Do you still wanna bonk your wife?

[TyLa_BaBy]

Curious question: How many of the married blokes here still desire to have sex with their wives?

Have always been curious if most of the married guys here are just not getting what they need at home, or they just got bored of "homecooked food". :p



P.S. This is NOT reason for unsolicited PMs with sexual requests. All such PMs will be ignored. Thx. :)

[stupendous]

I am bored of home-cooked meal for a long time liao.

[mr nice guy]

hahaha.. love ur siggie tyla..

hmmm. im still having the hot sexs with my wifey.. now, its harder coz of my 2month old baby who sleeps between us..

we have to move her meticulously onto her cot before getting it on.. will bonk her again on thursday.. hehehe..

but, must not shoot inside her coz we are not keen on another baby so soon.. hahahahah..

guys who eat out are just trying out "food" tat are out there.. they dun love the outside food as how they are in love with their wife... :D

[sleaguepunter]

more like dying of hunger at home so no choice but to eat out.

hardly ever do nowadays, lucky can get once or twice a month. Ever went thru 4 mths not even once. Last time will quarral over this, now i boh chiew liao. No point getting angry of this, just go for the occasional eat out, mostly just look for my five "princesses". :(

[TyLa_BaBy]

hmmm. im still having the hot sexs with my wifey.. now, its harder coz of my 2month old baby who sleeps between us..

we have to move her meticulously onto her cot before getting it on.. will bonk her again on thursday.. hehehe..

but, must not shoot inside her coz we are not keen on another baby so soon.. hahahahah..


If you want, I can share how to "kick" baby out of your room. Both my kids were out by 4 mths old. :D

Just after having baby no choice one lah, either condom or cum outside. But your wife also sibei onz! 2 mths after baby already having sex with you. Lucky guy!!



guys who eat out are just trying out "food" tat are out there.. they dun love the outside food as how they are in love with their wife... :D


Thanks for the input! But now it raises more questions... If love the wife then why must "eat outside"? And does the wife know??


BTW, my siggie no use one. Still kenna PMs. :(

[TyLa_BaBy]

I am bored of home-cooked meal for a long time liao.

Married for very long already??




more like dying of hunger at home so no choice but to eat out.

hardly ever do nowadays, lucky can get once or twice a month. Ever went thru 4 mths not even once. Last time will quarral over this, now i boh chiew liao. No point getting angry of this, just go for the occasional eat out, mostly just look for my five "princesses". :(


Ya balls, I know how you feel. Quarrel until sian already. If have then good, don't have then sua, right? Quarrel 1000 times also no change, so what's the point.
But once again I have to say, at least you men can pay and get sex hor. Women can get it free lah, but no QC one. *LOL*

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Still making out with her but not as often as before,maybe 3 to 4 time per month.

[TyLa_BaBy]

Still making out with her but not as often as before,maybe 3 to 4 time per month.

That's like once a week lor! That's more than what I get. :(
If I have once a week I don't need to come here kaypoh other ppl's sex lives liao. *LOL*

[sgsextalk]

I will still bonking her like 2 times a week at least?
else she will suspect something is wrong or she will find her ways to satisfy herself? (giving u a green hat)
Most of all, is free bonk whenever you like.

[DUREX^PERFORMA]

i thou i am the only one with that kind of suitation......!i am lucky if i can get 1 shot/mth!:(

[Xgenre]

mostly just look for my five "princesses". :(

What do you mean by 5 princessess? Got a regular pool of 5 fls? Or you actually have 5 daughters? If you have 5 daughters... bro.. cost of living quite high ah? :p

[richie_rich]

Have always been curious if most of the married guys here are just not getting what they need at home, or they just got bored of "homecooked food". :p


As for me, not that home-made steak is not good or what. i just like to go out for a burger once a while. :p

[miloluv]

Ya balls, I know how you feel. Quarrel until sian already. If have then good, don't have then sua, right? Quarrel 1000 times also no change, so what's the point.
But once again I have to say, at least you men can pay and get sex hor. Women can get it free lah, but no QC one. *LOL*
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errmm.. Not really uh.. sometimes men pay also can get no QC one hor.. hard earned $ down the drain... :o

[mr nice guy]

If you want, I can share how to "kick" baby out of your room. Both my kids were out by 4 mths old. :D

Just after having baby no choice one lah, either condom or cum outside. But your wife also sibei onz! 2 mths after baby already having sex with you. Lucky guy!!






Thanks for the input! But now it raises more questions... If love the wife then why must "eat outside"? And does the wife know??


BTW, my siggie no use one. Still kenna PMs. :(

hahahaa.. very cute lah u.. wat makes you think you can get away scot free in this forum.. hahah.. guys will always be guys.. just ignore the PMs and they will soon dies down,..

neways, its ok with me if the baby sleeps with us.. and we have to be quiet while doing it.. havent in a situation where the baby suddenly cries while im riding her,.. hahaha.. hope the day doenst come.. the trick is to feed the baby fully and make sure the baby is really snoring before laying it down.. or else the baby will cry when they are no longer in our arms.. heheheh

when she was preggie, we stop doing when she was around 4mths.. can u imagine the feeling i have to bear when i see power gerls outside and cant do anything about it?? actually i can dont have sex for a long time.. not tat i dun like it.. just tat i can live without sex.. heheheh..

FYI, during her pregnancy, i can always "eat out" to satisfy.. but i dun.. just the occasional masturbation is enuf for me.. heheheh..

and guys who eat out isnt a bad guy.. just doing it for the thrill of it.. no love attached to the "food".. he will still come home to his wife and children..:D

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married for 10 years.
don't really enjoy bonking her even in the beginning of the marriage or whether she initiate. Guess she is inactive with such activities.
Therefore, prefer to dine-out.
Really envy those couples that can have a enjoyable sex life.
(My relationship with wife is still alright except for the ML part).

[Masterdebater]

Yes I do all the time. But then we have been married 2 years. Never had the courage to try other things so I just read about them here...

What about pcc? Do the married ones still pcc?

[mr nice guy]

Yes I do all the time. But then we have been married 2 years. Never had the courage to try other things so I just read about them here...

What about pcc? Do the married ones still pcc?

i do... hahahaha.. nothing to be ashamed.. usually when wife red light or quarrel with wife.. hahahah..:p

and if those who noes bout my sis in law.. yup, i do pcc when fantasizing her... hahahaha.. wonderful!!!;)

[freezetheDB]

a man usually love just one woman but is able to fuck many attractive women. At the end of the day he returns to the woman. This is in our genes.

if the man can stay faithful to his woman (and dont bonk around), he is a treasure as he is fighting his own instincts keeping them under control.

if he cant, he is just following his innate nature.

[Masterdebater]

Damn philosophical! I pcc sometimes if I am too horny n wife not around. Usually wif my favourite porn clips. Saves me going outside ler. After done no more urges at all

mr nice guy - yr story very interesting!

[TyLa_BaBy]

I will still bonking her like 2 times a week at least?
else she will suspect something is wrong or she will find her ways to satisfy herself? (giving u a green hat)

You are very smart!! (In a sneaky kind of way.) That's what I've always wondered about. If husband don't sex his wife, his wife don't wonder where he is getting his needs met?? But you smart, so she will never suspect! :D



If you have 5 daughters... bro.. cost of living quite high ah? :p

Don't talk about 5. I have 2 and barely breathing liao.



As for me, not that home-made steak is not good or what. i just like to go out for a burger once a while. :p

Typical guy lor!! But your wife don't suspect anything??

[TyLa_BaBy]

errmm.. Not really uh.. sometimes men pay also can get no QC one hor.. hard earned $ down the drain... :o

No QC ask for money back lah!! Hahaha. But at least got options right?? Charbor no options. :( Then if ONS or anything funny funny, ppl will term as slut.





and guys who eat out isnt a bad guy.. just doing it for the thrill of it.. no love attached to the "food".. he will still come home to his wife and children..:D

I never said guy who eat out is bad guy. Just curious how they manage to pull it off, and what is the rationale behind it.
You also very good with babies, so sure have good sex life lah!
How you can live without sex I dunno, man. Cos if 1 month don't have I sure scream and ki siao already.




Yes I do all the time. But then we have been married 2 years. Never had the courage to try other things so I just read about them here...

What about pcc? Do the married ones still pcc?

2 years still considered newlyweds, I guess. For me it's 5 years already, and sex life is dying a natural death? Less and less often, especially when there are kids in the picture. Too many commitments and responsibilities. *sigh*

I think the married ones surely still PCC lah. At least I know my husband does. Somehow a man must "reconnect with himself" once in a while. Also, PCC less tiring than full-on sex. Hahaha.

[TyLa_BaBy]

if the man can stay faithful to his woman (and dont bonk around), he is a treasure as he is fighting his own instincts keeping them under control.

if he cant, he is just following his innate nature.

So if a man has low sex drive, therefore he is (obviously) faithful to his wife, then still considered treasure or not?

[freezetheDB]

pcc is good for quick release/ self love

i live with my gf but i still pcc at least 1-2 times a week to reconnect with myself lol

[mr nice guy]

Damn philosophical! I pcc sometimes if I am too horny n wife not around. Usually wif my favourite porn clips. Saves me going outside ler. After done no more urges at all

mr nice guy - yr story very interesting!

hehehe.. it may sounds funny to other guys who like to eat out tat we like to pcc instead of trying outside food.. we can but we dun prefer.. not tat we are angels.. but, dun feel like doing it, period.

porn clips?? brazzers?? bangbros?? its normal dude... ;)

once my wife caught me when watching porn.. she got upset.. but, in the end we do it while watching pornn.. fun!! hahaha.. you can try it too miss tyla baby... hahahha:o

[Masterdebater]

Good thing about my wife is that she likes to rub my di di. Guaranteed to get me hard. She initiates as much as I do...and I always do it. Why waste a good erection?

Tyla - u pcc? My wife doesn't like to; I usually rub her if she's horny!

[Masterdebater]

hehehe.. it may sounds funny to other guys who like to eat out tat we like to pcc instead of trying outside food.. we can but we dun prefer.. not tat we are angels.. but, dun feel like doing it, period.

porn clips?? brazzers?? bangbros?? its normal dude... ;)

once my wife caught me when watching porn.. she got upset.. but, in the end we do it while watching pornn.. fun!! hahaha.. you can try it too miss tyla baby... hahahha:o

My wife also caught me lor haha. She doesn't like me to watch but she likes to see her self doing it. I watch when she's not around only. I try n keep much storage for her as she likes it thick! Haha.

[mr nice guy]

FONT="Comic Sans MS"]I never said guy who eat out is bad guy. Just curious how they manage to pull it off, and what is the rationale behind it.
You also very good with babies, so sure have good sex life lah!
How you can live without sex I dunno, man. Cos if 1 month don't have I sure scream and ki siao already.
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aiyah moi.. when a man wants to cheat, he will find 1001 ways to cover it up.. hmm, i can sense you are having problems at home and want to find out the truths bout guys and their experiences.. hehehe.. well, tats your problem.. good luck wif tat.



2 years still considered newlyweds, I guess. For me it's 5 years already, and sex life is dying a natural death? Less and less often, especially when there are kids in the picture. Too many commitments and responsibilities. *sigh*

I think the married ones surely still PCC lah. At least I know my husband does. Somehow a man must "reconnect with himself" once in a while. Also, PCC less tiring than full-on sex. Hahaha.

dying of natural death?? when i was deprived of sex due to pregnancy etc.. i was too thinking bout how can i still get it on with my wife.. but, after one round with her last week.. well, i can just say, im going for more,,, hahahah..

different ppl have different taste and situations.. good luck tyla..;)

[TyLa_BaBy]

mr nice guy: Used to try it, but now the computer in the living room not very conducive leh. And I'm really sick of porn liao. Self-entertain with it for all this time, see until sian liao.
You sound like one very lucky guy. :)


masterdebater: I have no choice but to PCC leh. (Charbor version also referred to as "PCC"??) But... I think my parts spoil liao. Already immune to my own touch. :(

Sometimes he will be nice and "service" me. But often he is tired from work and spending time with kids when he gets home, I see him so shagged also no heart to ask him to help me out. Worse when he bring work home and work until 3-4am.

I rub/suck/lapdance also cannot pry him away from his work, cos he's the only one bringing home the bacon now.

You tell me how lah.

[richie_rich]

Typical guy lor!! But your wife don't suspect anything??

erm, i make it a point to still have sex with wife at least once a week, usually it's twice.
she doesn't suspect as her sex drive has diminished. seems like her sex drive is inversely proportional to the number of kids we have. ;) . like u, we have 2 kids now.

[TyLa_BaBy]

mr nice guy: Doesn't take a genius to figure out i'm having issues huh? Hahaha. Oh well, been to marriage counselling, etc etc. Sex drive don't match I also suck thumb. It was actually better when I was pregnant cos my drive was low, so for once we actually match up nicely and no one is stressed or frustrated about it.

Thanks for the luck. I need it. :)

[freezetheDB]

Tyla Baby: you should start by offering to help him release

for example: when he is back from work tired, etc... whisper to him you would like to help him release (BBBJ followed by CIM) so he can have a good sleep, and ask him just to sit back (or lie down) and enjoy. Ask the samsters around here, which man will not feel touched by such a gesture from the spouse?

Repeat this often. A woman needs to pleasure her man so that her man will associate pleasure with his woman. This gives him a chance for his mind to turn his body on when he sees you (and associates with pleasure).

Its a matter of time he will try his best to pleasure you to repay you (do note, when he is turned on he can performed better as you = pleasure ), or he will just want to fuck you out of your brains on his own.

[mr nice guy]

mr nice guy: Used to try it, but now the computer in the living room not very conducive leh. And I'm really sick of porn liao. Self-entertain with it for all this time, see until sian liao.
You sound like one very lucky guy. :)


masterdebater: I have no choice but to PCC leh. (Charbor version also referred to as "PCC"??) But... I think my parts spoil liao. Already immune to my own touch. :(

Sometimes he will be nice and "service" me. But often he is tired from work and spending time with kids when he gets home, I see him so shagged also no heart to ask him to help me out. Worse when he bring work home and work until 3-4am.

I rub/suck/lapdance also cannot pry him away from his work, cos he's the only one bringing home the bacon now.

You tell me how lah.



its not your fault.. u already done your best.. im not saying your hubby is eating out.. but its a possiblity tat he is...fingers crossed tat he doenst..
even if he does, doenst mean you have too.. as to get back at him..
its not a win win situation baby.. how old are your kids??

[TyLa_BaBy]

mr nice guy: Doesn't take a genius to figure out i'm having issues huh? Hahaha. Oh well, been to marriage counselling, etc etc. Sex drive don't match I also suck thumb. It was actually better when I was pregnant cos my drive was low, so for once we actually match up nicely and no one is stressed or frustrated about it.

Thanks for the luck. I need it. :)

[alacrity]

Frankly, I have become tired after so many years. But yet bonking my wife is an obligation that I will still have to perform.

[TyLa_BaBy]

mr nice guy: Kids are tiny. 6 mths and 2.5 yrs. I'm very certain he is not eating out, cos he likes to call me several times to a day just to see if i'm coping at home. But even if he was, I guess it's only normal?? What would piss me off would be that he'd rather sex someone else than me. Hahaha. :p

I don't intend to "get back" at him even if he has. Sex without love brings no joy to me.

[Masterdebater]

Tyla - so tough. Have a second honeymoon or something. Need time for yrself too. I will always try to service my wife when she wants it.
Then again I also try to spice up, sexy talk diff positions just be cheeky n naughty. I can't be shy because she's my wife! I have known my wife for 10 years before we got married... I know how hard to sustain.. Try n be innovative

[TyLa_BaBy]

** double post, paiseh **

[Masterdebater]

mr nice guy: Kids are tiny. 6 mths and 2.5 yrs. I'm very certain he is not eating out, cos he likes to call me several times to a day just to see if i'm coping at home. But even if he was, I guess it's only normal?? What would piss me off would be that he'd rather sex someone else than me. Hahaha. :p

I don't intend to "get back" at him even if he has. Sex without love brings no joy to me.


U r so calm about this! If my wife thought I was cheating on her all hell would break lose.... Retribution!

[mr nice guy]

mr nice guy: Kids are tiny. 6 mths and 2.5 yrs. I'm very certain he is not eating out, cos he likes to call me several times to a day just to see if i'm coping at home. But even if he was, I guess it's only normal?? What would piss me off would be that he'd rather sex someone else than me. Hahaha. :p

I don't intend to "get back" at him even if he has. Sex without love brings no joy to me.


hahahaha.. well, tat is just one of the ways to cover up.. im not being a fire starter.. juz telling you the reality of life..

hmmm.. ur kids still small.. maybe can keep yourself occupied by tending to ur kids.. now the time to play with them and teach them etc.. hehehehe..;)

[asspanker]

sure.. just married 1+ yrs.. still young and bonking.. ;D

sometimes she will just tease me by sucking me hard and leaving me to dry.. den i either PCC or return the favour.. Heee

[TyLa_BaBy]

Aiyo, why so many multiple posts?!? Paiseh paiseh. WHen I use Quick Reply it keep giving me error message, so i refresh page then end up it reposted. :mad:

It's not easy for 2nd honeymoon lah. Kids are still very small, cannot chuck them anywhere. Bring them along then defeat purpose. Our previous 2 holidays totally no sex cos kids sharing hotel room with us, and just want to unwind from daily stress by relaxing lor.

I've honestly done everything I can to try and spice up the sex life, but my husband is the shy type (probably cos he didn't have many gf before me) and he is also the boring type. No sexy talk. No funny ideas. Even when I try to seduce him with sexy lingerie and no obligations BBBJ, he will just tell me he need to finish his work first. By the time he's done ard 3am, I also half-dead liao.

