he does it to you once and still do it the second time. .. well he will do it again.

anyway. i hope and wish ur bf will change and wish u a blissful marriage before hand.

buhl

13-05-2005, 09:18 AM

but before I could reach orgasm, he always ejaculated leaving me in the lurch. After he ejaculated, he seemed tired & fall asleep.

Another problem I would like to know is how rampant actually is for hubby to go out and "steal eat" ?

Gd day Peggy, welcome to the fourm.
I sympathize with u as my 1st girlfriend felt the same way about me 13yrs ago, since she voiced her displeasure, i developed a 'please my partner 1st' mind set, i.e. give my partner her orgasm 1st. i altered my positions, technics, used stud100 sprays, pills etc to achieve my aim of giving pleasure to my partner before taking mine, it would be worth exploring if ur would be hubby is game enough...it does take 2 hands to clap...

"steal eat" usually occures when one is bored or diasppointed with one's regular partner, IMOH, if one's partner is able to continueous excite, stimulate n indulge in his sexual fantasies to hold his sexual attention, the likelyhood of 'steal eat' occuring would be reduced drastically...but it also depends on what kind of person the man is. If he ain't the type, then there's really nothing to worry about is there?

my humble 2 cents,
buhl

hothandlebar

13-05-2005, 09:25 AM

But I during these times, I found that I am not satisfied. Don't get me wrong, I don't expect my bf or future hubby to be as strong like the porno actor but at least I expect him to be sensitive to my needs. You see, everytime we had sex, my hubby was able to excite me but before I could reach orgasm, he always ejaculated leaving me in the lurch. After he ejaculated, he seemed tired & fall asleep.
With you on top, you should be in control? If not, HJ or BBJ him till he comes, then get him to pop a Viagra, then start riding him again? This may help ensure that you'll get to come first before he does again?

I read so many Field Reports (referred to as FR) from married man relating their "steal eat" experience. Most, if not all of them derived so much sextisfaction from doing so.
It should be the thrill derived from such experiences...

I believe I am still attractive and sexy as before with reasonably good figure of 36C 24 36. What is the reason for hubby to go out & "steal eat" ?
Hmmm... Oh yes! Good figure indeed!
Men are like bees... Going from flower to flower...

Also, if he continues with his habit of leaving me in the lurch after sex, does that mean I would have to suffer sexually for the rest of my life ?
No... you don't have to put up with that... That's the reason why samsters are here! :D

Yes, I did try to masturbate using my fingers & vibrators at times but I feel bad after that. So, I keep masturbation to a minimum.
Keeping it minimum and feel unsextisfied? There's a thread - Is Masturbation a sin... go read it.

waypastprime

13-05-2005, 09:27 AM

"steal eat" usually occures when one is bored or diasppointed with one's regular partner

May or may not, bro. :p Some men just enjoy that feeling.

Big Sexy

13-05-2005, 09:43 AM

Hi Peggy .

Women rights!.. look at my nick and my avatar and you will know that i am a fair lady too.. you can pm me...if there is a need :)

may post & start a discussion here. But I note this forum is predominently males, so I was wondering if there are other female members like me in this forum and also whether a female like me is allowed to start a new thread to discuss her problem here

Thank you.

Your sincerely,
Peggy

ss235

13-05-2005, 10:04 AM

HI preggy, I always believe that a woman has every right to masturbate herself to orgasm. It is nothing to be ashame of or to feel guilty about.

You have only 1 life, and you want to live thru it feeling guilty about cumming?!? :confused:

What's more, you are not even cheating on your partner with other guys by masturbating.

Just my 2 cents worth.. maybe even 0.5 cents :rolleyes:

malayboy

13-05-2005, 10:07 AM

May or may not, bro. :p Some men just enjoy that feeling.

I believe that MAN ARE BORN POLYGAMOUS and it is not just for thrill. There are lots of research supporting that, and fundamentally, this is instinctive, from a survival, dominance and pleasure point of views. It is modern society that imposes monogamy, thereby suppressing our basic instinctive needs.

For our dear sis here, you will face the same threat no matter which man you choose to marry.

Should you find him cheating, try to work it out and understand that it is beyond our control (as this is already built into our genes) to have multiple partners.

Big Sexy

13-05-2005, 10:09 AM

Yo peggy...

believe me....next... some hamster will soon be asking " WILL YOU MARRY ME PEGGY!!!" :D

dna_gene

13-05-2005, 10:50 AM

WOW! Peggy, u really took e time n effort to reply everyone here ar... That's so nice of u! Hee! Anyway let's tackle ur prob 1 by 1. To all brudders, this is a very lengthy advice. Pls do not read on unless u r prepare for it as this is meant for Peggy only.

1. U cant reach orgasm b4 ur husband cum. This is quite a serious prob! One thing u can do is like wat was advice by another member, foreplay urself first but dun think that can really counter e prob cos unless u masturbate beside ur husband just b4 he start to fuck u! If not e momentum will most probably die off b4 he start to pump u! So all n all, we hv to look into e real reason why u cant cum during sex with ur husband. a) Ur G-spot is not sensitive enough to cum faster than ur husband. b) Ur husband's manhood is not long enough to hit ur G-spot to stimulate u. c) U r too stress with ur work or other aspect of life. Let's tackle 1 by 1.

a) If u r not sensitive enough for ur husband to last longer than u, u can suggest to him to hv a quick masturbation few hrs b4 hving sex. E time gap varies as diff guys can erect again at diff speed. Some within minutes n some might need more than 3hrs. E timing must be just right if not he might not be able to ejaculate at all or he will still hv e tendency to cum faster than u. After a few time of trial n error, u should be able to find out e best timing for ur husband. Also try to focus longer in ur foreplay, set e atmosphere right by playing some smoothing music, lighting aromatic scent etc. If this still dun work, u might need to consult a doc.

b) This is a bit tricky... Wat u can try to do is use position that can penetrate u deep enough for him to hit ur G-spot. Few that i know r doggy style. I think u know how to do doggie right? Hv his body upright or even slightly bend backwards so that he can hv his dick at e most front. U in turn must jab ur ass higher n push urself against his ramp so that ur body will not just go with e flow. Another position u might consider using is riding on him. Straighten ur body as u sit on him n try to find e most stimulating movement for u. Ask him to squeeze n fondle ur breasts to give u additional stimulation. Also u can try to place a pillow right under ur pelvis area when u r laying down to lift ur pussy higher so that he can thrust u deeper. If these still dun work, he really hv very short dick n u might wan to reconsider marrying him cos u'll end up heavily deprived or in bed satisfied... by another man/men!

c) Work stress... Oh well, which idiot doesnt know how to relive from stress...? Only concern is r u willing to let go of e stress u r having? If u r hving too much work in office, talk to ur immediate superior. NO! Not confessing to him that u r not hving good sex with ur husband-to-be! Rather tell him ur workload is too much n would appreciate an assistant. If not, try to go back on Sat to work so that ur work can spread out more evenly n do not hv to work long hrs. If it's some problems u encounter frequently at work, suggest for a meeting to settle e prob once n for all. If it still dun change anything, i think u should comtemplate to resignation.

If all e above still dun work, u can either not marry him, deprive urself n masturbate frequently or find a sex partner who can be discreet enough. By not marrying him, u can avoid alot of unnecessary trouble that u might encounter after marriage n trust me, getting a divorce then is a real big hussle! If u insist on marrying him, then invest in a real valued-for-money vibrator n treat it well with respect! Hee. Nevertheless, u should be inform that by doing so will greatly dampened ur husband's ego n lead him into getting self confident in other gals, adultery in short! Vibrator is good when husband is not ard but not when it gets more sex with u than ur husband!

