sing@thai
29-07-2009, 10:13 AM
I thought I should start this thread, and gather like-minded brothers on this fetish :D. It's really hard to find true femdom in Singapore and SE Asia (besides Japan, which is at it's mature phase, with plentiful playground and true 24/7 dominatrixes/mistresses and 24/7 male slaves; and with many published magazines and books).
Well . . . here go's . . . FEMDOM 101 :p
Femdom
Femdom or female domination, refers to BDSM activities where the dominant partner is female. The female dominant party in female domination related activities is sometimes called a dominatrix.
Naturally, female domination activities may draw on all areas of BDSM, but there tends to be an association with radical feminism, whether seriously or fantastically. This can lead to apparent paradoxes, such as the humiliation of men by feminization, though it is readily resolved by seeing this as disclaiming traditional gender associations, and transference of coded images of weakness onto men. Strap-on dildo play plays a significant part in this as well. The inverse of this is of course to glorify the feminine, for example in panty fetishism and boot/foot worship.
Erotic Female Domination and Humiliation
Similarly, erotic female domination and humiliation can focus on the inadequacy of a male sub's penis (small penis humiliation) , demoting it to a plaything for the dominatrix, over which the male has no real control, as well as tease and denial. Related female domination activities include ballbusting, cock and ball torture (CBT), verbal humiliation, forced chastity, and orgasm denial or orgasm control. Many participants in this lifestyle conform to the safe, sane and consensual model prevalent in the BDSM Community.
Psychology of Humiliation
Humiliation in general touches strong emotional buttons, the more so when it becomes sexualized. Because of this, consent and paradoxically a high degree of awareness and communication is needed, to ensure that the result is desirable rather than abusive. For example, a submissive male may enjoy being insulted in some ways, but genuinely crushed and devastated if humiliated or insulted in other ways. My favorite is being treated as a dogslave and/or footstool. :D
Humiliation play is also connected to sexual fetishism, in that non-sexual activities may become sexualized by association with arousal, and also may be associated with exhibitionism in the sense of wanting others to witness (or being aroused by others witnessing) ones sexual degradation.
As with all sexual activities, some people have sexual fantasies about humiliation, and others actually undertake it as a lifestyle or in a scene. Sexual fantasies of humiliation are very common, but for most people remain a fantasy - they would have strong reservations about it being public, or engaged in with a partner for real, however erotic the idea may be. ;)
In extreme scenarios, there is a focus on exchange of bodily fluids and total forfeit of rights from the slave, and acts may involve spitting, golden showers (urine) and brown showers (faeces, or in plain term: shit).
There are many websites that cater to this fetish and alternative lifestyle. Remember, it is not for the faint-hearted . . . We can exchange viewpoints, photos, movie clips, etc . . .
Well . . . here go's . . . FEMDOM 101 :p
Femdom
Femdom or female domination, refers to BDSM activities where the dominant partner is female. The female dominant party in female domination related activities is sometimes called a dominatrix.
Naturally, female domination activities may draw on all areas of BDSM, but there tends to be an association with radical feminism, whether seriously or fantastically. This can lead to apparent paradoxes, such as the humiliation of men by feminization, though it is readily resolved by seeing this as disclaiming traditional gender associations, and transference of coded images of weakness onto men. Strap-on dildo play plays a significant part in this as well. The inverse of this is of course to glorify the feminine, for example in panty fetishism and boot/foot worship.
Erotic Female Domination and Humiliation
Similarly, erotic female domination and humiliation can focus on the inadequacy of a male sub's penis (small penis humiliation) , demoting it to a plaything for the dominatrix, over which the male has no real control, as well as tease and denial. Related female domination activities include ballbusting, cock and ball torture (CBT), verbal humiliation, forced chastity, and orgasm denial or orgasm control. Many participants in this lifestyle conform to the safe, sane and consensual model prevalent in the BDSM Community.
Psychology of Humiliation
Humiliation in general touches strong emotional buttons, the more so when it becomes sexualized. Because of this, consent and paradoxically a high degree of awareness and communication is needed, to ensure that the result is desirable rather than abusive. For example, a submissive male may enjoy being insulted in some ways, but genuinely crushed and devastated if humiliated or insulted in other ways. My favorite is being treated as a dogslave and/or footstool. :D
Humiliation play is also connected to sexual fetishism, in that non-sexual activities may become sexualized by association with arousal, and also may be associated with exhibitionism in the sense of wanting others to witness (or being aroused by others witnessing) ones sexual degradation.
As with all sexual activities, some people have sexual fantasies about humiliation, and others actually undertake it as a lifestyle or in a scene. Sexual fantasies of humiliation are very common, but for most people remain a fantasy - they would have strong reservations about it being public, or engaged in with a partner for real, however erotic the idea may be. ;)
In extreme scenarios, there is a focus on exchange of bodily fluids and total forfeit of rights from the slave, and acts may involve spitting, golden showers (urine) and brown showers (faeces, or in plain term: shit).
There are many websites that cater to this fetish and alternative lifestyle. Remember, it is not for the faint-hearted . . . We can exchange viewpoints, photos, movie clips, etc . . .