[TyLa_BaBy]

masterdebater:
If it has been done, break hell also won't undo it what. Might as well calmly solve the issue right? We all have needs, if cannot get it at home, then no choice gotta eat outside what. It's all very matter-of-fact isn't it? :)
But here's wishing you never get caught! hahahaha.


mr nice guy:
I understand your intentions. No hard feelings. :)
From 9am to 10pm I'm already cultivating my kids lor. And I am somewhat proud to say they are well-balanced children who are generally well-behaved.
But after 10pm... it is time to stop being a mother, and start being a wife/woman. Time to do what I enjoy (ie: sex) and time to pay attention to my husband. Except... oh well, you know the story now, don't you? :D
I don't think any husband would enjoy it much if their wives only play the role of a mother all the time.

Today special case though. I'm feeling pek chek. Don't want to snap at the kids over my own questions/frustrations, so I'm minimising contact.

[Masterdebater]

Guessed as much that he's shy. That's tough. Ask him to watch porn together see if he gets stimulated. I feel yr pain. How about pccing in front of him n see his reaction?

Tell him u r going to find other guy! Haha! Kidding.

But I believe he needs to put in effort too. Marriage is just like work...

[TyLa_BaBy]

masterdebater:
He puts in effort, but its very obvious that it burns him out. And sex becomes a chore for him cos he is putting in extra effort for me. It's not a nice feeling for me to know that he's trying so hard that it becomes taxing. In long run, i think it'll kill his (already low) sex drive even more.

Actually I already strayed twice in this marriage. First time I told him outright. The 2nd time I told him 1.5 yrs later. It was not easy carrying the lie/guilt for so long. But in the end he told me... He's sorry. :eek: Because he really cannot match up to my needs, therefore I ended up eating outside.

I am also very lost, man.

[Masterdebater]

masterdebater:
If it has been done, break hell also won't undo it what. Might as well calmly solve the issue right? We all have needs, if cannot get it at home, then no choice gotta eat outside what. It's all very matter-of-fact isn't it? :)
But here's wishing you never get caught! hahahaha.




Nah don't worry I don't eat outside so I won't get caught. Only pcc haha. I think only 10% of women think like u so calm. Remainder will rain fire n brimstone lar. You are way to logical liao!

[mr nice guy]

masterdebater:
If it has been done, break hell also won't undo it what. Might as well calmly solve the issue right? We all have needs, if cannot get it at home, then no choice gotta eat outside what. It's all very matter-of-fact isn't it? :)
But here's wishing you never get caught! hahahaha.


mr nice guy:
I understand your intentions. No hard feelings. :)
From 9am to 10pm I'm already cultivating my kids lor. And I am somewhat proud to say they are well-balanced children who are generally well-behaved.
But after 10pm... it is time to stop being a mother, and start being a wife/woman. Time to do what I enjoy (ie: sex) and time to pay attention to my husband. Except... oh well, you know the story now, don't you? :D
I don't think any husband would enjoy it much if their wives only play the role of a mother all the time.

Today special case though. I'm feeling pek chek. Don't want to snap at the kids over my own questions/frustrations, so I'm minimising contact.




hmmm.wats pek chek?? anyways, talk to him tonite.. a BIG maybe is tat he is having problems at werk.. my wife aks me a lot of questions when she feels something is wrong.. im also a shy person.. even to my wife.. sometimes when my wife tease me, i will blush.. ahhahaha.. but after that the sex begins... heheheh..

so, u a stay at home mum?? same like my wife.. but, she will be werking soon.. i hope so.. hahahah..

well, me going home now.. will continue tomorrow.. im missing my wife and baby.. hehehehe.. take care guys and baby.. good luck tyla... :cool:

[Masterdebater]

masterdebater:
He puts in effort, but its very obvious that it burns him out. And sex becomes a chore for him cos he is putting in extra effort for me. It's not a nice feeling for me to know that he's trying so hard that it becomes taxing. In long run, i think it'll kill his (already low) sex drive even more.

Actually I already strayed twice in this marriage. First time I told him outright. The 2nd time I told him 1.5 yrs later. It was not easy carrying the lie/guilt for so long. But in the end he told me... He's sorry. :eek: Because he really cannot match up to my needs, therefore I ended up eating outside.

I am also very lost, man.



I see that's why u r so logical! He's still with u so he loves u? Or the kids? Maybe he hasn't forgiven u totally. Sigh I really pity u. How can u stand the temptation not to eat outside again?

[TyLa_BaBy]

masterdebater:
I think my logic will be my downfall. Otherwise I would have either
a) divorce,
b) eat outside without guilt,
c) won't even marry him in the 1st place.

The only thing I ever did without logic was to marry him. I just followed my heart, and look where I ended up.

But logically this man is potential good husband/father material (and he has been so far), he's just not a good lover (in terms of frequency/variety). I just naively thought it would get better when we get more in sync, or my sex drive will wane off after having kids. But damn I was wrong. 5 years later I am still the same. Hahaha.

Got methods to decrease sex drive not??

[TyLa_BaBy]

mr nice guy:
Wah! You finish work so early?? I thought common is 6pm... U must be working for govt. :p

I sense something is not right with his work lah, but when he can't negotiate for higher pay, and work keeps coming in, ego deflated lah. I can't help also, except to take in freelance assignments (not FL sex hor!) and contribute a bit to household expenses.

Pekchek = frustrated. :)


masterdebater:
Oh, what can I say. I'm like a guy. Used to be a good thing when I was with other men. Hahaha.

The 1st time was before we had kids, so I guess he's still with me cos he really loves me? I just confessed the 2nd time to him last night. And all he said was sorry. That its not my fault. Makes me feel worse, but it's already done and I can't undo it.

I think when your partner say sorry to you when you eat outside, your guilt is so great, it is very hard to go and eat outside again lah. Unless you have no conscience lor. :D

[Masterdebater]

Sorry can't help u there. Get some dildos or vibrators? Maybe that will help u release some pent up energy.

I learnt something when I got married. Never ever get married thinking u can change the person. If u do then u r in for a huge huge shock. U can't. I learnt that about my wife. She is how she is. I must learn to live with her.

My friend's wife just left him because she couldn't change him. Just after 2 years she decided better bail first... So sad. Why get married in the first place?

With kids even tougher.

[relaxman]

well, all of you are better than me. I've been married for 20+years, beginning was good, almost twice a week. now almost 6month don't even have. her sex drive is very low . Lucky, I eat out every year (oversea) and rest of the time Pcc. l don't know, but i think i've very high sex drive.I'm 41

[Masterdebater]

masterdebater:
Oh, what can I say. I'm like a guy. Used to be a good thing when I was with other men. Hahaha.

The 1st time was before we had kids, so I guess he's still with me cos he really loves me? I just confessed the 2nd time to him last night. And all he said was sorry. That its not my fault. Makes me feel worse, but it's already done and I can't undo it.

I think when your partner say sorry to you when you eat outside, your guilt is so great, it is very hard to go and eat outside again lah. Unless you have no conscience lor. :D

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That's so sad. I agree u can't but how to live your life not being yourself for the next 50 years? I can't imagine. Can u not do it again? Maybe now u won't but 2,3, 5 years later?

[TyLa_BaBy]

masterdebater:
Got dildos. Got vibrators. But nothing beats the human touch, esp from the person you love.
In fact, I've also grown immune to toys already.

I didn't think I could change him, not that I want to anyway. I just thought maybe after having more sex with each other, will be more in sync mah. So at least will feel horny at the same times and want to do the same thing, u know?

IN any case, wei, this is my 1st marriage leh, and you expect me to know I cannot change someone?? You should have told me before I got married what!! Hahahaha.

I just wanna try to make this work, so I'm wondering what's the situation like for other married couples. My female friends are so hush-hush about it, it's no help at all.

[TyLa_BaBy]

relaxman:
Eat out only once a year?! You can survive?!??!

I know men who are around your age with high sex drive also. If can, they would have it everyday!! I get quite envious of the women who have husbands like that. Hahaha.



masterdebater:
I don't know how I'm going to survive for the rest of my life like this, but I guess we just gotta try?
It's not like I don't love him anymore, but this is some serious shit that may lead to divorce lor. And I'm not looking forward to that outcome.

I can't promise I won't cheat in the near future, but I try lah. So far it's been 1.5 yrs since the last one, and the temptation is great again. MUST.RESIST.

[Kinetics]

Maybe your hubby is too stress at work and have lost interest in sex, it happened to me before and we have quarrel over it many many times....now that my work is better, we begin to have sex more frequent too...so frequent that my wife asked me what happened to me and have I gone crazy....

[Masterdebater]

So what u r saying is that u want to feel loved by him. Let me tell u either u change or he change. If he's not going to then the only person who can make it or break it is u. That's the reality.

U don't only want sex right? U also want the intimacy n love n to be special. R u getting that? Even if u eat outside does it satisfy u?

[richie_rich]

I can't promise I won't cheat in the near future, but I try lah. So far it's been 1.5 yrs since the last one, and the temptation is great again. MUST.RESIST.


hi sis tyla, when you are done with this thread, maybe you might want to consider writing about this sexperience you had 1.5 yrs ago? ;)

[relaxman]

what to do. she always at home. been retrenched for 1year leow. i only can have 1 time leave per year to go oversea with my kaki. now trying to get excuse for twice a year. ha ha praying hard.

[Masterdebater]

Haha I know a thing or two about temptation...Worse still u r a lady.. Pretty much snap yr fingers n men will fall in line...

Divorce...after seeing my friend go through it I'm stunned at how tough it is. But short term pain long term gain?

True maybe when work gets better it will get better

[TyLa_BaBy]

kinetics: I guess you are right. He is more open to ideas on weekends/holidays. Then I guess I have to wait for his work life to get better?
But I've been waiting 5 years already, not getting better leh, and my frustration is piling up.


masterdebater:
Eating outside doesn't satisfy me at all. But it at least gets the primal urges out of the picture, and I don't have to take cold shower every night.
Pray tell, how does someone change their sexual needs? If there was a pill to pop for decreasing sex drive, I'll be the 1st one to buy it. (Provided I can afford it.) I used to have sex at least every alternate day, now it's at best once a week. Longest we've gone without sex was 3 months. If that's not change/compromise, I don't know what is.

Intimacy wise, I guess it's alright. He always kisses me in the morning before he goes to work, and when he comes home. And we cuddle at bedtime everyday without fail. If he don't cuddle me he can't fall asleep. hahaha.
But sometimes cuddling will feel like taking things up a notch, but he won't be keen, which leaves me high and dry. I'd DIY, except I can go on for an hour and still get nothing but more frustration.

[TyLa_BaBy]

richie_rich:
Don't want! The sexperience from 1.5 yrs ago was no good at all! That guy don't even know how to thrust properly lor. Wasted my guilt on that ONS.


relaxman:
Go geylang come back, very fast one. 2 hrs should be enough. ;)


masterdebater:
Actually I don't get much temptations. I stay home all the time with the kids, hardly any chance to get in contact with men. It's not like I go clubbing then meet hot guys.
Even then, my friends are there on the rare occasions that I go clubbing, where got chance??
If I wanna cheat, it must be very late at night after everyone goes to sleep. Where got so many guys so free to bonk at 3-4am at last minute lah! Can only fantasise.

Divorce is never pretty even if it's mutual. It's a card I don't intend to play unless I'm really at my wit's end.

[richie_rich]

Don't want! The sexperience from 1.5 yrs ago was no good at all! That guy don't even know how to thrust properly lor. Wasted my guilt on that ONS.


okok...bad memories eh? too bad you got involved with the wrong guy then.
read about that you got no chance to meet guys. well baby, you are here at sbf aren't you? ;). nobody to meet to bonk at 3 or 4 am? you'd be surprised how many of the guys here are nocturnal creatures. hehehe

[Masterdebater]

3 months? Damn if I didn't do it that long my wife would think I'm eating out. Can't reach big O after 1 hour? My gosh. Must be too frustrating.

I don't know what other solution... Maybe he will let u keep someone on the side? Crazy idea! U can't change your urges.

[terrible ted]

mr nice guy:
Wah! You finish work so early?? I thought common is 6pm... U must be working for govt. :p

I sense something is not right with his work lah, but when he can't negotiate for higher pay, and work keeps coming in, ego deflated lah. I can't help also, except to take in freelance assignments (not FL sex hor!) and contribute a bit to household expenses.

Pekchek = frustrated. :)


masterdebater:
Oh, what can I say. I'm like a guy. Used to be a good thing when I was with other men. Hahaha.

The 1st time was before we had kids, so I guess he's still with me cos he really loves me? I just confessed the 2nd time to him last night. And all he said was sorry. That its not my fault. Makes me feel worse, but it's already done and I can't undo it.

I think when your partner say sorry to you when you eat outside, your guilt is so great, it is very hard to go and eat outside again lah. Unless you have no conscience lor. :D



I am sure he is eating out.

[Masterdebater]

Don't u find this forum a temptation? So many looking to satisfy u. I can't imagine how many pms u have! Unfortunately nothing but the real thing us good enough so webcam n phone sex is not going to help. I think u r stuck having to curb your urges... Until u burst!!!

[Kinetics]

How about watching a porn movie together maybe it can lead on to something after the cuddling ? It did work for me !

[sleaguepunter]

I can't promise I won't cheat in the near future, but I try lah. So far it's been 1.5 yrs since the last one, and the temptation is great again. MUST.RESIST.

Sis, have you consider that your husband may be hurt to know that you stray b4 that he didnt want to "touch" you.

While you may be being "honest" to him by confessing twice, but the fact is that he suffer the pain twice. So if you really love him, it better not to let him know as the saying goes "Igorance is bliss". The best way of not hurting him is not to stray at all, but if really cannot tahan, then better keep secret.

I am not proud of what i done, unlike some of my friends who boast of their sexploits. I totally led a double life with ppl who knows me. Only a few knew i go gayland b4 and that only a few times b4 i started parktor. As for eating out after marriage, none knew. When during lah kopi with this bunch of "meat wine" friends when topic turn to latest conquests or new joints they been to, i just listen without comments. As for whether they suspect or not, i have no freaking idea.

[Masterdebater]

Could never enjoyed eating out cause the guilt will kill me literally. N my wife will find out. She always finds out! Freaky!

[Kinetics]

Sister, you didn't have sex for 3 months ! wow that's very long time ! My wife limit is one week....how I know ? I teased her before...

[TyLa_BaBy]

richie_rich:
But last minute no QC one!!


masterdebater:
Yeah, doesn't seem like there's a solution right now. Oh well. Thanks for the suggestions anyway.
No wonder I've been burping recently, probably almost bursting!! Hahaha.

Your wife is probably like me. We can smell a rat from a mile away! But it just means you have a good connection with your wife, so she can sense everything! :D


terrible ted:
Maybe he is. Which is why I started this thread to ask about it. Suss out typical husband mentality mah.


kinetics:
Thanks for the suggestion! Now... how to get him when he's not rushing work, and where to get good quality porn?? Watching on computer not very conducive for taking things up the next level...


sleaguepunter:
Yes, I've considered that before. But the truth is, he only stepped up more after the 1st time I cheated. And unless he is super expert at hiding his jealousy/anger/etc, I really don't think that's the case.
But even with his extra effort, at best is twice a week (quickie some more cos no time for extended ones), and I need more than that.

He did tell me a few times, if I do anything outside, he don't want to know. But I can't lie. I can delay telling the truth for a long time, but eventually I will still confess. That's why I'm trying damn hard not to succumb to temptation again.

Actually... I was secretly hoping by confessing to him, he will be angry and divorce me. Then I don't have to live like this anymore. Cos I don't have the heart to leave him, can only find ways to make him leave me. :(

[TyLa_BaBy]

Sister, you didn't have sex for 3 months ! wow that's very long time ! My wife limit is one week....how I know ? I teased her before...


You also another lucky guy!! Your wife also very lucky. Good for you! :)

All my husband needs is once every fortnight, but if work is crazy + other commitments like children are sick, or I also chionging freelance assignments... Can drag up to months lor.
When I'm free he's not free. When he's free, I'm not free. Then throw in red flag and everything, not alot of chance lor.

My max limit has been trained from 3 days until now it's 2 weeks approx. But if drag I also suck thumb.

[mr nice guy]

hey there tyla.. it seems tat ur hubby is ok with you having flings outside.. hahaha.. a bit wierd for me..

either he doesnt want to touch you since other men has touch you before.. or he has a secret where he thinks he cant satisfy you like how u guys used to be..

erectile dysfunction maybe?? :eek:

[TyLa_BaBy]

mr nice guy:
His parts are working fine most of the time, but when high stress at work, sometimes cannot stay up. Then everyone gets frustrated with the situation and his ego gets bruised.
Which is why I don't want to push him even though I'm almost bursting. And if shit like that happens, I just pretend it's alright. Last thing I wanna do is get angry and dent his ego even more.

He does touch me lah. But much much less than what I'd like it to be. Maybe I'm greedy for wanting it 3-4 times a week?

[SinDellman]

I used to believe that sex should be only for lovers or couples, till i didnt get any from my partner for many years, so I only pcc to survive during those dark years. Can't remember how many times she rejected me. Have always been a super faithful gentleman. End up, my temper changed, my outlook of living was bleak, zero motivation, even though I always try to be the best father to my children.

But thanks to my partner and to the many bros here, I have started "to live" again with the romping with much younger and more energetic FLs. Everything is now normal, when my little head is satisfied. I treat her and everyone nice, never ask her for sex anymore, and seems like she is also happy with this arrangement. Not sure whether she knows my farmed out activity, but important thing is that I am no more a frustrated person ..... always looking forward to the weekend again :rolleyes:

I still love her, but I dont really wanna bonk her anymore! No thanks!

[mr nice guy]

mr nice guy:
His parts are working fine most of the time, but when high stress at work, sometimes cannot stay up. Then everyone gets frustrated with the situation and his ego gets bruised.
Which is why I don't want to push him even though I'm almost bursting. And if shit like that happens, I just pretend it's alright. Last thing I wanna do is get angry and dent his ego even more.