Lastly, e forbidden fruit! E very last resort! Warning! Do not attempt unless necessary. It will complicate ur marriage to a great extend. Hving a sex partner is not as simple as it sounds, finding a man, fuck him on a regular basis. No, it involves discipline, trust, quick wit n mutual understanding. Firstly u must choose e right guy. He must not be ur common fren as rumours might hv it, best if no one knows him at all but do let at least 1 very close confidente knows briefly about him just in case anything happens. How to get ur hand on him is gonna be ur own prob but i dun think it's too diff as u mention u r still sexy n beautiful. Might as well just ask directly "Can u be my sex partner?" This is 99.999999% workable! Observe him for a couple of mths first b4 asking though, to understand his character. He must be gentle, trust worthy n smart to react in unforseen circumstances.

Next, as time goes by, feeling might develop. U must always constantly, if not everyday remind urself never to fall for him! Then again, all gals r from venus afterall. Do not go for any real date or engage into too in-depth conversation. Always back out once u feel that u r hving feeling for him, even if it's only abit. If not, u'll be playing with fire. Beware, u hv been warned!

2. I've heard of a saying, gals should open their eyes wide n choose wisely b4 marriage n close an eye after marriage. Most men will hv sex other than their own gf or wives concurrently. Most of them will just be involved in commercial sex n no feeling will be involved. Some, might hv flings or sex partner now n then but no feeling is involved too. Only diff is sex is on a more regular basis n it's free or at a minimum cost, hotel, condem etc. 7 out of 10 guys will hv such things going on, only thing is how frequent of them doing it. Not really a big deal, so my advice is if u can bear with it, just let it be.

Lastly, hving mistress! Not many men can encounter that though. That man must charming, charismatic, humourous but not necessary handsome. The mistress is normally either from workplace or internet. So just look out for these 2 areas, if u wan to try prevent it from happening but it's diff to check on his work. The reason why a man would keeps a mistress maybe cos they developed feeling working together, wans to feel superior to hv 2 women in his life, emptiness within, too free with time. Tha's y salesperson hv very high tendency of commiting an affair, be it guy or gal. Few ways to prevent this, insist on using e same comp, with full access to his comp a/c (win XP). Make a pact with him that u shall hv e right to access his HP, desk n laptop. Once a while do a search in his PC for all JPGfiles including hidden folders n files! If a guy really hv an affair, most prob they'll hv e mistrss's photos in e comp.

Also, open a join a/c n make sure that he's money goes in there but do not be in charge of his own money. Men hate that. Instead, let him hv e ATM card to that a/c for him to be able to use his money freely. Apply internet access for it n from there monitor his spending n question him if there's hugh amount withdrawn for unknown purposes. These r a more subtle way to check on him yet making it almost impossible for any long term affair. These however doesnt prevent flings n commercial sex. So my advice is still to close 1 eye even if u find out anything cos men will still go back to wives at e end of e day.

Ok, hope all these help! Bros, pls dun flame me for giving such advices, just trying to help. I know i would be dead too if my wife uses such methods. Hee. So just make sure ur wife dun visit sammy forum can liao! ^_^

delayer

13-05-2005, 11:07 AM

Women rights!.. look at my nick and my avatar and you will know that i am a fair lady too.. you can pm me...if there is a need

keke yah and your signature too she somehow got - one pt for asking for advice which i think aint fair to her. hopefully ur up pt to her might help too :D

dna_gene bro advice power.

hopefully her pre marriage woes will disappear soon

HuiGe3387

13-05-2005, 11:12 AM

Hi Peggy,
From what I know, different gers have different vagina position. Some are more towards the front, and some further back, ie nearer to the arse hole.
For those towards the front, the normal missionary position will satisfy the ger to reach climax because penetration is deep enough.
For those towards the back, put a pillow below to lift up to gain greater penetration, or try the doggie style. If using horse riding position, arch backwards so that your vagina can feel deeper penetration or you can control how the prick rubs the inner wall of your vagina.

I've share the philosophy with my frens and it usually works for them to improve their sex life.

As for "steal eat", there's such a thing as 7-year itch. Applies to the female too. So can't say too much about this. Maybe we can meet up for coffee to talk more ......

Castrol

13-05-2005, 11:19 AM

I was quite alarmed when I surfed this forum, I read so many Field Reports (referred to as FR) from married man relating their "steal eat" experience.

I am still attractive and sexy as before with reasonably good figure of 36C 24 36.

first thing first... you are my kind of woman... 36C 24 36 boy o boy o boy!
will you meet me, even if i am not the last man on earth...? :D

in this "steal eat" aspect, what you dont know, wont hurt you.
men and women are the same, all can be unfaithful. if kenna found out, caught red handed... what to do? divorce and start again? thats life.

holding

13-05-2005, 11:48 AM

I found that I am not satisfied. my hubby was able to excite me but before I could reach orgasm, he always ejaculated...After he ejaculated, he seemed tired & fall asleep. I tried talking to him many times but he said that he has tried his best. At times, I felt like his sex toy !! I would like to know whether this is common in other bedrooms ?

firstly, welcome to SB...

in my opinion: he seem to be a bit selfish durin sex...if all this times, he knew he always cum 1st, and yet he do nothin about it??? unfortunately, it's common for a guy to felt tired after cum - perhaps u both can try sex durin the 1st activity of the weekend and not after work - where both would be dog tired???

did he tried enough foreplay on u, including the "famous" oral foreplay??? if the latter combined with fingerin after awhile, one should sure cum unless got some medical or psychological condition which a specialist would be better to diagnose)...Frankly, it's difficult to cum together but it can be done thru enough practice.

lastly: be more verbal durin sex when it come to cummin...when u are about to cum, tell him so & dun make him stop: make him continue ...continue...

do hope u will cum soon~~~

is for hubby to go out and "steal eat" ? I was quite alarmed when I , I read so many FR relating their "steal eat" experience. Now, I am having cold feet about getting married. What if my bf has been doing the same thing behind my back all these while ? Will he continue to do so after our marriage ? I lately felt that he is not so eager and enthusiastic about sex as before. What is the reason for hubby to go out & "steal eat" ?

what forum are u lookin at??? :p unfortunately, i fall into one of the stats...

have faith in your bf...if u are both lovin to each other & he's sexually satisfied (ask him about it!!!) doubtful he will stray...besides, "stealing eat" is not a cheap hobby - and there are signs - smell, cum volume, etc.

Why hubby stray: lots of reason - not enough sex, borin sex, just the feelin of bonkin a different gal...it's the latter that is the most difficult to cure. but all guys are different - u should know your hubby best.

I would have to suffer sexually for the rest of my life ? Yes, I did try to masturbate using my fingers & vibrators at times but I feel bad after that. So, I keep masturbation to a minimum.

dun feel guilty - everybody got their own sex appetite and needs. of cos, it's best to cum durin the act itself...if the worst happens and nothin come from all the advices given by me and all the bros here, do see a professional about it.

ta ta ~~~

ol'coyote

13-05-2005, 12:09 PM

hmm...me oso say a bit lah...
as mentioned already...foreplay...this will 'ensure' that you climax about the same time as your hubby...
oso...nothing wrong wif masturbating or using the vibrator to 'enjoy' yourself...
2ndly...wrt 'steal eat'...make sure you have sex with him as often as possible...
that way he has less reasons to stray...why stray when u can have the fun at home...
oso...'steal' opportunity to arouse him in public...dun always stick to bedroom...
like when doing shopping...caress his penis between rows of shelves etc...
tis gives him the feeling that u are always thinkin of or wanting him...

btw...welcum to SBF...

t123ang

13-05-2005, 01:42 PM

[QUOTE=ol'coyote]hmm...me oso say a bit lah...
as mentioned already...foreplay...this will 'ensure' that you climax about the QUOTE]

hahaha road runner u are back... :D

octopuffy

13-05-2005, 05:00 PM

May or may not, bro. Some men just enjoy that feeling.

hehe i know of many fall under that category :D both men & women alike

waypastprime

13-05-2005, 05:06 PM

hehe i know of many fall under that category :D both men & women alike

Coz forbidden fruits always taste sweeter! :p

buhl

13-05-2005, 05:09 PM

May or may not, bro. Some men just enjoy that feeling.

wah WPP u still active ah hehe, how hv u been? long time no see liao...cheong which location now a days? hmmm can i have ur 5pts :D

'Some men just enjoy that feeling'...hehe we fall under this category hor :p

waypastprime

13-05-2005, 05:13 PM

wah WPP u still active ah hehe, how hv u been? long time no see liao...cheong which location now a days? hmmm can i have ur 5pts

No, u cannot have my 5 points. But I'm willing to part it for free! :p

Wish u well, bro. Me quite tied up nowadays. :(

jasper

13-05-2005, 05:25 PM

'Some men just enjoy that feeling'...hehe we fall under this category hor :p

hi bro... ur signature interests me leh :p got lobangs arh?? hey does KS still keep intouch with you nowadays?? its quite hard to contact him nowadays....

buhl

13-05-2005, 05:25 PM

No, u cannot have my 5 points. But I'm willing to part it for free! :p

Wish u well, bro. Me quite tied up nowadays. :(

thx a lot for the 5 free pts hehe...well wishes 2 u 2, me still alive n kicking n made some progress in career this yr

huh? y sad n tied up....errrr isit kana sot by an SYT?

