What men want? Especially married guys

[whitelingerie]

Does good men exists in Earth now?

Why do girls like married men?

Why men keep secrets to wife but will not keep secrets to girl friend?

I have a guy friend who is happily married, I was shocked to catch him with a china girl at USS and the china girl is a normal girl only - a bit taller than him, figure quite good but face average w/o makeup. His wife is so much prettier, successful in career and gave birth to 2 babies for him....


*scratch head... pls enlightening me my dear bros here~

[starystarynite]

Is nt so simple. Wifey can be prettier, but if quarrel evetyday, communication problem at home, wifey demand too much, nvr look after husband's feeling, too stress up at home, men will also eat out.

May b tat china girl is gd in bed. Able to fulfil all his fantasy, n sweet n tender, soft, who doesn.t want..

[unsung80]

Is cheap thrill sis, man are wild beast inside out. :D

[Bangster]

why you all think so far...?

The China girl could be a counter staff who is able to get free tickets to the Galaxy ride...
so he went there to find her and try out the ride lor.

[Absolute]

I am not married but I believe I understand the married man's psychology.

The married men who strayed do so because their girlfriends could, in part, filled up the vacuum that their seemingly better qualified wives could not.

The girlfriend may be a plain jane but she is able to fill the void of her married boyfriend. This could be sex, communication, character, simplicity, sophistication, authenticity, etc. The list is endless.

[naturegreen]

Simply this:
A woman thinks her man would change after marriage but she is wrong.
A man thinks that his woman would not change after marriage but he is also wrong.
So they go out to seek for what they are after, no necessarily men, women are doing likewise too.

[Rickey]

Does good men exists in Earth now?

Why do girls like married men?

Why men keep secrets to wife but will not keep secrets to girl friend?

I have a guy friend who is happily married, I was shocked to catch him with a china girl at USS and the china girl is a normal girl only - a bit taller than him, figure quite good but face average w/o makeup. His wife is so much prettier, successful in career and gave birth to 2 babies for him....

*scratch head... pls enlightening me my dear bros here~

Is nt so simple. Wifey can be prettier, but if quarrel everyday, communication problem at home, wifey demand too much, nvr look after husband's feeling, too stress up at home, men will also eat out.

May b tat china girl is gd in bed. Able to fulfil all his fantasy, n sweet n tender, soft, who doesn.t want..

So well said bro starystarynite !....tats how i feel too...short & sweet !!

[Cocky]

My 2 cents, for my view. After having being together for a while, is like lost the sense of "freshenss".

[imgoog]

some guys just got married too early too soon. they tot they have found 'the one' den get married. Only in the later years den there is more other woman whom is better den the wife.

could also be the wife married liao, didnt bother to upkeep her beauty anymore. so see liao sian liao den have an affair outside lor. Lastly, the guy just wann have an affair. period. :)

[kue19xx]

I would realy like to answer your question but I just unable to put it in words..and starystarynite may have summed it all up..I belive lots of answers could be found in the Wife dont like sex thread..

[Bangster]

cannot everyday eat chicken rice wat....
sometimes will try prawn mee or prata mah.
becos the chicken rice boss will choot pattern, maybe less cucumber, maybe rice half-cooked becos she'll think you like to eat her chicken rice so much you won't go eat at other stalls, so she begins to choot pattern

cannot everyday go to the same foodcourt also.
sometimes will go to restaurant, sometimes fastfood, sometimes make sandwich
becos if you go to the same foodcourt everyday, you see the same setting, the same chairs, the same cleaners,the same stalls and their helpers shouting incessantly.
but if you sometimes go to a restaurant, the staff greets you when u enter, recommends the Chef's special, says bon appetit when they serve you, tops up your glass with wine or lemon infused pure water, and finally tells you they would really love to see you come back again and hope your meal was an enjoyable one when you are leaving.

understand?

[Rickey]

My 2 cents, for my view. After having being together for a while, is like lost the sense of "freshenss".

Bro, tink we hav all heard of a saying tat says "familiarity breeds contempt !"..how very true all these proverbs are !

[ouzo18]

cannot everyday eat chicken rice wat....
sometimes will try prawn mee or prata mah.
becos the chicken rice boss will choot pattern, maybe less cucumber, maybe rice half-cooked becos she'll think you like to eat her chicken rice so much you won't go eat at other stalls, so she begins to choot pattern

cannot everyday go to the same foodcourt also.
sometimes will go to restaurant, sometimes fastfood, sometimes make sandwich
becos if you go to the same foodcourt everyday, you see the same setting, the same chairs, the same cleaners,the same stalls and their helpers shouting incessantly.
but if you sometimes go to a restaurant, the staff greets you when u enter, recommends the Chef's special, says bon appetit when they serve you, tops up your glass with wine or lemon infused pure water, and finally tells you they would really love to see you come back again and hope your meal was an enjoyable one when you are leaving.

understand?