He does touch me lah. But much much less than what I'd like it to be. Maybe I'm greedy for wanting it 3-4 times a week?


hahaha.. its normal if guys cant stay up.. im having those sometimes too,, ussually when stresss or tired... hehehe.. well you are not greeedy.. just lusty and horny.. hahahahah.. ;)

[nuclearkid]

On this topic, I suppose most of us blokes with longer marriages have spouses that can go without the do for awhile. Mine's almost 9 years and its getting moribund. Oh well...this joke give you fellow sufferers out there an idea of what to give this coming Valentines':

---
One night Jerry brought home a dozen red roses to his wife. "How lovely, Dear," she said. "What's the occasion?"

"I want to make love to you," he said simply.

"Not tonight, Dear. I have a headache," answered his wife.

The next night Jerry came home with a big box of chocolates and explained that he wanted to make love with her. "I'm awfully tired, Honey," said his wife. "Not tonight."

Every night for a week Jerry brought home something, but each time his wife's answer was no. Finally he came home with six black kittens with little red bows around their necks and handed them to his wife.

"How adorable, Jerry!" she exclaimed. "But what are they for?"

The husband replied, "These are six little pallbearers for your dead pussy."

[TyLa_BaBy]

SinDellman:
Thanks for sharing! At least you found a solution for the problem.
I guess I feel like how you were last time: short-tempered, no motivation, feel like my life/marriage is bleak.


mr nice guy:
That's assuring to know. But yeah, he's tired/stressed most of the time. Bills, kids, work...
Ok lah ok lah, I admit it. I'm lusty. :D


nuclearkid:
Hahahaha! The husband also very patient hor?
So... maybe I'll eventually need to gift my man with a rooster.

[BBlick]

Actually... I was secretly hoping by confessing to him, he will be angry and divorce me. Then I don't have to live like this anymore. Cos I don't have the heart to leave him, can only find ways to make him leave me. :(

[/FONT]

Sis baby, can see that you are a nice lady but unsatisfied by your partner. Talk to him and buy some toys for both of you.

Btw, are you sure he didn't eat outside?

[TyLa_BaBy]

BBlick:
I can tell you I am 1000% sure he's not eating outside. But I'm sure some fellas here will beg to differ.
We've got toys, but it doesn't help. Low drive is low drive.
I'm sure you also know if drive is low and desire is not really there, no amount of sexual aids will increase the drive/desire.

[mldue]

without the confidence and with all that guilt, how to satisfy each other?

Actually I already strayed twice in this marriage. First time I told him outright. The 2nd time I told him 1.5 yrs later. It was not easy carrying the lie/guilt for so long. But in the end he told me... He's sorry. :eek: Because he really cannot match up to my needs, therefore I ended up eating outside.

I am also very lost, man.





actually you have to make time for love making. that's a fact.
however busy, reserve a time for it. schedule it. send the kids out. stop whatever you are doing. it's couple (fuck) time!
call it whatever, but it is a core act of intimacy that helps to bind a relationship a level up.
when my kids were little, we will schedule their activities so that some weeknights and pockets of the weekend will be just couple time for us.
anything goes. walk in the park, outdoor sex, catch movie, shopping, more sex wherever we may be, etc.




Actually I don't get much temptations. I stay home all the time with the kids, hardly any chance to get in contact with men. It's not like I go clubbing then meet hot guys.
Even then, my friends are there on the rare occasions that I go clubbing, where got chance??
If I wanna cheat, it must be very late at night after everyone goes to sleep. Where got so many guys so free to bonk at 3-4am at last minute lah! Can only fantasise.

Divorce is never pretty even if it's mutual. It's a card I don't intend to play unless I'm really at my wit's end.

[Rain-Men]

BBlick:
I can tell you I am 1000% sure he's not eating outside. But I'm sure some fellas here will beg to differ.
We've got toys, but it doesn't help. Low drive is low drive.
I'm sure you also know if drive is low and desire is not really there, no amount of sexual aids will increase the drive/desire.


Hey sis..just read some of your info here...dun meant to be rude in my earlier comments...hope you are coping along fine. Hang in there, k?

[jugesam]

Dear TS,

many of us still wanna bonk our wives, or at least i do, the problem is that she do not want to be bonk !!!!:mad: Thats the same excuses i get all the time, like some bro said here. i have given up asking or fighting liao. if i make the first move and get a negative response, i will just turn around and sleep. this attitude is bcos heart cold liao. dun want to waste anymore time talking abt it. anyway talk already also no use. Actually many articles say that woman need a lot of stimulation, and man do not. the fact is that man also like to have the same stimulation and attention, we are humans too!! so dun expect to play the little innocent gal and wait to be seduce!

but not bonking her is diff from not loving her. and loving her doesnt mean i will care more about her. confusing leh, bottom line is that although still love her, the feeling is already not like b4. now is more like the attitude of "whatever lah". nothing else matters anymore.

I think u start this thread cos u think that guys stop bonking their wives after some time. actually its not, from the stories here, most of the time is the wife who doesnt want. your hb maybe pre-occupied with work and watever else, but man are human too, just show your loving touch and concern just like u would like him to do for you. dun lose confidence in yourself, treat him well and you will be reciprocated. but dun do blindly lah, so as to protect yourself also.

hope you get out of your situation soon. while i just continue to ta pau as and when necessary.

[mr nice guy]

hey tyla baby.. wats up homi??

anyways, guess wat?? yesterday we turn in eraly as to get the baby to have a standard sleeping time.. so we bring the baby inside at about 2130hrs.. around 2200hrs my wifey ask me....

she: eh, you want to get it on??
me: huh?? now?? hmmm.. tomorrow can??
she: why??
me: no mood.. heheheh..
she: ok.. tomorrow on..

just like tat.. is tat easy or wat... heheheh:D

[Masterdebater]

I'm the opposite! I ask my wife u want? She said too tired...so tonight must....else I'm going to burst.

[TyLa_BaBy]

judgesam:
I don't know what's the reason that married couples stop having sex (or have very little sex) after some years. Contrary belief is that the wife has lost interest, especially after having kids, then sex becomes "redundant" cos no need to make babies anymore.
On the other hand, there are the men who get bored of their wives cos they now look like fat aunties and don't pay attention to their grooming anymore.

Both cases are common, I guess. But I wonder if there is simply cases where sex drive has been pushed to the bottom of priorities, especially when parred against mandatory stuff like work, children, parents, sleep, etc.

And I agree, not bonking doesn't mean don't love her anymore. It just develops into a comfortable stable relationship without the sexual sparks lor. Not necessarily a bad thing, except we all need our sexual release one time or another.

Honestly, I don't know how some women can don't have sex for years. Dunno is it their parts something wrong, or mine got something wrong. :confused:

You're right about the loving touch too. My man doesn't respond to blatant seduction, but if I snuggle up to him at bedtime and kiss his neck gently, I have a higher chance of getting laid. Provided he doesn't fall asleep first, or tell me "tomorrow ok?" Hahahaha.

mr nice guy:
Hahahaha So I guess you will be going home very early today, shower clean clean, then ask your baby to cooperate hor??
I think if you bring her flowers when you go home today, tonight you sure have banging sex lah! :D

We actually do that quite often. I ask, then he say tmr. But that tmr never comes one leh. (Like title of James Bond movie like that.) So end up I ask every night, then he tmr every night, until I even sian to ask already.


masterdebater:
I'm sure alot of the bros here will be able to empathise with your situation. But who can empathise with me huh?? Where are the sex-starved charbors?!?!

[TRYDRY]

Maybe you can try to bring in another girl for threesomes? I think your husband's sex drive will be triggered alive again once he sees her join in the action.

[mseveninch]

Married for the past 25 yrs. Not a single day go without it. I work so hard for the bread and butter ( Single income ).

OC daily do the deed without me request. She massage me and follow up with...........sperm withdrawal by all means.....:p Me so happy.

I still eat out whenever - oversea trip...........:p

[slider_72]

Married for the past 25 yrs. Not a single day go without it.

:eek:

Bro, how you manage to get it on every single day for the past 25 years? My God, that works out to a total of over 9,125 times assuming that you do it only once a day!!!!

For me, twice a week is comfortable. Anything more than that gets a bit strenueous.

You popping the Blue Pill bro? :cool:

[slider_72]

Sis Tyla, I hope you won't mind me asking you a question.

From a woman's perspective, how would you feel if you find out that your husband engaged the services of WLs, as compared with say having a girlfriend or mistress?

Do you think a typical woman would see it as a lesser evil since it is purely to satisfy a man's lust with no emotions attached (and therefore would tend to forgive the husband), or would a typical woman see any sexual intercourse by the husband with any other woman as being equally bad (and hence unforgivable)?

[old_yet_horny]

During dating days (just confirm her as GF)

We have sex every day.. almost crazy over it... in extreme cases.. we did 3 to 4 times in 24 hrs.. Everywhere.. living room.. toilet, staircase, carpark, garden, public toilet..etc etc..:D


After some datings (1 to 2 years)

Every alternate days.. maybe average up to 3 to 4 times a week at my place or her place.. overseas holiday trip etc etc..:)


After marriage(1 to 2 years)

Every week 1 time, in the bed room... on the bed:rolleyes:


After few years of marriage

Once in a blue moon...:(

[mseveninch]

:eek:

Bro, how you manage to get it on every single day for the past 25 years? My God, that works out to a total of over 9,125 times assuming that you do it only once a day!!!!

For me, twice a week is comfortable. Anything more than that gets a bit strenueous.

You popping the Blue Pill bro? :cool:

No pill yet. Thanks OC for the tonics she brew during all these year....:p

[my23]

perhaps it's bcoz aft kids were born, wife looks more motherly, which makes them less appealing/tempting?:confused:

well, in chinese, there is this saying which i believe it applies to almost every man....

妻不如妾
妾不如偷
偷不如偷不到

this is wat u called, 犯贱!!:D

ps: can some bros help to translate here? i simply cant get it right....

[chenzong]

妻不如妾
妾不如偷
偷不如偷不到


A wife is not as good as a concubine.
A concubine is not as good as an affair (literally "steal").
An affair is not as a good as one whom you cannot have (literally "cannot steal").

It is a sad man's life indeed.

[cumfast]

after reading two pages of this thread... TS tyla you are asking for alot of trouble tsk tsk *shakes head* openly telling us men you are not getting enough... :)

i honestly don't think men can not have sex for a long time unless he is really under alot of stress (therefore you need to be understanding) or he is eating outside like other ppl here...

i am just wondering... are you making this thread to understand your hubby better...?

[terrible ted]

Have you grown fatter?

[samyboys]

sometimes she play hard to 'bonk'

[Ace_venture]

Warm Greetings Sis Tyla_Baby,

Well,i read thru every post created in this thread you created and i must say,i could understand your frustration and lost.

Guess there is nothing much one say,since many bro's have provided some gd advice and stuff.

Would just like to wish you the best and hope things work out well for you and your hubby at the end of the day.

~Cheers~


Ace

[wat_name_2_use]

Dear TS,

many of us still wanna bonk our wives, or at least i do, the problem is that she do not want to be bonk !!!!:mad: Thats the same excuses i get all the time, like some bro said here. i have given up asking or fighting liao. if i make the first move and get a negative response, i will just turn around and sleep. this attitude is bcos heart cold liao. dun want to waste anymore time talking abt it. anyway talk already also no use. Actually many articles say that woman need a lot of stimulation, and man do not. the fact is that man also like to have the same stimulation and attention, we are humans too!! so dun expect to play the little innocent gal and wait to be seduce!

but not bonking her is diff from not loving her. and loving her doesnt mean i will care more about her. confusing leh, bottom line is that although still love her, the feeling is already not like b4. now is more like the attitude of "whatever lah". nothing else matters anymore.

I think u start this thread cos u think that guys stop bonking their wives after some time. actually its not, from the stories here, most of the time is the wife who doesnt want. your hb maybe pre-occupied with work and watever else, but man are human too, just show your loving touch and concern just like u would like him to do for you. dun lose confidence in yourself, treat him well and you will be reciprocated. but dun do blindly lah, so as to protect yourself also.

hope you get out of your situation soon. while i just continue to ta pau as and when necessary.

My heart had spoken...thanks alot bro.

[TyLa_BaBy]

Married for the past 25 yrs. Not a single day go without it.

I still eat out whenever - oversea trip...........:p


Wah, see lah! Wife give everyday but still eat outside. But you damn virile ok?!

slider_72:
For me, I rather my man go for services instead of having affair. Cos affair may be romantic, meaning he might divorce with me to be with that woman.
But I'm sure you know most women rather their man not eat outside AT ALL. If you eat outside means you don't love them, and/or don't find them attractive. Big dent to their self-esteem leh.


old_yet_horny:
Your case is what I meant when I said "dying natural death". So far what I know is that a lot of marriages are like that after some years. Even my own parents were like that, leading to my dad having affair and my parents got divorced. (Poor me as a kid. Lost my father.)


my23 / chenzong:
Ya lah, why you men so cheap one!! The one you cannot is always the best huh?? "The one that got away" syndrome.


cumfast:
You'd be surprised! All the men here have been VERY civil about my situation, offering concrete suggestions and giving me encouragement to try harder. (THANKS GUYS!)
So far have not received any lewd PMs, I think cos mother-of-2 don't sound very appealing. Hahahaha. Most lame PM i got since I started this thread was "Hey sis can you upz my points so I can lose my moderation status". And that guy didn't even post in this thread lah!

Yes, I started this thread in a bid to understand men (and my hubby) better. To suss out the general state of men's sexuality. And I must say I am surprised that alot of men here still want to bonk their wives, its only that their wives are not keen on sex anymore. Really was an eye-opener cos men are always thought to be bastards, but apparently it is not true at all.

[TyLa_BaBy]

terrible ted:
No leh. Not only have I not grown fatter, I actually got slimmer. I was a size 12 when I met/married my husband. After having 1st kid, I went up to size 16, when he was 1 yr old then I went down to size 14.
But now my 2nd kid is 6 mths old, I am already size 10, even slimmer than when I first met him.
Taking care of 2 kids + housework is tough!


Ace_venture:
Thank you!! *adds another man into my SBF list of nice guys*

[monkeymoose]

i wish you luck and hope you find happiness (and satisfaction ;) ) in whatever course of action you take.
being in a marriage is not easy even when things between husband and wife are good.
i hope you manage to find the correct path for yourself.

PS: if you really feel horny and REALLY want it from your hubby, how about slipping some vitamin V in his drink and send the kids to your parents' place over the weekend? :D
do let us know the details when that course of action has been taken. kekeke

[TyLa_BaBy]

PS: if you really feel horny and REALLY want it from your hubby, how about slipping some vitamin V in his drink and send the kids to your parents' place over the weekend? :D
do let us know the details when that course of action has been taken. kekeke


Thank you for your well-wishes and encouragement.

Can't drop off the kids at any of the grandparents. My in-laws run family business everyday, so cannot help take care.
My mother passed away years ago, and my father not good with children. *sigh*

What is Vitamin V?? Viagra arh??

[hardcoremayhem]

So far have not received any lewd PMs, I think cos mother-of-2 don't sound very appealing. Hahahaha.


No. in fact, that may appeal to more guys than you can possibly imagine...
hence the prolific term, "MILF" :D

[monkeymoose]

Can't drop off the kids at any of the grandparents. My in-laws run family business everyday, so cannot help take care.
My mother passed away years ago, and my father not good with children. *sigh*

What is Vitamin V?? Viagra arh??



sorry to hear about that. perhaps, some other relative then? just to have to explain to them that the hubby and you need some "alone time" to spend with each other.

and no V for Vitagen... Viagra la :D

[optiplex]

Yes. I still want to bonk her.. Coz she is still hot.

[Kinetics]

"So far have not received any lewd PMs, I think cos mother-of-2 don't sound very appealing."
I cannot agree with you on this statement...I find my wife sexier after she given birth to our kid...
Agreed with hardcoremayhem....
on the prolific term, "MILF" :D

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

.....I am surprised that alot of men here still want to bonk their wives, its only that their wives are not keen on sex anymore. Really was an eye-opener cos men are always thought to be bastards, but apparently it is not true at all.

So glad you realised that men been suffering from "homecooked food" eating disorders, and we always put our ladies's pleasure before us "before" eating outside food :)

[cumfast]

Thank you for your well-wishes and encouragement.

Can't drop off the kids at any of the grandparents. My in-laws run family business everyday, so cannot help take care.
My mother passed away years ago, and my father not good with children. *sigh*

What is Vitamin V?? Viagra arh??



you know being the sole bread winner can be quite stressful.. i am quite sure it is either that he is working too hard (what time he comes home usually?) or he's eating out outside..

you may want to compare your sex life before and after he became sole bread winner...

not that you should blame yourself not contributing because looking after your kids 100% is HUGE contribution and personally when i get married i will want my wife to dedicate much time for the kids and be a housewife like yourself...

carry on to be patient... try try try to make him relax during weekends when he is supposed to have more free time.. do simple things together.. watch dvd? shower together? massage?

honestly, with you being so... lusty like you described yourself... i don't see how a normal man should reject you unless he is really under pressure.... or you are just lusty for other men other than your hubby? :eek:

be patient and good luck

[TyLa_BaBy]

monkeymoose:
Viagra will make men feel horny one meh?? I thought it only assists erection, doesn't mean will make the guy horny lor!
You don't anyhow teach me wrong thing arh!!


kinetics:
Is it a physical change in your wife? Or just your perception of her?? Curious...


Ichigo_Kurosaki:
Last time I was mistaken because of wrong info fed to me mah. But now I have "first-hand" info from real married men. And since there is no reason for anyone of you to lie as we are all hidden behind our nicknames, now I know what the truth is lor.


cumfast:
Weiiiiii... don't insinuate that I'm a slut hor! I have QC one ok?? Ok la, honestly? I am lusty for Vin Diesel, Ryan Reynolds and Gerard Butler...