TO: Peggy,
bro WPP has a pt there too, some men just 'steal eat' for the thrill, fun &or veriety...if it's for these reasons...ain't found a cure yet...

buhl

13-05-2005, 05:29 PM

hi bro... ur signature interests me leh got lobangs arh?? hey does KS still keep intouch with you nowadays?? its quite hard to contact him nowadays....

WAHHHH...ah pui U oso still active ah????? u MIA so long me n KS feared for the worst liao :D hope all ur problems r settled liao...how hv u been?

yes KS still got contact...hmmm y u into ladies pills oso meh? hehe i want ur 4pts can hehe

If Peggy's got a guy like u then she can rest easy hehe...go GL with u so many times but u never ever get tempted b4...me n KS suspect u gay :D

jasper

13-05-2005, 05:38 PM

WAHHHH...ah pui U oso still active ah????? u MIA so long me n KS feared for the worst liao hope all ur problems r settled liao...how hv u been?

yes KS still got contact...hmmm y u into ladies pills oso meh? hehe i want ur 4pts can hehe

If Peggy's got a guy like u then she can rest easy hehe...go GL with u so many times but u never ever get tempted b4...me n KS suspect u gay

wowow!! u like that tell everyone me phui goot meh??? i change my numbers liao... not sure if u have my numbers.. i lost all ur contacts the other time:(..wowlao..say i phui and gay somemore...neh neh.... .. i miss meeting up with u guys.. if u happen to see ks..ask him call me leh....hey i really interested in ur ladies pills leh..but like to find out more lah.. dun later i kena cry rape..rottan my fat ass...:)

jasper

13-05-2005, 05:41 PM

[QUOTE=buhl]WAHHHH...ah pui U oso still active ah????? u MIA so long me n KS feared for the worst liao :D hope all ur problems r settled liao...how hv u been?

yes KS still got contact...hmmm y u into ladies pills oso meh? hehe i want ur 4pts can hehe

me just given my pts to peggy this morning.... tomolo sure shoot u arh...:)

GarlicBread

13-05-2005, 09:09 PM

sis my small advice 4u is talk openly to ur future hub about how u feel.

try to workout with him in different manners which our bro stated here & try to praise him for his effort (guy sometime like small boy need some encouagement to perform better)

u need 2 hands to clap the most important part is to get him into the trail & error encounter (pratice make perfect)

be more open during sex (talk openly on wat make u feel good & how u like it in those foreplay,every guy would luv to please their 2nd half if they really luv her sincerely)

as the 2nd question I would luv to tell u my own experience.

I've a wonderful ex-gf which once told me (u can drink the milk outside but dont ever bring the cow home) which I understand she is trying to tell me she trust & understand me which I felt very please to have her trust beleive me I've never drink any milk outside during our relationship.

guy luv to be respect,pamper & understanding.

if u've given him tis 3 important factors yet he fool around than he dont deserve ur attention ;)

p/s : sometime knowing too much will hurt urself play stupid sometime & the world go round :p

PeggyWet

14-05-2005, 12:31 AM

I have a few things to say. They are as follows:-

1. First of all, thanks to everyone in this forum who takes his/her time to give me their comments, views and advise to my problems. I really appreciate them.

2. Sorry, if I cannot reply to all of them indivdually as I previously did. However, I will lump them up & respond to them as some comments given to me are similar in nature.

3. Those advise suggesting me to talk to hubby, hubby take viagra, rub clitoris, masturbate myself first ... etc.. I think not so easy. As I said earlier we have been having sex together for 7 years. Our bedroom activities is already kinda stale. My bf doesn't like to talk before & during sex. And after sex, he always fell asleep. If I talk to him at other times, he just shruged it off & change subjects. Our frequency of sex has also been reduced & if this pattern goes on, I think it will only get lesser & lesser

4. Those who wonder about my good figure, I think I inherit it from my American mum.

5. Thanks to all those who up my rep pts though a lot of members pm me & said the rep points doesn't mean anything. Still I think I must express my appreciation to all those sincere members who up my pts.

6. Those members who pm me & asked to go out, I think for the time being, I better not meet anyone. Some members have pm me warning me of the dangers of going out with gentlemen here though I sincerely for now cannot differentiate the good from the bad ones.

7. Those members who pm me to offering to show me in his own words "what heaven is".... sigh.....I don't know what to say ....sigh....

8. Those who pm me asking me to in his own words to "earn some money while having fun", please note that I don't have financial problem at this point of time.

If I missed out any points, please let me know.

Once again, thanks to all members for their contibution. I shall try some of the advise & update you guys (& gals if any).

Peggy

GarlicBread

14-05-2005, 04:41 AM

sis u really in trouble if pt.3 persist :(

try to play reverse tactic ban him for sex :D

astrozz

14-05-2005, 08:19 AM

sis u really in trouble if pt.3 persist

Yes I think peggy does have a problem and that is a very common problem between couples.. there are men who "steal eat" , there are also women who stray too, coz they cant get the satisfaction at home...
I dont know how to change her hubby , he doesnt seem to be interested in sex too much , formality sake ? watch a porn movie together perhaps ? slowly open up his views about sex , honestly , "making love" isnt just sex , its about romance, surprise , seduction , passion.....
there are just so much one can do , all you need is to experience... got to tell each other what he/she likes , open up , be honest, experience it together.....
I dont think her bf is stealing eat outside, I just think he is the kind of guy that dont try to make sex enjoyable, I feel a little horny , I fxxx, and goodnite dear !
Headache headache..... :(

LOTR3

14-05-2005, 09:53 AM

anyone watching "desperate housewives"? one of the husband has a thing for SM and he hides it from his wife til he got a heart attack during one of his section and landed in the hospital. i'm not suggesting SM, but maybe cosplay might help to inject some excitment. :D

PeggyWet

14-05-2005, 12:37 PM

Hello good afternoon all members,

1. After thinking over about the suggestions by members here, maybe I will try to discuss the problem with my bf these few days. Gotta find the right time & mood. Will let you guys know of the outcome.

2. I have received many pm which I cannot possibly reply all, so I mentioned it here in general. Many members have pm me giving the reasons for "steal eat" which really alarmed me. I did not know that it is so rampant & casual here in S'pore.