Hahaha, good one Bro, u are so funny.
I like the way u put it....lol

[Digistras80]

Hi TS,

Is subjective...not all man are like what you said. Also maybe your fren's wife is successful in her career...maybe she's too focus on her career and no time for her husband?

just my 2cts worth :)

[cocknloaded]

i am married but i dont have anyone liking me leh.. i got career and i dont think i look ugly.. :(

for your friend's case, i believe the girl don't like HIM, she likes the money on him!

[Rub&Buah]

Sometime is not what the man wants.it's the stress with life plus wife pattern make a man dunno what he wants anymore.he may really love his wife,done his best care with concern and nevver fail to put food on the table every day by striving hard on the career.only to find the wife attitude,nagging at him at anytime over small small matters.maybe only talk nicely when she's wants a new LV collection or she over spend on the sub credit card the husband haves her.

End up,how does we man feels?we know there is love,there is commitment.it's not abt the man doing not enough.it's like whatever he do it is not enough to live up to expectation!end up go out drinking with friends,some time happy hour so go out of the rail to Tao jia outside lor.

Those serious case one will kana kc by those working ladies,then the man will start to feel appreciate becos of the working lady gentleness(even if he know it's all about pretendence over money but hey at least when he spend money this way he feel good!

I believe good man spend much more on wife only to get negative treatment at home.(something like that dun really know how to expess in correct terms)

Actually sometime to be a man is suffering also.but we have to be strong cos we are man!

[guruking]

Is there true love in this world?....

[abchow]

The Grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. :rolleyes:

[nuclearkid]

Its often an issue of variety and mystique. Not seeking to vindicate straying hearts out there but many blokes seek out the unknown in hope of attaining nirvana. I personally don't think the first mistress/extra marital affair is the be-all and end-all. Once the rubicon is crossed, its just gonna be a series of misendeavours. But hey, look on the bright side, many cheating men never leave their wives. :D Scant consolation but it demonstrates the ability of men to segregate love and lust.

[Reoxy]

If a married/ attached man/ woman have an affair, it is simply because they do not control themselves. End of story.

Temptations are everywhere. There is always someone better. It is a matter of do you want to control your urge.

[sytloverr]

classic example is hugh grant.
with ex-wife liz hurley
beautiful with body to die for.
queue of guys wishing they could be him

then went to get blowjob from random WL called Divine Brown.
Way way worse looking than his wife.

it's tough to explain...

[daniu]

there's a saying in chinese : 妻不如妾， 妾不如偷。
in english : wife is nowhere as good as mistress, mistress is never as good as having an affair..... :D
guess it's the thrill that's enticing....:D

[angurvadal]

Kindly allow my 2 cents' worth.

As a man progress through life, his needs and wants change.

I remember when i was at my lowest point in my life, lost my career and everything i built for 10 yrs. i turned to alcohol to drown my sorrows.

My wife is successful in her career, pretty & intelligent. She has a very strong character & could not stand how 'weak' i became. And we slowly but surely drifted apart.

For me, my needs changed, i wanted a woman that can accommodate my weakness and not laughed at it. I needed a woman that can give me the support to stand up again.

Thus do not judge us man too soon. Everyone has a part to play.

[TheGreatOne]

Not talking about ALL men but majority of men here.

IMHO, it depends on the mood sometimes. Just to list a few example:

Myth 1 : Only ugly unwanted single lonely men resort to prostitution or FL, HC etc, in short - paid sex.

Fact : Some men happened to have some extra cash from 4D, soccer, biz etc and wanna indulge themselves with some service. Some just feel plain bored, even knowing they are going to service their wives at home later. Some just merely follow friends just to socialise.

Myth 2 : Men look for FB, flings, scandals because their wives are LSD (low sex drive).

Fact : Some wives are known to be hungry tigresses who aimed to suck dry their men at every possible chance though not many bros can verify this, but there are. So the reasons these men still strayed are (a)possibly looking for fresh meat, (b)to get away from being 'prey' role, (c)to better their seemingly-rusty chick-sianing skills, (d)Got free meat deliver to door step don't eat meh?