Actually my sex life is exactly the same for the last 5 yrs. No difference at all, except he now understands my body better than last time, so sex is actually better and I cum faster.
He has always been the sole breadwinner. When I met him, I was pursuing further studies so no income, was living off savings. Then once we were married, he made me stay at home already. He said must get used to being at home very very often, because when we have babies, I won't be able to go out everyday like what I'm used to. So regarding this, I have no comparison lah. I did do some part-time/freelance work in the 1st 2 years, but he didn't like it, saying I'm a workaholic and I get too engrossed in my work.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Ichigo_Kurosaki:
Last time I was mistaken because of wrong info fed to me mah. But now I have "first-hand" info from real married men. And since there is no reason for anyone of you to lie as we are all hidden behind our nicknames, now I know what the truth is lor.


Thank you for the understanding.

All the urban myths from those 三姑六婆 about married men not wanna bonk their wives, like to eat outside ALL THE TIME and etc.....are list of untruths. There's nothing outside that will beat nutritious and heart-warming homecooked food yet :D:p even though we have to contribute and helping out with house work including tons loads of dishes, laundry, vacuuming, making them relex and confortable to significantly increase the chances of more sex with our wives.:o:D

[Kinetics]

kinetics:
Is it a physical change in your wife? Or just your perception of her?? Curious...



Tink there is some physical change, it seems that she is more sensitive, more responsive, after she has given birth, if u get wat I mean....

[cumfast]

monkeymoose:
Viagra will make men feel horny one meh?? I thought it only assists erection, doesn't mean will make the guy horny lor!
You don't anyhow teach me wrong thing arh!!


kinetics:
Is it a physical change in your wife? Or just your perception of her?? Curious...


Ichigo_Kurosaki:
Last time I was mistaken because of wrong info fed to me mah. But now I have "first-hand" info from real married men. And since there is no reason for anyone of you to lie as we are all hidden behind our nicknames, now I know what the truth is lor.


cumfast:
Weiiiiii... don't insinuate that I'm a slut hor! I have QC one ok?? Ok la, honestly? I am lusty for Vin Diesel, Ryan Reynolds and Gerard Butler...

Actually my sex life is exactly the same for the last 5 yrs. No difference at all, except he now understands my body better than last time, so sex is actually better and I cum faster.
He has always been the sole breadwinner. When I met him, I was pursuing further studies so no income, was living off savings. Then once we were married, he made me stay at home already. He said must get used to being at home very very often, because when we have babies, I won't be able to go out everyday like what I'm used to. So regarding this, I have no comparison lah. I did do some part-time/freelance work in the 1st 2 years, but he didn't like it, saying I'm a workaholic and I get too engrossed in my work.




i am lusty for Diane Lane... :)

so quality of sex improved but quantity went down?

men are cheap... need to scare them then they will take notice of you one...

[TyLa_BaBy]

Ichigo_Kurosaki:
Awwwww you sound like a really nice husband!!


kinetics:
Yes yes. I think I know what you mean.
What I've been told by female friends is that after give birth, everybody know they are not virgin anymore, so they let down their inhibitions and start to enjoy sex!
Or maybe having a baby just "rearranged" her girly parts and made her more responsive. :D


cumfast:
Diane Lane?? Wow, that's rare! You must be into MILFs right??
No no no. Quality went up, quantity stayed the same. (I already said same for last 5 yrs already mah!) But since it was never enough for me to begin with, after 5 years of being "under-sexed", the effect has been compounded lah.

[TRYDRY]

Hi TyLa_Baby,

When did you lose your viginity? To your husband or your ex?

[TyLa_BaBy]

Hi TyLa_Baby,

When did you lose your viginity? To your husband or your ex?


Orrrrrrrh. You still dare to post here arh? I got your notti PM leh. But obviously I'm not going to reply hor. :D

Anyway, what does this question has to do with anything??

[TRYDRY]

Ha, it's ok you don't reply my PM although it is my sincere invite :)
Just want to know if the timing of losing viginity can affect a woman's sex life in the future.

[leaseoflife]

I have been married for about 9 years. So far, wifey and myself are still going pretty ok with the sex life. Probably not as much as the initial part of marriage, when we used to do it in most part of the house. But still manage to have perhaps once every week or so. I have 2 kids, all sleeping in my room, so we usually adjorned to another room where we will light up the room using candle lights, with soft music. And yes, we still travel at least once a year with just the two of us to enjoy each other's company. That said, I have to be honest that I still "eat-out" occassionally. My sex drive is high, and I enjoy having it with different women. Don;t get me wrong. I am not promoting being Promiscuous , but this, I guess, is a personal preference. In fact, I thought it helps more in sustaining the interest in the "home-cooked" food.

[TyLa_BaBy]

TRYDRY:
Why don't you start a new thread and ask? At least will be able to collect more opinions mah.


leaseoflife:
Afterall, ppl do say that variety is the spice of life mah. No need to feel bad about it. :)
Wow, still got candle lights and soft music huh? Really into atmosphere! And BIG ENVY on the "honeymoons". We can't afford it, and don't have anyone to leave the kids with even IF we had the $$. :(
Even though we know it would do us good to de-stress and bond, not enough resources also no choice.

[leaseoflife]

[B][SIZE="4"]leaseoflife:
Afterall, ppl do say that variety is the spice of life mah. No need to feel bad about it.
Wow, still got candle lights and soft music huh? Really into atmosphere! And BIG ENVY on the "honeymoons". We can't afford it, and don't have anyone to leave the kids with even IF we had the $$.
Even though we know it would do us good to de-stress and bond, not enough resources also no choice.



Hi Tyla. Perhaps, you should try and see it from another perspective. Sometimes, it is not the quantity, but quality that counts? Forget about overseas trips, expensive dates etc, but try creating a nice place at a small part of your home. My wifey knows I go bonkers with her make-up on, and this is what she does for me most times. Similarly, look at what your man wants. Start slow, and try not have expectation that one (or both) of you have to climax at the end of the session. Like I said, quality, not necessarily quantity ;) The long CNY break is coming up, so perhaps try and use one of the nights for your "mini-party". He got no work, and you just gotta ensure the kids sleep earlier, and both of u are not tired out by the day's activities. I am not an expert here, but I always think, like all things, is to manage our expectations. :D Hope it helps. And like I say, I am a player (and perhaps a devil in disguse :cool:) so you see if you wanna try what I think is my two cents worth. :)

[Fuckzilla]

Marriage is still quite the distant destination from my current stage of life. After seeing all sorts of responses from this thread, it really got me all interested on the subject all of a sudden. Kudos to all those bros out there who are still passionate towards their wives, your unwavering loyalty and mental fortitude is something I hope to attain, although at my current rate...it's gonna take some time.

To all those bros who still dines out no matter how frequent, I'm glad you guys were able to follow your callings. Seeing all these engaging stories from married individuals is quite the amusing read. Good Luck.

[flowerpot]

wowowow...

how r u lady....

2nd child 2years+ le right???

[Kinetics]

kinetics:
Yes yes. I think I know what you mean.
What I've been told by female friends is that after give birth, everybody know they are not virgin anymore, so they let down their inhibitions and start to enjoy sex!
Or maybe having a baby just "rearranged" her girly parts and made her more responsive. :D



Maybe like what you said she is more relax now and start enjoying being bonk again.
Ha ha I am not too sure about the "rearranged" part but now it seems like I can get her to reach her big O much easier then before...:D

[TyLa_BaBy]

leaseoflife:
Thanks for the suggestions, but there really are MANY factors that restrict us from doing what other couples do to bond. There isn't even a small part of my home that is available for any conversion because we live in a very small 3-room flat.
If you ask me to consider what my man wants, I can honestly tell you that he wants to be left alone and not pressured about spending time together. Just last night, he had to work until 3am simply because CNY is coming up. Must clear the outstanding work before holiday starts.
And while public holiday means he doesn't need to go to work, he usually still has to work from home. Bring work home lor.

You're easy to please, your wife wear makeup then drive you bonkers already. :D My man likes it when I get brazilian wax, which I do try to go do it once every 2-3 mths. But there is firstly the issue of cost (it's not cheap at $50+ a visit) and the question of how to go when I have 2 children to take care of. There are too many limiting factors lah. Sometimes also very frustrated over them.

My expectation is actually quite simple: For him to be more "automatic". After years of always initiating, I think it's reasonable that I wish for him to make the move instead of me all the time.


flowerpot
Eh..... yo yo yo!
No lah, my 2nd child is only 6 mths old leh! My 1st child is 2+ yrs though.


kinetics:
Who cares why its like that lah. Just enjoy it, man!

[leaseoflife]

Hmm...I guess u are right in the sense that each couple has its fair share of issues. But honestly, I think this needs to be (and can only be) resolved between the two of you. It will be hard, considering our culture, but the later it drags, the more frustration it creeps in. At the end of the day, you will feel just so tired of hanging on, simply for the sake of the kids.

Sometimes, guys (or even the ladies) lose sight of what attracted them to each other in the first place. We just need a nudge some time to remind us that there is something special there in the first place.

Brazilian wax... yup! Wifey does that once in a while. Yummy. I love that too! Clean, shaven... nice! :D

Ok... anyway, hang in there. Talk, and see how it goes. Do it calm, do it right, cos as man, he will be pretty defensive about the issue.

Cheers.



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leaseoflife:
Thanks for the suggestions, but there really are MANY factors that restrict us from doing what other couples do to bond. There isn't even a small part of my home that is available for any conversion because we live in a very small 3-room flat.
If you ask me to consider what my man wants, I can honestly tell you that he wants to be left alone and not pressured about spending time together. Just last night, he had to work until 3am simply because CNY is coming up. Must clear the outstanding work before holiday starts.
And while public holiday means he doesn't need to go to work, he usually still has to work from home. Bring work home lor.

You're easy to please, your wife wear makeup then drive you bonkers already. :D My man likes it when I get brazilian wax, which I do try to go do it once every 2-3 mths. But there is firstly the issue of cost (it's not cheap at $50+ a visit) and the question of how to go when I have 2 children to take care of. There are too many limiting factors lah. Sometimes also very frustrated over them.

My expectation is actually quite simple: For him to be more "automatic". After years of always initiating, I think it's reasonable that I wish for him to make the move instead of me all the time.

[limsuhup]

Home cook food is much more healthier. Hardly eat outside food unless outstation to oversea. :D:D

[Masterdebater]

Hey lady did u get any last night?

[mr nice guy]

Home cook food is much more healthier. Hardly eat outside food unless outstation to oversea. :D:D

hahahah.. 1 2nd tat.. yup, home cooked food you can at least control the sugar, MSG etc.. if eat outside, bo pian must eat watever is on the silver platter..

anyways, to me.. you are indeed a MILF..

Mums I Like to be Friends with...

ok ok guys, calm down.. i noe some of you were like..

"Pls lor like real only this guy"
"talk cock lah you mr nice guy"
"don't kau pei kau bu here ok"
"tyla, don't believe him.. he is out to get you"
"KNN, this mr nice guy want to kena whack is it"
etc etc etc etc..

sorry guys,, im am whatever you say i am..

peace out tyla baby...:D

[liverpool_kop]

To summarise all of the above conversation,

SEX is like a meal.

Some prefer it home cooked.
Some prefer to eat outside.
Some after eating outside, they lost their way home.

While others who know what they want, will have a combo of both,
Home cooked food is the main dish,
While outside food is the side dish/dessert.
So no matter what/where you eat, remember to go home and wash the dishes.:p

[limsuhup]

hahahah.. 1 2nd tat.. yup, home cooked food you can at least control the sugar, MSG etc.. if eat outside, bo pian must eat watever is on the silver platter..

anyways, to me.. you are indeed a MILF..

Mums I Like to be Friends with...

ok ok guys, calm down.. i noe some of you were like..

"Pls lor like real only this guy"
"talk cock lah you mr nice guy"
"don't kau pei kau bu here ok"
"tyla, don't believe him.. he is out to get you"
"KNN, this mr nice guy want to kena whack is it"
etc etc etc etc..

sorry guys,, im am whatever you say i am..

peace out tyla baby...:D

Halo Nice Guy,

Free to talk anything u like here. For me i agreed to buy outside food to eat (Just Eat n go). :p:p

[fresno99]

[QUOTE=TyLa_BaBy;4565889][FONT="Comic Sans MS"]
My expectation is actually quite simple: For him to be more "automatic". After years of always initiating, I think it's reasonable that I wish for him to make the move instead of me all the time.
[/B]
Go get a Dildo, more gratifying than to wait for his move.

[slider_72]

Sis Tyla, I feel sorry for you, over-sexed but under-get. Since you mentioned that your toys no longer bring you any satisfaction, perhaps you can try the vacuum cleaner. See video for instructions.


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[fresno99]

Have to "beg" n "book" my wife 2 or 3 days in advance to have sex and she will still turn me down with the excuse "no mood" when I have stripped n waiting for her. Worse still she set these conditions :
1) No touching n licking her nipples n pussy.She say:eek:
2) Can only do missionary style.
3) She never lick or even touch my cock.:mad:
4) The room must be pitch dark n I must not look at her breast or pussy.:o
5) Must wear a condom. I have forgot the feel of doing it without one:(
Any bro has a "better" wife than mine?
Or is TS a "better" wife than mine?

Wow.. bro. Seems rather extreme le.. Perhaps you should threaten to leave her or go find prostitutes for sex to see if she will change her attitude.

[jugesam]

there r so many bros out there like me :eek:, but again, if not this forum wont be so popular.



leaseoflife:
There isn't even a small part of my home that is available for any conversion because we live in a very small 3-room flat.
But there is firstly the issue of cost (it's not cheap at $50+ a visit)


my wife use to shave herself with those ladies shaver, alot cheaper lor:)

Anyway after seeing you talk so much abt your hb, have you considered one of the possibilities is that he is under a lot of stress trying to work his ass off to get the bread home, but yet his ego dun want you to go out to work? i know some guys are like dat. maybe there is some way to bring in the extra cash without too much diversion of your time for the house?

[freezetheDB]

Really feel sorry for bro chowyunfat after reading his plight.

[gtkh2]

masterdebater:
I think my logic will be my downfall. Otherwise I would have either
a) divorce,
b) eat outside without guilt,
c) won't even marry him in the 1st place.

The only thing I ever did without logic was to marry him. I just followed my heart, and look where I ended up.

But logically this man is potential good husband/father material (and he has been so far), he's just not a good lover (in terms of frequency/variety). I just naively thought it would get better when we get more in sync, or my sex drive will wane off after having kids. But damn I was wrong. 5 years later I am still the same. Hahaha.

Got methods to decrease sex drive not??


Hi

Pardon me being abrupt...

Take Evening Primose Oil or Fish Oil will help DECREASE your sex drive:)

I took fish oil for the benefits but end up no drive for weeks!! Now Govt also propose fish oil for prison inmates...Now u c why liao:p

[Yyzen]

hm... the wife should do her part to please the husband lah...

for me.. i always try to please my bf :) unless i am sick.... sumtimes even after a tough gym session + fk up day at work or almost dead drunk i will still wanna make my guy happy ... ML with my love brings joy, nothing beats seeing my guy feeling good kekekekeke

anyway im quite surprise to see most of the bro's wifey sex drive went down ... logically a woman's sex drive will be higher as they grow older .. all my 30s females all admit and agree to this fact.... guys i am not sure.. hahah

some woman are just lazy to ML ba i guess... but if she excerise it will definately boost the sex drive :)

the only time i will rejected sex will be i see a mini dick... a damn turn off... waste of my time.. sibey sian and wtf feeling will be switch on automatically... how skillful his finger or tongue also no use...

[my23]

my23 / chenzong:
Ya lah, why you men so cheap one!! The one you cannot is always the best huh?? "The one that got away" syndrome.


well well, this is human psychology, doesnt juz apply to man, applies to woman too...

it's just like during courtship, if the gal got look/body/charisma/blah-blah, while sometimes 吊起来卖 abit, so called 吊胃口, it will trigger the guy's animal instinct more!!!:D

oh wat am i saying?? am i talking any sense? me too not sure... hehe:p

[Kinetics]

[QUOTE=TyLa_BaBy;4555986]Curious question: How many of the married blokes here still desire to have sex with their wives?

Have to "beg" n "book" my wife 2 or 3 days in advance to have sex
and she will still turn me down with the excuse "no mood" when I have stripped n waiting for her.

Worse still she set these conditions :
1) No touching n licking her nipples n pussy.She say:eek:
2) Can only do missionary style.
3) She never lick or even touch my cock.
4) The room must be pitch dark n I must not look at her breast or pussy.:o
5) Must wear a condom. I have forgot the feel of doing it without one:(

Any bro has a "better" wife than mine?
Or is TS a "better" wife than mine?

Brother,
For 1)....how will her pussy be wet enough for you to enter ?
For 3)....no lick or even touch cock, how will your dick gets erected n hard ?
Sorry but i really feel sad for you. :(

[chenzong]

my23 / chenzong:
Ya lah, why you men so cheap one!! The one you cannot is always the best huh?? "The one that got away" syndrome.


I was translating the Chinese, Tyla. I am very happy with my wife, thank you, which is why I mentioned such is a sad life.

[AssLover]

I have been reading this thread for some time and as a doctor I get same people coming to me with these same issues....first I would tell couples is to relax and communicate well. know what is causing the stress at work/home...

I have found lots of the people are not clean and it may put your partners off....before sex take a shower...apply some nice cream..and please shave your self well....no need to get Brazlian wax it is expensive and shavers can do the same job at home much cheaper.

During weekends take some time off to be together....go out get a baby sitter. I have recomended "Intense" and some mutual creams to some couples and it has worked well.

Some other issue may be due to he may not like to use condom....get on pill and enjoy.

Your hormone levels may have gone down and if you are 35 or older take two tablets of DHEA 25 available at GNC after food with water....in about 15 days you should see the change.

I would also recomend Tayla Baby husband to take B complex tablets ( one in morning and one in eveing) available at GNC or others....this will take care of stress and build energy.....