3. Can I know when you guys "steal eat" whether you guys use protection when the girls do the blow job ?

4. It seems to me members here really enjoy being "blowed". Is it more satisfying than the actual penetration ?

Thanks & see you guys later

Peggy

jameslak

14-05-2005, 02:00 PM

Hi peggy, I personally feel 'blowed' is more satisfied than normal sex
activities. But must be CIM than counted!! Weather both parties can reach their highest desire is depend on the foreplay... I'm not good in words as I as join not long. :P

10 cc

14-05-2005, 04:36 PM

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7. Those members who pm me to offering to show me in his own words "what heaven is".... sigh.....I don't know what to say ....sigh....

this is damn funny man... er, i mean, lady. laugh till i peng-san.

but seriously, my views on your problem is simple. the love has died. flame is gone. feelings subsided. ain't here no more. time to pack-up and go.

first, he is not able to satisfy u, and is not, according to what u r saying, making any extra efforts to do so. why? 'cos he treats u like a fuck-bunny! dont mind the crudeness of my language. but that's just what it is. u r his fucking plastic doll! if u swap yourself with 1 before his pumping begins, bet he cant tell the different. worst, or better, he didn't want u to make any sound during the humping. he sure cant tell what he's screwing 1.

second, pre-marital cold-feet. so on the other hand, u may feel the way u feel due to this. happens to lots of people. started thinking twice just before the marriage. "is he the right one?" "am i sure?" "what if...."... i think u are having yours too. which is fine. take u out of the "me" in this and start thinking about "her". gives u a better perspective to consider the whole thing over.

life is short, why waste time with him - that non-caring, bunny-humping, fuck-and-sleep B-man?

do u think that after u 2 get married, ie, signing that piece of paper, things are gonna change for the better? that he will start to care more about how u feel BEFORE he ejaculated his 10 cc of milk in u? dont be naive lah. wont happen.

lastly, being with someone for 7 long years is... well, too long. can u imagine what's like after another 7 years? i tell u now. he is going to get fuck from everyone else, but u. the sexual activities between u and him will drop to, say, about once - on x'mas eve - a year. then u will also consider going out to makan outside dicks. then where will all these lead to? and perhaps, it will happen sooner then u think.

there are lots of wonderful men out there for your pick. and u got to choose this one, and tie the knot. good luck lady...

:)

Garf

14-05-2005, 05:44 PM

Hi Peggy,

Sorry but I also think your hubby really quite selfish. I had 2 men also same as you. So I understand your feeling, this just like they only come and leave and not caring us. I think if you care someone, even you got satisifed first, you would still keep on and want to make him enjoy it till the end too. I can only think you may try to change other styles of sex ba, heard condom can make the guys' didi less sensitive wor.

And hor, if u dun want to receive pm, u can disable it (just like wat I doing now).

Good Luck!

Wannabeone

14-05-2005, 07:06 PM

Hi Peggy,

Sorry ........ I think if you care someone, even you got satisifed first, you would still keep on and want to make him enjoy it till the end too. I can only think you may try to change other styles of sex ba, heard condom can make the guys' didi less sensitive wor.
Good Luck!

My two cents worth of opinion (my).......
1. It is still possible to have great love making session after 7 stale years.....but of course its going to take more effort .... from you ( since you are the one who is trying to first)
2. It is possible that your man do not 'steal eat' outside...... as i used to have a gal friend (during those times, 3 years to be exact), i didnt steal eat just because i really enjoy my times (whether in the bed or not) with her....i think i didnt find a reason to feel bored with the relationship......

Lastly, i wish you all the success for all the effort that you have put in.......

KingEros

14-05-2005, 10:10 PM

but seriously, my views on your problem is simple. the love has died. flame is gone. feelings subsided. ain't here no more. time to pack-up and go.

Buddy ... was a bit taken aback when I saw you fight amongst these lot for Ms Wet's attention, subtly enticing her into dropping her fiancee & heading towards your "savannah grassland". :D

Allow me to introduce myself, my name is Peggy. My mother is an American and my father is a Singaporean. I am in my early 30s and is getting married soon ...

Rest of you ... you really think someone like what she claims to be would:
1) talk like an educated Lian? (ref "steal eat")
2) seek advice from samsters? (remember - this is the same lot who attends UWC or SAS & dun mix around with the Chinamen like you & me) :eek:

10 cc

15-05-2005, 12:44 AM

aiya... why u burst my bubble like that?

:mad:

trendyboy

15-05-2005, 02:04 AM

Let look into the husband/wife sex thingy,whenever the husband "steal eat",the wife will always blame the husband.Now to all the wife here,if you want your husband to stay faithful,ask yourself, have you been doing the following:

1.stop making excuses like stress from work to turn down sex
2. making yourself pretty,dolled up
3. sucking him hard enough
4. fucking him enough
5. opening up your legs for him anytime?
6. satisfying his fetish,listen to his sexual needs.
7. find time for him without children around
8. go out on a date with him alone (without children following)
9. suck him dry before he fly off for business trip next day.
10.surprise him by sucking him middle of the night.

It may sound like an MCP expecting alot from wifes,now look here,he is your husband,if you don't please him,who you want to pleased? Do you want him to so call "steal eat" later caught by you wifes and came back crying and finger pointing again?

If you wifes have not done the above,don't complain,fcuk ! better close 2 eye,assume your husband did nothing of these sort,if you cannot take these,than don't get married,stay single,don't ruin a man's life.Be responsible.

I know of this friend of mine told me: they never had sex on weekday that was after have a family and both party working,wife simply refused saying due to work load,tired.came to weekends,got household choir to do,send kid for tuttion,early morning want to do,fear children wakes up,rushing into their room,menses come,another 5 days cannot do,also refuse to masterbate him,during those menses days.come sunday,visit parents/in laws day,most part of the day's gone. i did a simple math calculation for him and told him atmost they can do it only once a month,and you know what ? He nodded his head. Fcuk man!! i think this family cannot even finished a box of condom (pack of 12) in a year.

If this is the type of wifes you are going to marry,don't even think,rather stay single and diy yourself,you can then eat as many chicken you want and nobody got the right to say you "steal eat".

With these type of wifes,everything prosper,WlL,FL,Pros,mistress,aqua,...

You wifes got the picture? think before you complain.

Open up your lower lips more often,keep your man happy,and shut that bloody upper lips,from complaining.

KingEros

15-05-2005, 03:51 AM

aiya... why u burst my bubble like that?

:mad:
Bursting your bubble or not, I may actually be saving you from IT.
Next round of drinks on you ... :rolleyes:

thaivisitor

15-05-2005, 10:17 AM

NBzz, Don't know whether you are genuine or not, but here's my 2 cents worth.
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As you know, I am getting married soon in 6 months time and I have been an item with my bf for almost 7 years already. During these 7 years, we have been having sex on a regular basis. But I during these times, I found that I am not satisfied. Don't get me wrong, I don't expect my bf or future hubby to be as strong like the porno actor but at least I expect him to be sensitive to my needs. You see, everytime we had sex, my hubby was able to excite me but before I could reach orgasm, he always ejaculated leaving me in the lurch. After he ejaculated, he seemed tired & fall asleep. I tried talking to him many times but he said that he has tried his best. At times, I felt like his sex toy !! I would like to know whether this is common in other bedrooms ?
Waaa Lan....If you have this problem before marriage, rest assured it will worsen after marriage. There is nothing wrong with your hubby physically. No point telling you to talk things over, KNN 7 years liow so all things to be said, should have been said so I suggest you both see a marriage counsellor as your problem seems to be more emotionally, or the lack of it from your hubby's part. If cannot settled, rest assured, your marriage won't last.
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Another problem I would like to know is how rampant actually is for hubby to go out and "steal eat" ? I was quite alarmed when I surfed this forum, I read so many Field Reports (referred to as FR) from married man relating their "steal eat" experience. Most, if not all of them derived so much sextisfaction from doing so. Now, I am having cold feet (though 2nd thought may not be the appropriate word) about getting married. What if my bf has been doing the same thing behind my back all these while ? Will he continue to do so after our marriage ?
kekekekeke, if your hubby is a member of this forum, he's gonna be "steal eating" regularly. kekekekeke
I'm sure he will "steal eat" after the marriage if he has done so before marriage.
The point is, if you do not see or know it, why bother too much? Why trouble yourself with "what ifs"?
Also, would you rather your hubby have a mistress after marriage? Or would you rather he just have "paid" sex and be done with it after the act? (Asumming you can't keep him a good boy at home).
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I don't know whether it is pscyhological or not but I lately felt that he is not so eager and enthusiastic about sex as before though I believe I am still attractive and sexy as before with reasonably good figure of 36C 24 36. What is the reason for hubby to go out & "steal eat" ?
Doesn't mean he go "steal eat" means you not attractive. NBzz Nicole Kidman also attractive leh... but Tom Cruise still leave her. Question is, are you still sexually attractive to him? This part hard and quite long if I elaborate and advise you on how to remain sexually attractive so I'll skip it.