Myth 3 : Men look for FB, flings, scandals because their wives are undesirable(fugly but wonder how these bros marry them in the 1st place?, broaden bodies meaning 'sin zai zao yong' aka bodyshape CMI, dead fish in bed meaning those who don't moan for whatever reason, boring sex partners only missionary no bj no this no that category, no interest whatsoever in their mens' fetish(es))

Fact : Sad to say, this is the main but not the exact reason why married men strayed. Some bros here have beautiful wives with curvy bodies other men would die for who moan like bitches and would do anything that pleases their men and do whatever their men requested for, BUT SOME still strayed. Majority of bros would gladly declare their end of conquests if they happened to have such wives as shown in red.

Myth 4 : Men only stray if their wives strayed 1st.

Fact : This is almost a surefire reason why men strayed but again there are exceptions. Forgiving their unfaithful wives and remain chaste. But those are rare species.

Bottomline, men strayed for 1001 reasons.

[inez]

I've been with 2 married men in my life.

The first when I was 20. He didn't have kids and was married for about 4 years. He was also 8 yrs my senior. I knew he was married and he knew I wasn't interested in a long term fling. Just a ONS. He was hot and from what I could see, his wife wasn't. He had a disappointing sex life at home and was looking for a night to recapture his former glory.

The 2nd guy, I was 23. He did have a daughter of 5 yrs old and was married for 7 yrs. He was 10 years my senior. I knew he was married and even knew his wife and daughter. He was keen to leave his wife but I wasn't willing. I was confused at the time and swore I'd never do it again. He on the other hand just lost it after his wife gave birth. She was a beauty before childbirth. After that, she just lost it (Size 16).

I do feel that at times men are forced into looking elsewhere because women grow complacent.
It's been a good learning experience for me. I make NO demands on my current boyfriend about marriage but he seems enlightened in all of this. He knows I've slept around before and can accept it. He has had his wild side too and we now just compromise on our fidelity towards each other. He has lapsed once since we've gotten engaged and told me immediately and I have accepted that these things happen.
We discussed the cause of this and I know that I am partly responsible.

So I think it's education and talking lots to your wife or OC to try and make it work out in a way you both get what you want.

If you like having a lifetime of buffet. Don't get married.

[blohsg]

so many reasons so many opportunities ... where to start ?

Interesting breakdown from the GreatOne :)

Inez ... lifetime of buffet ... haha that's a good one :)

[Chua Tian Xiang]

they need to find themselves a gay buddy i think

[orneryjoe]

...If you like having a lifetime of buffet. Don't get married.

The way society is structured now, this may just be the most sensible thing to do.

Cos for both men and women, variety will always be the spice of life. But our social conventions frown upon it.

If only I had the chance to live my life over again...

[Doggone!]

Men look for SEX, Women look for LOVE

When someone marry,they are looking to spending and sharing
their lives together. Having sex is one but not the only reason
for getting married.

When a man look for FL, prostitute, etc, he is looking to fulfill
the physical sexual needs and not looking for a lifetime partner, etc.

Not saying that this is right or wrong but that this covers most cases.

Just sharing my thoughts

[Sexy Under]

2 possibilities.

1. Men don't know what they want.
2. What they want keep changing.

Applies to women as well. Otherwise, why is there a procedure call DIVORCE?

[ck1961]

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[imaginative]

Does good men exists in Earth now?

Why do girls like married men?

Why men keep secrets to wife but will not keep secrets to girl friend?

I have a guy friend who is happily married, I was shocked to catch him with a china girl at USS and the china girl is a normal girl only - a bit taller than him, figure quite good but face average w/o makeup. His wife is so much prettier, successful in career and gave birth to 2 babies for him....


*scratch head... pls enlightening me my dear bros here~

Good men does exist if they know how to create "variety" in their married life.

Your guy friend merely wants "variety".

[whitelingerie]

cannot everyday eat chicken rice wat....
sometimes will try prawn mee or prata mah.
becos the chicken rice boss will choot pattern, maybe less cucumber, maybe rice half-cooked becos she'll think you like to eat her chicken rice so much you won't go eat at other stalls, so she begins to choot pattern

cannot everyday go to the same foodcourt also.
sometimes will go to restaurant, sometimes fastfood, sometimes make sandwich
becos if you go to the same foodcourt everyday, you see the same setting, the same chairs, the same cleaners,the same stalls and their helpers shouting incessantly.
but if you sometimes go to a restaurant, the staff greets you when u enter, recommends the Chef's special, says bon appetit when they serve you, tops up your glass with wine or lemon infused pure water, and finally tells you they would really love to see you come back again and hope your meal was an enjoyable one when you are leaving.

understand?

Hi Bro! Nice one! me too though I am a girl, I also feel this way.

My fren once told me that no matter how pretty u look, how to dress differently and change hairstyle, the face also look the same old u...

So, conclusion is humans are sinful...