Please let me know how these work.....i would like to help and get the sex life back to you all!

[SneakyBastard]

Hi Tyla Baby,

Just my 2 cents worth from a stressed-out husband's point of view:

You mentioned he is the sole breadwinner. That is A LOT of stress on him. He likely knows he's become a workaholic, probably doesn't like it, but feels he has no choice but to do well & try to excel in the job he's in, so he can put food on the table and a roof over your heads. He likely feels hopelessly trapped because even if he hates his job, he maybe cannot quit for fear of not being able to find another job, especially in this economy (everything is NOT as rosy as economists & politicians would have you believe). So he works his ass off, even brings home work, all in order presumably to get in his boss' good books & hopefully get a pay raise/ promotion.

He likely knows he seems quite impotent in your eyes, but isn't sure how to satisfy you. Your confessions have probably hurt him really deep, but he doesn't know how/ doesn't want you to see him express his hurt. It has very likely only served to lower his already-low morale. However, he wants you to be happy because he loves you, so that's why he tells you that if you eat out, he doesn't want to know. This is likely also part of the reason he buries himself in his work.

He has increased his frequency of lovemaking because he wants to try & please you. However, this, to him, probably feels like a task & not a want or need. It is likely adding to his stress & causing him to have performance anxiety, which in turn causes him to perform below expectations.

Your husband probably feels horribly miserable right now. His job sucks, his wife is a crazed nymphomaniac that doesn't understand him or what he's going through. Probably the only thing he takes pleasure in is the kids. Is he very close to them? It's likely the only thing keeping him going right now, & a big factor in him not having left you already. He probably tells himself: "for my kids, I have to stay strong & live strong."

I may be completely wrong about this, I hope I am. But if you really love him, I'd suggest you ease off on him. Don't give him more pressure with sexual gestures. Maybe try just giving him a good, solid neck, shoulder & head massage as he's working at home. Fetch his slippers, make him coffee, cook his favourite food (if you can't cook, get off you lazy arse & LEARN) & prepare his bath. Make him feel like a king. The king of his own castle. Make him want to come home early and just relax, to hell with outstanding work.

And when he's sufficiently relaxed, he will naturally want to want you. This is the key. When he wants to want you, everything else naturally follows. Every man wants to be the hunter, not the hunted.

I can't guarantee that will 100% work, but it couldn't hurt to try. And if you need help practising how to make a man feel like a king, I've been told I'm an excellent instructor...

Now, if all that doesn't work, perhaps you might want to consider getting a job?

[irrefutable]

I have to because it is my duty.

[irrefutable]

I have to because it is my duty.

[AssLover]

Excellent mail SB....

[cumfast]

Ichigo_Kurosaki:
Awwwww you sound like a really nice husband!!


kinetics:
Yes yes. I think I know what you mean.
What I've been told by female friends is that after give birth, everybody know they are not virgin anymore, so they let down their inhibitions and start to enjoy sex!
Or maybe having a baby just "rearranged" her girly parts and made her more responsive. :D


cumfast:
Diane Lane?? Wow, that's rare! You must be into MILFs right??
No no no. Quality went up, quantity stayed the same. (I already said same for last 5 yrs already mah!) But since it was never enough for me to begin with, after 5 years of being "under-sexed", the effect has been compounded lah.


har chey... means you don't really have a problem except that you are too horny :eek:

anyway quality >>> quantity... you would not want to have it everyday but dont get satisfied

[samyboys]

a man usually love just one woman but is able to fuck many attractive women. At the end of the day he returns to the woman. This is in our genes.

if the man can stay faithful to his woman (and dont bonk around), he is a treasure as he is fighting his own instincts keeping them under control.

if he cant, he is just following his innate nature.

i like this line "he is fighting his own instincts keeping them under control"

i try to get what i want at home, but seems the other half is just dead.
if thats the case, no point quarrel over it as it can get better once or twice and then go into 'dead fish' again

well maybe we just need to play outside and ensure we are still clean

[samyboys]

Dear TS,

many of us still wanna bonk our wives, or at least i do, the problem is that she do not want to be bonk !!!!:mad: Thats the same excuses i get all the time, like some bro said here. i have given up asking or fighting liao. if i make the first move and get a negative response, i will just turn around and sleep. this attitude is bcos heart cold liao. dun want to waste anymore time talking abt it. anyway talk already also no use. Actually many articles say that woman need a lot of stimulation, and man do not. the fact is that man also like to have the same stimulation and attention, we are humans too!! so dun expect to play the little innocent gal and wait to be seduce!

but not bonking her is diff from not loving her. and loving her doesnt mean i will care more about her. confusing leh, bottom line is that although still love her, the feeling is already not like b4. now is more like the attitude of "whatever lah". nothing else matters anymore.

I think u start this thread cos u think that guys stop bonking their wives after some time. actually its not, from the stories here, most of the time is the wife who doesnt want. your hb maybe pre-occupied with work and watever else, but man are human too, just show your loving touch and concern just like u would like him to do for you. dun lose confidence in yourself, treat him well and you will be reciprocated. but dun do blindly lah, so as to protect yourself also.

hope you get out of your situation soon. while i just continue to ta pau as and when necessary.

i feel i am almost 80% in your situation too.

its always the other party thats cold.

To TS, the other party is a HIM and that's rather unusual.
If only my other half can be half as active as TS.:(

[TyLa_BaBy]

Go get a Dildo, more gratifying than to wait for his move.

Oh really?? If like that, how come guys dabao and don't just fuck silicon sex toy pussies??
IT'S NOT THE SAME ONE LOR!!



ChowYunFat
How come have sex with your own wife also must use condom?? She cannot take the Pill one meh??
I think she has issues, man... *sympathetic hug*


slider_72
Sorry, my house no vacuum cleaner leh. Like, really. No vacuum cleaner.


jugesam
I also guessed that could be the reason lah. So I do take in some freelance jobs and such to help out with the $$ lor.

[TyLa_BaBy]

Take Evening Primose Oil or Fish Oil will help DECREASE your sex drive:)

I took fish oil for the benefits but end up no drive for weeks!! Now Govt also propose fish oil for prison inmates...Now u c why liao:p

Eh, serious?!? Ok, I try!!


AssLover
Great ideas you've got there! (All of which have been attempted except for the Vitamin B complex consumption.) Will give that one a shot. :)


SneakyBastard
See? If all men would be as honest & communicative as you are, life would be so much easier. (Same goes for the women who say "nothing's wrong" when OBVIOUSLY something is wrong.)
Though... WTF lah, I CAN COOK OK. !@%#%$@! And in Singapore, no one really runs a bath for their partners. How many of you have bathtubs at home??

Although honestly, I don't feel what you've described is what he's going through. You know it's not work is not something he is willingly burying himself in when you help him pick up his calls, and it's his boss asking for something to be done NOW.

[TyLa_BaBy]

Oh, by the way, GONG XI FA CAI to everyone!

Sorry, last 2 weeks busy with CNY stuff and 1 of my kids fell ill. :(

[chelsea4ever]

Initially got bored with fucking my wife after 7 years together. However found new interest again after she agreed role playing with me, sometimes I will 'rape' her as we imagine not knowing each other, sometimes we will will go clubbing and she will dress sexily and dirty dance with guys and go home with me for some wild sex as though she just know me there, and sometimes she will listen to me and go to work without her panties and bra and I will be eagerly awaiting for work to end so that we can have a good fuck and she's open to outdoor sex as well. We always try new things to keep our sex life going.

Of course there's drawback as well, e.g. We were caught a few times having outdoor sex by peeping toms and what surprised me was that she refuse to stop when I told her of them, instead she ask me to fuck her harder.

Another backfire is we role play so much that once she got drunk at a disco and ended up at a guy's place thinking it was me role playing with her and ended being fucked by the guy and his friend raw as she think it was me and stop him from putting on the condom.

[goodfuck]

I think in general, all guys will want to bonk. And its true even if the gal is their own wife. What's more, there are also benefits to bonk your wife: a) its free and b) it saves time (no need to find gal available for booking and then travel to/fro hotel just to bonk).

However, because its free, the service level, I must say, is non existent, at least for my case. You have to provide the service instead. You have to seduce her, beg her, please her, arouse her in order to get your free bonk. And in the process may even get scolded, kicked, etc. Like what some bros mentioned earlier, there's no BJ, not to mention BBBJ, cannot touch/lick/finger pussy, cannot suck/squeeze breast too hard or else complain pain, only one position, missionary, that's all. With so many restrictions, its a great turn off for me. I hope most wives are not like that but I'm not sure how many is like my case. Its not that she does not want to have sex, but just too many restrictions.

In addition, many conditions must be right in order to make love with your wife:
a) Need to find a suitable time when both of us are alone or kids are asleep.
b) She must not be on code red.
c) Both parties must be in the right mood. If she has been watching horror movie or too stressed or tired from work or have just quarreled or argued over something, then no chance.

From the description above, I think if you are me, you would also sometimes either DIY or 'ta-pao' from outside than bonk your wife. I am not making excuse for myself but this is how I truly feel.

[goodfuck]

Initially got bored with fucking my wife after 7 years together. However found new interest again after she agreed role playing with me, sometimes I will 'rape' her as we imagine not knowing each other, sometimes we will will go clubbing and she will dress sexily and dirty dance with guys and go home with me for some wild sex as though she just know me there, and sometimes she will listen to me and go to work without her panties and bra and I will be eagerly awaiting for work to end so that we can have a good fuck and she's open to outdoor sex as well. We always try new things to keep our sex life going.

Of course there's drawback as well, e.g. We were caught a few times having outdoor sex by peeping toms and what surprised me was that she refuse to stop when I told her of them, instead she ask me to fuck her harder.

Another backfire is we role play so much that once she got drunk at a disco and ended up at a guy's place thinking it was me role playing with her and ended being fucked by the guy and his friend raw as she think it was me and stop him from putting on the condom.


Bro, I really envy your sex live with you wife man, except the part she get bonked by another guy raw.

[Wet_Towel]

Really feel sorry for bro chowyunfat after reading his plight.

At least he still get to ML with wifey. Not like me.

[cumfast]

Initially got bored with fucking my wife after 7 years together. However found new interest again after she agreed role playing with me, sometimes I will 'rape' her as we imagine not knowing each other, sometimes we will will go clubbing and she will dress sexily and dirty dance with guys and go home with me for some wild sex as though she just know me there, and sometimes she will listen to me and go to work without her panties and bra and I will be eagerly awaiting for work to end so that we can have a good fuck and she's open to outdoor sex as well. We always try new things to keep our sex life going.

Of course there's drawback as well, e.g. We were caught a few times having outdoor sex by peeping toms and what surprised me was that she refuse to stop when I told her of them, instead she ask me to fuck her harder.

Another backfire is we role play so much that once she got drunk at a disco and ended up at a guy's place thinking it was me role playing with her and ended being fucked by the guy and his friend raw as she think it was me and stop him from putting on the condom.

whao! how you get the "new found interest" after 7 years? teach us! how you communicated with her over the idea?

[cumfast]

I think in general, all guys will want to bonk. And its true even if the gal is their own wife. What's more, there are also benefits to bonk your wife: a) its free and b) it saves time (no need to find gal available for booking and then travel to/fro hotel just to bonk).

However, because its free, the service level, I must say, is non existent, at least for my case. You have to provide the service instead. You have to seduce her, beg her, please her, arouse her in order to get your free bonk. And in the process may even get scolded, kicked, etc. Like what some bros mentioned earlier, there's no BJ, not to mention BBBJ, cannot touch/lick/finger pussy, cannot suck/squeeze breast too hard or else complain pain, only one position, missionary, that's all. With so many restrictions, its a great turn off for me. I hope most wives are not like that but I'm not sure how many is like my case. Its not that she does not want to have sex, but just too many restrictions.

In addition, many conditions must be right in order to make love with your wife:
a) Need to find a suitable time when both of us are alone or kids are asleep.
b) She must not be on code red.
c) Both parties must be in the right mood. If she has been watching horror movie or too stressed or tired from work or have just quarreled or argued over something, then no chance.

From the description above, I think if you are me, you would also sometimes either DIY or 'ta-pao' from outside than bonk your wife. I am not making excuse for myself but this is how I truly feel.

1) Please don't treat your wife as someone who should service you. You need to please her! Why not?

2) Code red cannot bang? I always bang my gf when we have time together, whether code red or not!

3) If mood not right also won't enjoy mah. If no mood to have sex, then hug and sleep loh.

Something tells me that some man / woman take their spouse for granted. Who knows... I may be like that after I get married.

[chelsea4ever]

whao! how you get the "new found interest" after 7 years? teach us! how you communicated with her over the idea?



I just told her we need to do something to spice up our sex life and started by asking her to dress sexily and as skimpy as possible to arouse me and ask her to imagine I'm someone else and me imagine that she is someone else and tell each other our fantasy

[AdministratorX]

I just told her we need to do something to spice up our sex life and started by asking her to dress sexily and as skimpy as possible to arouse me and ask her to imagine I'm someone else and me imagine that she is someone else and tell each other our fantasy

maybe u can find a FL and do a threesome? :D

lidat sure can spice up ur life..:cool:

[gilagila100]

Initially got bored with fucking my wife after 7 years together. However found new interest again after she agreed role playing with me, sometimes I will 'rape' her as we imagine not knowing each other, sometimes we will will go clubbing and she will dress sexily and dirty dance with guys and go home with me for some wild sex as though she just know me there, and sometimes she will listen to me and go to work without her panties and bra and I will be eagerly awaiting for work to end so that we can have a good fuck and she's open to outdoor sex as well. We always try new things to keep our sex life going.

Of course there's drawback as well, e.g. We were caught a few times having outdoor sex by peeping toms and what surprised me was that she refuse to stop when I told her of them, instead she ask me to fuck her harder.

Another backfire is we role play so much that once she got drunk at a disco and ended up at a guy's place thinking it was me role playing with her and ended being fucked by the guy and his friend raw as she think it was me and stop him from putting on the condom.

Oh dear !!! How did you two get over the incident ?

Hmmm ... maybe u shld ask bro peterpan to join the swingers club if you get more aroused by such incidents ;)

Just a suggestion, no offense bro.

[gilagila100]

Eh, serious?!? Ok, I try!!



SneakyBastard
See? If all men would be as honest & communicative as you are, life would be so much easier. (Same goes for the women who say "nothing's wrong" when OBVIOUSLY something is wrong.)
Though... WTF lah, I CAN COOK OK. !@%#%$@! And in Singapore, no one really runs a bath for their partners. How many of you have bathtubs at home??

Although honestly, I don't feel what you've described is what he's going through. You know it's not work is not something he is willingly burying himself in when you help him pick up his calls, and it's his boss asking for something to be done NOW.





I personally believe in work-life balance. I was stuck in a horrible job before.

My ex-colleagues were great but our bosses were plain horrible.

It took a heavy toll on my relationship and personal well-being.

Stressed out, worrying all the time, losing sleep, bad temper, fatigue etc...

This affected my gf (now my wifey) badly as well. In the end, I gave up the job although it was paying quite well for a more stable but lower-paying job.

Ended being happier and this helps make me a better person both on the bed and off. :D

But a lot also depended on my wife being supportive of me.

Communication is the key as usual.

[Xgenre]

Wonder if you guys had this scenario before. Last week, a close guy friend asked me out for a drink. You know lar, when we guys have all guys time, we tend to do guys talk. (look at girls and comment on face, figure etc, talk abt cars, talk about career, bitch about wife etc). Basically, he got tired of his wife after so many years. Complain wife getting old (thus naggy), looking old (can see sagging face and wrinkles), feeling old (running your fingers over sagging, not firm flesh and wrinkled skin) etc... not many guys care that their wives are in such a state because the wives have to give birth to kids and look after small kids (children) and big kid (husband).

I thought this will be a normal drinking session where we had a great time and no one will remember whatever crap we discussed during the drinking session. How wrong I was. He came looking very stressed and told me his wife was diagnosed with a 5 cm ovarian cyst. Maybe cancer. Gynae took blood for some tests and results will come back 2 weeks later. Don't know why it needs such a long time to get results also. His wife is 35 (not that old also) and has been crying a lot. Thoughts of her dying with 2 young kids kept both of them worried and depressed.

He did what he could to re-assure her. Hugging her for hours and having heart to heart chats. He told her regardless of what happens, he will be there for her. Even if the worst case scenario of death occurring, he will look after both kids well. He didn't describe too much but they had sex soon after. He told me the sex was amazingly intense. It's like break-up sex, only much more intense. Sex, when there is a sense of impending loss, can be amazing. This incident kind of spark off a new chapter in their sex life. Live life like everyday's your last.

When a lot of us married our wives, we vow to love them in sickness and and health, for better and for worse. The vow has nothing to do with any promises of eternal fantastic sex after marriage. If your wife is sick and may die soon, will you bonk them more (as a form of love) ? I do wonder sometimes, if we need a crisis to look at an issue from another angle. Just hope his wife is fine as the results will be known this weekend.

[goodfuck]

1) Please don't treat your wife as someone who should service you. You need to please her! Why not?

2) Code red cannot bang? I always bang my gf when we have time together, whether code red or not!

3) If mood not right also won't enjoy mah. If no mood to have sex, then hug and sleep loh.

Something tells me that some man / woman take their spouse for granted. Who knows... I may be like that after I get married.

Here's my reply:

1) Please don't treat your wife as someone who should service you. You need to please her! Why not?
Yes, I'm willing to please her and I did please her, else will not be bonking her. But what I mean is that it should be both ways, ie, she should also reciprocate.

2) Code red cannot bang? I always bang my gf when we have time together, whether code red or not!
Oh, I have never tried banging when she's code red. She don't allow me anyway.