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Also, if he continues with his habit of leaving me in the lurch after sex, does that mean I would have to suffer sexually for the rest of my life ? Yes, I did try to masturbate using my fingers & vibrators at times but I feel bad after that. So, I keep masturbation to a minimum.
Sorry, much as I would like to, but my conscience does not allow me to advise you to also "steal eat" or whatever. this is a problem you have to find the answer yourself, and live with it no matter how it turns as only you yourself will bear the responsibility and outcome, not any of us samsters.

My 2 cents worth
thaivisitor :cool:

Gerald Tan

15-05-2005, 06:03 PM

Once again, thanks to all members for their contibution. I shall try some of the advise & update you guys (& gals if any).

Peggy[/QUOTE]

PeggyWet,
I hold back advising u initially until now (err busy past few weeks). Peggy, u must understand - woman will never understand man, and neither will man understand woman. So, pls face the real FACTS. Example of one fact is man will always lookout for 'fresh' adventure. U have been with ur bf for 7yrs, it means he had conquered your wet vaginity & ur 36C melon. This is man's world - once conquered, move on for next challenge. Dats why "steal eat". Who doesn't want to try new fresh eat? If u still keep to ur ideal of "he belong to u only", then pls forget it in this modern sexy world. But I have not err..try yours, hmmm..hoping u can consider me in future if u r not satisfied with your wetness. Best regards, and enjoy sex while u are still wet...

buhl

16-05-2005, 11:06 AM

me just given my pts to peggy this morning.... tomolo sure shoot u arh..

thanks a lot to WPP n jasper for ur pts :D

Happosai

16-05-2005, 12:23 PM

he always ejaculated leaving me in the lurch. After he ejaculated, he seemed tired & fall asleep.

Another problem I would like to know is how rampant actually is for hubby to go out and "steal eat" ?What if my bf has been doing the same thing behind my back all these while ? Will he continue to do so after our marriage ?

but I lately felt that he is not so eager and enthusiastic about sex as before

Also, if he continues with his habit of leaving me in the lurch after sex, does that mean I would have to suffer sexually for the rest of my life ? Yes, I did try to masturbate using my fingers & vibrators at times but I feel bad after that. So, I keep masturbation to a minimum.

Peggy

Ok my 2 cts worth, 1st problem, he cums you still halfway there. My suggestion, how about more foreplay? Make him lick you till you cum else no entry. Or if he doesnt lick you then finger, guide him to your G spot with his fingers. Whether you believe it or not, once a man orgas, a certain chemical is release. This will make him feel sleepy. Not his fault, nature made it this way. I get it too.

2nd problem, you worry he "steal eat". Try to rape him him till his testicle is empty, then he will have no more "bullets" for other adventures. Next, find out what are his sexual fantasies, try fulfilling those within your means. Finally control him financially so he got no money to "call chicken". Quite drastic and not really advisable. You should consider raping him dry and fulfilling his fantasies.

3rd problem, not so eager as before, you notice this before or after you discover sammyboy? If before then maybe it's work or stress from wedding prep. Talk to him and find out what's wrong. If it is after dicovering sammyboy, most likely it paranoid.

4th problem, improving sex life and masturbation. Having good communication are part and parcel of married life, learn to communicate(meaning 2 way conversation) with him on how to improve the quality of sex life for the both of you. Lastly, what's wrong with masturbation? why guilty? Ever tried masturbating for your hubby to see? Can be a huge turn on as well as a good lesson for him on how to please you better. Both of you can watch a x rated movie and you can start masturbating when the action starts. Show him how to use the vibrator, where you like it to be.....

MMM88

16-05-2005, 12:50 PM

2nd problem, you worry he "steal eat". Try to rape him him till his testicle is empty, then he will have no more "bullets" for other adventures. Next, find out what are his sexual fantasies, try fulfilling those within your means. Finally control him financially so he got no money to "call chicken". Quite drastic and not really advisable. You should consider raping him dry and fulfilling his fantasies.

Yo Peggy
Gd advise from Bro Happosai..... from my perspective ..i have communicated w my wif tat i like surprises to spice up sex life... u know we live in a very hectic world...a little SURPRISES will go a long way ..
Now n then my wif will surprise me by giving me a bbbj in the middle of the nite...man...tis is paradise...imagine woken up sexually aroused ...of course me too surprise her by giving her a gd lick .... the last time she put on her SQ kabaya to seduce me.... Next, i think we will try RAPE ..she rape me first or i rape her first .......hehehehehehe :D

Happosai

16-05-2005, 02:02 PM

Next, i think we will try RAPE ..she rape me first or i rape her first .......hehehehehehe :D

Bro, take it from me, seduce her, make her horny but dont shag her. Let her come and tear your clothes away and rape you. But dont drop my rept pts if you cant walk properly the next day muahahahaha.....

MMM88

16-05-2005, 02:15 PM

Bro, take it from me, seduce her, make her horny but dont shag her. Let her come and tear your clothes away and rape you. But dont drop my rept pts if you cant walk properly the next day muahahahaha.....

Bro
hav you tried it -RAPE- with yr mate (or wif) ?? kinky huh....will try tonite n let u know i m still standing ....dun worry no drop but up oni ...ok .. :D .

Happosai

16-05-2005, 02:57 PM

Bro
hav you tried it -RAPE- with yr mate (or wif) ?? .

Yes of course, else how to recommend to you? But not with wife lah. It was years back when I was still younger and cheonging pubs. Was at ridleys when my group of army buddies, my buddies go sian a gal while i just enjoy the music and drinks. Few days later my buddy chio the gal and me out for dinner, then last minute shoot me so I no choice, just her and me go makan. From that outing, she gave me the impression that she's a cock teaser, not into actual shag but just wanna make you horny and leave you there. So I played along and tease her back without expecting an ons. This went on for quite a while then we went to east coast europa one fine night. After the place close for the night I suggested to her to have a stroll at the beach. One thing led to another we ended up kissing passionately at one of the benches. Very deep and furious tongue action followed by me necking and licking her ear lopes. She was moaning and groaning, then slowly my hands started roaming. No resistance and in fact more encouraging moanings, so naturally hands proceeded down south. Fingered her till she came, pretty obvious by the way her body shake and her hands grabbing mine to stop me from fingering her further. At this point I still didnt let her bj/hj me let alone shag her. She ask me to go over to her place next day after she recovers alittle. With a twinkle in her eyes I have a very good idea what she had on her mind. Next day went to her place and no one was home. I controlled myself and didnt do anything to her, not even hold her. She led me to her room and I just lay down on her bed and pretend to watch tv. Until she cannot take it anymore and started her attack on me, I tried to fend her off but once she BJ me that's it, I lost :D Lucky that time I still young, 2 shots back to back, went for dinner, then kena rape 2 shots again. After that can feel the prostrate area throbbing and aching, knees also wobling and walk kind of funnily.

Big Lalat

16-05-2005, 03:27 PM

Hey Peggy, just wanted to let you know that you have to be clear about onew thing... no offence intended here to anyone...but asian men and western men are very different. Asian men abit more sensitive and treat ladies very well, sometimes to the point of being suckers, but western men are very much different, and from what you say, the excitment is over...all he needs you to be is his release pot. No offense again, but I have lived abroad long enough to know these things. many of my white gf tells me so. Well, white gals are wild(not all though but most are) and will fu all nite and next morning like nothing happen...same with white men...sad but true. Most of the girls i had overseas went on to marry and are back leading a solo life again.