[whitelingerie]

Thanks All Bros and sis for sharing~~~~ I believe putting spices and being an adventurous and unpredictable wife would also be good enuff....

Men loves excitment and fresh stuffs... sometimes need to poke and excite him abit... The hot and cold thing... yet cannot be too submissive... i suppose some men do like women to take charge of sex... :)

Men likes to persue women and women likes please men...

many often women want to be pleased which is not the correct way as men feel pressured by their demands...

Any comments?

[dotx]

Let me put it in my own words ..

The sky at night is my life .
My wife is the moon .
My flings r those surrounding stars .

Without moon , sky no nice .
Without stars , sky no nice too .
With 1 moon & many stars , sky nice nice .

But i always bear 1 thing in mind ..

Moon only can have 1 .
Stars wise , many or few also no problem . As i said , the more stars i have , the more beautiful my sky is ..

*clap clap*

[Agentoso]

Hi Bro! Nice one! me too though I am a girl, I also feel this way.

My fren once told me that no matter how pretty u look, how to dress differently and change hairstyle, the face also look the same old u...

So, conclusion is humans are sinful...

Yup Human are sinful.

Seem like ladies nowadays are really on par with men for almost all aspects. Works, Flings etc.

Too bad have not met this type of ladies yet.

[whitelingerie]

Clap clap!!!

the moon will attract astronauts, not one not 2 but many, given the fact that things are more high-technology (open minded). Alot of my gf / wives themselves fling around and with colleagues too...

[whitelingerie]

Oh... i met lotsa this kind of girls...

[patrickzapu]

Is there true love in this world?....

True love only exists in fairy tales, bro..........

[Oink Oink]

Does good men exists in Earth now?

Why do girls like married men?

Why men keep secrets to wife but will not keep secrets to girl friend?



1. Yes, they exist but they are all married.

2. Bcos married men are GOOD men.

3. Wife knows your secret, you pay alimony. GF knows your secret, change another GF.

What married men want is to be UNmarried. :D

[Rickey]

Thanks All Bros and sis for sharing~~~~ I believe putting spices and being an adventurous and unpredictable wife would also be good enuff....

Men likes to persue women and women likes please men...Any comments?

Lol, sis, tis may be true b4 marriage...but after ??...tink most of us married guys wld know the answer...we are getting the bitter taste wif our OCs even now...most marriages end up wif the men having to try so hard to please their women i/o the other round...sigh

[bunnyrabbit]

Drink the milk but dun BRING the cow home!

[HotSpot881]

Does good men exists in Earth now?

Why do girls like married men?

Why men keep secrets to wife but will not keep secrets to girl friend?

I have a guy friend who is happily married, I was shocked to catch him with a china girl at USS and the china girl is a normal girl only - a bit taller than him, figure quite good but face average w/o makeup. His wife is so much prettier, successful in career and gave birth to 2 babies for him....


*scratch head... pls enlightening me my dear bros here~

To be enlighten, u got to be involved in the process.., hear say hear say can only make u more curious and wonder more. R u married ?

[naturegreen]

Drink the milk but dun BRING the cow home!

Totally agree. In another words, you don't have to buy a cow just because you want to drink milk. :D

[bamaotong]

Actually what men really want...is to have a wife/gf who is adventurous and spontaneous in sex. Most wife/gf would simple refused certain things during sex e.g. BJ, CIM etc.

If your partner is always willing to try new things out, then eating out shouldn't be existent

[Carol]

I think decent men are still around, just that it's rare.

I grew up listening to many cheating spouse stories. lets just say that the private investigation biz makes me aware of such cases ard sg. imagine listening to hundreds of such cases since young. as a girl, i already learnt to accept it.

although i'm not yet married, but to me, as long as my husband is a responsible man. loves the kids, loves the family, respects me. he can eat all he wants, just clean mouth and dont bring trouble home. That's my thinking though. (:

[amlover]

I think decent men are still around, just that it's rare.

I grew up listening to many cheating spouse stories. lets just say that the private investigation biz makes me aware of such cases ard sg. imagine listening to hundreds of such cases since young. as a girl, i already learnt to accept it.

although i'm not yet married, but to me, as long as my husband is a responsible man. loves the kids, loves the family, respects me. he can eat all he wants, just clean mouth and dont bring trouble home. That's my thinking though.

I wish my wife be like you, so understand about man need, not giving excuse for the man or anything...just that man are man, and which man wont feel touch by the pretty woman and care for them beside their wife? but of cos not to the extend to bring trouble back home....is all late for me now......What ever here have said, i do agree with you the are decent man around just very rare...may be 1 in the 100,000 in spore???????

above is just my though.....