3) If mood not right also won't enjoy mah. If no mood to have sex, then hug and sleep loh.
Yes, that's only what I can do lor ..... :(

[Whitehorn28]

hmm..for me my sex life with my wife is soo bored.she acts like a piece of mannequin and i hv to foreplay on her then ask me to fuck her.she juz lay down and dun bother bout me..tried to tok bout dis b4 but no use.still the same..

one day become unfaithful then she realise about the problem i tink.....
Sian!

[spinex09]

I have been married for 7 years. When i was young i was into good girl conservative types. In fact we only had sex after marriage. Now 7 years down the road we have drifted a lot sexually especially after the kids came along. My taste in women has also started changing. Im now more into sexy clothed women with big breasts and with a daring attitude. The risk of straying increased so much that i started a short fling with a prc Hc fl a few months ago. I have since ended that. But the guilt and the lure of lust still remains. Sigh.

[Frankiestine]

I only get "home cooking" once in two months so bo bian oc cannot blame me for eating out most of the time...in fact if given a choice i would prefer to eat "home cooked" every day but then too tiring for oc to "cook" everyday...

[timeagle]

Another backfire is we role play so much that once she got drunk at a disco and ended up at a guy's place thinking it was me role playing with her and ended being fucked by the guy and his friend raw as she think it was me and stop him from putting on the condom.

How gullible are you really?

[Ninjaron]

Not married but with my gf for a long time. Once a month is the norm now. I also talked to her about it but it did not help when both of us are working adults try very hard to secure a better future. There was once i made her cum and skipped my chance for the month :(zzz. Now i'm not gonna fall for it again :rolleyes:. Well sex with her is still fantastic and of cos i still love it. With the help my the "5 princess" i still can make ends meet.
I hope this does not get worse after marriage/Kids etc, if not god please be with me. Although not young anymore but physically the demand is still there:cool:

[chelsea4ever]

Oh dear !!! How did you two get over the incident ?

Hmmm ... maybe u shld ask bro peterpan to join the swingers club if you get more aroused by such incidents ;)

Just a suggestion, no offense bro.

Initially was quite angry she let a few strangers bonked her raw but at the same time it is also my fault to suggest to her to dress so skimpy and drink more to get high so that when she back I got the interst to bonk her after hearing her experience at the disco. Just didn't expect them to really bonk her, as I only expect her to be groped which we both dun mind.

Although my fantasy is seeing her gangbanged by other men, I dun really wish for it to happen. Her fantasy is also to try some other cocks apart from mine though she dare not do it.

After this incident we became more open.
Sometimes she will dress till very skimpy and walk in to 7-11 and buy 12 packs condoms even though we dun use just to arouse the poor cashier.
Once she went to a sex shop to buy a vibrator and ask the male staff to teach her how to use.
Another time when we were in Bali and she was sun tanning in her skimpy bikini at the pool, she ask an ang mo to help her rub sun tan lotion on her body. I was just a few chairs away but act dun know her. Was e
arouse when I see him untie her bikini to run on her back and act blur rub the side of her breasts as well and then rub her thighs. When we got back into the room she told me that when rubbing her inner thighs he kept brushing against her crotch making her very wet and we have great sex after that

[petrolheadsg]

mr nice guy: Doesn't take a genius to figure out i'm having issues huh? Hahaha. Oh well, been to marriage counselling, etc etc. Sex drive don't match I also suck thumb.

Thanks for the luck. I need it. :)


late to the party....how refreshing...seems to be in exact same situation except that I am the one sucking thumb. Marriage counsellors suck man. All they can say is ...compromise and control...wtf! haha

Now once a week but I just cope in other ways the rest of the time. Ideally I would love to bonk my wife EVEREEDAE!!! I am probably even fitter looking now than ever before too...and still raring to go but since it doesnt match up...oh well ...gotta think of the bigger picture.

[HumpBackOak]

personally.

Marriage Counselors huge waste of time.

Seeing a marriage counselor, might as well see a working lady, way more life experience and knows how to please.

When just get to know you, call you by name.

after get together, call you darling/dear.

after get married, call you husband/wifey.

after having children, call you mummy/daddy

after another decade, call you OEI or EH...

it all goes downhill from there.


most of the time, after marriage for some time. ppl just stop putting in effort. you gota make time for privacy/date for two people. (yes get a babysiter or something)

not to mention after marriage and children, most ppl stop maintaining their appearance/figure.

of cos it takes two hands to clap, the important part is communication and if you do not cater to each other's physical/emotional needs.

Don't blame the other party for cheating.

[spinex09]

Initially was quite angry she let a few strangers bonked her raw but at the same time it is also my fault to suggest to her to dress so skimpy and drink more to get high so that when she back I got the interst to bonk her after hearing her experience at the disco. Just didn't expect them to really bonk her, as I only expect her to be groped which we both dun mind.

Although my fantasy is seeing her gangbanged by other men, I dun really wish for it to happen. Her fantasy is also to try some other cocks apart from mine though she dare not do it.

After this incident we became more open.
Sometimes she will dress till very skimpy and walk in to 7-11 and buy 12 packs condoms even though we dun use just to arouse the poor cashier.
Once she went to a sex shop to buy a vibrator and ask the male staff to teach her how to use.
Another time when we were in Bali and she was sun tanning in her skimpy bikini at the pool, she ask an ang mo to help her rub sun tan lotion on her body. I was just a few chairs away but act dun know her. Was e
arouse when I see him untie her bikini to run on her back and act blur rub the side of her breasts as well and then rub her thighs. When we got back into the room she told me that when rubbing her inner thighs he kept brushing against her crotch making her very wet and we have great sex after that
wow your wife is very daring. I wish mine was as daring as well. It can really make the sex life more alive.

[dagger168]

Tyla
I chanced upon this thread & would like to share abit about my situation. As early as just after marriage, I already realised that I no longer lust for my wife like our dating days. I went ahead mainly out of responsibility (or some may think utterly irresponsible). Things come to a breaking point recently, when I dont make any attempts for as long as 3 weeks. Other cockups like me climaxing within 10mins or cant get it up or going soft when drilling all made things even worse.
Now she got so shattered that she told me that she doesnt want it or even expect it anymore. How does one weigh love vs responsibilities? rationale vs emotions? I dont do paid sex or even ons (mainly due to fear of stds or worse aids).
I'll keep trying to get my lust back cos words are simply not enough or even effective at all. Feeling lost & empty but will keep trying to save this marriage.
Thanks for taking time to read.

[slider_72]

Tyla
I chanced upon this thread & would like to share abit about my situation. As early as just after marriage, I already realised that I no longer lust for my wife like our dating days. I went ahead mainly out of responsibility (or some may think utterly irresponsible). Things come to a breaking point recently, when I dont make any attempts for as long as 3 weeks. Other cockups like me climaxing within 10mins or cant get it up or going soft when drilling all made things even worse.
Now she got so shattered that she told me that she doesnt want it or even expect it anymore. How does one weigh love vs responsibilities? rationale vs emotions? I dont do paid sex or even ons (mainly due to fear of stds or worse aids).
I'll keep trying to get my lust back cos words are simply not enough or even effective at all. Feeling lost & empty but will keep trying to save this marriage.
Thanks for taking time to read.

Its all in the mind bro.

The urge to do it regularly during courtship days is normal. It is also normal for your urge to decline after a few years into the marriage. If you stop seeing it as a responsibility, it might work better. Seems like your high expectation resulted in your inability to perform to your desired standard. When all else fails, lower your standards.

Like all things in life, it takes some effort on the part of both parties. Not all love-making sessions must end up with the earth shaking beneath you. Sometimes it can be just as nice to be inside your wife, cuddle and kiss without the pumping. Sure, you will probably go soft after a while but hey, life is not all about results. I think this will give you and your wife some emotional fulfillment as well as to train your mind that performance in bed is not as important as what you make it out to be.

On occasions, do something spontaneous. Once the kids are asleep, bring the wife out to a hotel for bonking. You might think that it is wasting money but the effect is very different. Bring a bottle of champagne or something. Get drunk, have sex, wash up and then go home.

You feel that climaxing within 10 minutes is a cock-up. Its not. Sex is not all about how big you are, how long you can last and how many times you make her cum.

[ferragamo]

I think the most difficult time is after the kids are born

the desire to have sex is still there but the energy and time after settling the kids is not there

but I found that after the kids are older, about 2 years old , it becomes much easier

another issue is that after giving birth, the women are sensitive about their body shape, so that is something to work around

[dagger168]

Its all in the mind bro.

The urge to do it regularly during courtship days is normal. It is also normal for your urge to decline after a few years into the marriage. If you stop seeing it as a responsibility, it might work better. Seems like your high expectation resulted in your inability to perform to your desired standard. When all else fails, lower your standards.

Like all things in life, it takes some effort on the part of both parties. Not all love-making sessions must end up with the earth shaking beneath you. Sometimes it can be just as nice to be inside your wife, cuddle and kiss without the pumping. Sure, you will probably go soft after a while but hey, life is not all about results. I think this will give you and your wife some emotional fulfillment as well as to train your mind that performance in bed is not as important as what you make it out to be.

On occasions, do something spontaneous. Once the kids are asleep, bring the wife out to a hotel for bonking. You might think that it is wasting money but the effect is very different. Bring a bottle of champagne or something. Get drunk, have sex, wash up and then go home.

You feel that climaxing within 10 minutes is a cock-up. Its not. Sex is not all about how big you are, how long you can last and how many times you make her cum.

Thanks, Slider. I guess you are right to some extent that the romance element is missing and my expectation & fantasy cant be fulfilled and thus leading to more disappointments (mind & little bro). But right now, I think it's my wife that is more disillusioned as I dont even give out the min once a week quota, that, she cannot accept

[slider_72]

Thanks, Slider. I guess you are right to some extent that the romance element is missing and my expectation & fantasy cant be fulfilled and thus leading to more disappointments (mind & little bro). But right now, I think it's my wife that is more disillusioned as I dont even give out the min once a week quota, that, she cannot accept

Tsk tsk. There you go again. You are too task-oriented. Why should there be a minimum quota for sex? Take half a day leave, go home, surprise your wife and give her a good bonk. If your wife is working, fetch her from work one day, instead of going home or dinner, go to Hotel 81 and give her a good bonk. What the heck, do it in the car if you wish. If that is too difficult to arrange, when she is taking her shower tonight, sneak into the bathroom and give her a good bonk. Fuck her standing up from behind and watch yourself doing it in the bathroom mirror, I'm sure there is a mirror over the sink.

You don't even need to bang her for hours. Sometimes even a little quickie here and there can be fun. It doesn't matter if you go soft after 5 minutes without cumming. Just pull it out, give your wife a silly grin and say that Mr Willy is on strike or something stupid. That way you won't feel the pressure to perform. Ironically, once the pressure to perform is reduced, the ability to perform increases.

Like the Nike slogan, Just do it.

[slider_72]

slider_72
Sorry, my house no vacuum cleaner leh. Like, really. No vacuum cleaner.

Hmmm.... that's tough. Tell me when is your birthday. I'll buy you a vacuum cleaner for your birthday present.

[SneakyBastard]

Eh, serious?!? Ok, I try!!


AssLover
Great ideas you've got there! (All of which have been attempted except for the Vitamin B complex consumption.) Will give that one a shot. :)


SneakyBastard
See? If all men would be as honest & communicative as you are, life would be so much easier. (Same goes for the women who say "nothing's wrong" when OBVIOUSLY something is wrong.)
Though... WTF lah, I CAN COOK OK. !@%#%$@! And in Singapore, no one really runs a bath for their partners. How many of you have bathtubs at home??

Although honestly, I don't feel what you've described is what he's going through. You know it's not work is not something he is willingly burying himself in when you help him pick up his calls, and it's his boss asking for something to be done NOW.

I apologize for insinuating you can't cook. I shouldn't assume that just because I cook better than my wife, that it applies to everyone else...

I didn't mean LITERALLY run a bath for him. I realize most HDB flats don't even have enough space for a bath. My point was for you (or wives in general) to treat your man (or men) like kings, and make them want to want you.

I don't think anyone wants to willingly work like a slave. If you read my post carefully, I said he likely feels he has no choice but to do whatever he's asked just to please the boss. I hope he's adequately compensated.

I apologize in advance for saying so, but from reading your posts, I get the impression that you have been far more preoccupied with fulfilling your own needs, and have failed to fully appreciate his needs. While most men want sex, usually as much as possible, many also have other needs that need to be fulfilled first.

Is your husband a competitive person? Perhaps he's vying with someone else for a promotion? His need for recognition and advancement may outweigh his lust for sex. But I believe once he wins, his libido will naturally grow in proportion to his ego & confidence. However, until he wins whatever competition he's in, you, unfortunately, lose. And your daliances haven't helped his confidence either...

Conversely, if he's the meekly sort, then he's afraid of offending his boss & does his bidding to protect his rice-bowl. His confidence is already low. Your sexual aggressiveness & daliances haven't helped unleash the beast within. Beware, if he is this sort. You may end up like that woman in Pasir Ris who kept belittling her husband: stabbed 49 times. (was it 49? Anyone remember?)

My point, as in my original post, is that you need to make your man want to want you.

Making him feel like a king, for me, is the best way to do it. There's a reason why so many Singapore men get KC'd by PRC girls, or any other nationality than Singaporean, for that matter. Singapore women feel that they simply cannot bring themselves so low as to pleasure a man like a servant bordering on slave.

PRC girls can, and us SG guys find it such a welcome refreshing change. We love it! Often, many of us know we're being KC'd, & likely nothing good will come out of it, but we don't care! Cheat our money? Money can still earn it back. Cheat our feelings? It's probably happened before. We'll get over it. But never in our entire lives have we been treated this way, not even by our mothers! Just for that once-in-a-lifetime feeling of being pampered like a king, why the hell not?

Hope you understand the point I'm trying to make.

[jacky43]

Would liked to share some points, the more i chiong outside the more i feel my OC is lovely. The ladies outside may mean harm, not OC, take the case of Tan L Snake's wife, she will never harm him. Not in this life, unless OC has mental breakdown like that doc, crazy aunty who washes her door, 24hrs kind, now this is different.

I asked a lady friend who is not in speaking terms with hubby, i asked will she ever harm him cause, she told of hubby drinking, so far no harm done. Children all growth up. She replied, "Never think of stab him, kill him b4. Rather i let him kill me." Respect! And all OC u r wonderfully.

Guys, almost all will return home after pocket empty, broken hearts. I appreciate my yellow faced woman @home, she treats me well, hope brothers do the same.

[hardthrob81]

appreciate my yellow faced woman @home, she treats me well, hope brothers do the same.

wish i could up you for your post. i feel the same way. appreciate the one at home who always care for us no matter what. (of course provided they dun cheong other guy behind our back in the first place!)

unfortunately got many james bond out there so we must take care our OC more. what do i mean? refer to the following lines from casino royale.

James Bond: You're not my type...

Vesper Lynd: Smart?

Bond: Single...

[bloopz]

Making him feel like a king, for me, is the best way to do it. There's a reason why so many Singapore men get KC'd by PRC girls, or any other nationality than Singaporean, for that matter. Singapore women feel that they simply cannot bring themselves so low as to pleasure a man like a servant bordering on slave.

PRC girls can, and us SG guys find it such a welcome refreshing change. We love it! Often, many of us know we're being KC'd, & likely nothing good will come out of it, but we don't care! Cheat our money? Money can still earn it back. Cheat our feelings? It's probably happened before. We'll get over it. But never in our entire lives have we been treated this way, not even by our mothers! Just for that once-in-a-lifetime feeling of being pampered like a king, why the hell not?

Hope you understand the point I'm trying to make.

i do agree with the points and suggestions above.. well, it is a fact that many women nowadays are very frank about their feelings and what are their needs/wants and are agitated when their needs/wants are not met.
on the other hand, men whom had the chance to be vocal and have to make all the decisions in the past, now have to bow down to everyone.. eg: (when young) - mom, teachers, etc, (grow older) boss, wife?? how can we blame the guys for having bruised ego nowadays?

i know it had been quite frustrating for you not to have enough sex for so long. but, have you had a good chat with your hubby asking him
-wat are his expectations of you as his wife other then giving birth to baby and taking care of the household stuffs?
-what is his view regarding sex? (although he should be quite healthy since both of u have 2 kids in 5 years.)

as mentioned before by some other samsters, communication is the key.. good luck sister!

[starcrosser]

she is having straight patterns. Sometimes i am overfed, sometimes i am starved.

[TyLa_BaBy]

I think in general, all guys will want to bonk.

However, because its free, the service level, I must say, is non existent, at least for my case. You have to provide the service instead. You have to seduce her, beg her, please her, arouse her in order to get your free bonk. And in the process may even get scolded, kicked, etc.

Haven't you heard before? Nothing in this world is free. Seriously, NOTHING. Therefore need to "work" very hard to get that free bonk lor.


Now once a week but I just cope in other ways the rest of the time. Ideally I would love to bonk my wife EVEREEDAE!!!

Woah. Once a week is really good ok. Once again, I am lamenting how come the high drive ppl don't end up marrying each other... :(

My current count is 9 days without sex. We'll see how long this takes to build up to another 20+++ days. :rolleyes: I'm starting to find my own situation very amusing.


I'll keep trying to get my lust back cos words are simply not enough or even effective at all. Feeling lost & empty but will keep trying to save this marriage.

I guess sometimes the sexual spark just runs out. Nothing to do with whether our partners went out of shape or not, or kids, or anything. Cos I'm sure if you ask some of the guys ard, they will bonk nonetheless! Kids?! If horny enough, just go toilet 5 mins with the wife and it's settled lor!

Honestly I feel 99% of the time is down to whether the partner wants to or not. 1% remainder for valid reasons like illness, etc.

[TyLa_BaBy]

Hmmm.... that's tough. Tell me when is your birthday. I'll buy you a vacuum cleaner for your birthday present.