My thought is if you guy cannot understand you and you cannot work things out with him ... find out the greater meaning in life ... sex is not all...though maybe everything for some. ;)

waypastprime

16-05-2005, 04:57 PM

3. Can I know when you guys "steal eat" whether you guys use protection when the girls do the blow job ?

Peggy

This is asking if we put on safety belts while driving. It depends on individual. And nobody knows when 'we will be caught up by TP'. :eek:

MMM88

16-05-2005, 05:38 PM

Yes of course, else how to recommend to you? But not with wife lah.
With a twinkle in her eyes I have a very good idea what she had on her mind. Next day went to her place and no one was home. I controlled myself and didnt do anything to her, not even hold her. She led me to her room and I just lay down on her bed and pretend to watch tv. Until she cannot take it anymore and started her attack on me, I tried to fend her off but once she BJ me that's it, I lost :D Lucky that time I still young, 2 shots back to back, went for dinner, then kena rape 2 shots again. After that can feel the prostrate area throbbing and aching, knees also wobling and walk kind of funnily.

Bro
wow ridley hur.....my time too leh...many ONS ...but never kena RAPE leh....up you fr yr "throbbing nd aching prostate " -see told u ...i m a nice guy..................... :D

japboy

16-05-2005, 06:13 PM

he always ejaculated leaving me in the lurch. After he ejaculated, he seemed tired & fall asleep.

pardon mi but i do not think u're genuine as claimed... but for d benefits of readers here, here r mi comments...

seems like he's a selfish lover... after satisfying himself, he'll jz fall asleep...

for mi, I will always make sure mi partner comes one time during foreplay o near OG b4 i enter for the penetrative part....

i oso spend at least 15mins cuddling mi partner n talking 2 her b4 i fall asleep (of coz if i'm dog-tired den no choice but dis happens very few times)... so pl remind him of dat...

n not 2 picha our lobangs... but jz d quality and quantity of our sperms, normally a gal can tell whether her man had a romp recently.... dis, i think u shld know after so many yrs of playing on d field....

of coz, i oso can tell whether gals had a romp whether the last 48-72hrs... dis is a trade secret which i will not share w gals, jz w fella samstas.... kekekek....

i had many gal frenz who complained 2 mi of ang moh bfz.... selfish lover, flirtious, etc... but in exchange for respect of views n personal freedom... i shouldn't said dat they're financially secured as sum ang moh oso come here 2 do low-end jobs.... whether dis u wanna trade off w a traditional chin-na man is entirely ur personal choice.... ta.

PeggyWet

16-05-2005, 09:07 PM

1. Tks from the bottom of my heart to all gentlemen who contibuted their views here. Sorry I cannot post earlier as I had a tiff & heated argument with my bf. Basically what happened was I tried to initiate and "talk the problem" over with him. We had a frank talk & he admitted he "steal eat" a couple of times & the reason for that is that I do not give him a blow job. We had a heated argument & from my experience it will probably take a couple of days for "rough tide" to pass. We are both upset & now we are both playing the childish ego game & waiting to see who would initiate call first.

2. To those few bros who question my genuinity, I think it is a legitimate question bcos this is cyber space. First there is member who ask why a girl with an American mum & S'porean dad would speak like an Ah Lian. Well, it is simply bcos I am a Singaporean, I'm born & brought up in S'pore, I sing "Marilah Kita" as my national anthem in school & understood the meaining of the words, I support the S'pore soccer team & travel with them across the causeway during the Malaysia Cup days.

3. And why would I seek opinion here ? Simple, in here I can get views from many perspectives. In real life, no friends & relatives of mine dare to give me MCP views like Mr Trendboy. It is also in here, I received many creative opinions which I do not think I would be able to get in real life.

4. One things which really surprised me from all this episode is about the "blow job" thing. Even my bf now said that I did not do that for him. Which leads me to this question "Why is blow job" so important ? Is it really a neccesssity ? I used to think of it as a "dirty" & "smelly" organ & cannot imagine myself sucking (or "blow" as you guys called it) it. Maybe, I should change & start learning ... ???

5. Also, it never crossed my mind to ask my bf to lick my pussy. Will you guys do that to you gf ? Similary.... don't you guys think it is "dirty" and "smelly" to lick a girl's pussy ? Do your gf asked that from you guys ?

6. To all those members who keeps on PM me giving their number wanting to "sent me to heaven", thanks for your invitation but I think that is not the purpose I start this thread.

7. Worst still, members who kepps enticing me to "earn money while having fun", let's just say that I am quite financially stable.

Thanks again for your patience & views.

Peggy

Tai_zi21

16-05-2005, 09:59 PM

5. Also, it never crossed my mind to ask my bf to lick my pussy. Will you guys do that to you gf ? Similary.... don't you guys think it is "dirty" and "smelly" to lick a girl's pussy ? Do your gf asked that from you guys ?

Thanks again for your patience & views.

Peggy

Well Hi Peggy! 1st time posting my views on ur thread! This is just my 0.001 cents of View on ur Ques!

Yes same as u i dun like to lick my gf pussy also! i think it very dirty and er xin lor! But well but since i always like to be blow! i mean i can't be so selfish also mah cos i think most of the gers like to be lick! and i guess it part of the foreplay also ba! so i guess when it come to u n ur bf... it a give and take situation lor! i mean when it come to making love,couples need to enjoy it lor instead of thinking like come on i need a Fuck or blowjob from u now! So i would suggest u take the 1st step and maybe see how it goes with it lor! i mean anyway it harmless mah rite?

Just my personal pt of views here! :)

5stars

16-05-2005, 10:18 PM

It is quite difficult to prevent any bf or husband from "steal eat". I am quite sure. Very very usual.

But, a satisfied bf or husband will not think of "eating outside" if the leisure can be fulfilled at home. I am not asking you to please him by making him a king or emperor. But, just make him satisfy. Most girls hate to do blowjob. Teach you a trick- don't have to suck his whole penis. Just lick it like ice-cream will throw him to heaven :p

Easy say then done. Just my views. Cheers~~

Batman Begins

17-05-2005, 08:02 AM

just to share my point of view......
" BJ " or " licking pussy " normally are to be done after a total clean up or shall i say wash it very clean.

As to y we do it ?...... if you read more book, in which i have come across but cant rem the title, it part of the foreplay so as to arouse the partner into the correct mood :)

Just to side track ...... things that we totally dun know of does not = it wrong to do it ...... we must 1st seek to under stand then we judge.

be it BJ or licking ...... it have to b both willing parties, i wouldnt force my gf to do it if she doesnt like, but then doesnt mean i cant slowly educated her.
Yet by doing so ...... it doesnt account for how much 1 love the other......
the action is much to do with sensual arousing only.

If there are ppl who disagree ...... i mean this just my point of view lolz

astrozz

17-05-2005, 08:15 AM

so the truth is out ! Peggy you better start to learn to like eating "ice cream" !

There are guys who dont like to engage in oral sex , but I can tell you MOST guys do. Whats wrong with giving a blow job ? this is what its all about, sex isnt just about thrusting his penis in you till he collapse.... you got to have foreplay, variety , you got to satisfy his needs, desire and make him satisfy yours... I would love to have my girl take me in her mouth , seeing her enjoying licking and sucking me will bring me to heaven , if thats what your bf enjoy , go on girl , be his fantasy , be what he wants you to be , thats how you keep your sex life alive .

You dont know what you are missing lady ! I used to lick (eat) my gal's pussy for more than an hour, she "came" at least a few times while I tasted her hungrily...

I am not trying to convince you to do anything against your will or believe , but I would suggest you change your mindset a little on certain issues like oral sex , its not dirty, its not digusting, its part of sex , I cum in my gal's mouth, on her face , she cum in my mouth ..... we also did 3-somes, anal.... as long as we open up to each other , as long as we enjoy what we are doing TOGETHER , as long as we play it safe ,and most importantly , it keeps a couple together sexually .

japboy

17-05-2005, 09:49 AM

Even my bf now said that I did not do that for him. Which leads me to this question "Why is blow job" so important ? Is it really a neccesssity ?

with no dis-respect to u... i jz wanna ask u whether does announcing ur parentage of half-amercian, half-chin-na adds a bit more glam to u in order for u 2 gather more feedbacks? if not, why would u wanna include dat in ur opening posts???...

if u wanna show 2 all readers here dat u r in fact more sophisticated, den why would u wanna use termologies like "steal eat"? to connect 2 others??...

i think either way u had it gng wrong here... even when u r 30, u r still trying 2 look more sophisticated while in fact u r a local out n out.... sophistication is not by announcing parentage but by d way u carried urself.... :mad: but w all d questions u asked here.... i think u do live a very sheltered life...

sorry for being 2 honest n 2 hash w u... but i jz hated d idea dat u trying 2 look more sophisticated while in fact u r not... n well, doesn't everyone wants 2 look gd in front of everyone else (including me)?

anyway, coming back 2 ur qn...

sad 2 hear dat u have been living ur life as a rubber doll without a head.... well, i think in order for u 2 enjoy sex w ur bf, i think u shld think abt whether r u pleasuring him as much as u wanted him 2 do so w u.... it's a 2-way thing... it's always give-n-take...

BJ is down 2 ur personal preferences... sum guys dun like d white deposits hiding d folds... n i do not think u will like 2 c similiar stuff after u peeled ur bf's banana..... one of mi ex dun enjoy BJ ... n i have 2 slowly educate her...

so if u wanna start learning how 2 enjoy bj with each other... go for a shower together... use non-fragranted soup 2 wash cleanly.... n den make sure u wipe them clean n dry after u have stepped out of the shower...

u will never know wat's ur partner's preferences so listen 2 he as to how n when 2 do it..... i give a lot of encouragement... .likewise when ur bf is eating u, make sure u let him know how n when u like it.... i do dirty-talk a bit when i'm eating peaches... but ur bf shld b experienced enuff (no offense)...

i think gng out having sum fun is inevitable for all guys... it's jz whether can u make him not go there at all.. dis, i guess u'll have 2 ask ur dad... there shouldn't b any secrets between parents n daughter.... i do strongly respect a few of mi frenz who stand steadfast even when faced w temptations...

all in all.. i'm not trying 2 b hash 2 u but simply trying 2 understand u.. a newbie.. a bit betta n correct urself.. of coz, no man is infallable n i hope u can voice ur opinion on mi as well (which i think highly unlikely)... once u r done w ur probs... cheers... :D

Happosai

17-05-2005, 11:05 AM

1. We had a frank talk & he admitted he "steal eat" a couple of times & the reason for that is that I do not give him a blow job.

4. Which leads me to this question "Why is blow job" so important ? Is it really a neccesssity ? I used to think of it as a "dirty" & "smelly" organ & cannot imagine myself sucking (or "blow" as you guys called it) it. Maybe, I should change & start learning ... ???

5. Also, it never crossed my mind to ask my bf to lick my pussy. Will you guys do that to you gf ? Similary.... don't you guys think it is "dirty" and "smelly" to lick a girl's pussy ? Do your gf asked that from you guys ?

Peggy

In response to
1) Scroll back to my previous post about satisfying his needs and fantasy. See what I mean? He like BJ and you dont give him, needs to satisfied. Just curious, now that he has admitted to you that he had been unfaithful to you, what next? Can you forgive him? More importantly can you trust him again? If you cant trust him again how are you gonna maintain a relationship without trust? Dont misunderstand, I'm no way suggesting or asking you to break off with him, just really curious about your views on trust issue cos I dump my ex gf cos she betrayed my trust.

4) BJ are a part of foreplay, no foreplay sex just aint the same. Kindda boring if sex is just both party strips and starts banging without any foreplay. What is so dirty about our sex organs? Ever tried washing your BF's organ before sex? And yes you definately need to change and start learning. Watch more porno and learn from there. Basically treat your bf's willie like a lollipop, look at his expression while blowing him to have an idea what you're doing right or wrong.

5) My gawd... Your bf has never lick your pussy or you didnt allow him to? Woman, you are missing out alot in life!!! If both you and your bf have got good personal hygiene, there shouldnt be much smell to begin with. If it is really that smelly then you 2 better go see a doctor for potential STD cases. In any case, to ensure smell free, you 2 can always take a shower together before having sex, what's stopping you from using the shower session as part of the foreplay? Try this, fill your mouth full of relatively warm water and give him a bj. Oh yah, before I forget, if your bf ever give you a cunnilingus, make sure he knows never ever blow air into your virgina, you might die from it.

wahlau

17-05-2005, 03:09 PM

I suppose you got all the answers you need altho' some may not make sense to you.

Let me share my thoughts with you.

Sex is also about satisfying the other party before you satisfy yourself. I suppose if both adopt the same attitude, bingo! you have a time of your life.

Some men have weird, kinky taste. And I sppose women too. I go out of the way to satisfy my wife. I learn to prolong ejaculation so she can come before me as she takes some time to come. I look for herbs that can help me perform better for her (and for my own ego!). In short, I go out of my way to satisfy her.

Look at it this way, I accompany my wife shopping even tho' I hate walking the streets aimlessly for hours. She does the same for me when I go into sports. She waits for me even tho she doesn't understand the rules of the game.

Talking about it helps. Learning a few tips from fellow brothers here help.

I wish you all the best.

nottibabe

17-05-2005, 05:48 PM

hi peggy,

me ur sister here too... Understand what u r going thru' :) To me lotzz of the advice is easier said than done. Esp'y once u r married, u juz got to do the better of it.

wat i do is usually engaged in lozza foreplay - make sure cannot allow him to cum 1st... slow down if u notice his like on the verge of cumming. Guide him to work u ... n lead him wif "... some more... dun stop ..." kind of stuffs...

of coz, to masturbate do help too... ;)

tanterry

17-05-2005, 07:44 PM

Your dissexification is towards a emotional need. Maybe you are insercure or something like that, so clam yourself down lah... sometimes you need to try something different to get your mind off sex. You may try learning yoga. Of course, sex is a need! But should be in moderation, else you could just turn into a sex maniac.

hungryghost4

17-05-2005, 08:30 PM

Peggy,

There are 2 things you could do:

1. Try the BJ thing but with a fruit-flavoured CD. They are readily avaiable. The 'raw' taste of the male organ will be masked by the fruit smell and plastic taste of the CD...that's if you think this is your only problem before marriage

2. Go for pre marriage counselling. If your BF is already such a MCP before marriage, what do you think he will be like after marriage? Your sexual problems may be indicative of deeper set issues. Your big quarrel with him is some proof of this.

Good luck!

poison

18-05-2005, 01:49 AM

Peggy

Congrats................to your upcoming marriage.
So far, if u only done with 1 man, u probably miss out the whole forest.
U are welcome to "steal eat" before marriage, or even after marriage.

Gerald Tan

18-05-2005, 08:35 PM

1.
Thanks again for your patience & views.

Peggy
Hi Peggy,
Its always great pleasure to exchange infor with u on each sexperience.
(a) Guys like to be blow - hehe, its the wonderful feeling to see the gal engulf our shaft. So, do try it out with ur bf, ok. Oh yeah, i dun mind teach u how to do if u can spend some time free with me...
(b) I also like to lick gals pussy, and have done dat. But it depends on mood and her clean pussy. If got much hair, it put off me. The gal will experience 'heaven' if the lick is so stimulating.
Good luck n enjoy ur future hubby licking..

thaivisitor

19-05-2005, 12:47 AM

2. To those few bros who question my genuinity, I think it is a legitimate question bcos this is cyber space. First there is member who ask why a girl with an American mum & S'porean dad would speak like an Ah Lian. Well, it is simply bcos I am a Singaporean, I'm born & brought up in S'pore, I sing "Marilah Kita" as my national anthem in school & understood the meaining of the words, I support the S'pore soccer team & travel with them across the causeway during the Malaysia Cup days.