Vacuum cleaner can compare to human cock meh?? :D


SneakyBastard
I guess I get your drift, but if you think about it in another way (be empathetic to me lah), he pleases his boss/clients/etc, I please him, and WHO PLEASES ME?? My kids?!
Sorry if you find that I'm self-centered/selfish/whatever. But give any regular person the short end of the stick for years, and I'm sure they won't be very pleased with what they get.

If I may present the argument in another way, the whole day I am dealing with little people who aren't exactly very logical nor able to compromise as much as adults can, and I still have to make my spouse feel like a King? I'm sorry, man. It's not like he pays me to justify that much more extra effort, especially not after the last few years when I was doing EXACTLY THAT and got zero returns. Ppl get tired of trying and doing more for no returns, you know?
At least in your case of PRC girls, they at least get "good stuff" out of their KC'ed guys sia.


P.S. Maybe one day I WILL end up like the Pasir Ris woman. HAHAHAHA.


bloopz
2 kids in 4 years, actually. Haha.

My reply to you is very simple: It is not possible to communicate with someone who doesn't talk much.

When I ask, he tells me I am doing everything he wants me to, that nothing is wrong with our marriage (or with me) and that he simply doesn't have the urge to have sex often. That's all. (Or so he says.) But if he doesn't say, and after all these years I really don't find anything suspicious that I feel he is not telling about, I really don't know what else it can be. Except just simply... low drive lor.

No amount of communication can raise his sex drive. Whatever extra stunts I can pull have only served very temporarily. Very tired of trying leh.

[Vectra]

jugesam
I also guessed that could be the reason lah. So I do take in some freelance jobs and such to help out with the $$ lor. [/FONT]

Maybe you should try FL that suit some of ur needs. It might solve your feeling of frustration as well:cool:

[TyLa_BaBy]

vectra
Why do I have a feeling the kind of FL you referring to is different from the type I was talking about?!?!

I was referring to freelance assignments as in "work that i do from home" leh. Not paid sex hor!!

[sleaguepunter]

My current count is 9 days without sex. We'll see how long this takes to build up to another 20+++ days. :rolleyes: I'm starting to find my own situation very amusing.

wa...sis u r up since 4am. what the hell u r doing up 4am?

9days huh.... my last was since mid jan, so who more pitiful.:(

[tryherout]

We are doing on a project basis - getting baby. She told me she needed maternity leave, a long leave away from work... apart from that, we didnt do anything since 2 months ago.

I ponder much but it didnt encourage me to hook on pros just yet. Is it a long waiting game? Frustrated at times really

[coach]

If horny enough, just go toilet 5 mins with the wife and it's settled lor!



Sis, i dont think it is feasible with the partners like SG baby type, maybe in some countryside or village it can be done. to those educated modern SG girls, mostly the guys will get scolded and told to be"fuck off/out" right:p:p

so sometimes guy need to settle outside if cannot inside:p:D

[slider_72]

Vacuum cleaner can compare to human cock meh?? :D


Of course a vacuum cleaner cannot be compared with with man's penis. I can't offer you mine (not that you want it anyway), nor can I assist you in getting your husband to be more active. So the only thing I can offer is a vacuum cleaner.

:D

[Vectra]

vectra
Why do I have a feeling the kind of FL you referring to is different from the type I was talking about?!?!

I was referring to freelance assignments as in "work that i do from home" leh. Not paid sex hor!!




Haha, you are frustrated of not enough to satisfy ur needs ma... As well as getting some $$$ return...

Just kidding, no ill intention:D

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Hi TyLa_BaBy, he is still not in hyper-drive after all the comments? :confused::eek:

What have you done? It's already spring 2010.....where's your tiger? :D

[justfuckit]

Hi TyLa_BaBy, he is still not in hyper-drive after all the comments? :confused:

What have you done? It's already spring 2010.....where's your tiger?

Dont be confused bro, every woman come to sbf has a reason - different from guys of course, and look for different things too.

Their tiger is hidden underneath, and well controlled publicly, but .. :D

[TyLa_BaBy]

sleaguepunter
Sexually frustrated, cannot sleep lah! :D
ok ok, you more poor thing. But for a woman who's taken... anything more than a week is sad hor!


tryherout
It's damn stressful (not to mention not pleasurable) to have sex on project basis. Takes all the fun out of sex. :(


coach
Agreed. Some local girls are prudes and frigid. Boooooo. Spoil women's reputation.


slider_72
Ok lah, thanks for your vacuum cleaner offer. But no thanks. :D


Vectra
Your idea is not a bad idea, except *ahem* some guys can be quite gross leh! No amount of money will be able to erase them off my memory hor!


Ichigo_Kurosaki
Yah balls, I also wondering where is my Tiger... But if you notice, some comments not very helpful lah. Hahaha.


justfuckit
Ya ya. I am here to look for shopping kaki!! *rofl*

[bigxos]

i still enjoy it with my wife although i hardly get once in a month but eating out is just another option outside DIY. hee...

[tattybear]

seriously if i given a chance i would always wan made love to my wife almost everyday. but seem like all ladies after birth there sexual act drop... sighs... sometime i feel like beggin for it... so shameful as a husband. and of cuz i believe most old husband/wife jus end their sex rite after he cum. as for mi she muz cum 1st. be it pene orgas or mast her till orgam...

i love licking her as well, but always kena rejected... sobx...

i believe always started massger her, foreplay, made love, orgas and follow by a peck on her forehead..

sry... mind bit lost... dunno wat i saying... sry pple...


Sighs...

[sgboy2010]

I used to bonk my wife once ot twice per week until commmunication break down. Sis best that u ask you man to go for a short break from work.

You have to talk to see how is he doing before too late.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Ichigo_Kurosaki

Yah balls, I also wondering where is my Tiger... But if you notice, some comments not very helpful lah. Hahaha.



Excellent! You got it!!!! :p

Good lovers are made, not born. Play with his balls and at the same time, mess with his brain by talking dirty to him and give him a preview of what you would like him to do to you, or vice versa. :D:p Sexuality in marriage is a great gift and a gift to be enjoyed and nurtured, so please continue to nurture him every night or whatever he is vulnerable. Wahahahahahah.....please don't rape or hurt him hor, Tigeress!!

[Vectra]

Vectra
Your idea is not a bad idea, except *ahem* some guys can be quite gross leh! No amount of money will be able to erase them off my memory hor!

Then you only can stay in this dirt situation lo:cool:

[justfuckit]

justfuckit
Ya ya. I am here to look for shopping kaki!! *rofl*


Sis welcome, u have one kaki here standbying :D:D anything else also do after shopping ... :p Just like with my wife :cool:

[catch71]

Bros and Sis,

Just out of curiosity, any of you having problems communicating with your partner? My wife is highly strung, and everyday when we get home, there is always something that is not right and that would set her into a fit... be it the neighbour doing reno work and dirtying our yard, someone parking their cars and blocking our driveway, kiddo leaving his toys and not keeping them... whatever, there is always a reason for her to be unhappy... and i am aways at the rec'g end. I usu give in, cos otherwise, she gets emotional and starts crying.

but at night, when she has calmed down, she wants sex, but i cannot even stand the sight of her, cos 2 hours ago, she was shouting at me and showing me those 25 cent face.. and i will avoid getting close to her, much less touch her... i think she react wo thinking, but after that she dun let it bother her, whereas i react slowly, but the anger linger a little longer...

just wondering if any of you have the same problem??

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Bro catch71, probably stress and she needs your attention.
Go for a short holidays or a weekend getaway with her...make her relex and let her opens up to you on what's been bothering her, and also let her know how you felt while at the receiving end. It should be fine. Cheers and good luck! :)

[29flora]

married for 10 years.
don't really enjoy bonking her even in the beginning of the marriage or whether she initiate. Guess she is inactive with such activities.
Therefore, prefer to dine-out.
Really envy those couples that can have a enjoyable sex life.
(My relationship with wife is still alright except for the ML part).

Bro, 10yrs and not much regular sex? Bro with all due respect, you'd better occasionly check on your wife. She might be getting some "outside food" and worse if it's fresher - young coconuts.

[Book-keeper]

I love to bonk my wife if she got the mood... Hate it when she rejected my advance...

[Xgenre]

whatever, there is always a reason for her to be unhappy... and i am aways at the rec'g end. I usu give in, cos otherwise, she gets emotional and starts crying.

i think she react wo thinking, but after that she dun let it bother her, whereas i react slowly, but the anger linger a little longer...

just wondering if any of you have the same problem??

I think your marriage may run into serious problem over time. Both of you got different characters. She's blows up easily but calms down quickly too. You absorb the negative energy and just let it linger. When you quarrel with her, do you dig out bad experiences from the past and use it as material to quarrel with her?

She's a sparkler... Burns bright but fizzle out fast. You are a piece of charcoal, keep absorbing heat till you burn. And the fire then burns long and slow...

[Old Bird]

a friend of my, was married and after giving birth to the first baby 2 year ago, her husband had only F her less then 13 times in this 24 month.
I wonder why did she tell me this, is it a big hint to me?

[singexpat]

I wonder why did she tell me this, is it a big hint to me?

confirm its a complain plus a hint bro...

Remember to share your story once you have managed to "console" her.. :D

[JusWannaCum]

Yes I do.

- she's still cute and attractive
- I still love her
- the closeness after a bonk with your loved one will never really be the same as a FL
- its disease free
- there's no stress of getting caught
- there's no guilty feelings
- eh, its free :rolleyes:

But, NO, she doesn't want to Bonk. Rejecting my initiations and request most of the time. So how?

Thinking of some formula to give wifey 1st preference for bonk, if not
- after 1 week of no bonk
- after 3 rejections for bonk
then shall eat out :D

[samyboys]

sadly, most guys would still to bonk their wife.
but i am just seeing the same issue with the wife being in the passive mode, aka dead fish.

i am no different from most guys situation, passion is fizzling out and frustration sets in and seems it is staying in between us. as a couple, now is like room mates.

i wonder how long this kind of life can go on, just feel so lonely and empty. sometimes feel being alone is so much better than having to face a 'dead fish'.
as sometimes while away from home, away from her while she is in the office, i feel so freshen up.:mad:

[samyboys]

so i feel the title should change from "Do you still wanna bonk your wife?" to "wife do not want to be bonked":rolleyes:

[Yellowbird]

Hi Bros,

I am in the same boat too. I can use my finger to count the number of times I make love to my wife in one year.

She is not interested at all, no matter how what I did. Before our first baby, we made love for 3-4 times per week and everytime I alway made sure she cum first by giving oral sex for her, she enjoyed it very much. But now, she don't even want me to do that, touch also cannot.

Sometimes I think that I am just 30 somethings years old, do I want to continue without sex for the rest of my life? So what I did now is, once in a while, I go makan outside. There were a few times I almost go into relationship with another decent girl but luckily in the end I back off, because of my two children...sigh...what a life man.

[SneakyBastard]

And when us guys finally cannot stand it anymore and start to eat out, or leave the wife for other women, they wail bitterly, complain of betrayal, and wonder what they did to deserve this......

[samyboys]

And when us guys finally cannot stand it anymore and start to eat out, or leave the wife for other women, they wail bitterly, complain of betrayal, and wonder what they did to deserve this......

well human nature, the finger always points out and they have thousand and one reasons

[samyboys]

frankly speaking, despite what we guys can do to create the mood for love, woman some times over sensitive and feel we do it for a motive, and cut us off.

put it bluntly, if we cannot find what we need at home, we seek elsewhere, simple as that. and best is not to get caught in between as the woman charter is biased against men;)

its also a way to relieve them of the 'chores' they do not like to do and escaping from it

[ch18]

Yes I do.

- she's still cute and attractive
- I still love her
- the closeness after a bonk with your loved one will never really be the same as a FL
- its disease free
- there's no stress of getting caught
- there's no guilty feelings
- eh, its free :rolleyes:

But, NO, she doesn't want to Bonk. Rejecting my initiations and request most of the time. So how?

Thinking of some formula to give wifey 1st preference for bonk, if not
- after 1 week of no bonk
- after 3 rejections for bonkthen shall eat out :D

Familiar formula.......

[snuggles]

I am not alone!!!!! :o

[Dhornyboy]

i would prefer to talk to my wife if she rejects to be fucked.. seriously.. i mean it is important to communicate.. as soon as a problem surface.. if u tahan... then more problems arise.. and continue to tahan... until one day... even thrashing out also cannot solve le.. then jia lat... (my colleague kena like that)

i dont know about how others think la.. but when i finally pen the Certificate of Marriage... i decided not to cheat on my wife le.. and suprisely ... i didnt even during when she was harbouring my boy inside her stomach for 5 months.. and eventually endured... all the way... haha.. after many years.. i return to PCC business...

sincerely hope all brothers with wivies/partners stay loving 4ever man!

[SinDellman]

i would prefer to talk to my wife if she rejects to be fucked.. seriously.. i mean it is important to communicate.. as soon as a problem surface.. if u tahan... then more problems arise.. .....

i dont know about how others think la.. but when i finally pen the Certificate of Marriage... i decided not to cheat on my wife le..

From my observation, most people who are NOT in this situation will always advice you to communicate. It's easily said than done. I think people who are in the same boat will have the same experiences.

Initially, after marriage, love was in the air. Bonking was so good that we believe so strongly in marriage, life was so meaningful, we work hard so that we can bring happiness to our family, and we look forward to the weekend when we will just bonk, sleep, eat, bonk, etc......

Then the children came, education, housing, loans, etc.... We are under lots of pressure to bring in good income for family and love to wifey. Wifey take good care of family, children, etc.... As long as we have good bonking session, once-in-a-while, we are ok. We dont believe in cheating wifey, and in certain times, if we didnt have enough, we will just pcc.

Suddenly, one fine night, we kanna rejected. We lost face, but in the end, wifey give way to our bonk on that night. We felt lost, and was rather surprised but we thought it was a one off thingy. Then another night, another rejection, and another, and it became like you are always begging to get that bonk. Bonking became less and less frequent, you get confused, you lost interest in work, life, etc.... Every night you came back, you can feel that she is rejecting you when both are in bed. It became so meaningless to even wanting to give a hint to wifey. So you started staying late at the computer, or watching late TV, MSN, chatroom, looking for some kind female souls to tc. Your mood is at the moody stage, friends and everyone tell you so when you are in the office.

However, your wifey behave differently. During daytime and when you are with her in other company, family, relatives, she can behave like nothing is wrong, and she even can be rather physical close in front of everyone. But everything change when both are in bed!:(

As for me, I struggle for at least 3 or 4 years, thinking of how to bridge our love again, because I was losing interest in her, and physically having no interest to be near her. However, was not in the game to cheat her either, no FL, no girlfriend, etc.... just pcc everytime when i feel the need. My mind was going crazy, especially finding life becoming totally meaningless, having to work hard for $$ for family and having a no sex lifestyle. Divorce or having a fb was never the answer.

Then one day came into this forum, and had my first taste of a Chinese FL....
it changed my life. We are getting old, so we dont really need a bonking job so often. 3 or 4 times a month, most uncles should be satisfied.

I am now very happy with my work, friends, hobbies, family .... when the needs come, i dont have to feel frustrated anymore. I am now ok with wifey (thou not physically, and of course, i dont think of her anymore, like in the past). You can say I dont love her anymore, but we still live happily together with the children.

What other better solutions can one offer to people like us? :(

Believe me, it is NOT that easy or possible to communicate with our WOMEN on such matter! When you are in our shoes, you will know. :(

[PepperO]

Bro SinDellman,

My heart goes all out to you. I think many women in our Asian society are still rather conservative and too self-sacrificing - it's always kids first, work first, household chores first...then finally comes the husband (if there is any energy left by then).

I think you're managing it well in your own way...it may not be 'right' in many people's eyes, but I can appreciate the underlying good intentions.

Sorry, I cannot offer any sound advice here, but just want to let you know that some of us (women) do understand. :) Take care, ya.

[samyboys]

From my observation, most people who are NOT in this situation will always advice you to communicate. It's easily said than done. I think people who are in the same boat will have the same experiences.

Initially, after marriage, love was in the air. Bonking was so good that we believe so strongly in marriage, life was so meaningful, we work hard so that we can bring happiness to our family, and we look forward to the weekend when we will just bonk, sleep, eat, bonk, etc......

Then the children came, education, housing, loans, etc.... We are under lots of pressure to bring in good income for family and love to wifey. Wifey take good care of family, children, etc.... As long as we have good bonking session, once-in-a-while, we are ok. We dont believe in cheating wifey, and in certain times, if we didnt have enough, we will just pcc.

Suddenly, one fine night, we kanna rejected. We lost face, but in the end, wifey give way to our bonk on that night. We felt lost, and was rather surprised but we thought it was a one off thingy. Then another night, another rejection, and another, and it became like you are always begging to get that bonk. Bonking became less and less frequent, you get confused, you lost interest in work, life, etc.... Every night you came back, you can feel that she is rejecting you when both are in bed. It became so meaningless to even wanting to give a hint to wifey. So you started staying late at the computer, or watching late TV, MSN, chatroom, looking for some kind female souls to tc. Your mood is at the moody stage, friends and everyone tell you so when you are in the office.

However, your wifey behave differently. During daytime and when you are with her in other company, family, relatives, she can behave like nothing is wrong, and she even can be rather physical close in front of everyone. But everything change when both are in bed!:(

As for me, I struggle for at least 3 or 4 years, thinking of how to bridge our love again, because I was losing interest in her, and physically having no interest to be near her. However, was not in the game to cheat her either, no FL, no girlfriend, etc.... just pcc everytime when i feel the need. My mind was going crazy, especially finding life becoming totally meaningless, having to work hard for $$ for family and having a no sex lifestyle. Divorce or having a fb was never the answer.

Then one day came into this forum, and had my first taste of a Chinese FL....
it changed my life. We are getting old, so we dont really need a bonking job so often. 3 or 4 times a month, most uncles should be satisfied.

I am now very happy with my work, friends, hobbies, family .... when the needs come, i dont have to feel frustrated anymore. I am now ok with wifey (thou not physically, and of course, i dont think of her anymore, like in the past). You can say I dont love her anymore, but we still live happily together with the children.

What other better solutions can one offer to people like us? :(

Believe me, it is NOT that easy or possible to communicate with our WOMEN on such matter! When you are in our shoes, you will know. :(


bru SinDellman, u had a long breakdown.

how to communicate when the other party seldom want to talk or fast to 'put u down'? easier said then done.

u started it nicely, but when lust died out, guess you still had to seek what u lost at home, outside.:p

i am just like what u described in BOLD, rather go to the room to sleep when she's already in dream land because u have no expectations from her but just to sleep.

pcc is a solo personal thing. intercourse is the complete act. so its never as fulfilling as the real thing.

going FL can be addictive and costly if it is a weekly thing.
i think guys would love quality sex than quantity, but when its like once every 10days or more or even longer, we need to solve our own problem

[samyboys]

Bro SinDellman,

My heart goes all out to you. I think many women in our Asian society are still rather conservative and too self-sacrificing - it's always kids first, work first, household chores first...then finally comes the husband (if there is any energy left by then).

I think you're managing it well in your own way...it may not be 'right' in many people's eyes, but I can appreciate the underlying good intentions.

Sorry, I cannot offer any sound advice here, but just want to let you know that some of us (women) do understand. :) Take care, ya.

just checking with you PepperO,

how would u feel when your man feels the same and start to look outside?

[PepperO]

just checking with you PepperO,

how would u feel when your man feels the same and start to look outside?

Hi Bro samyboys,

Well... to start with, I am not one who would refuse ML with my HB. In fact, I have to initiate it most of the time. :p So, it is highly unlikely that he would "feel the same" (as in, feel the same kind of frustration) and start looking outside.

In the event that he gets 'bored' anyway and does look outside, I hope he has the sense and courtesy to 'wipe his mouth' before coming home to me. What I don't know, won't hurt me.

In the worst case that he does get caught and I get to know, well, then... how do you think I should feel? :rolleyes:

[Frankiestine]

Believe me, it is NOT that easy or possible to communicate with our WOMEN on such matter! When you are in our shoes, you will know. :(

Bro u sums it up best cos what you have explained best explains what the monster is going thru...:( :(

[splicer]

still have to take care of her need else afterward "run the lion" - chao sia

[adrx]

From my observation, most people who are NOT in this situation will always advice you to communicate. It's easily said than done. I think people who are in the same boat will have the same experiences.

Initially, after marriage, love was in the air. Bonking was so good that we believe so strongly in marriage, life was so meaningful, we work hard so that we can bring happiness to our family, and we look forward to the weekend when we will just bonk, sleep, eat, bonk, etc......

Then the children came, education, housing, loans, etc.... We are under lots of pressure to bring in good income for family and love to wifey. Wifey take good care of family, children, etc.... As long as we have good bonking session, once-in-a-while, we are ok. We dont believe in cheating wifey, and in certain times, if we didnt have enough, we will just pcc.

Suddenly, one fine night, we kanna rejected. We lost face, but in the end, wifey give way to our bonk on that night. We felt lost, and was rather surprised but we thought it was a one off thingy. Then another night, another rejection, and another, and it became like you are always begging to get that bonk. Bonking became less and less frequent, you get confused, you lost interest in work, life, etc.... Every night you came back, you can feel that she is rejecting you when both are in bed. It became so meaningless to even wanting to give a hint to wifey. So you started staying late at the computer, or watching late TV, MSN, chatroom, looking for some kind female souls to tc. Your mood is at the moody stage, friends and everyone tell you so when you are in the office.

However, your wifey behave differently. During daytime and when you are with her in other company, family, relatives, she can behave like nothing is wrong, and she even can be rather physical close in front of everyone. But everything change when both are in bed!:(

As for me, I struggle for at least 3 or 4 years, thinking of how to bridge our love again, because I was losing interest in her, and physically having no interest to be near her. However, was not in the game to cheat her either, no FL, no girlfriend, etc.... just pcc everytime when i feel the need. My mind was going crazy, especially finding life becoming totally meaningless, having to work hard for $$ for family and having a no sex lifestyle. Divorce or having a fb was never the answer.

Then one day came into this forum, and had my first taste of a Chinese FL....
it changed my life. We are getting old, so we dont really need a bonking job so often. 3 or 4 times a month, most uncles should be satisfied.

I am now very happy with my work, friends, hobbies, family .... when the needs come, i dont have to feel frustrated anymore. I am now ok with wifey (thou not physically, and of course, i dont think of her anymore, like in the past). You can say I dont love her anymore, but we still live happily together with the children.

What other better solutions can one offer to people like us? :(

Believe me, it is NOT that easy or possible to communicate with our WOMEN on such matter! When you are in our shoes, you will know. :(


i have similar issues with my wife... (dig my thread) end up i open up to her... now she asking for car bonks whenever possible...

women is STRANGE!!! :cool:

if u find it hard communicating with her... just ask her to read ur posts... hopefully it helps...

[samyboys]

Hi Bro samyboys,

Well... to start with, I am not one who would refuse ML with my HB. In fact, I have to initiate it most of the time. :p So, it is highly unlikely that he would "feel the same" (as in, feel the same kind of frustration) and start looking outside.

In the event that he gets 'bored' anyway and does look outside, I hope he has the sense and courtesy to 'wipe his mouth' before coming home to me. What I don't know, won't hurt me.

In the worst case that he does get caught and I get to know, well, then... how do you think I should feel? :rolleyes:

its quite rare to find guys that are turned off with sex.
had u try to find out why he is not keen in bed?

i do agree, sometimes what men do outside, as long as he do not bring problems back home is good enough. whether u managed to discover it will be a different issue

[RayCom]

Bros and Sis,

Just out of curiosity, any of you having problems communicating with your partner? My wife is highly strung, and everyday when we get home, there is always something that is not right and that would set her into a fit... be it the neighbour doing reno work and dirtying our yard, someone parking their cars and blocking our driveway, kiddo leaving his toys and not keeping them... whatever, there is always a reason for her to be unhappy... and i am aways at the rec'g end. I usu give in, cos otherwise, she gets emotional and starts crying.

but at night, when she has calmed down, she wants sex, but i cannot even stand the sight of her, cos 2 hours ago, she was shouting at me and showing me those 25 cent face.. and i will avoid getting close to her, much less touch her... i think she react wo thinking, but after that she dun let it bother her, whereas i react slowly, but the anger linger a little longer...

just wondering if any of you have the same problem??


Bro, I agree with you. I almost same suitiation . I dunno why but can you imagine like sex crazy when 2 hrs ago quarrell like hell, how to do it .For me , even 2 days ago quarrel I also find it hard to have sex. have to have mood mah but somehow the gals only know to have mood for themself but think man are like animals anytime also can.I still love my wife but its more towards family type of love already not the wan to f*** her every night kind of thing . sometimes really lor, very difficult to jaggle between fb and wife. so i keep it to one each week hahaha:D

[PepperO]

its quite rare to find guys that are turned off with sex.
had u try to find out why he is not keen in bed?

It is not that he is turned off with sex, bro... it's just that my sex drive is higher.. :p

[JusWannaCum]

Hey Bro SinDellman, its heart wrenching to see how many similarities there are in your story to my life now.

Unfortunately, we were never lucky enough to have gone thru the
will just bonk, sleep, eat, bonk, etc...... stage. We struggled to consummate our marriage during our 1st year as she was always complaining about pain. I really thought I kena a Lemon and was beginning to look for the "return with full refund if not satisfied clause". So the sex has never been really good from the beginning. I wonder which is worse, to have tasted the good life once and reminisce of the good old times or to have not known it at all and to live in the hope that it will come one day.

Suddenly, one fine night, we kanna rejected. We lost face, but in the end, wifey give way to our bonk on that night. We felt lost, and was rather surprised but we thought it was a one off thingy. Then another night, another rejection, and another, and it became like you are always begging to get that bonk. Bonking became less and less frequent, you get confused, you lost interest in work, life, etc.... Every night you came back, you can feel that she is rejecting you when both are in bed. It became so meaningless to even wanting to give a hint to wifey. So you started staying late at the computer, or watching late TV, MSN, chatroom, looking for some kind female souls to tc. Your mood is at the moody stage, friends and everyone tell you so when you are in the office.

However, your wifey behave differently. During daytime and when you are with her in other company, family, relatives, she can behave like nothing is wrong, and she even can be rather physical close in front of everyone. But everything change when both are in bed!

i am just like what u described in BOLD, rather go to the room to sleep when she's already in dream land because u have no expectations from her but just to sleep.

This is so true for me. Its 230am now and wifey is sleeping in the bed next my table now as I write. Snoring away and I have no urge or desire to go to bed.:(... sigh...

As for me, I struggle for at least 3 or 4 years, thinking of how to bridge our love again, because I was losing interest in her, and physically having no interest to be near her. However, was not in the game to cheat her either, no FL, no girlfriend, etc.... just pcc everytime when i feel the need. My mind was going crazy, especially finding life becoming totally meaningless, having to work hard for $$ for family and having a no sex lifestyle. Divorce or having a fb was never the answer.


So its takes about 3 to 4 years of soul searching to finally come to a decision.. Hmmm...:confused:

I am of the same opinion that divorce or having a fb/gf/mistress is not an option. The financial consequences of a divorce are mind boggling.. FLs seem like a very good compromise. As I have read many Brothers saying, Pay & Play.

Its ironical that sex is suppose to be a sanctity of marriage, yet many men are not able to get it from their life partners and have to look outside for satisfaction.

If only sex could be viewed as acceptably as another social sport like golf or mahjong. So that if your spouse does not want to golf with you this weekend, its ok to golf with your buddies. Or like your weekly mahjong sessions with your usual kakis are never questioned.

Just want to say thanks to SinDellman for sharing.

This forum is great in that it gives us all an avenue to vent through our anonymous nicks, for those who dare to register and post. I am sure that for the many Samsters who are in similar situations, there 100 times more men outwith this forum who experience the same torment.
I cannot imagine what my regular mates would say if I were to share with them the shit I am going thru and desires to cross over to the Dark Side.

Believe me, it is NOT that easy or possible to communicate with our WOMEN on such matter! When you are in our shoes, you will know.
...seems like I am reading my life story as it is about to unfold..:eek:

[ch18]

Go to the room to sleep when she's already in dream land because u have no expectations from her but just to sleep.

Sigh.... My daily routine as well.....

[samyboys]

mine couldn't be more of a 'dead' fish, needs sleep more than sex

[narrah]

Answer : Yes.

Do I get to, as often as I want? No.

Like most others here; before children, was a lot more likely;

after first, dropped off even tho v had mother in law help to take care of child at night, after 3 months, plus help at home.

after second, dropped off to once a month or less.. went for 3+ years once without...

Now : very occasional; more often, do self service; occasionally go HC or FL.
Wife was the first person I had sex with; never tried outside during the first 10 years of our relationship... and even now - I'd rather not eat out, but sometimes....

[samyboys]

guess men suffers from sex drought after marriage, esp after children

[kingken]

Ans is yes also..
but after our 1 child, sex decrease to 3-4 times a month or just 1 a week..
Previously we can have sex 2-3 times a week...

[kingken]

mine couldn't be more of a 'dead' fish, needs sleep more than sex

agree sia!!! she wanna sleep more than wan sex nowadays!!

[kingrex]

Last bonk my wife... 3 yrs back... :( Guess we are both too busy to discuss such topics anymore..

[mandom]

Last bonk my wife... 3 yrs back... :( Guess we are both too busy to discuss such topics anymore..

That's interesting....the conventional wisdom is that a marriage with prolonged lack of sex could be due to some underlying relationship problem - could this be your situation? Or really just due to lack of time, too busy etc?

So having sex with wife like once a month is quite ok huh?

[TCH1975]

My Sex life with Wife dropped tremendously. Now about 1 time in 2 to 3 months...approximate 4-5 times a year. We are now only age 34yrs. The feeling is like "wah lao" doing another job. Wanted to marry those Sexy one - scare she will run away with other cock. Marry a faithful wife - Sex life becomes dull. Jealous those bro in forum who marry both sexy n faithful wife.

[adrx]

My Sex life with Wife dropped tremendously. Now about 1 time in 2 to 3 months...approximate 4-5 times a year. We are now only age 34yrs. The feeling is like "wah lao" doing another job. Wanted to marry those Sexy one - scare she will run away with other cock. Marry a faithful wife - Sex life becomes dull. Jealous those bro in forum who marry both sexy n faithful wife.

both are 34 only... :(
how to survive till aged?? :confused:

how many kids u have?? i have 1 and sex life suddenly dies off... but its back again.. slowly build back.... and i'm same age as u...

'dig' a thread start by me.... and i rekindle the 'sex' life via communications...

now, my wife scare to wear bikini.. cos after 1 kid.. her slim figure gone 'off'... and we are squeezing time for jogging or other forms of exercising...

dont give out..cos we are still young to deprive from sex ;)

[digdug]

I've been married over 16 years already and despite eating out sometimes, me & wife still do it at least twice a month. Sometimes even more. Last week - 3 times.

[samyboys]

I've been married over 16 years already and despite eating out sometimes, me & wife still do it at least twice a month. Sometimes even more. Last week - 3 times.

guess eating out help to supplement our sex lives

[tommyboy290906]

I've been married over 16 years already and despite eating out sometimes, me & wife still do it at least twice a month. Sometimes even more. Last week - 3 times.

Might case same, after the 10 years of marriage, lucky once a month. My methods i.e more porn movie like gang rape or orgy which she likes best and big dick ang moh and not asian to get her excited. Bring the sex life and fire back, like window and main gate doggy style after midnight to get the excitment back. More low cuts for her dressing during office and big sex toys for her too. Taking nude photos without her face and she will be asking if I did share with my close friend. Hinting!!!???. The combination of C cup with B+ actual size do wonders for low cut, holy shit both bobbies hang like lemon when she bent down full view for all which she knows that all men will die for. Dick teaser. And I'm not complaining in fact encourage. She play her cards well for selected moments for men. Now sex is also every week in my 20 years marriage.

[pokeman71]

I will be into my 10 yrs marriage end of the year. We used to do once a week. For the pass 9yrs, I do twice a week. But my OC only get it once a week. Ha ha.........actually I start to dine out after first yr of marriage, I will bonk my lover(9years i only have 2 lover, 1st lover 4yrs, 2nd lover 5yrs) once a week. But I still believe in regimental duty.

[pokeman71]

Last bonk my wife... 3 yrs back... :( Guess we are both too busy to discuss such topics anymore..

Bro, If I am you, I start to worry. Old ppl said, woman got 2mouths, up and down. Bith mouth you needs to take care, if not they will start looking for hotdog to stuff themselves.

Maybe she gets it else where.

[bossy_miaomiao]

a friend told me, he got no sex with her pregnant wife for nearly the entire pregnancy..

sometimes, when he felt horny he called me, and pcc after hang off the phone..

then call me again and apologize..

haiz...

[Rickey]

guess eating out help to supplement our sex lives

Yes bro, tats very true, but u hav to make sure u r not caught by any1 who know u...for the consequences can be very serious if tat happens....sigh.. tink OCs esp if they are local SG r not going to let u off easily.

a friend told me, he got no sex with her pregnant wife for nearly the entire pregnancy..

sometimes, when he felt horny he called me, and pcc after hang off the phone..

then call me again and apologize..

haiz...

Not surprising leh, tink it is actually quite common occurrence...OCs r usually more concerned wif the impending arrival of baby than sex, so they prefer HBs to stay as far away frm them as possible. Looks like tis fren of yours is quite interested in u, sis .;) But dunno whether tats good or bad news for u. But i tink tats a rather strange way of releasing his horniness ....haha

[bossy_miaomiao]

Not surprising leh, tink it is actually quite common occurrence...OCs r usually more concerned wif the impending arrival of baby than sex, so they prefer HBs to stay as far away frm them as possible. Looks like tis fren of yours is quite interested in u, sis .;) But dunno whether tats good or bad news for u. But i tink tats a rather strange way of releasing his horniness ....haha

he did that not only once, but many times.

he even told me that he fantasy doing with me when he was pcc.. :eek: sometimes once i picked up the call, he moan loud :o

well, was told that now he got place to release... found a new FB.

good for him = poor for wifey

[belowthebelt]

this qn relates to our age as well. If a 60yr old man reading this, the answer is going to be different from a 30yr old man.

[Baileys]

This is a very good question...I have not been bonking my wife for the last two months...work lah busy la tired lah...many many reasons lah...but I do pcc myself watching video on the net introduce by brothers here...
One fine night, while I was watching my wife came out of the room and caught me wanking myself...I was like "shit this is going to be real bad night" but to my surprise, she asked me what I was watching ? Before I can tell her, the moaning from the laptop already caught her attention and she then sat next to me and began to watch the movie too....Before long, she got aroused by the movies and move herd hand to my rod and start massaging it. Seems like long time don't have this feeling liao...My hand went over into her nightie and started to squeeze her breast...not too long she moaned.
Next best thing to come, she dropped down to her knees and took my rod and gave me a good bj...this is heaven !
Once my rod harden, I pulled her up, turn her around to face the laptop, and started bonking her, she was so damn wet...after only a few ram, my groin area is wet with her juice.
The next morning, I was woken by her bjing me...I just enjoyed the whole process and in the end cum in her mouth.
From that day onwards, the frequency of our bonking has increased. I believe in the saying "It takes 2 hands to clap"...
I should say my urge to bonk my wife is back....

[sun814]

i m 1.5 year into marriage, i would like to bonk my wife everyday (maybe 2 times a day will be good), but my wife cannot take it leh, only allows me to bonk 2-3 times a week the maximum as she says her sexual libido is low (though she is only 41 and i m 38 this year) and my tool is too big for her(the biggest she has seen). so she allows me to pay for sex occasionally (hehe she doesn't know that i can bonk FOC with my fb).