4. One things which really surprised me from all this episode is about the "blow job" thing. Even my bf now said that I did not do that for him. Which leads me to this question "Why is blow job" so important ? Is it really a neccesssity ? I used to think of it as a "dirty" & "smelly" organ & cannot imagine myself sucking (or "blow" as you guys called it) it. Maybe, I should change & start learning ... ???

5. Also, it never crossed my mind to ask my bf to lick my pussy. Will you guys do that to you gf ? Similary.... don't you guys think it is "dirty" and "smelly" to lick a girl's pussy ? Do your gf asked that from you guys ?

I can see that there are a lot of kind bros here giving you their best advises, etc, etc.

But frankly speaking, I'm beginning to doubt the genuinity of your story.

For someone (a girl especially) who is so liberal in being able to masturbate and even use a vibrator (which I presume you own), you come out with surprisingly opposite statements on BJ and pussy licking as if you are so innocent in such matters.

I'm been married 3 times, have countless relationships, even more countless commercial sex...... and most of the girls I know (even prostitutes) who have been doing BJ and having their pussies licked, practically "old birds" in the joys of sex, have qualms about masturbating themselves, let alone using a vibrator.

Also, any guy, with a wife or steady girlfriend, having regular sex for 7 years, would have at least tried to have their women perform BJs on them and would have also tried to lick their women's pussy.

So I'm beginning to feel that you might be a guy posing as a woman here (knowing that bros here will normally response to a woman) and just giving statements and questions here for the fun of it, and who knows with the intent of trying to make us look like... fools????

My 2 cents worth.
thaivisitor :rolleyes:

astrozz

19-05-2005, 07:59 AM

But frankly speaking, I'm beginning to doubt the genuinity of your story.

Usually I dont think too much about a person's posts , I respond to the subject , not the person him/herself .. but in this case , after reading thaivisitor's statement , I realized I too am beginning to doubt Peggy's genuinity.... somethings just didnt add up... :rolleyes:

nottibabe

19-05-2005, 03:03 PM

Sweetie Peggy sister,

as a lady, let me say a fair word ... giving bj to a guy can be as "high" as receiving 1. It's all how u perceive it. i enjoy bj'g my guy as much as, if not more, than fj. take it that u r having him in control, n challenge urself in giving him a hell of time .... den when u see him in ecstasy, it can bring u enuf satisfaction to cum. But of coz, if u wanna prolong it, learn to control the speed n pressure .... dun let him cum too soon. ;)

Mr Rosie

19-05-2005, 04:46 PM

Premature Ejaculation: how to fix it

I'm quite familiar with this problem (don't ask me why). The question is how to satisfy the lady first, before yourself.

1. The guy should wear one or even two condoms.
2. The guy should masturbate the day before.
3. The guy should try to stimulate the lady as much as possible, using cunnilingus or other technique which she likes.
4. The guy should adopt a position which is not his favourite, e.g. standing up, or woman on top, etc.

With these 4 points, I managed to fix my... er I mean my friend's premature ejaculation problem. :)

kaizer

19-05-2005, 08:39 PM

holding

21-05-2005, 11:56 AM

Also, any guy, with a wife or steady girlfriend, having regular sex for 7 years, would have at least tried to have their women perform BJs on them and would have also tried to lick their women's pussy.:

unfortunately tv, i fall into one of the minor...No BJ from my Other even after now more than 7 yrs; I tried lickin her lower region b4 but she always push me away...

Guess some women always associate their cunt region as dirty?? :( Perhaps due to upbringing???

holding

21-05-2005, 12:05 PM

Hi PeggyWet,

Finally u had a talk with your fiancee...Guess it didn't go too well...

his excuse of "steal eat" just because of no BJ is quite lame...Obviously, u know now where his priorities lie...Dun go for "steal eat" urself; dun make the situation worse at the moment.

The best excuse now b4 committing bigtime is to go for those premartial couselling or sex counsellor to c whether things can be worked out.

BJ or oral is not "dirty"; it might be associated as "dirty" due to upbringing or what u perceive urself. But also heard of marriage work and cummin works even w/o BJ or oral; so i leave it all up to u...

i'mscrewed

21-05-2005, 03:12 PM

Hi PeggyWet,

BJ or oral is not "dirty"; it might be associated as "dirty" due to upbringing or what u perceive urself.

I agree with you. A lot of such problems or misconceptions have their origins in the upbringing of females. Many Chinese parents are rather conservative and would probably have taught their daughters that private parts are dirty. To take it further, some parents even think that females become jinxes when their menses arrive. Some also think that walking female underwears will bring misfortune.

To solve the problem, you have to encourage your girlfriend to read more female magazines like Her World or Cleo. Although these magazines might create another problem (shopping), however, they do educate and dispel alot of misconceptions that females have.

PeggyWet

18-02-2006, 02:58 PM

A big hello and thanks to all who posted & pm me. Also a big apology to all for being quiet for a while.

Thought of jus providing a bit of an update on what's happening. To iron out some of our problem, my bf suggested that we went to the States for a one month holiday since he gotta go there to attend a one-week seminar. I thought it was a good idea to sort out our problem.

During the first week there, he was too busy with his seminar and left me alone. I was sad & started drinking. In one of those drinking session, a lady in her mid 20s approached me, she introduced herself as Amy. She is a British holidaying in the States. We started talking and she bought me a drink. After a while I feel stomach upset & giddy, I guess the drink is too strong for me. while talking, I accidetally hit my arms on the table and the drink i am holding splased onto her expensive dress. I was feeling bad and apologize profusely. Fortunately, she was not angry. In fact, she was kind enough to invite me to chat in her room as she said she gotta go back to her room and change. Feeling bad, I agreed to continue our chat in her room since she seemed like a nice & polite person.

When she opened the door, I was impressed with the size of the room, it was a luxury suite room with a nice view, the decorations are so tastefully down & it felt so nice to sit on the sofa. She took me to her wardrobe and ask for my opnion as to which dress is suitable for her. I chose one with blue colour. Then she said she gotta take shower first & asked me to help her turn on the hot water. I tried to but & turn on the wrong knob & suddenly a strong stream of water splashed on me. My whole shirt was wet, I was wearing a see-thru dress & the bra I was wearing was a half cup bra, so my C cup breast was actually half exposed & she commented that I have a nice pair of breast.

She asked me whether I want to change, I said ok, she can lend me a Tshirt & i return her later. She asked me to help myself in the wardrobe & she proceed to take shower. As I was taking off my wet shirt to change into the the T-Shirt, I suddenly felt a wet pair of hands caressing my breast from behind. I tried to ressist but don't know I cannot bcos it kinda felt very nice. I can also feel her wet pair of breast rubbing against my back. I turn around and look, Oh my God, she has a nice pair of D cups breast. I thought my C cup was big but her breast is certainly bigger than mine. She then rubbed her breast against my breast and it was a nice feeling, never felt like that before. Soon, I lost control & she took over the situation, she start to lick my nipple and I lost my mind. She unbotton my skirt and pull down my panties & satrt to lick my pussy, she was so good at it that I start to shiver with every new lick from her tongue.

She then whipped out a double headed vibrator and insert one end into her pussy with the other end in my pussy. At the same time she was fondling with my breast. The feeling was great and suddenly I feel my whole body was exploding and stated screaming in esctacy. This is the nicest sex experience I ever had. After a while it was time go go as my bf is coming back. So, we exchange contact.

The next day, she called me up & asked me whether she can come and visit me in my room instead. I said ok. To cut the story short, we had another session but before we could finish my bf opened the door & came in. He saw both of us in the act. He was so pissed off. He said we was not going to marry a lesbian.

So, now I have broken off with my bf. Maybe he is right. Maybe I am a lesbian, maybe I am not. I am not sure whether I am a lesbian or bisexual ?

Anyway, thanks for reading the happenings of my life